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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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He dates younger girls--is that okay?
Q. Is it bad for a 24/25 yr old male to be dating an 18 yr old female? i was on bebo and saw a comment on a guy i likes page and it said "ahaha you only date girls who were born in the 1990's"? so is it bad? does it make the "24" yr old seem desperate ...
A. 11 August 2008: I don't see why ths would be wrong, and I don't see how it could make him a desperate person, either.
As to your liking this man, I guess your chances aren't that good. He has a girlfriend. He might want to stay with her.
Take care.... (read in full...)
He shows up everywhere--is he a stalker or is it fated?
Q. Hello guys, just a quick question. For about three months i have been bumping into this man. They don't appear to be usual meetings either. First he nearly knocked me down, which obviously set me off noticing him. It was my fault of course, cos i ...
A. 11 August 2008: I don't believe much in coincidences, though sometimes things do happen. Once, I was walking in Mexico City (not where I live) and happened to look at this bus. Someone waved his hand at me, and there he was, a friend from college. None of us ... (read in full...)
She puts on porn when I'm around--what is she saying?
Q. when i hangout with this girl she always puts on porn or naked pics. and i just laugh about it. is she trying to tell me something?...
A. 11 August 2008: Maybe, but I think we would need more information than just this. Maybe she always puts porn and naked pics, and you don't know about the rest of the time because you're not there.
However, I don't think most girls would do this to get your att... (read in full...)
How do I know what he wants?
Q. I met this chap 7 years ago at Uni. He helped me with my work and asked me out repeatedly which I refused but made clear I liked him as a friend and kept my space and dedication to my studies. We drifted apart but always kept in touch via ...
A. 11 August 2008: It's hard to say whether he's just friendly or wants more. Did he mention having anybody, any relationships? Did he ask you whether you were seeing someone?
If you want to know for sure, you will have to take your chances.... (read in full...)
How soon should I call her?
Q. I met this girl at a meeting for a reality tv show for models. One of the models came over to me and sat next to me and we really hit it off. she kept grabbing my hand and laughing at all my jokes. After she posed for some pictures I asked her if ...
A. 11 August 2008: If you call her the next day or two, she will think you're desperate. Like a loser who is holding on, clinging on to this one woman who paid attention to him. That is part of the relationship as well: she has to know you could opt for leaving her ... (read in full...)
How soon should I call her?
Q. I met this girl at a meeting for a reality tv show for models. One of the models came over to me and sat next to me and we really hit it off. she kept grabbing my hand and laughing at all my jokes. After she posed for some pictures I asked her if ...
A. 11 August 2008: If you really want a relationship with this girl, wait one week. It might seem too long, but it's not. If she's seriously interested, she won't care to wait that long. If she can't wait that long, well, you won't waste your time.... (read in full...)
How should I tell my mom I'm bi?
Q. What do if my mom finds out im bisexual, she absolutely hates people who arent straight and we already have a rocky relationship? shes been suspicious of late, so should i just tell her and hope for the best? She had a hard time accepting that i'm...
A. 11 August 2008: Why tell her?... (read in full...)
Will I not enjoy it because they're big?!
Q. Hiya everyone I know this is a really random question but i would like some advice please. I have pretty big breast (34ff), and i have heard someone that the bigger they are the less feeling you will have due to nerves or something. I wa...
A. 10 August 2008: I know for a fact that's not true: big breasts are as sensitive as smaller ones. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
Is it worth finishing a degree?!
Q. Not a relationship question sorry but a life decision question. Is it worth completing a degree? Does having one actually change people's lives that much? Just in a quandry about whether to finish it. Thanks...
A. 10 August 2008: I think you should finish your degree.
I don't know what happens in the UK. Where I live, in Latin America, a degree might make a lot of difference, or none. However, the degree does give you options.
I personally know a man who sent all his... (read in full...)
When a woman 'blanks' a guy - how should he react to this?
Q. Hi. A man and a woman start to engage in an office flirtation after having worked occasionally with each other for 4 years. After 6 months of manoeuvring the woman blatantly comes on to the man and then the man asks the woman out via e-mail the ...
A. 10 August 2008: Those five minutes are a bad idea. You can say you just want to say goodbye, but she will see it as "here he comes again". I don't think she will give you the five minutes. Instead, she will insist that she has already made it clear she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it true that larger girls are better in bed that skinny girls?
