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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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How much time is time? How long should I wait?
Q. Hi aunts (and uncles) I just need to get opinions on what to do next - I am with my guy over 2 years and we split up nearly 4 weeks ago over something silly and stupid (even tho it was mostly my fault/idea to break up in the first place). Bu...
A. 30 July 2008: It seems like you're still in love and wished he would come back if you met with him. That is natural. However, stick to the hard facts: if he really wanted to be with you, he would be calling you and meeting with you by now. I think he isn't ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38!
Q. All Moms My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38! I have told her and him both what I think of this situation. I realize that legally I can't do anything about it, as here you only have to be 14 to concent to sex and at 16 she could move...
A. 8 April 2008: Dear anonymous, I know how hard it must be for you to just let it happen. Unfortunately, you can't do anything else.
Just make sure she learns from the experience and doesn't get too bitter about it. And perhaps you should make it clear why you ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38!
Q. All Moms My 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38! I have told her and him both what I think of this situation. I realize that legally I can't do anything about it, as here you only have to be 14 to concent to sex and at 16 she could move...
A. 7 April 2008: I'm not a mother, but I think I can say a few words. It is clear that a man who is 38 is not on the same wavelength as your daughter. Or so I hope; if he were, then he would be some man. So we can suspect that this relationship is only physical ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up being left wondering where we stand?
Q. Hey Guys, please help I really like this guy I have been dating! He wants to move slow.(Even though we have made love and it is unbelievable!) he doesn't talk much about what he likes, just that I will find out in time. He want to get to know m...
A. 7 April 2008: I don't know for how long you have been dating. Obviously that time has been enough for you to know you love him, but perhaps it isn't enough for him.
I would wait some time to see what happens. How long you will wait, that's for you to decide.... (read in full...)
When to admit to a guy that you love him?
Q. how do you know when to admit to a guy that you love him?...
A. 7 April 2008: Could you give us more detail?... (read in full...)
Is he telling me he wants space?
Q. Hi there.. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We have been through a lot including abortion. 3 days ago I was ready to walk out because he's always flirting with this one girl and I have explained to him that it hurts me. I understa...
A. 7 April 2008: From what I see, you are considering leaving your boyfriend. The reason you give here is his flirting, but you also mention you have gone through a lot, including an abortion. And this decision of yours, whether you leave or stay, seems to depend ... (read in full...)
He wants me to stay and let him prove that he will never hurt me again?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for almost six years. He has been a really great partner and friend. However, he has cheated on me with around 7 women. All of whom he said he just had one time sex with. He has never told me or given me reason to ...
A. 7 April 2008: He wants two things: to keep you, and to keep on cheating. He has gotten away with it six times. That makes him think he can talk you into anything. So he's trying it again.
I wouldn't give this person another chance.... (read in full...)
How much time is time? How long should I wait?
Q. Hi aunts (and uncles) I just need to get opinions on what to do next - I am with my guy over 2 years and we split up nearly 4 weeks ago over something silly and stupid (even tho it was mostly my fault/idea to break up in the first place). Bu...
A. 7 April 2008: Dear poster, who hasn't been where you are now? I think I can relate to the hell you're living in.
I believe that in these sort of situations, what you need the most is what I would call solid ground. You need to know the facts, to interpre... (read in full...)
What should I do and what are your opinions on his MSN "friend"?
Q. Hey.. I have been going out with my partner for 2 years next month, and up to now, its been up and down (the relationship). We used to go out for car drives so we could relax together, go to the cinema, go out for something to eat, be adv...
A. 7 April 2008: From your words, I see that your partner is just not the same man he used to be, and doesn't enjoy the same activities or being with you. You have had no physical contact at all for approximately three months. You mention you haven't had sex in ... (read in full...)
Fiancee lied about past sex life, what to do now?
Q. I have been with my fiance a little more than a year now. We were talking one day and our past sex life came up. I was a virgin until I met him. I've always strongy believed in sex after marriage, and I made a big mistake breaking it, but I'm at ...
A. 7 April 2008: Perhaps my opinion on this won't be appreciated because I'm a man, but the girls have said it all.... (read in full...)
Questions on physical features- which do you prefer?
Q. ok these questions I need to ask and need answers to so please answer them -blonde or brunette? -big boobs or small boobs? -pubic hair shaved or not shaved? -tall or short girls are better? -are braces a turn off? -what about glas...
A. 7 April 2008: Vegas, you have given many options, but you have left others out. I would add "redhead", "medium boobs", "medium height", "trimmed pubic hair", and perhaps I could add other options. I would certainly add "age", "black, Asian, Latino, other ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with him without feeling so bad?
