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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Is it possible for my fiance to be drunk enough to not remember having sex?
Q. My fiancee, who admits to dating and making out with a boy,(often), while wearing only her panties, and in his bed, while 300 miles away in college already engaged with the ring, says they had no sex, and she's still a virgin. My question is.....is ...
A. 3 April 2008: I agree with the boys. You do remember what you did, unless you lose consciousness.
Perhaps you remember it so well that you lie about it?... (read in full...)
The older man with baggage!
Q. This may take a bit to explain. Be patient. I met this guy Travis about a year ago when I started working at a grocery store. I hinted to wanting to go out with him a few times and finally he got my point and we went out for dinner and it en...
A. 3 April 2008: I'm honestly sorry for you, prettycait06, but I agree, word by word, with Ask_Oldersister. I think you should better find yourself someone else. If he were into you, he would be acting very differently.... (read in full...)
I seem to find myself attracted to married women?
Q. Well here goes nothing. I really dont know what to do about my situation and i though i would give this a try. Im a 28 year old man. Who has never been in a real relationship or has even had a girlfriend. All my friends say im a very nice guy and ...
A. 3 April 2008: Perhaps you need the equivalent of "good marketing"?... (read in full...)
Do you think he may be gay??
Q. Hi guys I have a guy friend who is a little more than a friend but he is different than most guys I met. He likes to put lotion all over his body after a shower and keeps his place really clean....he also likes to clean his house and keep everything ...
A. 3 April 2008: Eyeswideopen has the rare quality of always hitting very narrow targets right in the middle. I wonder why it matters, too. But I will add my grain of salt. Perhaps he is what people call "metrosexual"? And a grain of pepper: not so long ago, ... (read in full...)
He finds pubic hair a turn off...he even shaves and waxes his whole body!!!
Q. erm, my question is about pubic hair :s lol. well basicly me and my boyfriend have been together for a while but he has recenty told me that he finds hair a massive turn off. ive known for ajis that he doesnt like hair, facial hair etc! hes very ver...
A. 3 April 2008: No. Everyone can shave if they want to. That's not my business, just as I think it's not her business when my niece says I have to shave my body hair "because that way I'll look better". But, in times long past, men were taught that real men ... (read in full...)
He finds pubic hair a turn off...he even shaves and waxes his whole body!!!
Q. erm, my question is about pubic hair :s lol. well basicly me and my boyfriend have been together for a while but he has recenty told me that he finds hair a massive turn off. ive known for ajis that he doesnt like hair, facial hair etc! hes very ver...
A. 3 April 2008: Dear, you are now asking another question. You think whether there's something wrong with your boyfriend. Here's my answer.
For a man who grew up before these times, removing body hair, manicuring your nails, peelings, using three differen... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 3 April 2008: Thanks for that post, a1605. So this person said you didn't get the right information because you didn't ask the right questions. Wow! I suppose you never stop learning.... (read in full...)
Harmless fun on internet and my girlfriend suddenly doesn't love me. Please help.
Q. Ok, i've been with a girl for half a year now, I love her so much. I was on msn buzzin and talking to some girl. When the topic of having sex with her came up I said maybe thinking nothing of it. My girlfriend found out and yeah, I didn't mean ...
A. 3 April 2008: I agree with Tisha-1, whatever the tense she speaks in :-).... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 3 April 2008: I have an idea: Why don't YOU make YOUR boyfriend and all his friends jealous by sleeping with someone else? I suppose he would like that.
I am sorry, but, in case you didn't notice, this man doesn't love you at all. He is treating you like a p... (read in full...)
He finds pubic hair a turn off...he even shaves and waxes his whole body!!!
Q. erm, my question is about pubic hair :s lol. well basicly me and my boyfriend have been together for a while but he has recenty told me that he finds hair a massive turn off. ive known for ajis that he doesnt like hair, facial hair etc! hes very ver...
A. 3 April 2008: By the way, I also find him crazy. I wonder how long it takes him to shave everywhere every day. Of course, it's his problem; my opinion is not important at all. If he wants to shave, he can shave. Which is exactly the same kind of freedom I ... (read in full...)
He finds pubic hair a turn off...he even shaves and waxes his whole body!!!
Q. erm, my question is about pubic hair :s lol. well basicly me and my boyfriend have been together for a while but he has recenty told me that he finds hair a massive turn off. ive known for ajis that he doesnt like hair, facial hair etc! hes very ver...
A. 3 April 2008: Dear, I think that you're too young to be having sex. Sex isn't just about the physical act; it entails a lot more, and you're not ready for it.
Also, I wouldn't recommend you to shave your pubic hair unless you wanted it. I know that you want... (read in full...)
