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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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He keeps hinting he want's 3somes. How do I get him to shut up about it?
Q. Why does my bofriend keep bring up this topic? Early in our relationship, he asked me if I would ever do a threesome with another girl. I told him "no way! i'm not sharing you!" about a month later, he asked if i would ever consider having sex with ...
A. 1 August 2008: He knows this is a difficult subject, so he prefers to do it through text messages.
Of course he wants a threesome and group sex, and keeps asking because he thinks you will eventually give in. I think the only way to stop this is to give a v... (read in full...)
How does chlamydia happen in a monogamous relationship?
Q. Hello, I have a very weird question. I have been with my man for a few years, in what I thought was a monogamous relationship. I got a checkup a while back, and they said I had chlamydia. They also said that chlamydia can only be spread through ...
A. 1 August 2008: Well, dear poster, then you have your answer. He cheated on you. There's no question about it.... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: We have been focusing on you, because you're the poster of the question and you can give us feedback and more information. I think that perhaps we should speculate a little about your boyfriend.
Here we have a man who married to a woman who was ... (read in full...)
My wife is having an affair! She wants to work things out but stay friends with him?
Q. My wife of 12 years has recently started having an affair with a freind of hers who is 10 years her Jr. He met her while she was working she runs Karaoke. at first she denied anything was going on but after ac couple of weeks she admitted it. She ...
A. 1 August 2008: I fully agree with Bill23.... (read in full...)
Should I offer to be his first? It doesn't matter that we are just mates as I'm leaving anyway.
Q. I have a close male friend who I basically grew up with. He's very sweet and funny when you get to know him. The problem is that he is painfully shy and not very attractive. He's never asked anyone out and the girls around here won't give him a ...
A. 1 August 2008: Yes, he might feel you feel sorry for him, and also that you believe he can't get a girl by himself. Also, if you're friends only, and you're leaving, I wouldn't complicate things. What if the man doesn't get anyone else later, as he has a ... (read in full...)
My husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer, how do I deal?
Q. Hi, well my husband and I have been together since we were sixteen (dated for six years, engaged a year, and married the last three years). We have a six-month-old son and he is just the most beautiful thing in the world! I am now pregnant again and ...
A. 1 August 2008: I'm honestly sorry to break these news to you, but I understand testicular cancer is an aggresive type. Cancer involves an abnormally quick replication of cells; since testicular cells are especially good at replicating (that's how we get our ... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: I agree with Oldersister.... (read in full...)
Is she too good for me? How should I go about this situation?
Q. What do I do. I am seeing a girl casually but I have noticed another girl through work who is absoutly stunning. I really think that looks wise she is the perfect girl. I finally spoke to her last week and she seems, classy, well dressed and is ...
A. 1 August 2008: It is sad, but sometimes a woman can indeed be too much for a man. By that, let's understand that she is used to a sort of life you can't give her, and to a sort of relationships and connections you just can't have. Like she lives in a different ... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: Point taken, Troubled... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: I think it's not the best approach to discuss why the boyfriend is doing this or that. What the poster needs is a way to settle the matter.
It seems to me that she has already spoken her mind and all she got was a discussion, distance and sile... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club behind my back and lied about it for months!
Q. I am upset because my boyfriend lied to me about something I think is important. I'm not a big fan of strip clubs, and to me, it kind of seems like cheating if your boyfriend is looking at other chicks that are half naked. Anyhow, I was studying ...
A. 1 August 2008: Not for the sake of debate, I think you're right Wizard: nobody can claim moral superiority over anybody just because he or she doesn't happen to go to strip clubs.
I also agree that some people won't find a visit to a strip club objectio... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club behind my back and lied about it for months!
Q. I am upset because my boyfriend lied to me about something I think is important. I'm not a big fan of strip clubs, and to me, it kind of seems like cheating if your boyfriend is looking at other chicks that are half naked. Anyhow, I was studying ...
A. 1 August 2008: People go to clubs because they want to see people other than their partners/spouses/whatevers strip. In my opinion, that's one step ahead of watching porn, because you're watching an actual person, who, eventually, you might hire for sex. You may ... (read in full...)
Could it be because he can't betray his dead wife's memory?
Q. Other people said we looked good together on the dance floor, and we have so much in common its uncanny. we are roughly the same age and just by coincidence he lives in a small town a long way away, but I have a flat that I rent out just virtually ...
