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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Is it ok if an eight-year-old masturbates?
Q. I been babysitting all my life since i was 16. I baby sit this 8 yr old girl she's Always wanting Privacy. One Day I was Baby sitting Just her cause the other went to spend the night with grandparents. well One Day i was down stairs Doing some ...
A. 16 November 2008: I guess that her using the toothbrush doesn't change anything, really.... (read in full...)
Do you think he will want contact with his child in the future?
Q. i dont want anyone telling me how evil i am for having an affair as the other woman i am quite aware that the other woman always gets the blame. i had an affair with a married man ,we fell in love with each other, i also went out with him when i was ...
A. 20 September 2008: We don't know what is going to happen here. Some men go away and never go back. Some come back when they are old and do the accounting of their lives. Some come back long before that.
There is a possibility that he will be what I call a "lukew... (read in full...)
Do you think he will want contact with his child in the future?
Q. i dont want anyone telling me how evil i am for having an affair as the other woman i am quite aware that the other woman always gets the blame. i had an affair with a married man ,we fell in love with each other, i also went out with him when i was ...
A. 19 September 2008: It is very hard to tell whether he will want to have contact with your (his and yours) child. I have seen cases of men who never ever worry about the child again, and other cases of men who do. I don't know what the key factor would be, other ... (read in full...)
How do open relationships work? Why would anyone want to have one?
Q. How do open relationships work? What happens if you fall for one of the 'other people' you've been messing around with? Isn't it just asking for trouble? I recently met a married guy who I have strong feelings for- who has an open relationshi...
A. 19 September 2008: Seen from your side of it, his open marriage means that he will have sex with you and will go back to his wife. There is no guarantee he would stay interested in you for any period of time. And then, the "open" aspect of the relationship would ... (read in full...)
I want to stay virgin until marriage but the idea of marrying a girl who will dislike sex is haunting me as I have a high libido. Please advise.
Q. Hello People, This is my first time in here and in any website of the like. I came across your website when researching and I found it nice and friendly so here I am. I am a 28 year old virgin male. It is weird I know but well I like to have s...
A. 19 September 2008: My opinion on this matter goes very much against what you need or asked help for, poster. However, I hope it helps you.
The answers you have received underline the importance of a good relationship with your woman, so that she will want to be wi... (read in full...)
Can guys run out of sperm?
Q. Hey guys, just wondering if I could run out of sperm after having sex a large number of times in a year/week, I mean, women run out of eggs, but supposudly, a man produces around 2 million sperm a day, but what if you run out of all 2 million? Will ...
A. 19 September 2008: Semen is produced every so often, so you don't "run out" of it. The body usually has no trouble making more.... (read in full...)
Can anybody help blackheads go away??
Q. I get really bad black heads on my chest in between my boobs how can i make them go away?? there really noticeable plz help !!! ta xx...
A. 19 September 2008: You get blackheads and pimples because your pores are small and get clogged easily. You don't need to go to a dermatologist if this isn't serious, however.
You need to get rid of your current blackheads, and prevent new ones from appearin... (read in full...)
I don't want anyone to know about my previous marriage...
Q. Unfortunately, I will be getting a divorce soon. I've been married for almost 6 years and my family does not know about it. My family, being my parents and siblings. I wish to keep this confidential, especially to my future gf/fiance/wife. Is this ...
A. 19 September 2008: I used to be very religious. We Catholics have something we call "sins of omission". That is, you might commit a sin if you fail to do or say something that you should have said. I'm not sure if your religion has this, too, but what you are ... (read in full...)
I befreiended a high end escort with whom I have casual sex, I am jealous of her dates, what is the right thing to do?
Q. I befriended an very beautiful high end escort that I saw three years ago, while i was going through a divorce. At the time she needed a place to move and I offered my spare room. At first we were just friends. It was like that for a year and half...
A. 17 September 2008: Because of her work, she won't easily offer exclusivity to anyone. If that is what you want, then you're in trouble. Above all, because she has someone she calls boyfriend.
I'm afraid that either you accept her seeing other people, or you go a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys getting period blood over him, is this normal?!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both 16. Weve been going out for seven months and we both lost our virginty to each other around 4 months ago. I was just wondering if this is normal that my boyfriend likes to finger me whilst im on my period ( i only ever...
A. 17 September 2008: I usually avoid the word "normal" regarding human behavior regarding sex. If your boyfriend likes this, that's his thing. If YOU don't like it, then tell him. Some women don't want sex during their periods, and guys need to respect that.... (read in full...)
Did I miss a small window of opportunity with her?
Q. Hello to all! A young lady(29) applied for a job at a small school I run a few days ago. The job is about 5 hours but during the interview there seemed to be an instant attraction between us. She asked me if I was married and when I said ...
A. 16 September 2008: It seems your analysis is partly correct. She might have liked you a lot, but then she remembered she has a boyfriend.