Q. A friend of mine (male) told me tonight that larger ladies are really good in bed, i've always been big and it's kinda made me feel good, haha.. His girlfriend is a larger girl although she is absolutly beautiful, he says they have the best sex life...
A. 9 August 2008: Woman A might be better in bed than Woman B, but I'm sure her weight wouldn't be the reason. It's how she goes about it what matters.... (read in full...)
When a woman 'blanks' a guy - how should he react to this?
Q. Hi. A man and a woman start to engage in an office flirtation after having worked occasionally with each other for 4 years. After 6 months of manoeuvring the woman blatantly comes on to the man and then the man asks the woman out via e-mail the ...
A. 9 August 2008: Ah, you don't owe her an apology. You don't have to apologize for liking a woman. That said, You WOULD CERTAINLY owe her way more than an apology if you kept going at her now that you know full well she doesn't want it.
Ah, another suggesti... (read in full...)
When a woman 'blanks' a guy - how should he react to this?
Q. Hi. A man and a woman start to engage in an office flirtation after having worked occasionally with each other for 4 years. After 6 months of manoeuvring the woman blatantly comes on to the man and then the man asks the woman out via e-mail the ...
A. 9 August 2008: You knew she was flirting with you. Since she is married, you assumed she wouldn't flirt with you without really meaning to have something. That was a wrong assumption. As of today, what you have on your table is that, whatever she had in her ... (read in full...)
He knows I don't want a friend with benefits, and if he doesn't want a relationship, why all the mixed signals?
Q. About two months ago, I made out with a friend of mine, whom I have known for more than 20 years, while we were abroad on holiday together. Before this happened, I had never thought of him as more than a friend. When we talked about it, he told me ...
A. 9 August 2008: If you are sure that he doesn't want a relationship, then there's no way you can have one. Even if you could (and, I insist, you can't), what you would end up with would be his having you where he wanted you.
He may be giving you all the mixed si... (read in full...)
Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage?
Q. Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage? My husband and I are very intimate even though he has to have his short outside affairs for years. He likes to play his little games of conq...
A. 9 August 2008: It's your life, and we can but respect your decision.... (read in full...)
Can he really want me even though I'm fat?
Q. Hi Im 21 and iv got a dilema! Im thinking of loosing my virginity to a person i trust 100% although i trust him i cant help thinking about how turned off he will be when he see's the fat. Yes im a big girl and its not as if he doesnt know but he ...
A. 9 August 2008: I know a girl who's always been very big and has never had trouble getting someone. That's because of her personality, and, also, for another factor: she lets you see her being big is part of her self, lets you know that won't change, and makes it ... (read in full...)
My husband says his money is his and doesn't give me and the children any. Should I give up on this marriage?
Q. I have a question. My husband works 10 hours a day 6 days a work , he never spends time with me and my children. And to top it off I am home this summer with the kids and no money to go anywere. HE says that the money he makes is his and I cant have ...
A. 8 August 2008: I think we're in the presence of a very traditional man. What the poster describes is the awful way marriages used to be in Latin America. The woman was supposed to stay at home and look after the kids, like a prisoner, and the man was supposed to ... (read in full...)
I found a very suspicious email... is my wife cheating? She says it's just a joke.
Q. Hello - I am a married male 41 yrs of age - married 15 yrs now - and recently caught this reply email from my wife's male friend in her hot mail account. I found it by accident one day cleaning out old files on our laptop. Didn't even know she had ...
A. 8 August 2008: Sometimes you don't know how to interpret a fact you have before your eyes. Unfortunately for you, this is one situation in which you could believe you have enough to reach a conclusion, and another person might think otherwise. "Doubt is your ... (read in full...)
Whats the best position to get pregnant?
Q. what's the best positions to get pregnant?...
A. 8 August 2008: You can get pregnant in all positions, I assume. I agree with Daletom in saying that timing is more important than position.
However, somewhere, some (a long) time ago I read that the "missionary" position is the one that makes concepti... (read in full...)
What should I do about my sister watching lesbian porn?!
