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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Should I stay with a good thing or would it be wise to move on because of the age difference?
Q. I could really use some good advice. I'm a 24 yr old college student. I've bounced around in a few relationships over the past few years, none of which lasted very long. About a year ago, I hooked up with an older woman (she's 43). I basically did ...
A. 22 August 2008: I'm not surprised you found this 43-year old a great woman (they are great), just as it doesn't surprise me you started it for the sex. Let me exaggerate a bit: maybe you thought that, well, what the hell, the granny was hot and willing, and then ... (read in full...)
I have an incontinence problem when I laugh too hard. Any suggestions?
Q. erm hi there. okay this is guna sound random. but like i dont know if its a problem or whatever but... everytime i laugh (Propa giggly laugh) or something happens thats sooo funny i basically wee myself. i cant stop it but its like every time! and ...
A. 22 August 2008: First of all, this is fun, dear poster. When I was a kid, this guy in our neighborhood was well known for breaking wind when something was particularly funny. I wonder what scientists would say about it, but it happened, believe me. It was very ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to forgive a boyfriend that's cheated on me multiple times.
Q. I need help by someone who can give me tips on how to forgive my boyfriend. Hes cheated on me and lied to me multiple times. I dont trust him anywhere he goes and i cant get the picture of him and another girl out of my head. Ive tryed talking to ...
A. 22 August 2008: I can't give you the help you want. My grain of sand can only be to ask you to think why you would want to be with someone who has cheated on you multiple times and won't even discuss why.
Forgiveness is a good thing, and forgiving relieves... (read in full...)
I think my penis is too small
Q. hi, this is my problem but i think my pennis is to small because its only 15cm's - 16cm's, so what is the average sized pennis...
A. 22 August 2008: Every boy worries about the size of his penis. Most of us think it's too small and ask the same question you're asking. I think the best advice I can give you is not to worry about the size of it. There will always be one physical feature of ... (read in full...)
How can I get my brother to leave this girl?
Q. Hi everyone. Amazingly enough, this question isn't about me. It's about my brother. He is 20 yers old, and practically my twin. He's been seeing (and living) with this girl for over a year now, and I think my brother is in trouble. She cheated on ...
A. 22 August 2008: Your brother won't make any changes for as long as he doesn't see by himself what is going on, and he doesn't consider himself a person worthy of respect. Maybe you have been trying to convince him with intellectual reasoning, and that doesn't work ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I can trust any girl!!
Q. I'm constantly worried my girlfriend is cheating on me. She is not the type but I've been cheated on before and now I can't trust any girl. What can I do?...
A. 22 August 2008: Not all people are cheaters. We shouldn't consider a person a cheater unless he or she really is one.
I think you have three options:
a) since you have no proof of her cheating, just your insecurity, enjoy her love and be happy.
b) mak... (read in full...)
I need revenge!
Q. i need advice on the best way to get my revenge on him for putting me in this situation!!!!!me and my boyfriend had been goin out for 3 and a half yrs and have a daughter together, two days ago i answered his fone an a girl answered claiming she is ...
A. 22 August 2008: You are so right in being angry and wanting the worst for yor boyfriend. Let's say it as simply and directly as possible: he cheated on you, fully knowing what he was doing, and his relationship to that other girl was no fling, since they continue ... (read in full...)
I'm 100% totally and completely terrified to have sex!! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. ok..so, hi! i'm 15 years old and kinda depressed. all of my female friends are having sex and i feel totally left out. i'm not saying that i'm just going to go do it for the hell of it, but still..it bothers me that i feel like i can't talk to them ...
A. 22 August 2008: A girl your age is best off is she doesn't have sex. Sex comes along with many other things which you are too young to handle just yet.
Your friends may be having sex, or may be lying about having sex, but that doesn't mean you should be having i... (read in full...)
I came home and found my husband in bed with our doctor! What now?
Q. My name is Christina and I am a 30-year-old woman, my husband is 32, and we've been together for 10 years, married for the last 5 out of those 10 years together. I came home from work one night about a week ago to find him in bed with our GP/doct...
A. 21 August 2008: I forgot to mention that you need to take your child's Asperger syndrome into account. I guess any decision you make needs to be weighed against the possible effects it might have on your child.
You will need a lot of emotional support for you ... (read in full...)
Is there an age where women enjoy the best sex, also when do men and women lose their desire for sex?
Q. At what age do women have the best sex? At what age do men and women stop wanting to have sex?...
A. 21 August 2008: Men might lose the ability to sustain an erection, but I am yet to find any who loses interest in intercourse, no matter the age :-). Which is good. If we were not meant to have sex, we wouldn't have penises.
I'm not old enough to answer w... (read in full...)
I came home and found my husband in bed with our doctor! What now?
