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writes:hi i've been going out with this girl for about 2months now and we'eve agreed to have sex together pretty soon. but will it be different to have sex with a white girl since my new girlfriend is coloured?is it any better having sex with a coloured girl? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): Its all good Dusky.I was just making it clear bout our region of the country is just like any other reigion. We have a lot of sterotypes such as we are dumb, racist, dirty, poor, messey, etc. And the word Red Neck basically sums up all this or thats how i feel. Your right with your exception. I can see where you are comming from because in the 60's during the civil rights movement they did refer to black people as colored. However, I dont think this poster meant anything by it.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Sorry Anon reader I did not mean any offence.But I do take exception when people with dark skin is known a coloureds.
What is wrong with saying Black, Asian, Chinese etc etc? That is all I am saying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Dusky, I read you post about this person being from the "Red Neck" area of the USA. I may be wrong but you seem to be sterotyping this part of our country and the people that live in this part. I happen be from the "Red Neck" area and I can find it offensive when someone refers to me as a redneck. I live in Hoover Alabama and we are not racist. People dont refer to black people as colored at all. They dont call them the N word either. They say black or african-american. I wish people would stop sterotyping the south. Yes I know we have a less than desireable history with racism but it isnt like that anymore. I dont think this poster is racist at all or find that his coice of word "colored" is nothing to get all excited about and make assumptions of where he may be from. And fyi if you ever go to the American south you will find that people in the south are among the nicest people you will meet.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 I think having sex with a white girl will be different from having sex with a "coloured" girl. And then, having sex with another white girl will also feel different. And having sex with yet another "coloured", and then a Hispanic, and then a Native Australian, and then a Japanese, all will be different experiences. Or so I hope, with all of my heart. I wouldn't want sex to become the same old lame thing forever.
I know for a fact that sex with the same person is different as well. I'm so, so happy for it, as it makes sex much more enjoyable.
I don't think the color of your skin defines how good you are at lovemaking. It does make you exotic for people of other colors, and so they think that lovemaking, in itself, is different, instead of how they go about it.
Some people say that your culture makes you better or worse at lovemaking, too. Well, there are uptight and repressed people everywhere, just as there are sensuous and delectable people everywhere.
We should know about it. My people is the result of the mixture of many, many others.
And then, this is not the point here, but I believe that using euphemisms to call people is wrong in itself. In here, were we have all the races and mixtures of it, we call people "black", "yellow", "brown" (actually, milk-and-coffee) and "white". We even have different words for blond and brunette and red-haired, as you do. Sometimes we use those terms in a derogatory manner, sometimes we don't. Personally, I believe that all people are due respect, but that doesn't mean you will use "special" words to call them. Use words with respect and that makes the difference.
I remember a funny thing that I read in a newspaper some time ago. In a country I won't specify, people said that "Hispanic" is not a race, but a culture. And that is just so correct. Spaniards themselves are "a hundred times mixed", like a writer said. And we are "a thousand times", perhaps. Well, in that country, they said that the Spaniards were not Hispanic. Now that's stupid.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Every person is different, and the personal differences are probably bigger than the racial/cultural ones. Not sure what you're worried about -- unless you just want lots of smutty answers from people telling you how they found it with coloured girls (not sure why you use British spelling, either).
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 April 2008):
 "Greek men are certainly Real Men I can tell you. I love their olive skin and rugged good looks. PHOARRRR!!!!"
Dusky....you leave me no option, but to agree with you there.
: ^ )
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Yes it will be different but not because she is a different colour, it will be because shes a different person.
And i reckon from now on you should really be more careful with the way you make distinctions between people just because of their race
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Simple. Yes. It will be different. She is a different person. Get used to it.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (27 April 2008):
BigSis I get the feeling he is from "Red Neck" area of the USA, because of his referal of his girlfriend as a coloured. I am not suggesting one nano second that he is racist, its just he has probably heard his peers call black people coloureds. BTW my fella pictured with me is Greek Cypriot with a Sarf London accent lol. I have been to Cyprus four times and Crete once, the Greek men are certainly Real Men I can tell you. I love their olive skin and rugged good looks. PHOARRRR!!!!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 April 2008):
Well put Dusky, I couldn't agree more.
I'm 100% Greek, but I was born and raised here in the UK, and I got picked on ~ no end at school, even now, I get people coming up to me saying things like..."You lot..." or "Your kind".
I don't let it get to me, or at least I don't show it, but it does trigger off a burning sensation within.
xXx
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (27 April 2008):
What colour is she???? Green, Orange, Sky Blue Pink????
Look buddy it does not matter what colour she is, she still has the same attributes as a white woman. I find the word "coloured" very patronising, insulting and outdated. If she is a black woman.... then say black woman. I am mixed race myself 1/2 Indian and 1/2 English and kids used to tease me at school because of my mixed race background.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 The proof is in the pudding.
You got to taste it to see what it is like.
No two men is alike.
What is meat to one, is poison to another.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Different races tend to have different attitudes, likes and dislikes even when living in the same country for generations, but the answer to your question really is that it shouldn't be any different whatever her race.
Some races tend to have slight differences in physical size and shape. Men whose race is of African origin tend to have rather larger parts than men whose race is of European origin and, bizarrely, women whose race is of African origin tend to have rather tighter parts than women whose race is of European origin. There are many exceptions, of course, but you have to wonder whether some great cosmic masterplan got it the wrong way round?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 April 2008):
I have never been with a black girl before, but there is no reason why she should be any different to sleeping with a white girl whatsoever, and also no reason why you should feel any different either.
So you enjoy making love to her just the way you would any woman.
Have fun.
BigSis
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