Q. Many times i have caught my sister watching porn and kind of grinding to a stack of pillows (the way a man would to a woman). anyway, it was lesbian porn and shes 12 years old. i didnt tell her i knew in case of embarrassment. but i dont know if its ...
A. 8 August 2008: The Uncle is so right. I fully agree with him.... (read in full...)
My girlfriends like a lot of sex but I am getting bored, what can I do?
Q. hi... uhm... i have a problem. I have a girlfriend that... realy likes sex, we do it about every other day. And it gets pretty boring... i mean, in, out, in, out, cum. And afterwards i feel like an idiot that only does what my brain says. Ive tried ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well, I guess that doing what your brain says is the exact opposite of being an idiot :-). But I think I understand what you mean: sex has become a routine. The first part would be to talk to her and tell her you're not enjoying it this way, and ... (read in full...)
I'm so scared that I don't look right "down there".
Q. So I'm in a relationship right now and it's likely that I'm going to engage in intercourse in the near future. My problem is that I'm panicking about my appearance down there... I mean, what do guys expect? I'm scared that I'll have done something ...
A. 8 August 2008: It's natural to be worried and think that we might not be attractive, but don't worry. I'm sure he will like you.
And then, not knowing what to expect is a great part of the fun. If we always knew what we will find, that would be boring.... (read in full...)
Can he really fancy me if I am 10 years older?
Q. I am 33 and have recently become very good friends with a 23 yr old guy who calls and texts me all the time and I am attracted to him but he is really good looking and cannnot imagine that he would fancy me but am getting mixed messages.how do I ...
A. 8 August 2008: That too, Lexilou.... (read in full...)
Can he really fancy me if I am 10 years older?
Q. I am 33 and have recently become very good friends with a 23 yr old guy who calls and texts me all the time and I am attracted to him but he is really good looking and cannnot imagine that he would fancy me but am getting mixed messages.how do I ...
A. 8 August 2008: All women are delicious, but they are best when in their thirties and forties. I can very well understand that he will find you very much attractive, and not only physically. He must be feeling overwhelmed by the attraction he feels. Which makes ... (read in full...)
I still snoop into his e-mail even though I'm no longer with him
Q. I was seeing this guy and he gave me his password to his email to help him set up an account. However I have never forgotten the password. He and I are no longer together and i find myself occassional snooping through his email. How do I get past ...
A. 7 August 2008: Make the decision to really move on. That's how.... (read in full...)
My GF has been talking a lot recently with her ex who is married (they had an affair before we met.) Your opinions on the matter?
Q. Alright, I've been cheated on before (literally caught her in the "act of"). So, when you have a girl tell you, "You mean the world to me," it can sometimes take a little while before you actually believe them. In saying that, I'd like to get some ...
A. 7 August 2008: I'm afraid that, if we tell you to leave her, you will say you won't, and if we tell you not to leave her, you will say you will. The decision is always yours; we can only give opinions, on the basis of the information you give, the way you give ... (read in full...)
My GF has been talking a lot recently with her ex who is married (they had an affair before we met.) Your opinions on the matter?
Q. Alright, I've been cheated on before (literally caught her in the "act of"). So, when you have a girl tell you, "You mean the world to me," it can sometimes take a little while before you actually believe them. In saying that, I'd like to get some ...
A. 7 August 2008: About this situation, I think that
1. The fact that she got involved with this married man proves nothing about her morals. She must have thought he was trapped in an unhappy marriage and one bright day he would leave her and they would be very ... (read in full...)
Should I judge men by another set of values and not by their standing in life? Or should I continue to explore and see what happens??
Q. Last year, after a 2 year failed relationship with a man 10 years younger than myself i came to london (from Germany) to do an MA in painting. The end of the relationship had thrown me into a bit of a depression and i lost a lot of my self-esteem. ...
A. 7 August 2008: The question you asked yourself back in Germany, what you should do with the rest of your life, and the question you ask yourself now, whether you should not continue looking for excuses, suggest that you have a personal problem. I don't think ... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 5 August 2008: Eyes, you're very sharp and funny :-). I didn't get the last three paragraphs, however. Can you repeat those?... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 4 August 2008: "Quidquid latinum dictum est, altum viditur", which, I understand, means "if you say something in Latin, it sounds important".
No, I can't dance the Sirtaki, Big Sis. Care to teach me how?
