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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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DO men really love their girlfriends or wives if they are capable of treating them like that?
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has spat on me, called be a whore, thrown a candle into the bathtub, he has accused me of meeting with someone during the 15 minutes that he was gone and I was sitting in the bathtub before putting on my ...
A. 20 March 2009: The real question should be whether this particular man loves you. I guess the answer is no.
Nobody is perfect, so expect some bad things from the person who loves you most. I don't think this man is that person, however. You should take him... (read in full...)
What kind of woman/girl would you go for?
Q. For a while now, every guy that I have seemed to like is interested in that stick thin, big boobed, blonde haired type, and seeing as I am a size 10/12 [in UK sizes] brunette, I just wondered.... this is one for the guys, but women feel free to ...
A. 20 March 2009: You will get many different answers to your questions, but that wouldn't answer the real question behind this, namely "Will I ever find a guy who will like me as I am?". The answer is yes.... (read in full...)
Do good guys come last when you are choosing who you want to go out with?
Q. This is a question for the women of all ages cos I want to know what each generation of women think. I am a kind, considerate guy. I always treat girls like they deserve. I don't want you to think I'm big headed or perfect cos I know I'm not. On...
A. 19 March 2009: This is a question that we often find in this site. I don't doubt you're a good guy, and you have received good answers but, for the sake of a different point of view, please check this link:
http:... (read in full...)
What do you think? Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hi there, I just broke up wit my boyfriend yesterday and needed to know if I did the right thing or if I just over reacted. Me and my ex dated for a year which in that year I cheated on him twice but later on told him bout it, and he forgave me. We ...
A. 19 March 2009: As time passes, you will realize to what extent you did the right thing.
Wish you the best!... (read in full...)
What do you think? Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hi there, I just broke up wit my boyfriend yesterday and needed to know if I did the right thing or if I just over reacted. Me and my ex dated for a year which in that year I cheated on him twice but later on told him bout it, and he forgave me. We ...
A. 18 March 2009: You did the right thing. You have to know where you stand with him.... (read in full...)
When should I start feeding my baby?
Q. When should I start feeding my baby rice, cereal and baby food? He is 2 months and 15 days right now....
A. 15 March 2009: I agree that a doctor's opinion is important here, and perhaps the right opinion to listen to. However, I want to add that children in the Third World are fed solid foods very early, and mums who don't pay attention to doctors in this regard are ... (read in full...)
Sometimes when I joke my mother takes it seriously
Q. I am 23 and living at home with my Mum. We get on well at times but on several occasions when I kid about stuff she takes it seriously and decides to discuss the serious side of the matter. This frustrates me as she doesn't play along with the fun ...
A. 15 March 2009: I believe that your mum doesn't have a sense of humor, but what worries me is what I see behind. I see someone blowing things out of proportion, yes, but, primarily, someone who wants to boss you around.
I suggest you don't tell jokes to your mum... (read in full...)
My 21 year old sister is doing sexual things that I know she will regret
Q. Im 26 years old and have a 21 yr old sister she was baby sitting for me and when she used our computer she didnt log off. I happened to come across a very distrubing email from her boyfriend of 6 months. Before I satrt I should say that se was been...
A. 15 March 2009: I see your point, but I think this is your sister's business.... (read in full...)
Have been with over 20 men in the last 18 months..sexual addiction!
Q. Hi, Have been married for over 20 years. 2 years ago husband started working away from home. Was very lonely and turned to chatting on the internet. Met a man. He was everything I could have wanted. And sex was wonderful. Short story my husband f...
A. 15 March 2009: Where I live, most married men have sex on the side. They are married, like I said, but sex with a new person, the thrill of seduction, et cetera, are always appealing. These men don't meet their new partners over the internet, but that is ... (read in full...)
My first love has said "I love You" to someone else before me and I don't feel special to him!
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months now, I'm 19 and he is 21. he is my first love and i really care about him, he says he loves me and i trust him and i hope we will be together for a long time. however there is one issue ...
A. 13 March 2009: I'm sorry to say this, but it's unrealistic to expect a person you love to never ever have fallen in love with anyone else. First of all, because there is no reason for that: the person you love now was living his/her life, and there was no reason ... (read in full...)
Question for the guys: how can I help my boyfriend 's erectile problem?
Q. For the last 12m, my bf of 8 yrs (who I live with) has had problems maintaining an erection. We had some financial problems, and I found out he'd been flirting with a woman from work, posting himself on 'adult dating' websites and send...