Now, find someone else. The window of opportunity never existed. Your analysis suggests that she would have been with you... (read in full...)
Has anyone been to a clairvoiyant and what they told you helped you make a decision in life, or do you think it's a load of rubbish?
Q. Hi, just a quick question. I was on holiday a few weeks ago at a well known seaside resort and i went to see a clairvoiyant. I'd been to this area a couple of times and have always wanted a reading, and this time i plucked up the courage to go in. I...
A. 16 September 2008: Once, a cartoonist said something that translates kinda like this: "A hand-reader is a lady who messes with your mind by messing with your hands". Maybe the cartoonist should have included clairvoyants?... (read in full...)
Should we stay together for the sake of the kids?
Q. My husband always talks about woman in front of me. Well we decided to have an open relationship... well i think it has gone too far, i feel for someone else very strongly. My husband is great, but it has been 10 years and i find so much ...
A. 15 September 2008: Dear poster, sometimes we can fall out of love, for perfectly good reasons. My guess is that it was he who suggested an open marriage. I think that would be a very good reason to fall out of love.
It is clear that you don't want to hurt anyone. ... (read in full...)
Should we stay together for the sake of the kids?
Q. My husband always talks about woman in front of me. Well we decided to have an open relationship... well i think it has gone too far, i feel for someone else very strongly. My husband is great, but it has been 10 years and i find so much ...
A. 15 September 2008: I'm afraid it's never easy to tell whether two people should stay married for the sake of kids. Opinions will vary and perhaps this reflects different family situations.
Some people say that children benefit from the parents staying together... (read in full...)
I dislike anal sex, I think it's strange and I'm scared of it, but I do it for my husband's sake; our sex life has deteriorated.
Q. i have been with my husband for over 10 years and married for 5, our sex life was fine up in till a couple of years ago we got a strap on dildo he wanted anal sex. lets put it this way i have never seen him like that before, he really enjoyed it. t...
A. 15 September 2008: From your post, I'm not sure if I can conclude that he isn't having sex with you. Apparently all he wants is to be penetrated. If that is the case, he might not be gay but you are indeed in big trouble. He would be doing something that many men ... (read in full...)
Why has he never made love to me?
Q. I spent the night in bed with a man I love on Saturday, and it's about the eighth time I have shared his bed. We only see each other now and then but he has already said that he adores me, that he thinks I am a great woman and that he admires me. ...
A. 15 September 2008: Maybe he has problems keeping an erection?... (read in full...)
Could he be playing games?
Q. What does it mean when a guy wants you to stay the night after sex, but then says he does not want a relationship with you. Is he playing games? ...
A. 15 September 2008: YES... (read in full...)
Is having sex 2-3 times a week really that bad? How can I get her to stop pressuring me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year and our problem is that her sex drive dwarves mine. I do enjoy sex with her but only on an approximate 2-3 times a week basis, and this seems far too little for her. It never really sememed a...
A. 15 September 2008: First things first: you're not that old to be unable to have sex two or three times a week. Much to the contrary, you're young enough to be having sex three times a day. You gave us the clue to the problem: for you, "sex is not such an exciting ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being intimate with a man
Q. Help me! I have such a fear of being intimate with a man. I am a 28 year old female and when i first meet a guy that i am into i get all excited about seeing him but the minute i realize that he is into me as well i start becoming really anxious ...
A. 12 September 2008: The girls in the site can tell you better, I'm sure, but I can offer this practical advice: if you don't get over that fear of yours, you will end up alone forever. There might be issues or stuff you need to solve, but, in the end, that is your ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a sin?
Q. I am a christian who masterbates. I want to know whether masterbation is a sin or not. please help....
A. 10 September 2008: I think we should also recognize that Annalisa is a great and respectable woman. She simply speaks her honest mind, for the purpose of helping. She takes her (and my) religion into consideration. That doesn't make her bad.
Yeah, I'm Catholic... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm, but I don't like masturbating... Is there any hope?
Q. My problem is this - I've never had an orgasm. I've read a lot of tips that advise you to explore and touch yourself, but masturbation really doesn't appeal to me, and the times I've tried have only left me bored and somewhat frustrated. I...
A. 10 September 2008: Is it me, or I detect a problem in your boyfriend's lovemaking? It seems clear that he thinks this is about himself only. I wonder why you can't start it.
I'm sensing that perhaps your insatisfaction with masturbation comes from the fact tha... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm, but I don't like masturbating... Is there any hope?
Q. My problem is this - I've never had an orgasm. I've read a lot of tips that advise you to explore and touch yourself, but masturbation really doesn't appeal to me, and the times I've tried have only left me bored and somewhat frustrated. I...
A. 9 September 2008: This is very good advice:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/advice-to-young-men-about-young-women.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-tried-everything-and-so-far-failed-to.html
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a sin?