A. 1 August 2008: I don't think we can really know what crossed his mind. It may have been the memory of his wife, or not. The solid answer you got here is that he doesn't want the relationship as much as you do. I think you should just move on and forget about ... (read in full...)
How does chlamydia happen in a monogamous relationship?
Q. Hello, I have a very weird question. I have been with my man for a few years, in what I thought was a monogamous relationship. I got a checkup a while back, and they said I had chlamydia. They also said that chlamydia can only be spread through ...
A. 1 August 2008: I did a little internet search and found the obvious: chlamydia is spread from person to person. So, yes, he got it from someone else. The question here is when.
Not that I'm defending your boyfriend, but some people get infected and never re... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I look too young! How can I look older?
Q. I know most people are concerned about ageing and looking older than their years, but I'm worried that I look TOO young! I'm 23 years old, and I'm often mistaken for 16 or younger. Once or twice I have even been mistaken for 12 (of course this ...
A. 1 August 2008: I understand your problem, because it used to be mine, too. Now that I have salt-and-pepper hair, no one believes I'm my age; everybody assumes I'm much older. Fortunately, I learned not to worry about that when I looked much younger than I was.... (read in full...)
She's abusive. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend is 19 and i am 15. Recently we have been argueing lots because i went around to her house and found mens cloths and used condoms all over her place. So i asked her what was going on and she said she has had a few mates over for a ...
A. 1 August 2008: First and foremost, if you stay with her, tell her that another strike and she's out.
Also, please notice that you're making a justification for her. If she feels bad about hitting you, then let her say it. Don't put in her mouth the words yo... (read in full...)
I really need to understand what his fascination to 'let loose' all over me is all about!
Q. What is with the male fascination with porn and cumshots? I guess I don't understand the appeal of it. Maybe some of the guys can explain it. I can always tell when my b/f has been looking at porn because he will pull out during sex and let loos...
A. 1 August 2008: I very much agree with the poster who mentions her boyfriend doesn't find sense in ejaculating outside when he has a vagina to do it. And I disagree with the idea of marking the territory, whatever method is used. However, different people have ... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: I find this post very interesting and enlightening, and I think you have attracted the attention of great aunts. I will keep this one as one of my watched questions.
I can add a small grain of salt. No, poster, you're not wrong for asking w... (read in full...)
On a date, who should pick up the bill?
Q. What is the proper etiquette when going out on a date on who should pay? I always expect the man to pay for at least the first few dates. Then I may put some money towards dinner once in a while. Is this ok? ...
A. 31 July 2008: Oops, something I learned on my own, with a group of friends but might be useful here as well: if you will split the check, make sure you don't go to a place the other party can't really afford. Like when I was a college student and these friends ... (read in full...)
Do women like being told straight-up that you fancy them?
Q. Hi everybody. I really like this woman at work and have done so for a couple of years. However, I only see her about 2/3 days a week usually, though when we are around each other we get on well. I don't know if she likes me, but I just have to t...
A. 31 July 2008: Tisha-1 gave a very good answer on how to tell her in a subtle way. However, my feeling is that she sees you as a friend. She has known you for a long time and apparently she hasn't made any move herself. If she had done something you could ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?
Q. My husband can not get me pregnant do to a surgery that he had many years ago. My question for this community is this. Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?...
A. 31 July 2008: I agree with Eyeswideopen. Also, I think you should consider a doctor-controlled thing. I understand they screen semen to discard genetic diseases and the like.
I also assume you have discussed this with your husband.... (read in full...)
Can opposites attract?
Q. Hi helpful aunties, I just need some opinions here. Can opposites attract? I'm a pretty easy going guy and don't really have a "hectic" social life. Now, I've met a girl who is very much the polar opposite and who is a big party girl a...
A. 31 July 2008: Opposites can be attracted to each other. However, you both need to be very keen on maintaining the relationship, since you have different interests. You need to find the middle ground.... (read in full...)
Is my sister-in-law teasing me or what???
Q. My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years now and she has a sister which is a couple years younger than her...I am really not exactly sure what I should do on this situation so I thought I could ask for some advice.... her sister is unma...
A. 31 July 2008: You're acting too much into it. Whatever she might mean, there is a clear and right way to act here, and that way is not going along with anything that might remotely suggest you have an interest in your sister in law or you accept any of her ... (read in full...)
She says she will leave me if I don't buy her gifts. So should I continue to buy her more things?
Q. Hey I am 15 and i have a girlfriend who is 19. She has a job and lives with her parents. I am in school my girlfriend scemms to like me for all the things that i buy her. I have been buying her iPods and laptops and all that. At the mom...