Q. My name is Christina and I am a 30-year-old woman, my husband is 32, and we've been together for 10 years, married for the last 5 out of those 10 years together. I came home from work one night about a week ago to find him in bed with our GP/doct...
A. 21 August 2008: I find it only too normal that you feel devastated by this. I think this doesn't feel like just cheating: the very least you can say is that your husband is bisexual, but, frankly, most likely he is gay, which brings the question of whether your ... (read in full...)
I do not understand my husband's obsession with me adding his name to my will, I am not going to, is he trying to get over on me or what?
Q. My husband stoped showing me love and affection once he realized that I was't going to put his name on a Will that I had before we got married. I have some special people in my life that were there for me when times were tough and I will always be ...
A. 21 August 2008: I think he might be feeling like he's less important to you than other people. However, I don't like his insistence on your adding him to your will. It seems he wants to make sure he will have a piece of your money if you should die. Also, his ... (read in full...)
We are gay and we wanted a child, we found a sperm donor, and used a syringe to get pregnant, does anyone know if there is a chance our baby will have a disability, because of how we impregnated the mother?
Q. hi, im a 27 year old woman and im lesbain. Ive been with my girlfriend for 8 years. We both decided that we would like to have a baby. We got a friend of ours who is a man to put his sperm in a cup then with a needleless syringe i sucked up the ...
A. 21 August 2008: In my opinion, you can never be sure you will never inherit a genetic disorder or condition, no matter the method of conception. Life always means taking chances. And, though I'm sorry to say it, no history of problems does not mean a child won't ... (read in full...)
Is my fore-skin supposed to get pulled back during sex? It really hurts.
Q. When having sex my foreskin gets pulled back is this meant to happen? why does it hurt soo much ? what is the best solution for this??...
A. 21 August 2008: Maybe your foreskin doesn't move as far as it should. I think this condition is called "phimosis". You can see a doctor, and, if it's phimosis indeed, is very easy to fix.... (read in full...)
Obama for president?
Q. Wow this is so intense! I origanly come from America but live in Canada! But I cant belive it there could be the first black president! I dont have a problem with couler and have been doing about slavery in history and I think we've came so far! I ...
A. 20 August 2008: Well, here's an answer from someone who can't vote at all and who lives in a different political environment: It won't matter much who wins, really. Whoever wins, there will be a whole system of checks and balances in place that will make sure he ... (read in full...)
Should we masturbate in between our visiting each other? We have agreed not to but I need this release...
Q. my fiancee and i have been together for almost a year. we live apart and only see one another a couple times a month. recently we have been really wanting one another. we had an agreement to not masturbate between because we feel it builds up the ...
A. 20 August 2008: Well, maybe I misunderstood your post. In any case, I hope the parts I got right (if any) did help you.... (read in full...)
Why does my 7yr old step daughter masturbate?
Q. I have a step daughter who is now 7 years old. The problem is that she has been grinding her legs togather since about 9 months old. She has been to a doc that said it is a form of masterbation. We have taken her to counsuling they say if is a way ...
A. 19 August 2008: I know this can be an embarrassing problem. I knew a little girl who had that same problem. The parents didn't know what to do. She would do it while watching TV in the living room, with everyone else around, even visitors like me.
There... (read in full...)
Will my new boyfriend break up with me over sexual problems? This happened last time!
Q. Me and my bf of two years and a half just broke up because he said we didnt have a great sexual relationship, i guess the blame is on me but i feel as though it was because i wasnt really sexually attracted to him. I really loved him though but ...
A. 19 August 2008: Lonelybutnotalone is right. Besides, if you think you could use a little learning, I can tell you that learning this kind of lessons is a very pleasurable thing to do.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend betray me by masturbating? I want to end it!
Q. Dear Cupid , I just caught my boyfriend masterbating I feel like if he has betrayed me. I ask him if he doesnt like our sex but he answers that he does. So why does he do it. It makes me feel like i dont mean nothing to him. do you think that its...
A. 19 August 2008: Sometimes we need to learn to be a little forgiving. I know it feels like he doesn't find pleasure in you, but I'm pretty sure that's not the case. Perhaps he wants sex more often than you do, and this is his way to release his tension? Or ... (read in full...)
Should we masturbate in between our visiting each other? We have agreed not to but I need this release...
Q. my fiancee and i have been together for almost a year. we live apart and only see one another a couple times a month. recently we have been really wanting one another. we had an agreement to not masturbate between because we feel it builds up the ...
A. 19 August 2008: I believe that, in your situation, the benefit of masturbating is the release of sexual tension.
I wonder if there are benefits in not masturbating. You tell us you used to have problems having orgasms and now, without the masturbation, you don'... (read in full...)
We are first cousins, and I was told there's a huge possibility that we would have abnormal babies. Is this true?