Please read my beautiful fairytale like short story, and please help me if you can
Q. i am a 25 year old single, never been married before man. i am currently involved in a social/physical realtionship with a 38 year old married woman with 2 kids ( 8 and 15 ). we will have been together for nearly 3 years at the end of this year. ...
A. 3 April 2008: If I understand your post, you want us to suggest ways for you to prove to "Sandy" that you love her the same way she loves you. You won't like this, but I'm sure that a 38 year old woman is wise enough to know whether you love her or not, and it ... (read in full...)
How can I make my GF climax without clit stimulation, just penetration?
Q. Is there any way that i can make my girlfried come without clit stimulation and just penitration?...
A. 2 April 2008: There is, but I think that the most important part here is that she climaxes, no matter how. Many women say that they don't (usually) climax on penetration alone.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have sex only once or twice a month?
Q. Okay,another l-o-n-g story/question. I know that you will not always be on the same page (couples) but is it normal to have sex only 1-2 month, he has to initiate because he flinches when I touch him (says I always tickle him), so I'm shellshocked ...
A. 2 April 2008: I don't know if "normal" is the good word to use, but I'm sure this is not "usual". In my humble opinion, that's too little. I think most people will agree with me.
I think that his saying that you tickle him is an excuse. He has managed ... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 2 April 2008: Allenrobin, that's surely because you've never been in the situation when someone "fails to mention" something, and you discover the truth later. Trust me on this one (wink).... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 2 April 2008: I will add that omitting something and letting the person reach his/her own conclusions can upset a person much more than a lie. Not only because you mislead, but also because you make the other person live in a delusion.
Honesty is the best pol... (read in full...)
I am so energetic when I'm doing sex-advice?
Q. I am so energetic when I'am doing sex. I am morethan 30 years old and Still I can't satisfied because of HIV(doing with condum) so who can share me????????. or what do you idvice me??????....
A. 2 April 2008: It's difficult to give advice to someone who lives something we don't. I think allenrobin's is a fantastic post. However, I think that the fact that Ebb has HIV makes him all the more prone to wanting sex, perhaps as a surrogate of love.
Ebb, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I don't ask him enough questions, what am I supposed to ask him?
Q. I need LOTS of answers !!! PLEASE !!! My boyfriend says I don't ask him enough questions... He's usually doing all the talking, I'm just sitting there listening mostly because I love hearing his voice, (but I would never tell him that)and I don't ...
A. 2 April 2008: I suppose Vegas Girl has difficulty with her own problems because she is personally involved. People have difficulty dealing with their problems not only because they are new, but also because the senses get numbed.
Vegas, I suppose your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why can I not stay hard when I have sex?
Q. ok I need help, I've tried having sex with my ex for like 3 times but my penis just won't stay hard. We've done oral sex before we actually tried having sex and yes I'm a virgin. I thought it was her that I wasn't sexually attracted to her but ...
A. 2 April 2008: Phoenix Firesky has given you very good advice. It would be good to check on the things she mentioned. However, I think that your problem is a combination of performance anxiety and very frequent masturbation. You don't have to answer publicly, ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for kinky sex ideas!
Q. I'm going out with a wonderful open minded guy. We have a great sex life which is quite varied and experimental but there's always more things to try which is why I'm posting here. Does anyone have any recommendations for kinky things to do toget...
A. 2 April 2008: Birdy, you certainly owe us an explanation.... (read in full...)
Sex before marriage?
Q. Sex before marrige? ...
A. 2 April 2008: For a seventeen year old, no marriage, and no sex would be better.
For a person who is mature enough to know what he or she is getting into by marrying, no sex before marriage, either. You two need to be well dressed and early at the ceremony... (read in full...)
Almost "Greek"...does anyone have any idea what I'm getting into here?
Q. Hallo Everyone I have been in love for two years with the greatest guy of all. We are supposed to get married next year. Sounds great, doesn't it? Well... My Fiance is Greek and I am absolute Atheist! He wants me to become Greek Orthodox. ...
A. 2 April 2008: Dear poster, I agree with Collaroy. He got it so right. I think your problem has not so much to do with religion as with upbringing. His controlling nature doesn't come from his being Greek Orthodox, but from his way to be. It seems that he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers masturbation/porn to sex???
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and have what others consider a perfect relationship. This is going to be a bit long winded, but I feel I need to start at the beginning so that it is all properly understood. When I first moved in, I quickly re...
A. 1 April 2008: Ooops! I forgot. You said you're to blame for this. What can you blame yourself for, dear? You need to stand your ground.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers masturbation/porn to sex???