Tell me the steps and I might just enjoy life as mu... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 4 August 2008: Well, we have something in common, Dear Big Sis.... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 4 August 2008: Sorry, big sis, I can't speak Greek :-(.
All I can say is "Sirtaki", or "Zorba".... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 4 August 2008: Well, actually, I have a good story about sign language, Eyes :-). A group of Americans is documenting the birth of a language, the Nicaraguan sign language. This is the first time in history that scientists can do that. I was there :-), helping ... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 4 August 2008: Thanks for the interest anyways, Diovan Lestat. We might send you a few things in the future :-).... (read in full...)
Are there any Agony Aunts who speak French and wish to practice Spanish?
Q. This is not a relationship question. I was just wondering if there's an agony aunt who speaks French as a native speaker and wishes to practice Spanish. If there is anyone, would that person be willing to receive messages off and on, so that we ...
A. 4 August 2008: I don't know a lot of French. I finished the course, but frankly I need to practice the language a lot. Maybe the three of us can help one another out. I will send you two a private e-mail. Thanks a bunch for answering!... (read in full...)
Nice guys always finish last?
Q. Hi all, This question has been tearing me apart time and time again. Please bear with me, as this will be a long post. Is it true that, no women will ever want to be with a nice guy? I don't consider myself 100% nice, I am not overly r...
A. 4 August 2008: Your problem is a common one. Let's give the floor to the ladies:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml
I recommend you read all this. Also, you can check what Frank B. Kermit (another agony aunt) can offer. DISCLAIM... (read in full...)
My wife is infertile so I decided to divorce, as children are important to me. Your comments?
Q. I am 31 yrs old and married some six years back. We did not have a child due to the infertility problem from my wife side. I am an assistant professor. I am the only kid for my family. I want to have kids.Therefore I decided to divorce. I need your ...
A. 4 August 2008: Oh, this one will be a polemic post. You're a man who is asking for advice on leaving his wife because he wants children. Many people in our Western world won't fully understand what this means for you.
Your wife will feel devastated to know tha... (read in full...)
My main issue is that I'm rude and brutally honest... But I want to work someone else into my life. Any advice?
Q. Lets see where to begin here. This is more like a feeler question. Im really looking for a good shot of advice here on this issue. I havent posted since last winterish, and still havent really been dating much at all. Havent really cared to....
A. 4 August 2008: Well, I'm sure this is not what you want to hear, but I appreciate brutally honest people, if not rude ones. I certainly prefer the naked if painful truth over a sweetened, oblique speech. For example, if you want me to go to hell, SAY IT, instead ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 4 August 2008: Dear poster, I hope that our collective advice will do better than lifting your spirits, by helping you decide the best course of action for yourself, by yourself. THAT will lift your spirits, believe me.... (read in full...)
Is he entitled to know who I was talking to?
Q. If a guy you are dating calls you when you are already on the other line and you ask him if you can call him right back, is it okay for him to ask you who you are talking to that is more important than him?...
A. 4 August 2008: I don't think anyone would blame you for sparing yourself the heartache.
Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
Why boys are interested in breasts so much
Q. People wonder why boys are so facinated with girls' breasts. One reason is the peek-a-boo or hide and seek faxctor. In our culture, breasts are almost always covered, even with the skimpiest bathing suit. This doesn't prevent girls from teasing ...
A. 4 August 2008: Unable as I am to engage in these high philosophical matters, I will only say that I just want a pair :-).... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 3 August 2008: Just a note: it isn't clear whether he cheated on you or not. If he did, this seems like a different problem, but, anyways, it seems like you'd better get out of this relationship right now.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 3 August 2008: While I can't commmend you on your plans to cheat on him, I can't commend him either on the way he has handled it. He just doesn't trust you anymore. Instead of doing the right thing, that is, ending the relationship, he wants to keep you under ... (read in full...)
Is he entitled to know who I was talking to?
Q. If a guy you are dating calls you when you are already on the other line and you ask him if you can call him right back, is it okay for him to ask you who you are talking to that is more important than him?...
A. 3 August 2008: The problem here is not whether he has a right to know who you're talking to at the moment he called. Clearly, he doesn't have to know. The problem really is the rest of the things you mentioned. He wants your immediate attention and details ... (read in full...)
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