Q. Hi dear, I am in trouble and if anyone knows about this can you please reply to me back as soon as you can. My problem is that someone told me few days ago that if we marry our cousin (kids of two sisters) there is a huge possibility that we ...
A. 19 August 2008: You can check this, too:
http://www.dnadirect.com/... (read in full...)
We are first cousins, and I was told there's a huge possibility that we would have abnormal babies. Is this true?
Q. Hi dear, I am in trouble and if anyone knows about this can you please reply to me back as soon as you can. My problem is that someone told me few days ago that if we marry our cousin (kids of two sisters) there is a huge possibility that we ...
A. 19 August 2008: I'm afraid this is not what you want to hear, but, yes, having children with a first cousin does increase the risk of the children inheriting deleterious characteristics. That is the hard fact, just as your love for your cousin is another fact.
... (read in full...)
Is there a way to find out if you are allergic to condoms before using them for sexual intercourse?
Q. Is there a way to find out if you are allergic to condoms before using them for sexual intercourse?...
A. 18 August 2008: If you're allergic to latex condoms, then I assume you're allergic to latex itself. Latex allergy can be very serious. Here's a serious article on the issue:
http://www.medicinenet.com/latex_allergy/article.htm
I have heard about people who... (read in full...)
My son's 11 months and still breast feeding, please help?
Q. I've been breastfeeding my son since he was born. I used to pump milk into a bottle sometime, but I stopped. If it's not milk he will only drink from a big boy cup( He's been doing that since he was 4 months) So now I'm back to the breast....He'll ...
A. 15 August 2008: I don't know if this would work, but I think I would try other mechanisms instead. Maybe mothers can have a better opinion than myself.... (read in full...)
My turkish fella didn't have a visa and he's been sent back to Turkey. I don't know what to do.
Q. i met my turkish fella back in january this year. in july i found out that he didnt have a visa to be here and now he has been sent back to turkey. i love him so much and miss him. the only problem is that i have been told the only way he can come ...
A. 14 August 2008: Nobody can tell whether a marriage will last a lifetime. I think it's safe to assume that most people marry thinking it will be forever, and we know divorces are widespread. And then some people remain married, but unhappily. So, I'm sure you see ... (read in full...)
Did he ask me on a date or was he just being friendly?
Q. We were standing on his driveway after dropping the rest of our friends off after a movie. We hugged for a long time as he offered to fix my car door because it's jammed shut. I mentioned that you could see stars really well from his yard, he ...
A. 13 August 2008: I don't think this is just friendship. Maybe he dropped all the friends at their homes first for no particular reason, or he waited until you were alone with him. Then the hugging and the invitation, and the word "date", all make think there's ... (read in full...)
Am I nuts to think there could be a future in this? After all it is at the moment all online.
Q. I have started chatting to a guy online. we are in different countries, he is in his early 40's and i am in my mid thirty's. we both have alot of relatinship experience behind us. we have been chatting every night and get on so well.....am i mad? ...
A. 13 August 2008: A relative of mine married a girl he met over the internet. Where I live, a local paper published stories of people who married this way, too. So your relationship could work out. Still, you need to keep your eyes very open and be careful.... (read in full...)
Is the younger man I'm seeing playing a game?
Q. I'm in love with a man who is forty years old and I am 60. I really don't look much older than late forties. We became very close last year, but then had a break up. We have now starting seeing each other occasionally again but there seems to be ...
A. 13 August 2008: You don't know where you stand with him. It seems he suggests "going places" because he'd like to sleep with you, but then says he's been hurt in order to avoid greater intimacy.
I think you should know exactly where you stand with him. In my op... (read in full...)
How easy is it to kiss a friend who is drunk?
Q. never really got drunk, so wonderin at a club how easy is it to kiss a friend who is drunk? Nothing more just a nice kiss? :) coz i'm goin out soon. Thank you...
A. 13 August 2008: You shouldn't kiss friends when they are drunk.... (read in full...)
I'm the one that loves the child and wishes he was mine!
Q. I feel so jealous and left out I guess. I'm 6 years younger than my wife so i'm not as mature or experienced i guess. We're recently married. She has a 3 year old son from another guy. I'm the step-dad but he thinks i'm his real dad until otherwise. ...
A. 13 August 2008: Sorry, not "reconvene", but "reproach".... (read in full...)
I'm the one that loves the child and wishes he was mine!
Q. I feel so jealous and left out I guess. I'm 6 years younger than my wife so i'm not as mature or experienced i guess. We're recently married. She has a 3 year old son from another guy. I'm the step-dad but he thinks i'm his real dad until otherwise. ...
A. 13 August 2008: My, is this a difficult thing to deal with.
I find it normal to feel angry at the biological father. He is upsetting everybody else's life just because. I made counts and we're talking about a 39-year old who hasn't really been a father to any o... (read in full...)