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and have what others consider a perfect relationship. This is going to be a bit long winded, but I feel I need to start at the beginning so that it is all properly understood. When I first moved in, I quickly re...
A. 1 April 2008: KanadianCutie, You have been misinformed: that behavior isn't normal and you're not paranoid nor sneaky. The fact that porn is such a huge business tells us that many people, men and women, look at it. But that doesn't mean that masturbatin... (read in full...)
Should I be her friend? She broke my heart...
Q. So I recently split up with my girlfriend. Ths split was mutual..i guess.? We had been going out for over a year and a half and the realtionship was a long distance one. We were great together, everything was perfect. We would see each other every ...
A. 1 April 2008: Man, don't tell her anything. And I'm glad you're in this mood. I would suggest you get yourself a beer (or anything you like), watch a movie, and forget about her.... (read in full...)
Commitment issues, or still in love with his ex?
Q. I've been dating a guy exclusively for about 3 months now. I want things to become more serious (i.e. boyfriends) but he is so hesitant. He's confided in me that his relationship with his ex has impacted him greatly, even though their relationship ...
A. 1 April 2008: Dazed and Confused, you're asking a very good question. I'm afraid I don't have the answer for that, because I also believe that once you're over someone, you're over all that someone represented. Sometimes it might not be that easy, particularly ... (read in full...)
She wont say she loves me because "you have not said the reason I am wanting to hear yet"-what does she mean?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for a while, and we recently became a couple, and I have fallen in love with her. She has told me it takes her a while to fall in love or at least allow herself to feel that strongly because of her past. I have been ...
A. 1 April 2008: I find "nf83613", a bit difficult, so I will call you "dude".
In short:
Dude, your girl is testing you, and I'm afraid you're failing her test.
In extenso:
People do take some time to fall in love. Some people can fall in love faster t... (read in full...)
Should I be her friend? She broke my heart...
Q. So I recently split up with my girlfriend. Ths split was mutual..i guess.? We had been going out for over a year and a half and the realtionship was a long distance one. We were great together, everything was perfect. We would see each other every ...
A. 1 April 2008: Seaofsin,
Friendship with a girl is a wonderful thing. But, to be honest, you don't want to be her friend, but her boyfriend. I think that's understandable. You love her to bits and find it very painful to just break up and go your own way, so ... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past....it's not the 'normal' jealous story!
Q. Have been married 7 years....happily. Wife mentioned in conversation 3 months ago about a threesome she had once. ( 20 years ago). I explained I don't want to know thing like that as it would do my head in. She mentioned it again. I went in...
A. 31 March 2008: I believe in leaving the past in the past. In cases such as this, it usually means that the man finds a way to accept things he may find disturbing, but which happened before he was involved with his woman, and he never brings them into the ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl that is a tom boy!!
Q. Dating a girl that is a tom boy. We have so much in common we seem like twins and soul mates. Everything is perfect but i just cant stay sexually attracted to her. She never wants to put on make-up or fix her hair or even dress like a girl. I trie...
A. 31 March 2008: Yes, thebethany, the fact that she's two months pregnant doesn't mean the child isn't his. But I think the poster would mention that the baby is his if that were the case. I'm willing to admit that maybe he forgot. But I wouldn't forget to ... (read in full...)
Do you think she still has feelings for me or am I flying out there to get hurt?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years which ended last July. She lived in Europe and I lived in the states. I broke up with her because I was scared of moving to Spain. The strange thing is I had a ring and I was going to propose to ...
A. 31 March 2008: I think you blew it the first time. This girl really loved you and you broke her heart. Now she's not so sure of what to do, but she will very likely say no. If I were her, I would doubt you. I suppose she is hesitant whether she should give you ... (read in full...)
Is he just being polite with me or does he care a little?
Q. I'm not saying like if romantic, but what would you think if you meet a guy then keep emailing (of course you're the one interested) and he replies right back at you, even though you met shortly, he send you pictures of him, if you tell him you're ...
A. 31 March 2008: Poster, you sent me a private message and I was able to see your profile and your previous questions. I didn't know whether I should use a public post, but then I thought I should, for the benefit of other people who might see it.
You didn't m... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl that is a tom boy!!
Q. Dating a girl that is a tom boy. We have so much in common we seem like twins and soul mates. Everything is perfect but i just cant stay sexually attracted to her. She never wants to put on make-up or fix her hair or even dress like a girl. I trie...
A. 31 March 2008: You need to stop and think about this relationship.
You're dating someone you don't feel any sexual attraction for. She is going to have another man's baby. It would seem like you will still be with her when the baby is born. And she's two mont... (read in full...)
