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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Forming a relationship with a church-going lady?
Q. Susan(32) is a woman I met last year (September 2007) and we went out for a couple of weeks in Early to mid June. The dating started when a mutual friend suggested I ask Susan out as Susan had told her she found me attractive. We dated a coup...
A. 7 November 2008: Suppose this thing meant she wants you to convert to her religion, or else you won't date. Will you convert? I would not. You see, converting means that you believe in what that religion holds as true. "All right, I'll repeat your prayers if I ... (read in full...)
Pleeeeease say he isn't gay!!!
Q. dear people, I need help - me and by boyfriend have been going out for 5 years, I never used to wonder if he was gay until recently, I mean he has a friend who acts so strange and seeing them both together makes me wonder what kind of relationship ...
A. 6 November 2008: I guess you're in the same situation you were before. We still can't tell for sure.... (read in full...)
Forming a relationship with a church-going lady?
Q. Susan(32) is a woman I met last year (September 2007) and we went out for a couple of weeks in Early to mid June. The dating started when a mutual friend suggested I ask Susan out as Susan had told her she found me attractive. We dated a coup...
A. 5 November 2008: You're right: if she were interested, she would have made an effort to be with you on that day. Or, at least, she would have suggested something.
So, she's not interested. Sorry. The good aspect of this is, now that you know it, you can act ... (read in full...)
Do men say the opposite of what they think?
Q. I met this guy on the last day of a week trip to Hawaii. He knew I was leaving soon but wanted to get me out for lunch. We did so and had a great time. Really good connection. Over the course of the "date", he suggested numerous times that we should ...
A. 20 October 2008: I think that maybe he is busy with work and hasn't had the time to reply.... (read in full...)
Why do men lie about anything and everything they can?
Q. Why do men (husbands) mainly lie about any and everthing they can? They feel they have no need to tell their wife anything if he is feeling blue he just rather sits there to hiself than talk to me about it. I believe that's why our marriage is ...
A. 20 October 2008: If the problem is that he's feeling blue, and he chose not to say why, how the hell is he "lying"? Can it be that he's just concerned over something, but doesn't think his wife should be worried as well? Maybe he thinks you don't need to suffer ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she's avoiding the issue of my illness..is this too hard for her to bear?
Q. Hello, I have a really good female friend and I am female as well. We have been fighting an attraction between us for over 2 years now. There is no doubt she loves me very much and at the very least I would be her very best friend ever. Anyway ...
A. 20 October 2008: "the same", of course, means "the same strength this person has".... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she's avoiding the issue of my illness..is this too hard for her to bear?
Q. Hello, I have a really good female friend and I am female as well. We have been fighting an attraction between us for over 2 years now. There is no doubt she loves me very much and at the very least I would be her very best friend ever. Anyway ...
A. 20 October 2008: I think I need to qualify my answer.
I don't need to know what your disease is or could be, because that is your private life. I will assume it's something serious.
If someone avoided you because you got the flu, that person should not be ca... (read in full...)
What are the signs of someone who is bi-polar?
Q. What are the signs of someone who is bi-polar? I swear sometimes I think my b/f has at least a mild version of the disease. We go along for weeks getting along just fine, everything is mellow and sweet between us and then all of a sudden, he just ...
A. 20 October 2008: Fade has the right information. However, in my humble opinion, a doctor should tell you whether he's bipolar or not. It's not an easy diagnosis.
If your boyfriend is bipolar, then his mood swings are not his fault. If, on the other hand, he... (read in full...)
Obsessed with big boobs!
Q. how do i stop my obsession with big boobs i have been married for 7 years now my wife has got really big boobs 38jj bot i still have a really bad obsession with big boobs i cant stop thinking about them. i love my wife loads and fearer that my o...
A. 20 October 2008: I'm wondering whether this is a real post.
If it is, well, this is what I can say.
I'm not sure if anyone can really "get over" the things that attract you. And I don't see the point in doing that.