A. 13 March 2009: It seems to me that you don't see the problem as it is, and, therefore, are trying the wrong remedies.
The morning erections are proof that he is physically capable of sustaining intercourse. Ask any doctor, or any source of information, and you ... (read in full...)
Do people use this site to hook up?
Q. Hey there, Not necessarily advertising myself, but I was just wondering whether or not people use this site to hook up and 'get together'? Anyone?...
A. 12 March 2009: Well said, Irish.... (read in full...)
Men afraid of women expecting too much?
Q. It seems that many men these days are afraid of meeting or getting into a relationship because women expect too much from them. When they hear the words I love you alarm bells start ringing! Oh! here we go she wants something! What are your ...
A. 12 March 2009: From your update and your message, poster, I see that you meant something very different than what your words suggested. What you mean is that men are afraid that the woman just wants the financial support, and that is why they resort to "traps", ... (read in full...)
Men afraid of women expecting too much?
Q. It seems that many men these days are afraid of meeting or getting into a relationship because women expect too much from them. When they hear the words I love you alarm bells start ringing! Oh! here we go she wants something! What are your ...
A. 11 March 2009: I am afraid this question cannot be answered. It is too general and contains too wide a generalization. It suggests that all men, everywhere, are afraid of meeting or getting into a relationship with all women, everywhere. That is obviously not ... (read in full...)
How do I maintain a relationship without drama or romance?
Q. I am rather confused about my current situation. I have been in a long distance relationship with a girl I am very fond of. Unfortunately, it is more or less over - I am ambiguous only because she has stopped answering my emails, theoretically, it ...
A. 11 March 2009: You need to analyze yourself more carefully.
I am sorry to say this, but in my opinion the long distance relationship is over. It's just that you haven't accepted that because it hurts.
On the other hand, the girl you met in your institute i... (read in full...)
Am I reading into this or could there really be true feelings?
Q. I have been interested in this man for about 3 years. I never thought I would ever get a chance to talk to him because I am just way too shy. Last summer I was out with some friends and he happened to come in to the place where we were hanging ...
A. 10 March 2009: Can't be sure.
I have a warning for you, however. I hate to be the messenger of bad news, but I think he could tell you whether his intentions have changed. And I wonder why he insists in "discreet sex". What does he mean by "discree... (read in full...)
My fiancee wants an abortion, but the thought of it makes me sick. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone. My fiancee was scared to death of becoming pregnant and now she is. We use contraception but nothing is 100% as you all know. She has always been adamant that she will get an abortion regardless of whether I want it or not and she says ...
A. 9 March 2009: This post is sure to create a lot of discussion here. On the one hand, some people will say she has the right to choose. On the other, some other people will say she doesn't. And there will be no agreement as to what is right or wrong, just as ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend beats the hell out of me
Q. My boyfriend beats the hell out of me when I get him upset (he says I'm "getting fly.") He choked me when I was 8 months pregnant (outside), and he beat me up in front of our 2 daughters and my lil sister. I have been kicked, punched, slapped, head ...
A. 8 March 2009: I agree with the people: What are you doing with him? Get out of there as soon as possible?... (read in full...)
How to cope and get past this?
Q. I know this may not seem like that big of a deal to some of you... but I still feel very ashamed. Me and my boyfriend have had an on and off long-distance relationship for 2 years. So, since I was 15, I'm 17 now. He's came to see me for a month o...
A. 7 March 2009: Dear poster, I agree: mistakes are useful because we learn from them, a lot more than what we learn from our successes. That was exactly the point I wanted to make, and it seems I didn't. I apologize if it sounded rude. I don't mean to say ... (read in full...)
How to cope and get past this?
Q. I know this may not seem like that big of a deal to some of you... but I still feel very ashamed. Me and my boyfriend have had an on and off long-distance relationship for 2 years. So, since I was 15, I'm 17 now. He's came to see me for a month o...
A. 7 March 2009: Dear poster, I agree: mistakes are useful because we learn from them, a lot more than what we learn from our successes. That was exactly the point I wanted to make, and it seems I didn't. I apologize if it sounded rude. I don't mean to say ... (read in full...)
I am interested in learning more about men! Why do they act certain ways and what you should do about it.
Q. I am interested in learning more about men! Why do they act certain ways and what you should do about it, like if we got into a fight and he ignored me for 2/3 days, why do they cheat? What do they like in women? Why all of a sudden does he act ...