Is he just being polite with me or does he care a little?
Q. I'm not saying like if romantic, but what would you think if you meet a guy then keep emailing (of course you're the one interested) and he replies right back at you, even though you met shortly, he send you pictures of him, if you tell him you're ...
A. 31 March 2008: I was absolutely sure of my answer until I read the last line.
All the signs you mentioned are those of a man who is absolutely and seriously interested in you. However, you say that "it's been going on for a year and a half now". That made me ... (read in full...)
Here's a question for the men... can you ever see yourselves settling down with just ONE woman???
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months, and it's become a bit serious in the past 2 or 3. We see each other every night and make love all the time. We have said "I love you" and he's even starting talking about me being "the one"- like the one ...
A. 30 March 2008: I make mine the words of the previous, anonymous poster. Your boyfriend has just given you the bad news that he is going to cheat, or, at least, that he wouldn't exactly restrain himself if he had a chance. And he is justyfing himself in advance. ... (read in full...)
Vibrators how often is too much?
Q. Hi Guys, just a question about vibrators? Is it bad for you to use them a lot??? I use mine almost everyday I cant help it!!!! help!!!...
A. 30 March 2008: I suppose this is your business?... (read in full...)
Is red pubic hair a turn on?
Q. Since I'm a natural redhead my hair down there is also red. I was wondering if having red pubic hair turns on guys. I've heard it does, although I'm not sure why. My partners before my current boyfriend wanted me to shave (which I've never done, ...
A. 30 March 2008: Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, and it seems that whether something will be a turn or or a turn off is, too.
As to whether red hair is a turn on, well, it is for many of us. Maybe because it's rare, but it's attractive all the same.
... (read in full...)
Humanity - the other white meat
Q. It has to be said that my time on DearCupid.com has been...Colourful to say the least. Stories of incest,gay incest, lesbian incest, nasel sex, using plastic wrap as a condom, minors and their conquest to destory someones marriage,long di...
A. 29 March 2008: I agree with you, Doctor Vendetta. I have had my share of surprises, too. However, I would also count the blessings:
1) the aunts are willing to offer their help to complete unknowns, just for the sake of it. Not only the poster benefits... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend six months ago, I am not comfortable with our mutual friend updating him on what I'm doing now. Should I dump her too?
Q. Hoping people can help here. I broke up with a guy about six months ago. I liked him but felt that the feeling was not mutual so I was wasting my time. He and I have a mutual friend and he moniters my comings and goings through her which I find odd. ...
A. 29 March 2008: In my opinion, Rythm is right: you should tell your friend how you feel about her spying on you. Wizard is also right: what can happen is that she might continue to keep him updated on what you do, only in secret. So, perhaps what you should do ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend lying to me?
Q. Been dating someone for past 10 months. He is 49 years old. When we first started dating, he was texting a 29 year old girl he had met before we got together. Said they were “just friends”. He shared with me that they went to Cancun over a ...
A. 28 March 2008: No, madam, you're not ridiculous. I know that the rules of friendship have been rewritten, and I'm glad it is so, but I find it hard to believe that a 49 year old went to Cancún with a 29 year old and "nothing happened" though she offered herself ... (read in full...)
Am I alone in feeling jealous and insecure because my man is handsome and charming?
Q. I apologize for the long rant. I'm overwhelmed right now with feelings of insecurity and jealousy. My boyfriend of 1 year is a very charming man with good looks and great sense of humor. He is flirtatious, he is very out going and meets new girls ...
A. 28 March 2008: I would like to add a little opinion here, which, I hope, you will find useful in this particular problem and in all problems related to men. No matter what, never drop hints. We never get them. Communication is essential for any relationship, ... (read in full...)
Am I alone in feeling jealous and insecure because my man is handsome and charming?
Q. I apologize for the long rant. I'm overwhelmed right now with feelings of insecurity and jealousy. My boyfriend of 1 year is a very charming man with good looks and great sense of humor. He is flirtatious, he is very out going and meets new girls ...
A. 28 March 2008: If he's "charming, with great looks and a great sense of humor", you can bet that he will stay that way for long. You can count on other women feeling attracted to him, just as you were. Even if he were an angry man, he would still be interesting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers masturbation/porn to sex???
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and have what others consider a perfect relationship. This is going to be a bit long winded, but I feel I need to start at the beginning so that it is all properly understood. When I first moved in, I quickly re...
A. 20 March 2008: KanadianCutie, I agree with Tisha-1. But I will go much further: only you can decide what you will do, but, if I were you, I would certainly leave. In all my life, I had never heard about anyone so addicted, and so uncaring about a partner. I ... (read in full...)
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