On the other hand, your wife is well ... (read in full...)
What do older men see in younger women?
Q. What do older men see in younger women? Why would a man want to pursue a relationship with a younger woman? I would genuinely like insight from those with experience in the matter. I'm a young female interested in a man 15 years older than me, w...
A. 20 October 2008: Sirena Blusera, you may also be attracted to older men because the ones you came across looked great.... (read in full...)
What do older men see in younger women?
Q. What do older men see in younger women? Why would a man want to pursue a relationship with a younger woman? I would genuinely like insight from those with experience in the matter. I'm a young female interested in a man 15 years older than me, w...
A. 20 October 2008: I wouldn't call him "older", sorry.... (read in full...)
What do older men see in younger women?
Q. What do older men see in younger women? Why would a man want to pursue a relationship with a younger woman? I would genuinely like insight from those with experience in the matter. I'm a young female interested in a man 15 years older than me, w...
A. 20 October 2008: I will begin by saying that we can't hold that all "older" men like "younger" women for the same reasons. And I wonder how we would define "older" and "younger". A 22-year old guy who is after a 16 year old is certainly older than her, but I ... (read in full...)
Girls... -what are your views on male virginity?
Q. A question for females only, what are your views on male virginity?...
A. 18 October 2008: I'm not a lady, but I'm happy I lost it.... (read in full...)
Forming a relationship with a church-going lady?
Q. Susan(32) is a woman I met last year (September 2007) and we went out for a couple of weeks in Early to mid June. The dating started when a mutual friend suggested I ask Susan out as Susan had told her she found me attractive. We dated a coup...
A. 18 October 2008: Good question. I don't think religion is the real problem here. My guess is that she didn't feel the relationship was good enough in the beginning, and now she would like to have one BUT if you agree to (put whatever you want here). Her church is ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my deformed penis?
Q. I have a problem with my penis,it is deformed.The left side of the head of my penis is shorter than the right side.This is because the frenulum is on the left side of the head of my penis and I masturbate regularly ever since I was 14 now a few ...
A. 18 October 2008: I do know that medical care can take forever. But it will come. It's a matter of patience, I guess.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to contact my ex’s friend to support her?
Q. My gf and I broke up. She broached the oft-discussed thorny aside of our relationship following a weekend of discussions with her sister and so I agreed that this was a problem that we hadn’t resolved and as painful as it was to accept that we ...
A. 18 October 2008: You know what, Anon? Now that you say all this, I have a second opinion. I still think it wasn't right to contact the friend, homosexual or not. I still believe you have to handle the thing. But now I also believe that there's too much drama ... (read in full...)
I want to make my wife listen to me, without her knowing that it is me...
Q. my wife wants to leave me because i have been looking at sites with women who have big butts. I would like to send her messages without her knowing it is me. I want to save my marriage and i know i can do it, if i can send her messages without her ...
A. 17 October 2008: I'm sorry because this is not what you are asking for, but I think your idea will not work. If she has problems with you, the right way to deal with them is discuss them openly. I'm afraid this won't work.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was a prostitute... and it turns me on. Help?
Q. Hi, Well, where do I start. My girlfriend is Thai and I met her in Thailand in a bar where she was working selling sex. 1 year later we are still together and she is about to come back to Australia were we will likely be together forever...
A. 17 October 2008: I suppose that the fact that she was a prostitute adds a lot to her appeal. You feel that you will have wild sex with her, and that you will always find a way to push the boundaries. I'm afraid you will lose her if she gets to feel that you just ... (read in full...)
Since my sex drive is low for the past months due to stress/depression, can that affect my relationship?
Q. Ok, my bf and i have been together for over a year...I care about him a lot and love him. In the beginning we couldnt keep our hands off of eachother and I always wanted him alone. Now, since ive moved and started college its been different. I am u...
