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writes:Is it bad for a 24/25 yr old male to be dating an 18 yr old female? i was on bebo and saw a comment on a guy i likes page and it said "ahaha you only date girls who were born in the 1990's"? so is it bad? does it make the "24" yr old seem desperate as he cant get a girl his own age? plus the guy i like has a friend whos girlfriend is only 6 months older than me but born in 1989?? so is it ok?please help im feeling very upset/sensitive? x x x x
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reader, ladyleesha  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 I'm 19 and my bf is 24 and we have a lot of fun together so I think it shouldn't matter. Like pinktopaz said some 18 yr old dnt kno what they what in a real realationship. So it all depends on the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol thank you for the answers but danielepew, the guy i like is unattached wohoo single and i was worried that because his friend said that he (the guy i like) mainly goes for girls in who are 18 or less that it might put him off, and he may be desperate because he cant get a girlfriend his own age? i dont know? x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (11 August 2008):
 why are you upset and sensitive? it doesnt matter your age as long as it is legal. hell their are people with 30yrs difference.. and no it doesnt make them desperate its just how it lands you cant help who you fall for only how hard you land.. good luck aphex xx
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reader, Spiffeh.. +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Yeah as long as he isnt just taking advantage of them. I personally dont think it would be alright to keep dating 18 year olds when he is in his late 20s or early 30s though.. Might be a bit of a fetish =] x
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reader, anonymous18 +, writes (11 August 2008):
I'm 18 (nearly 19) and I find older men attractive, men my own age seem very immature. I find no problem with the fact that I am interested in having relationship's with men who are perhaps even 35 - I don't think age matters, it's the maturity of the individuals.
Me and a friend have discussed the perfect age for a boyfriend and have come up with 27 or older!
As long as they're on a similar level of maturity I see nothing wrong.
The comment that someone left seems to me to display an immature attitude. It seems to indicate that 18 year olds (or simply younger women) are "easy" which is a clearly immature outlook.
Well anyway, that's my opinion, hope it helps :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 August 2008):
Well, in a way...yes. But I think it's all just a matter of opinion. Most of the time it's more acceptable for men to date younger women...even if they are 18. I would never date a guy much younger than me (more than a couple years) because usually it does look desperate, not to mention their maturity level is way below par. I'm 24 and have absolutely no interest in an 18 year old boy, especially since many guys older than me act like children themselves.
I don't think he's necessarily desperate, but I would lean more toward the thought that he's not into anything serious. A 24 year old man would date a woman around his age if he knew what he wanted, granted that women around that age are a little more clear on what they want than an 18-year old woman would be.
I can see why your feelings would be hurt. His friend was bascially making fun of your age difference. But if he's a nice guy and treats you right, I don't see any harm. You are considered an adult, so don't let it get to you. Being born in the 90's is just weird sometimes for people in their mid-twenties and older, especially since you can recall events from that decade and the thought that you were just a baby at the time makes it an easy target for lame guys to make fun of.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 I don't see why ths would be wrong, and I don't see how it could make him a desperate person, either.
As to your liking this man, I guess your chances aren't that good. He has a girlfriend. He might want to stay with her.
Take care.
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reader, The Listener +, writes (11 August 2008):
 I suspect the comment 'you only date girls who were born in the 1990's' was a reference to his preference for young women. I know plenty of 18 year old girls who have healthy relationships with older men and as a man i wouldn't see another guy as desperate for not going out with someone his own age. In no way does this prove he cannot get a girl his own age, merely that he doesn't want to, or prefers younger girls. The fact you are born in 1989 and your friend in 1990 makes very little difference i would have thought. If it does, he is the first guy i have ever heard of picking girlfriends based on year of birth and therefore is probably someone you want to be avoiding anyway.
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