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writes:My husband stoped showing me love and affection once he realized that I was't going to put his name on a Will that I had before we got married. I have some special people in my life that were there for me when times were tough and I will always be so grateful.We have been married for 3 yrs the first 1yr and half was great, until I got pregnant. One weekend he went to visit his family and came back with a different attitude saying that I would have to put his name on my things that I acquired before he came in my life. I did not feed into this until this day, I haven't changed anything.I just can't take it anymore, he acts like he has a chip on his back with me all the time about it. Everytime I tell him how I feel that I am not getting attention from him, he throws my Will up in my face.I think he is not being understanding and he thought he would change my mind after we got married. Also, I had him to sign a prenupt. I am glad that I did.Do you think this guy is trying to play me or what? Is this unheard of or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Hi,
I can understand your frustration. But I can also understand your husband's. After all he is the man you have taken vows with for better or worse for richer or poorer etc, yet you seem to place him down the list of priorities of those who matter most in your life.
Wills always change to reflect the changes in people's lives. You got married and had a child, yet you still chose not to include your husband in your will.
I don't think it is so much the money it is the rejection he is obsessed with. Moroever, i believe his lack of affection for you is a direct result of what he sees in his mind as a lack of affection from you.
Sorry to say mate, but I cant really blame him, I find your refusal to include him baffling to say the least, if you don't think he is worthy of sharing your worldly assests I wonder why you married him in the first place.
But that's just my belief, I simply believe that when you are married whats yours is mine etc.
Then again you got him to sign a prenup, so to me the trust was never there in the first place.
Good luck anyway, but I feel your marriage is in danger here and you have not really posed this as a question have you, its more of a statement hoping for people to see your point of view. Some are agreeing, others like me will give the other side to the story.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 I think he might be feeling like he's less important to you than other people. However, I don't like his insistence on your adding him to your will. It seems he wants to make sure he will have a piece of your money if you should die. Also, his insistence in your putting his name on things you bought before marriage sounds like he wants to make sure he owns something as of this moment.
I don't know the person or the circumstances and I could be wrong, but I believe that money does play a very important role in your relationship. I can't say that he doesn't love you or he is only interested in the money, but it is clear money is very important for your guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): To be honest, I have never heard of anything like this before....Your husband sounds like a major inmature doo doo head. If you explained to your husband befor you got married, that you already had a will in place, and had no intentions of changing it, and he is still acting like a prepubessent child, then I think it is about time you talked to you lawyer about the prenup, and get out of this situation befor you and your child are worse to ware. Please understand that I am a total advocate for the union of marriage...but not if the spouce is being emotionlly abbusive....like your husband is being. And I know that God fills the same way.... Give your husband one last chance by offering some professional help, if he opts to not do it...then I think you should opt to talk to your lawer. Best of Luck Sweetie Peetie!
~~The GabberJack
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