A. 17 October 2008: Depression affects everything because you lose the inner drive to do things, even the ones you used to enjoy very much.
I suggest that you talk to you boyfriend and tell him how you are feeling very clearly. Also, make sure he understa... (read in full...)
What do I do about my deformed penis?
Q. I have a problem with my penis,it is deformed.The left side of the head of my penis is shorter than the right side.This is because the frenulum is on the left side of the head of my penis and I masturbate regularly ever since I was 14 now a few ...
A. 17 October 2008: I'm not sure I understand how your penis would be "deformed". Masturbation won't cause that. There are some conditions that affect the penis, such as Peyronie's disease, but I think you're too young for that. Check this link:
http:... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to contact my ex’s friend to support her?
Q. My gf and I broke up. She broached the oft-discussed thorny aside of our relationship following a weekend of discussions with her sister and so I agreed that this was a problem that we hadn’t resolved and as painful as it was to accept that we ...
A. 17 October 2008: Oh, and I need to add something else. Why did you tell a MALE friend of hers? My guess is that, if someone had to know, your ex would have preferred a GIRL friend to help her.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to contact my ex’s friend to support her?
Q. My gf and I broke up. She broached the oft-discussed thorny aside of our relationship following a weekend of discussions with her sister and so I agreed that this was a problem that we hadn’t resolved and as painful as it was to accept that we ...
A. 17 October 2008: I don't question your decision to break up. That may be the right thing to do. I do question, however, your telling a friend what to do to help your ex manage the pain.
You know, breaking up is hard to do. I don't have to tell you that. W... (read in full...)
Is my FWB situation turning into love? What are your thoughts?
Q. I have had a friend with benefits for about 7 months now. He made it very clear that he would never ever be anything more than friends with me, ever. He told me over and over not to fall in love with him because he would never ever let himself ...
A. 17 October 2008: Well, I'm happy for you. Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
He said I have a big vagina yet he's the first man I've ever slept with!
Q. hi everybody, I am writing this so I can have advice about things I don't know. I've just get married lately and I was virgin but the problem is when I had sex with my husband he says that I have big vagina and he hardly feels me. Even although...
A. 17 October 2008: Here's your link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise.
Also,
http://www.icame.com/female-sexuality/female-sexual-anatomy-vagina-size/all-about-kegel-exercises
However, this sounds to me like a little too excessive. I have th... (read in full...)
When it comes to football, why are guys so serious???
Q. well, this is just about my ex bf, we split up a lil while ago, but i just wanted to know, when it comes to football why are lads so serious, when I was with my ex, I loved everything about him, except when it came to football, we'd have a lil joke ...
A. 16 October 2008: This is hard to explain. Football is not just a pastime for us. Just for you to compare, I once heard about one guy who managed to marry wearing the colors of his beloved team. His team, by the way, has black and yellow.
If you're a man, you... (read in full...)
He said I have a big vagina yet he's the first man I've ever slept with!
Q. hi everybody, I am writing this so I can have advice about things I don't know. I've just get married lately and I was virgin but the problem is when I had sex with my husband he says that I have big vagina and he hardly feels me. Even although...
A. 16 October 2008: I have the feeling that he doesn't know much about vaginas yet. Maybe he feels that a vagina should feel as tight as his hand during masturbation? Once I heard a person say that "he who doesn't dance well blames the floor for it".
You may inde... (read in full...)
He got what he wanted... SEX! So why is he still crazy about me?
Q. I'm 18 years old. I wanted to stay a virgin until I was 18. I'm not unattractive and I've had a few boyfriends that wanted to have sex but I wanted to wait. Well I had a heart break the day of my 18th birthday, so a little over a month later I ...
A. 16 October 2008: Maybe he just wants more sex. However, he sounds like he wants way more.
Has the thought occurred to you that maybe you can drive a man crazy?
... (read in full...)
I do love her but I don't want to marry or commit to one woman all the time.