Q. I am a christian who masterbates. I want to know whether masterbation is a sin or not. please help....
A. 9 September 2008: I am in line with Daletom. Sort of.
First of all, the statement of bias: I was raised as a seriously observing Catholic, and am a former altar boy and wanted-to-be priest. Nowadays, I am away from my religion in some practices, I never attend m... (read in full...)
Do any guys seriously contemplate their responsibilities as in a married life before proposing?
Q. My query is very simple. Do any guys seriously contemplate their responsibilities as in a married life before proposing? I have received innumerable proposals over time but i have not find a single man who realises that marriage is more than a ...
A. 8 September 2008: Yes, you have been unfortunate. Serious men do contemplate their responsibilities before they propose. Some don't propose at all if they don't think they can handle it.
Some others will propose BECAUSE they can't handle it. They will expect y... (read in full...)
Occasional intimacy issues, need advice from the ladies
Q. I've been dating a girl I really like for 3 months now. We decided we want to be exclusive with each other. We're both mid-to late 20's. We get along GREAT, she hasnt been in a r'ship in 3 yrs (because she claims to not have found a guy she wants ...
A. 8 September 2008: Sorry, sometimes she's high and sometimes she's down :-). I know you got it right.... (read in full...)
Occasional intimacy issues, need advice from the ladies
Q. I've been dating a girl I really like for 3 months now. We decided we want to be exclusive with each other. We're both mid-to late 20's. We get along GREAT, she hasnt been in a r'ship in 3 yrs (because she claims to not have found a guy she wants ...
A. 8 September 2008: I'm not a lady, but I think I can help you.
You know, many years ago I met this great girl. I would have considered myself the luckiest man on Earth and its surrounding galaxies if she had chosen to be with me. The point is, she had thyroid ... (read in full...)
I won't let my boyfriend go down on me because I think it's disgusting down there!
Q. my boyfriend wants to go down on me but im uncomfortable with it cuz i mean isnt it disgusting down there like the pee comes out from there and its slimy and smelly and hairy so why would anyone want to do that?...
A. 8 September 2008: Dear poster, you have been given good advice, but I want to add a little. Your genitalia are not something to feel disgust for. Also, see it this way: if he finds your genitalia attractive, why worry?... (read in full...)
Do you think I can make things work? Or should I just come clean to my hubby? What to do? Help?
Q. Hi everyone This might turn out to be a bit long so bear with me. Here´s my dilemma: I have no idea how to save my marriage. I´m 32, my hubby is 40. We´ve been married for 9 years now. Our marriage has been a bumpy ride but we´ve always had a str...
A. 8 September 2008: First of all, I don't think you're shit or idiot. Yes, you cheated on your husband, but that doesn't make you the ultimate evil. You went wrong, but now you're trying to do the right thing. That is what matters most.
Your feelings are normal. ... (read in full...)
Lacking passion in my relationship!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and I love him very much..But I am not in love with him, and I never was, since the beginning...but we just click on every level except physical attraction and passion, so the relationship grew..I am just ...
A. 8 September 2008: I agree with Eyes. This relationship of yours sounds more like a deep human connection and perhaps some sexual attraction, but not that "click" we feel when we really-really want someone.
I was thinking of suggesting things to do, but I believe ... (read in full...)
Why are we not conceiving?
Q. Hi I hope someone can help me on this.... Ive been with my boyfriend for some time and have been off the pill for around a year and a half. I have never managed to concieve.... i have been to the doctors and have been for a scan and bloodtests. ...
A. 8 September 2008: I also believe you need to go back to your doctor. These cases do happen even if the two parties are fine. I think your case needs a special focus.... (read in full...)
He's looking for group sex - am I fair to be feeling this way?
Q. i have found out that when we split up my ex partner went on a large site looking for group sex and couple sex and he never put his sexual orientation as being straight. I thought that i had a child with a decent heterasexual man but it seems that ...
A. 8 September 2008: I can understand that you feel betrayed and deceived. Sexual preferences aside, all that time you were with a man who wasn't letting you see his real you. What other parts of your relationship were also fake?
As to not seeing the child, I don't ... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend want to have a threesome with another guy? Is he bisexual?
Q. my boyfriend of 3 years wants me to do a 3 some with him, but not with a girl, with a guy! when we werent' serious we had a threesome with my bestfriend he didnt have sex with her but yeah, we did. and now he's saying he wants me to have sex with...
A. 8 September 2008: Also, if the idea of this threesome bothers you, say you don't want it. Period.... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend want to have a threesome with another guy? Is he bisexual?
Q. my boyfriend of 3 years wants me to do a 3 some with him, but not with a girl, with a guy! when we werent' serious we had a threesome with my bestfriend he didnt have sex with her but yeah, we did. and now he's saying he wants me to have sex with...