A. 7 March 2009: I guess that the first think you need to learn about men is that we are not all the same. Each individual, male or female, is unique; so don't reduce the problem to "1-2-3" rules. If you want to understand your boyfriend, set yourself to it, and ... (read in full...)
How to cope and get past this?
Q. I know this may not seem like that big of a deal to some of you... but I still feel very ashamed. Me and my boyfriend have had an on and off long-distance relationship for 2 years. So, since I was 15, I'm 17 now. He's came to see me for a month o...
A. 7 March 2009: You blew it. Accept that fact and all that will come with it. Don't do it again, now that you know better. The pain will go away, sometime, and when the dust settles you will have learned something.
I think you lost the boyfriend, too. I'm sor... (read in full...)
Should I wash my hands after someone very poor touches me?
Q. I'm from the Philippines and I have a moral issue... I like to help the poor, give them alms and stuff they need... but am I being a bad person if I immediately wash my hands after they touch me? I'm very confused....
A. 7 March 2009: If the hands are being cleaned because the poor person had dirty hands, as a car mechanic with hands covered in grease would, or dirty as the hands of a farmer who just pulled some roots, then it is correct to wash your hands, and to do it somewhere ... (read in full...)
Stuck in an awkward platonic relationship. Is there hope for us becoming more than friends?
Q. Hi everyone, I am having some problems with a male friend. It is a platonic relationship, but there is definitely chemistry... The way this began... I moved to a new neighborhood in NY in August and, within a couple of weeks, became friendly ...
A. 7 March 2009: Have you made it known that you're interested in him?
One more thing, for my own sake: does it bother you if the man pays the meals and drinks? I think I just fell for you!... (read in full...)
How to be a woman player
Q. I need to know how to be a woman "player" - you know, just like some men are players. Does it mean that the woman does the same thing back to him that he does to her? For example, there's this guy at work who has a g/f but he gets jealous when he ...
A. 7 March 2009: In my opinion, you should not try to be a player, but quite the opposite. And you should learn not to follow a game.
It seems you want revenge. That is wrong, and I'm afraid that, if this player is any good, you will be played again. I believe ... (read in full...)
Why won't he sleep with me?
Q. 4 years ago, I met 2 men on the same day: I was interested in both of them, but only one of them very assertively pursued me and I ended up in a realtionship with him for 2 years, and friends with the other "romantic associate"/man during that ...
A. 7 March 2009: In addition to all that has been said, give him time and, believe me, he will sleep with you :-).... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not want to see him 24/7?
Q. Is it normal to not want to see him 24/7? I went out with my boyfriend last night... I worked, headed off to class, and then quickly freshened up to go see him. I came home a little past 3:30a.m. Then, I woke up and back to work. Now, I'm tired and ...
A. 7 March 2009: Not only is it normal: it is necessary.... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused! I can't advance in my LDR due to family problems.
Q. So, here I am once again, reaching out to my fellow Aunts! I need some magic words that will make everything better, and I know that's unrealistic. Never the less, I need something from you guys! Any suggestions or words of encouragement will be ...
A. 5 March 2009: Tisha gave great advice. I just would add that sometimes elderly people do listen, but, since their priorities are different, they choose what they want to do. I know the case of one person who was a very disciplined diabetic his entire life, but ... (read in full...)
Is my ex a racist ?
Q. This is a story about me and My ex, She's a european girl My ex-girlfriend just broke me up a month ago. Well i'm not over it yet but that's not the point. She said many reasons to be saperated like I want to kiss her, I'm too nice, I'm not very...
A. 4 March 2009: If she were a racist, she wouldn't have dated you. So, she's not racist.
Now, I need to say that your case isn't unusual. There are so many people who don't care at all about races or cultures, and who like the difference; but there are othe... (read in full...)
Eye contact between the sexes
Q. Hi. I was just wondering... If a man looks at a woman, who has been looking at him, and she immediately looks away, is this generally because she 1) Does not want to give the impression that she fancies him? or 2) She wants him to think that she...
A. 1 March 2009: I'm with Jessica Rabbit. Don't guess; find out. Also, play it cool: maybe you had a little mustard on your face and she didn't know how to tell you?
If the woman likes you and wants to have something with you, she will find a way to tell you... (read in full...)
My girl gets angry at me for silly reasons. What can I do to stop her immature behaviour?
Q. I am 27 years old and have been in a relationship with my girl for 4 years now. We met on the internet, and at first we were just internet friends, but one thing led to another and to make the long story short, she moved from her country to my own ...