Q. I have a boyrfriend, but am practically in love with this other guy who i used to date, and still talk to. I don't think it's fair to be with someone who i don't truely like in that way. I know i need to end it with my boyfrend, but i know he's rea...
A. 7 April 2008: I think it would be best if you didn't mention you have feelings for someone else. All he would need to know is that you're not into him anymore. Telling him that there's another guy will make him think something is the matter with him, and you ... (read in full...)
Can you help with my personal sex problems please?
Q. I am 14. I'm straight, and i am a virgin. I like a 15 year old who is not a virgin. I like him a lot, but we haven't met in person yet. Well we have but a year ago. Now we just talk on the phone. I don't have any boobs, and i don't know if he will ...
A. 7 April 2008: Dear,
1) Don't have sex with anyone at your age. You're too young.
2) Don't ever have sex with anyone you're not sure about. And you dont really know who this guy is.
3) Given your age, I know your breasts will increase in size. So, d... (read in full...)
I feel that masturbating is the reason my grades have dropped!
Q. I do masturbate and I feel so sick about it. I'm only 13 but everyone in my family knows that I do it. I'm not sure what to do. I need help and also don't tell me about how it's so healthy, and it's natural, because I use a back massager to masturba...
A. 7 April 2008: You feel guilty about masturbating and are trying to find a way to give you the strength not to do it. I am sorry, but I think you will lose this battle, for reasons that you can't control.
When I was a kid, one of us promised he would never ma... (read in full...)
How should I get birth control pills without my parents knowing?
Q. my mom is a cop, as is my dad. i want to get birth control pills but i dont want them to know at all. should i go to my aunt for help, or sneek to the doctors? ...
A. 7 April 2008: I may add that it would be best for you if you didn't have any sex at this moment. Sex isn't just the physical act; it entails a lot more. And I'm not sure you could handle it.
Take care, dear.... (read in full...)
What is the best thing for me to do to cope financially with a baby?
Q. Im 18 years old and I live with my boyfriend and his mother. I have recently found out I was pregnant. My boyfriends mom won't let us stay here if she finds out so we decided not to tell her until we move. I want to keep the baby but my boyfriend ...
A. 7 April 2008: I agree with Collaroy.... (read in full...)
Should I Confront The Man Who Betrayed Me and Stole My Sexuality For His Own Pleasure?
Q. I am an evangelist in my local church. My husband and I have been sep for 10 yrs. He contracted HIV while were sep, so I know we won't be getting back together. Ran into a past love from about 30 yrs ago (this happened 4 yrs ago). We first dated ...
A. 7 April 2008: I believe that your being an evangelist is not the only reason why you want to stay away from this man. I think you also want to stay away from him because he deceived you. And I wouldn't blame you for it.
I'm a Catholic, and I understa... (read in full...)
I'm scared of showing my naked body to my soon to be husband, what do I do?
Q. I'm getting married in a few months and im a virgin and so is the man im going to marry but i heard so may people say that the best thing to wear on your weading night is nothing at all. but im so shy and super scared. i dont know how to just spring ...
A. 6 April 2008: The other aunts have given you good advice on what to do and what to wear. So I just want to add a little comment. You're afraid of what to do, and also a little worried about whether he will like what he will see. And then, you're not used to ... (read in full...)
I wanted my ex to destroy the raunchy letters I used to write to him when we were together-But he hasn't!
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend back in August. He broke up with me over the phone after admitting to having lead me along for 6 months because he "couldnt find the right moment to break up." Was well pissed off - even more so when I said ...
A. 6 April 2008: A problem in some breakups is that you feel you need to give explanations and make points. Maybe it is so, but that often hides a need to maintain in touch with the other person. So my opinion is that you shouldn't write another letter. He was ... (read in full...)
My fiancee who is in college 300 miles away has a "boyfriend"
Q. My fiancee who is in college 300 miles away has a "boyfriend" Everyone knows me, about our engagement (ring and all) and about her "boyfriend". Even though she has told me they have no sex, she does spend nights with him in his bed (kissing bare ...
A. 6 April 2008: I would be willing to take a bet that they do. In any case, if they don't, I very certainly do. If I told you, poster, that I spent the night in my bed with a girl who was half naked (another term for "bare breasted"), and that we were kissing ... (read in full...)
Men can't read women
Q. Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
A. 5 April 2008: Lazy Guy, I think that we men are not bad at reading women: WE DAMN SUCK AT IT. Like you said, it's not only that we misread them when they are NOT flirting, but we also misread them when they are. And, to be fair, too often women won't speak ... (read in full...)
Can this type of girl be trusted?
Q. Can a girl who is engaged, but dates other guys, including making out, be trusted?...
A. 5 April 2008: I agree with Rythm.... (read in full...)
Are older girls more attractive or just out of my league?