A. 8 September 2008: I honestly can't tell whether your boyfriend is bisexual or not. However, I think many of us straights wouldn't want to be in a sexual setting with another naked man.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want kids - EVER!
Q. I'm only 20 years old and I don't plan on having children any time soon as I want a career and to focus on myself for the next ten or fifteen years. I'm getting married to an old friend who I've cared very much about for years now and we tragical...
A. 8 September 2008: Few twenty-something men who want a career also want children. They see children as something that keeps them down. Now, thirty-something men might want children. You see things differently when you realize that you won't be around forever, you ... (read in full...)
She said she didn't date on the summer... yet she went out with two boys at that time!
Q. There is this girl i like we have been talking for 6 months i asked her out in the 3rd month but she said she didnt date in the summer but she went out with 2 other guys before school started she said she was still in love with me after 6 months and ...
A. 8 September 2008: Read between the lines, dear poster. She said she wouldn't date in the summer, yet she DID DATE two other guys. What she really meant was she wouldn't date YOU. She put you on hold. Now that the summer is over, she remembered you were around and ... (read in full...)
His ex wife won't let me see my step daughter...what can I do?
Q. My husband's ex-wife won't let me see my step daughter when he leaves for boot camp (army) what can I do about it?...
A. 8 September 2008: If I understand this right, your husband is going away with the Army and his daughter, who lives with you, will now be living with her mother. While he's away, the ex-wife won't let you see the girl.
Sorry: there's nothing you can do. The ex-w... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for me to get her back or have I been put in the friend zone?
Q. Long story short, I went out with this girl for a month, and eventually she broke it off stating she liked me more as a friend and she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. A couple of months pass and we stay friends. And she starts behaving ...
A. 8 September 2008: Ditto as in "Double M", that is.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hardly orgasms with a condom on. Any reason why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have sex atleast twice a month for the past 5 months and we are both 18.We had sex without a condom twice and he came in about 3 minutes,but with a condom sex lasts for hours and its difficult for him to come although the sex is ...
A. 8 September 2008: The problem is that he has masturbated too much and, therefore, he does not get enough stimulation if he has the condom on. Since I DO NOT RECOMMEND THAT YOU HAVE SEX WITHOUT THE CONDOM, I suggest that he buys the sensitive type (LATEX ONES, ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for me to get her back or have I been put in the friend zone?
Q. Long story short, I went out with this girl for a month, and eventually she broke it off stating she liked me more as a friend and she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. A couple of months pass and we stay friends. And she starts behaving ...
A. 8 September 2008: Ditto.... (read in full...)
Is it ok if an eight-year-old masturbates?
Q. I been babysitting all my life since i was 16. I baby sit this 8 yr old girl she's Always wanting Privacy. One Day I was Baby sitting Just her cause the other went to spend the night with grandparents. well One Day i was down stairs Doing some ...
A. 8 September 2008: The answers will vary, particularly because this is an eight year old girl. I'm not sure if this is something we should consider as "correct" or "wrong". She's doing it, because she enjoys it, and many other small boys and girls do it as well. ... (read in full...)
When a man is aroused by a sex scene in movies or porn, is it due to the beauty of the woman or the act of sex?
Q. When a man is aroused by a sex scene in a movie or a porno, is it because of the amazing beauty of the individual woman or the act of sex itself? Thanks....
A. 8 September 2008: Well, I respect Replacement's opinion, but seeing pretty women is not dull :-). Seeing women, pretty or not, isn't :-).... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend cums on my vagina, can I get pregnant ?
Q. I'm a virgin and want to know, if my boyfriend cums on my vagina can I get pregnant even though my hymen isn't broken? Thanks ...
A. 8 September 2008: For the sake of the person who asked: hymens are not tight seals. Most have a small opening and sometimes more than one. So, if you have heavy petting and semen falls on the vulva, I would suspect, Mother Nature being the way she is, that some ... (read in full...)
When a man is aroused by a sex scene in movies or porn, is it due to the beauty of the woman or the act of sex?
Q. When a man is aroused by a sex scene in a movie or a porno, is it because of the amazing beauty of the individual woman or the act of sex itself? Thanks....
A. 7 September 2008: When you watch a movie, or when you make love, you can be aroused by either the beauty or the act of sex itself, or, some great times, by both. I would say, however, that, if you had to choose one, the act itself would be more arousing. It's no ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend cums on my vagina, can I get pregnant ?
Q. I'm a virgin and want to know, if my boyfriend cums on my vagina can I get pregnant even though my hymen isn't broken? Thanks ...
A. 7 September 2008: I think we should need clarify a point :-). Your vagina is the opening that leads to your cervix. It seems to me that your real question is whether you can become pregnant if your boyfriend ejaculates on your vulva, which is the outer organs. ... (read in full...)
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