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writes:Hi dear, I am in trouble and if anyone knows about this can you please reply to me back as soon as you can. My problem is that someone told me few days ago that if we marry our cousin (kids of two sisters) there is a huge possibility that we will get an abnormal babies.I fell in love with my cousin few years ago, and now we want to marry, but this thing is bothering me so much. I cannot have any abnormal baby, and i can not live with the fact that i can never have any child in my life. Nobody wants that, but the thing is, we are so much in love and there is no way to fix this medically.I'm sure that there must be some way to fix this problem medically or any otherways.Can someone please give me some more information about this problme?Cheer.
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reader, lalasoo +, writes (26 August 2008):
seriously there r ppl that r not related but still have abnormal babies
if u love him go for it and good luck
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 It's NOT a high risk that there will be anything wrong with a baby born to first cousins.
With couples who aren't related, the risk of a baby having an abnormality of some sort is about 2% - i.e. 2 out of every hundred babies born. For first cousins, the risk is around 4% - i.e. 4 out of every hundred babies born to first cousins. It's more of a risk, certainly, but not an enormous risk.
The risk increases if several generations of the same family have all married between cousins. Someoutside genes are needed from time to time, otherwise the chance of babies having abnormalities rises considerably.
So assuming your family haven't made a regular habit of cousins marrying cousins in the past, it's NOT A HUGE RISK. Don't let anyone tell you that it is. They're wrong.
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reader, Soleil Soma  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 LIES!! You have been lied to! The risk is not huge. Does it increase? Slightly. By 2%, roughly.
Chances are, it will not happen. Because over time it has happened less and less. So most blow it WAY out of proportion. I've done my study on Genetics, I know this.
www.cousincouples.com
Check it out. It has a lot of information and stuff.
Chances are that if lets say, asthma, runs in the family... Chances are the kids will get asthma - but even then it's not 100%. NOTHING is 100%.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): have you considerd adoption??, its very possible to have a child with down syndrome or some other disorder if you have a child with a relative,
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 You can check this, too:
http://www.dnadirect.com/
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (19 August 2008):
I'm afraid this is not what you want to hear, but, yes, having children with a first cousin does increase the risk of the children inheriting deleterious characteristics. That is the hard fact, just as your love for your cousin is another fact.
The logic for this is as follows: "Many genetic diseases are caused by recessive genes. To get the disease, you have to get the bad gene from both parents. The greater the genetic similarity between your parents, the greater your chance of getting two copies of the bad gene."
If you want some help, however, perhaps you can have a genetic screening of yourselves. That should help you determine the likelihood of having children with genetic diseases.
I found a very polemic article in this regard. You can read it here:
http://www.slate.com/id/2064227/
Hope this helps.
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reader, chloe71z +, writes (19 August 2008):
 I have a friend and she and her husband are first cousins and they have three beutiful children 1 girl and two boys. oh and she is preg with there 4th child a boy also. All of her children are normal. I do agree with the first responce thow, all of her children have allergies. The girl has asthma and takes allergy meds for it other than being spoiled she is normal. the second child is normal and spoiled, the third child is allergic to soy and milk and had to have a special formula as a baby and has allergies.
All spoiled but all beutiful children ohh and they are happly married. I say go for it.
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reader, leyan  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Hi,
Not want to scare you here, but yes, there is a higher risk of a child beeing born with abnormalities.
I married my first cousin (our moms are sisters), it was an arranged marriage, we have two beautiful children, my youngest is a beautiful, sweet girl, she started to have seizures at the age of 7months, now she is nearly 6yrs old, has a mental ability of a one year old!!, life has been tough as it's always the case with a special needs child, now her dad and I are divorced.
There is no history of Epilepsy in the family, or that what we thought, when digging deep, turned out there are a few cases on both sides, but nothing major as with our daughter, people prefer not to talk about these things so we did not know about it at first.
Saying this, there are kids born with some sort of dissability, but their parents were not cousins , nor related in any way.
You two are in love, that is the most important thing you should think about now, don't stress about what will happen?, do a medical check up, medical history and hopefully nothing will go wrong, just have faith.
All the best.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 August 2008):
 You should consult a doctor or other qualified professional, in my opinion. It has long been considered that the genetic similarities between close cousins might result in abnormalities, sometimes serious, in the offspring. The possibility is supposedly due to a number of genetic factors (matches) and are widely suggested, but I'm not a medical doctor and you are highly advised to seek professionally advised information.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): Keep your head up Dear One...there is little chance of your children to have abnormal lifes. The only thing that they are in a higher brackent of having, is allergys, and things like that....Those kind of things are totaly fixable. If you love your cousin, then go with the flow, who cares what others say. You are the one who has to live with you life...None other. P.S. No matter if your child had major problems, you would love them the same...perhaps more. Best of luck Sweet Pea!!
~~The GabberJack
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): Yes I COULD happen but it wont DEFFENTLY happen!!
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