Q. This is my first time doing this, and here's my problem: I find myself really attracted to an older girl who's about 5 years older than me. She's just about to finish her undergraduate degree while i'm in my first year in college. I find her incre...
A. 5 April 2008: She's finishing the stage you're beginning. That would be the only problem. I wouldn't worry about the age, or the social stigma of it, as long as I could have the girl.
Go for her, man. "'Tis better to have loved and lost..."... (read in full...)
I hate myself for having this sort of thought before things are over with hubby!
Q. I have known for a while now I would be leaving my husband at some point, and have told him on several occasions when i've been thinking about it, and he always says he wants me to stay and give him another chance. He treats me very poorly (NOTE TO ...
A. 5 April 2008: Divorcing is for you to decide. I can tell you that, if your marriage is as you have described it, I don't think you should stay with your husband. If he uses the scars you were left with after that sexual abuse then it is clear he doesn't love ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to settle down but he isn't.....will our long-term goals tear us apart?
Q. Need advice My bf is 32, i'm 27 and we've been together for almost a year. We are great together, we make each other laugh, spend a lot of time together, met each other's families and friends and basically all the ingredients of a good relation...
A. 5 April 2008: Also, I would like to say that Ask_Oldersister had it right when she said this:
"... the more you compromise from here, the less he will want you..." That's right. Because, my dear, when you asked the question, he knew you wanted to marry, a... (read in full...)
I'm ready to settle down but he isn't.....will our long-term goals tear us apart?
Q. Need advice My bf is 32, i'm 27 and we've been together for almost a year. We are great together, we make each other laugh, spend a lot of time together, met each other's families and friends and basically all the ingredients of a good relation...
A. 5 April 2008: It is true that six months could be little time for someone to make up his or her mind about marrying. However, what I see here is that he's not into you, poster. I'm sorry to say it, but that's the truth. I can imagine that he might not be ready ... (read in full...)
Does jumping from one relationship to the next work? My girlfriend of 19yrs did this to me....
Q. My ex left me after 19 years together. I tried desperately to make efforts to sit down and discuss things. But she didnt want to know. Within three weeks she told me she had moved on and had found someone else.That really hurt because I turned up at ...
A. 5 April 2008: I don't think that works. You need to digest what happened to you, why, you need your closure, and then you move on and find someone who will make you happy.
You have a new beginning, man! ... (read in full...)
My "virgin" girlfriend says some pretty shocking things! Is she for real?!!
Q. My Brand new GF has told me that she is a virgin and says she wants to wait to see if she finds that special person to give herself to. she told me she has done genital to genital(no penetration just rubbing), and has given Blowjobs. I believe her ...
A. 5 April 2008: When I was at school, about your age, we had a classmate who was always telling us about his wild sex escapades. He was a virgin. There was also a girl who hardly spoke, but was the one teen-ager who got pregnant in the group. So, the way a ... (read in full...)
My live-in boyfriend seems to be leading his ex on! I'm confused!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We met after he moved to my town, away from where he had a very good group of mates so i try to be very accepting that he needs ties with them and we visit whenever possible. We live together...
A. 5 April 2008: I do believe that your boyfriend could mean that he could give her another try. We would all feel safe if he had said to her that HE was in a relationship now, and that was why she must go her own way. However, I also believe that he could be ... (read in full...)
I'm being sexually harassed by an online stalker!
Q. Help! Please. I'm fourteen years old, and I'm being sexually harassed by someone over the internet. I've blocked the person from my contacts list and everything, but he always finds a way. He knows every single website I go on and sends me naked ...
A. 5 April 2008: Dear, you should call the Police. Don't worry about what to tell them: just mention that a man you don't know is sending you naked pictures of himself and knows what websites you visit. Exactly what you told us.
The man is a child molester... (read in full...)
Any advice regarding Hepatitis B? I was just diagnosed.
Q. help!! i have been diagnosed of hypertitis B. is there a doctor here who can advice me on what to do? i mean what drugs to buy, what food to eat and what food to avoid. how dangreous is this desease. help cus i don't know to do....
A. 5 April 2008: Dr. Vendetta is right: your doctor should provide you with this information. You can always search the internet, but the real thing is always best.
I agree with Vendetta again: go see that doctor. Anyways, I can offer this link:
http://... (read in full...)
Guys, would you be turned off if a girl had someone else's name tattooed on her?
Q. I have a bf that doesnt trust me at all, and i got his initials tattooed on myself.........i really love him, but i dont know if it's going to work out.....guy out there..would you be turned off about the idea of a girl with someonelses name on ...