Is it normal for your parents to want you to pay back money you borrow?
Q. Hi, I just want to know: Is it normal for your parents to want you to pay back money you borrow? Please reply =] Love ya all tasha x...
A. 13 August 2008: At your age, they are supposed to cover most of your expenses, but, if you said you borrowed money, then you have to pay them back.... (read in full...)
Isn't kissing part of it all?
Q. Recently met a man -we shared some fun times but we didnt have sex as I didnt feel well (true) when he came to see me I kissed him goodbye on the lips but he didnt like it. However he was prepared to have sex with me-as he kept dropping hints-well ...
A. 12 August 2008: He thought you didn't want to have sex with him, and then wondered why the hell you would tease him with a kiss. Or that is the sense I can make out of this.... (read in full...)
What should I do about this on/off relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of four years just dumped me because he said he needs to "find himself". Our relationship has not been that great. He breaks up with me all the time, doesn't call me for a while and when he's ready he'll start c...
A. 12 August 2008: I think you should leave this man. He's no good.... (read in full...)
Are there exercises or food to improve the hardness of my bits?
Q. Hi well i have a problem so here goes: I have a over average sizd penis at around 8inches but i read that this makes it harder to get up... and well it does, i do allright but it could be better on few occasions when its been rock hard its reached...
A. 12 August 2008: You can also stop worrying about it. We all worry about our Peters when we're young. We grow out of that phase.... (read in full...)
5 questions for the guys!
Q. Hey guys I have got few questions for you. I want this to be answered preferably by men; 1) Why men ask or demand sex whether they are committed to you or not. 2) If a man loves a woman he wants sex and even if he is not in love he still wants s...
A. 12 August 2008: 1) Because we love sex.
2) Good question. Usually a man who is in love will go several extra miles for you, regarding things that matter. I don't mean he will take you to the movies. A better sign would be his being interested in your well-bei... (read in full...)
This younger girl has a bad reputation. Should I keep seeing her?
Q. I am using my sisters account on here, she said its fine. I am a 34 year old man. I always go for older women and have been seeing older women for a few months and just having fun, but one got a bit serious and started being a bunny boiler. I have j...
A. 12 August 2008: I think you're in control of who you date. So, if you want to date her, do, and if you don't, don't.
In making a judgment about people, I think first-hand information is essential. You don't get to know people's real motives or situatio... (read in full...)
Should I drop a few hints or just forget about her and move on with my life?
Q. I need someone neutral's advice - I think I'm too close to the situation to be able to think clearly, and I don't know what the right thing to do is any more. My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 8 years, but recently we brok...
A. 12 August 2008: First, you are right in saying your relationship with your girl has no future. I know it happens, and I know why, but, in principle, people in relationships are not supposed to flirt, and much less to accept flirting. Second, she asked for "time ... (read in full...)
He's 29 year old, non committed guy, who wants to stay with mum and dad!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and its a nightmare, we love eachother but argue alot. Since I have known him he has never tried to talk about a future with me, we have been on holiday twice together. I am 25 still live at home...
A. 12 August 2008: I agree with Emily. He's with you because you give him what he needs. Sometime ago I read that people are not really afraid of commitment, as such, but of commitment with a person in particular. I guess this is his case. He doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Why don't I make noise during sex?
Q. So my boyfriend and I first had sex about a month ago. I was a virgin, and he wasnt sure if he was or not. (he woke up at a party naked next to a naked girl) But anyways, neither of us make any noise during sex, other than the heavy breathing....
A. 12 August 2008: Because you don't like it, and that's it. Some things you like, some others you don't.... (read in full...)
He dates younger girls--is that okay?
Q. Is it bad for a 24/25 yr old male to be dating an 18 yr old female? i was on bebo and saw a comment on a guy i likes page and it said "ahaha you only date girls who were born in the 1990's"? so is it bad? does it make the "24" yr old seem desperate ...
A. 11 August 2008: I don't see why ths would be wrong, and I don't see how it could make him a desperate person, either.
As to your liking this man, I guess your chances aren't that good. He has a girlfriend. He might want to stay with her.
Take care.... (read in full...)
My son's 11 months and still breast feeding, please help?
Q. I've been breastfeeding my son since he was born. I used to pump milk into a bottle sometime, but I stopped. If it's not milk he will only drink from a big boy cup( He's been doing that since he was 4 months) So now I'm back to the breast....He'll ...
A. 2 August 2008: I understand you can't wean a child overnight. I'm not a mother, so obviously there is a lot I ignore here. I think I would try to give the child breast milk in a cup. He will make a tantrum but eventually will drink from it, when he is hungry. ... (read in full...)
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