Q. Have been with my girlfriend for 7 years. She is very pretty, sexy, funny, loving the list goes on. But I know she wants more. I don't want to lose her. Every time she gets tired of dealing with my issues and tries to move on I beg her back making ...
A. 16 October 2008: If you don't give her what she wants, someone else will. If you don't want to be with her in exclusive, someone else will, and she will leave you for that guy. Her leaving will be part of your decision not to commit to her only, just as much as ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think my wife is shallow and my penis size and our sex life is the only reason that we are together.
Q. My wife and I are recently married. I think things are going good, but I have a nagging concern about her that bothers me. We had a discussion about her old boyfriends, and she was nasty talking about 2, and a little I don't know, like, happy ...
A. 16 October 2008: I fully agree with Bitterblue.... (read in full...)
He says we have a relationship but not a commitment!!???
Q. The man I'm dating sometimes tells me that there is a relationship between us and other times he says that there isn't a commitment. I'm very confused and I don't know what to believe. How can Ii understand his feelings because if I ask him about ...
A. 16 October 2008: He has you where he wants you. He wants you to remain confused, so he can enjoy being with you while it fits him, and then leave you if it fits him. At that point, he will "remind" you that "you didn't have commitment".
I had never heard th... (read in full...)
What makes a man unable to keep an erection, could it be nerves?
Q. What makes a man unable to keep an erection, could it be nerves?...
A. 16 October 2008: Eyeswideopen is so right.
If he's taking any medications, do a little search in the internet and check the "side effects". You will find that perhaps inability to sustain an erection is one of those "rare" side effects that affect everyone... (read in full...)
In her mind she suspects he might actually be gay - and "fighting" his urges.
Q. A friend of mine is dating this guy - she seems pretty into him but recently told me there were some things that in her eyes were 'deal breakers' - which I took to mean she wouldn't end up with him/marry him. When I asked her about it she told me ...
A. 16 October 2008: Some men are homophobic because they were approached by gays, with obvious sexual purposes, and didn't like the idea of sex with another man. Some of these men quote the Bible because they want words of authority behind them. I don't think this ... (read in full...)
Pleeeeease say he isn't gay!!!
Q. dear people, I need help - me and by boyfriend have been going out for 5 years, I never used to wonder if he was gay until recently, I mean he has a friend who acts so strange and seeing them both together makes me wonder what kind of relationship ...
A. 15 October 2008: First, don't rush to conclusions.
I don't think I could give you an opinion with this little information. However, I suppose you saw more than what you were able to describe to us. Maybe if you elaborate a little we will help you better? ... (read in full...)
A woman should shud her mouth and sit in the corner - he's abusive and strange. what's goin on?
Q. Hi My husband just beat me down to the floor last night and held me there. I refusd to be held down so I fought to free myself. He told me to calm down and stop being angry I was calm and I was not angry. I was fustrated I was being accused ...
A. 15 October 2008: Yes, you do need advice. The first advice I can give you is to get out of there right away. Where I live, we have our share of violent men, but this is honestly the first time that I hear that a man holds a woman down to the floor because she ... (read in full...)
Why aren't girls attracted to nice guys?
Q. Why is it that girls aren't attracted to nice guys? I'm always nice and courteous to the girls I like, and always listen to what they have to say, yet they won't go out with me, girls say that chivalry is the best quality a guy can have, but they ...
A. 15 October 2008: This is a very common question. Here's the answer some women gave:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml... (read in full...)
I seem to sweat alot for no reason. what is wrong with me!
Q. hi. i am a very clean person! i take a shower every day and clean myself up good. but i seem to sweat a lot. and its disgusting. but if im just sitting there i feel my underarms getting sweaty. and it makes b.o. i use deoderant. and ive changed it ...
A. 15 October 2008: Some people sweat a lot naturally. That is called "hyperhidrosis". It is a medical condition and, if you suffer from it, you can get help from doctors. The first step, I guess, would be to determine whether you're really a sufferer of it, or if ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that guys don't ask me out because they find me intimidating?