A. 5 April 2008: If I understand this right, you have a tattoo with the initials of your current boyfriend. Your question is whether another guy could be turned off at seeing that tattoo on you.
I think many men would be turned off, because it would feel as if th... (read in full...)
Had sex without a condom but I'm on the pill. What are the chances I'm pregnant?
Q. Hello, Cupid. I'm on birth control for about 4 months now and I never have missed any pills. Just only been late for a few hours but, that's a rare occasion. I had sex with my boyfriend with a condom. A couple of hours later I had sex again b...
A. 5 April 2008: No contraceptive device is totally effective, but, if you have taken your pill correctly, your chances of being pregnant should be small.... (read in full...)
What do you do with a boyfriend who cheats and talks bad about you?
Q. What do you do if you date a guy and have been with him for almost 3 years that tells you he loves you and only you,but he talks behind your back and sees other women he leaves and doesn't call for days then calls back and makes excuses and denies ...
A. 5 April 2008: What you do with such a person is that you show them the door. I'm more concerned about you. You don't have to take all this. You think you'd be miserable without him, but I think it's the other way around: he makes you miserable. You will be ... (read in full...)
Am I too picky about girls? Am I really asking for too much?
Q. Am i asking for too much in a girl? I want a girl who is cute, and doesnt have to be reassured all the time that she is yet isnt full of herself. She has to be loyal and honest, good sense of humor and likes to just relax around the house some n...
A. 5 April 2008: If I look at the list of qualities you want in a girl, I think you're not that picky.
However, I have to say that you can't expect people to be exactly as you wish they were. I beg you to please not take this as personal criticism, but I see you ... (read in full...)
I have no problem erecting but I can't "finish"-Help!
Q. I am 21 and when i have intercourse i cant get off. I dont know what is wrong with me but when i have sex i have no problem getting it hard and ready but once i start i just cant orgasum. The girls that I am with usually have to stop before i even ...
A. 4 April 2008: Yes, I have another post: if you can have an orgasm with masturbation, this is definitely a psychological thing. I insist: you suffer from delayed ejaculation.... (read in full...)
I have no problem erecting but I can't "finish"-Help!
Q. I am 21 and when i have intercourse i cant get off. I dont know what is wrong with me but when i have sex i have no problem getting it hard and ready but once i start i just cant orgasum. The girls that I am with usually have to stop before i even ...
A. 4 April 2008: If I understand your post right, you have no erection problems at all. Your problem is that you can never achieve an orgasm, though you sustain the erection all that time, so long that girls get tired.
You suffer from delayed ejaculat... (read in full...)
How can I trace my father?
Q. I was born in 1977 and my father never acknowledged me. I was adopted by who I call my real father when I was 2. My mother wont give anything away but iv had my gran tell me his name and where he was from at the time. I dont know what to do...
A. 4 April 2008: Dear, I think your mother may have a good reason not to give you this information. But I can't possibly know.
I do know, however, that sometimes when a person looks for a long-gone parent what he or she finds is not that good. Sometimes parents ... (read in full...)
How do I rejuevenate it's once supple skin.
Q. My penis has shrivelled up like a fig in the bath. How do i rejuevenate it's once supple skin. Should i go to hospital? Any advise on how it happened?...
A. 4 April 2008: It took me a second to decide on this: no, I don't want to see your "once" glorious member.
If this is serious, and I still doubt it, go to a doctor. But first make sure you're not blowing this out of proportion.... (read in full...)
How do I rejuevenate it's once supple skin.
Q. My penis has shrivelled up like a fig in the bath. How do i rejuevenate it's once supple skin. Should i go to hospital? Any advise on how it happened?...
A. 4 April 2008: Is this post serious? Do you really want advice on this?
If it is, my recommendation is that you don't go to the hospital. The people there will laugh so much that your penis might just hide, like a turtle in her shell, and never come out agai... (read in full...)
Please be honest, what does emo mean?
Q. Hello. I'm a 12 yr old girl. I'm sill in public school. When i hang out with friends , they often bring up the word ''emo.'' I have never heard of that word before. I really want to know what is means. Be honest, what does emo mean?...
A. 4 April 2008: "Emo" is short for "emotional". This started as a way to play music, but now refers to a group of people. You can check this link:
http://www.fourfa.com/
Here you will find a funny video about emoes:
http://www.youtube.co... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my fiance to be drunk enough to not remember having sex?
Q. My fiancee, who admits to dating and making out with a boy,(often), while wearing only her panties, and in his bed, while 300 miles away in college already engaged with the ring, says they had no sex, and she's still a virgin. My question is.....is ...
A. 3 April 2008: I agree with the boys. You do remember what you did, unless you lose consciousness.
Perhaps you remember it so well that you lie about it?... (read in full...)
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