A. 31 July 2008: No, you shouldn't buy her any more things. And you should break up with her. This shows how she sees the relationship: as a way to get you to pay for things.... (read in full...)
On a date, who should pick up the bill?
Q. What is the proper etiquette when going out on a date on who should pay? I always expect the man to pay for at least the first few dates. Then I may put some money towards dinner once in a while. Is this ok? ...
A. 31 July 2008: I also agree with LazyGuy. Just for the sake of reinforcing his post, here's what Emily Post has to say about who pays:
"For a first date at least, the person who asks should pay unless both parties agree in advance to share expenses. By sayin... (read in full...)
It was only our third date and he asked me what I wanted to name our kids. Then when I said I thought we would have cute babies together, he freaked out.
Q. I just started seeing this really attractive man and on the 3rd date, he asked me what I would like to name my kids. I thought this was a strange question. But I played along with it because I'm really attracted to him. Since then, he has asked me ...
A. 31 July 2008: This is a very good question. Like you said, he was moving way too quickly, and now, when he feels you can be serious about it, he asks for space.
I think he might think of you as a wife but doesn't want to commit right now. He was, however,... (read in full...)
I think my wife is having an affair. Am I just insecure?
Q. Dear Readers: I feel my wife is having an affair on me. Thsi has happened in the past feeling this way. She doesn't seem to come on to me or is not interested in sex. She never really wants to look at me when we do it. I initiate it all the time she ...
A. 31 July 2008: If this is all you have, yes, you're just insecure.... (read in full...)
Do men in relationships want to have sex with other women? How much and how often?
Q. How much do guys in a relationship want to have sex with other females? I'm curious. I don't ever get the urge to have sex with some other guy. I wonder if it's the same for men? Today I was telling my boyfriend how weird it'd be for me if he was...
A. 30 July 2008: I may be wrong, of course, but I think I see something here.
You came up with those difficult comments women make. Those questions you don't really know how to answer, because, whatever you do, you will end up having trouble. Something like "Do... (read in full...)
It hurts when I masturbate for more than two minutes. Is this normal?
Q. how long do u masterbate for i do it for like 2 mins then it strts hurtn so cnt do it anymore is thisc normal ??...
A. 30 July 2008: If any part of your body hurts, you're hurting yourself. That is an indication of your activity not being normal. Take it easy.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just announced he is planning to emigrate to Australia. Do I try to carry on our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend has just announced to me, two months in to our relationship that he is planning to emigrate to Australia as soon as his visa (which he had already applied for) comes through. I feel very hurt but don't know where I stand. We have ...
A. 30 July 2008: Moving to Australia is very important for this man. He would like it if you went with him. He would equally go there if you didn't. So, he's playing his own hand of cards. What about yours?
Is it convenient for you to move to Australi... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my partner's daughter?
Q. I find it difficult to get on with my partner's daughter - her mom died when she was little and although she's twenty and quite manilupative, she has him wrapped around her little finger. She is at college but refuses to work to help support ...
A. 30 July 2008: I'm not there to see what is going on, so I will speculate a little.
It seems to me that she was raised in a way you disapprove. Maybe it would be hard for me not to find her a little too spoiled. But I want you to take notice that maybe sh... (read in full...)
How much time is time? How long should I wait?
Q. Hi aunts (and uncles) I just need to get opinions on what to do next - I am with my guy over 2 years and we split up nearly 4 weeks ago over something silly and stupid (even tho it was mostly my fault/idea to break up in the first place). Bu...
A. 30 July 2008: It seems like you're still in love and wished he would come back if you met with him. That is natural. However, stick to the hard facts: if he really wanted to be with you, he would be calling you and meeting with you by now. I think he isn't ... (read in full...)
I am very concerned about the size and shape of my breasts, I am 15, will my breasts grow more, and will the shape change?
Q. this is quite a strange question but im concerned about my breasts. im 15. There small but they dont have the 'breast' look. There just like a triangle off my chest. They dont have the 'drop'. not a 'U' shape. more like a V but sideways. Will they ...
A. 30 July 2008: Women may answer this question better, but I can tell you breasts do change in terms of size and shape. What shape or size, I don't think anyone can tell. Many breasts have shapes that are not "u" and they are normal. Your breasts sound like ... (read in full...)
My husband's male friend is at our home, almost every other weekend, our sexual acts have changed, could my husband be cheating on me with his male friend?