Q. This is merely a curiousity question. I'm not desparate for a boyfriend or anything. I've never thought much of it before, but people are always complimenting me on how pretty I am (nice hair, good figure, or whatever is what they say). I'm not ...
A. 15 October 2008: A woman can be intimidating, but I don't thik that's because of the way she looks. If she's intimidating at all, it's because of how she behaves.... (read in full...)
Do you think the reason I don't have a boyfriend is because of my weight?
Q. I feel RANK! I'm 5.7" and nearly 12 stone... I don't go round saying "eugh I'm so fat.. look at how fat I am" to everyone but I have told a couple of close friends how I feel about my looks and they say I'm not fat, but I think they're only saying i...
A. 15 October 2008: I can tell you this. I met this friend of mine like thirty years ago. She's always been a large girl, and for some time she was very overweight. However, she is also a very confident person, and many men find that attractive. She's not pretty, ... (read in full...)
What do I want? I don't want to be hurt anymore.
Q. After a year and one-half of dating, my ex broke off our relationship six weeks ago. She sent me an email the next day saying he wanted to remain friends. I thought he was just trying to be nice. Two days ago, he called me and started talking ...
A. 15 October 2008: I see some bad points here. He ended his relationship with you by e-mail. That was so wrong. Then he comes back like nothing happened, and just makes the water dirty. He hasn't promised anything. You correctly say you were better off before his ... (read in full...)
Revenge is sweet... or not???
Q. REVENGE... a powerful word.. Has anyone tried it yet? Is it true that it makes you forget the pain? (I just want him to feel the same way I am feeling).. any comments?...
A. 14 October 2008: This opinion of mine will indeed sound like so cheaply sweetened a potion that your teeth will decay in no time. But this is what I can honestly tell you.
Have you tried forgiveness? Yes, it makes you feel like the other person got away with wha... (read in full...)
She flirts with both of us... who does she actually like?
Q. ok so i work with this girl who is always flirting with me, we've gone out partying like every weekend and are close, i really like her. but she also flirts with this guy who i really hate, i don't know what shes thinking, she says that shes only ...
A. 13 October 2008: She likes both. She flirts with both. She won't necessarily end up with any of you.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl says "I like you a lot" during sex?
Q. Hey could anyone tell me what does it mean when a girl says 'I like you a lot' in bed? I don't know how to take it, Is it just a heat of the moment thing to say or is it a time when all the truth slips out?...
A. 13 October 2008: Er.... she's having sex with you and says she likes you a lot. I don't think anything can have a more clear meaning than that.
No pienses mucho, paisano y tocayo :-). Disfruta.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 13 October 2008: I agree, she may have been saved from a disease. This is unquestionable.
Question: What if the two of them agree to give it another try?... (read in full...)
I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it.
Q. Hey, I'm very young and I'm worried about a lot of things. This is going to sound weird but I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it because I don't like my attraction to female feet. Secondly I am worried about future relatioships and sex ...
A. 13 October 2008: I have a woman fetish :-). I like to look at women :-).
Why are you worried about future relationships and sex? Can you explain?... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 12 October 2008: Good question. Your friend can get upset whether you tell her or not, and you don't know what the best course of action can be. In these kind of situations, I have found that most of the time the people prefer NOT to be told. It's not that they ... (read in full...)
Is my FWB situation turning into love? What are your thoughts?
Q. I have had a friend with benefits for about 7 months now. He made it very clear that he would never ever be anything more than friends with me, ever. He told me over and over not to fall in love with him because he would never ever let himself ...
A. 10 July 2008: In my opinion, you're off to a bad start. He was very clear about what he expected from the relationship, and you accepted those terms. That means that he has the upper hand: if you want more, he will say no, in full "right", or yes. But you ... (read in full...)
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