Q. My husband has a best friend that he hangs out with all of the time. He has recently gotten to the point where he goes outside to talk with him. I came home one day on my lunch break and when his friend called he was speaking in codes, and finally ...
A. 30 July 2008: I tend to agree with Tisha-1. She has made very good points. I want to add a grain of salt. Doubt is a very powerful force. I'm afraid that it's impossible to just tell you to take it easy and not suspect anything. I think that you must know ... (read in full...)
What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake?
Q. What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake? I have been with my wife for 7 years (married 6) and for the last year or two I have been insanely unhappy. I'm in no way perfect, so I won'...
A. 30 July 2008: I would recommend that you think hard whether you and your wife will be able to stay married and manage not to create an unbreathable atmosphere for your children. It is very true that divorce creates problems for children, but sometimes staying ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the woman to pay for everything in a relationship?
Q. okay my boyfriend and i have been together for about three months and i just want to know if its normal for the woman to pay for almost everything. WAIT...i know what ur gonna say "hes a feeloader" "hes not worth it" But i love him with all of my ...
A. 29 July 2008: It's not normal for the woman to pay for almost everything. I can't answer for everyone else, but in my opinion expenses should be shared. Where I live, men used to pay for everything and women used to take for granted that they would never even ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my relationship with my married boyfriend?
Q. iam in love with a married turkis man he is great to me and loves me he knows that i dont ave any money and knows that iam a single parent ..and he loves me for who i am hes been the best boyfriend ever ,,he loves me and my daughter to bits ,,iam ...
A. 29 July 2008: We all know that getting involved with a married person is not the right thing to do. We all also know that such a thing happens all the time, and there are many reasons for that. The parties involved are all human beings with failures and ... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good hand job? I don't want to give oral.
Q. How do you give a fantastic mind blowing hand job? Or is it even possible? It use to take me like 2 minutes to get my bf finish now it takes upwards of 15 minutes...if it even happens. No oral involved in this....and there won't be so don't suggest ...
A. 29 July 2008: All right. I wasn't posting anything for you anyways. I'm responding to others who have thought they had to say things about me too. And, just as you don't care about me, well, I don't care about you either. Can you make this the end of it?... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good hand job? I don't want to give oral.
Q. How do you give a fantastic mind blowing hand job? Or is it even possible? It use to take me like 2 minutes to get my bf finish now it takes upwards of 15 minutes...if it even happens. No oral involved in this....and there won't be so don't suggest ...
A. 28 July 2008: That's exactly what I believe, porkchop. Advice from strangers about something you can ask your partner about? Have you ever tried communicating your sexual preferences with your sexual partner? And you're not exactly good at evading questions.... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good hand job? I don't want to give oral.
Q. How do you give a fantastic mind blowing hand job? Or is it even possible? It use to take me like 2 minutes to get my bf finish now it takes upwards of 15 minutes...if it even happens. No oral involved in this....and there won't be so don't suggest ...
A. 28 July 2008: Well, don't ask for opinions from anyone with internet access and knowledge of English if you don't want to hear and smell the farts coming out from assholes. By the way, imagine what life would be like if you didn't have an asshole.
I will spa... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good hand job? I don't want to give oral.
Q. How do you give a fantastic mind blowing hand job? Or is it even possible? It use to take me like 2 minutes to get my bf finish now it takes upwards of 15 minutes...if it even happens. No oral involved in this....and there won't be so don't suggest ...
A. 28 July 2008: Well, porkchop, you have a point, and then none. From this day on, when I have nothing to say about something, or think that this is not the place to say it, I will keep my mouth shut.
On the other hand, I have a question for you: if someone ... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good hand job? I don't want to give oral.
Q. How do you give a fantastic mind blowing hand job? Or is it even possible? It use to take me like 2 minutes to get my bf finish now it takes upwards of 15 minutes...if it even happens. No oral involved in this....and there won't be so don't suggest ...
A. 28 July 2008: I'm afraid that explanations in this regard should not be given here.... (read in full...)
How much time is time? How long should I wait?
Q. Hi aunts (and uncles) I just need to get opinions on what to do next - I am with my guy over 2 years and we split up nearly 4 weeks ago over something silly and stupid (even tho it was mostly my fault/idea to break up in the first place). Bu...
A. 7 April 2008: Dear poster, who hasn't been where you are now? I think I can relate to the hell you're living in.
I believe that in these sort of situations, what you need the most is what I would call solid ground. You need to know the facts, to interpre... (read in full...)
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