A. 1 March 2009: This is an excellent question.
You can't "make" one person do this or that, unless you "force" them to. Also, there is no way to stop people from doing something if they still have a reason to do so.
I think that her moving to your country can... (read in full...)
I'm 15 years old and I hate the fact that I'm so slim. Any ideas on how to deal with this?
Q. hi i'm a 15yr old girl and i hate my body. i know people say this a lot but i do. it's not that i'm fat it's the complete opposite. i am naturally slim. my mom was. i eat and eat and eat - like comfort food eating.. but were it goes is beyond m...
A. 1 March 2009: We all want to be liked by others and we think that people won't like us if we're not like everyone else. As we grow older and learn to feel happy with ourselves, we don't worry that much about it. Also, many people have the same "problem", until ... (read in full...)
Should I send him an anonymous Valentine's card or not?
Q. i went out with this lad for a couple of dates, never saw him for a couple of weeks but saw him at weekend. I was shaking thinking hes really fit but not sure if he knows that i like him. Should i send him an anonymous valentines card or not? A...
A. 12 February 2009: I think you should send him a direct message. This way, if he likes you, he will approach you. If not, you're free to move on.... (read in full...)
Religion causing problems!
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now. And so far everything's doing great - he's really sweet, nice and cares about me. And I really like him too, I may even be falling in love. I don't know. (We're both 18 by the way.) But th...
A. 31 December 2008: You're right: religion should not be the reason why people can't love each other. I commend you on this, particularly, dear poster, because you're Croatian, and we know what happened in the former Yugoslavia among christians and muslims. You're ... (read in full...)
Normal behavior for straight guys?
Q. Is it normal to wank with your bestfriends, touchin each other penises but no suckin or fucking because were all straight guys... Do straight guys do this to?...
A. 29 December 2008: I'm with A_decent_1. You now have two straight guys who don't have a story like this one. I'm sure that if I made a survey among my friends, only the gay ones would tell a similar story. I'm not sure what "normal" means here, but I'm sure that ... (read in full...)
They say I'm hot but I still feel insecure
Q. I am 19 years old, about 5'6", I weigh (roughly) around 110 pounds, and I have a size 32D bust. I went from being that "ugly girl" to a "hot girl" (I was teased A LOT as a kid because of my teeth and how long it took me to develop). Here's my prob...
A. 29 December 2008: Well, since you don't believe those words, let me call you "highly desirable" and that will do, I hope :-).
Now, seriously, you just need to learn to put that big insecurity of yours in the garbage (sorry, the recycle bin), accept complime... (read in full...)
In love with a moonie
Q. I am madly in love with a member of a cult. She admits to loving me but she fears god... I need help. It hurts to see her do this to herself... i just found this out and I'm on the verge of tears........ ...
A. 29 December 2008: Buddy, you just got to love her and try even if you know that most likely you will fail. Please keep your eyes open, however: if you notice it is a lost cause, give up on it. Because you can't give up on you.
I'm sure they take outsider... (read in full...)
Gay guy is touching my privates
Q. i have a male friend i like him a lot,he just touch my body and touch my private parts and sit on my private parts i dont know what to do,is he a gay answer fast please...
A. 29 December 2008: He's gay, but the most important thing here is that he's breaking the law. I'm not sure if you like his touch, however. Do you? If you don't, ask him to stop and you have the law on your side.... (read in full...)
In love with a moonie
Q. I am madly in love with a member of a cult. She admits to loving me but she fears god... I need help. It hurts to see her do this to herself... i just found this out and I'm on the verge of tears........ ...
A. 29 December 2008: Well, we're not sure if she wants out of the cult. All we know that she fell in love with someone who does not share her faith. We would expect a very zealous follower to do just what her religion orders, that is to say, not even to consider the ... (read in full...)
In love with a moonie
Q. I am madly in love with a member of a cult. She admits to loving me but she fears god... I need help. It hurts to see her do this to herself... i just found this out and I'm on the verge of tears........ ...
A. 29 December 2008: Does her god prevent her from loving someone who does not have the same faith?... (read in full...)
In love with a moonie
Q. I am madly in love with a member of a cult. She admits to loving me but she fears god... I need help. It hurts to see her do this to herself... i just found this out and I'm on the verge of tears........ ...
A. 28 December 2008: This is a difficult thing. You don't give much information, and I wasn't able to find much about them either, but this one thing does come out of what you said: she is intending to follow that religion, and, apparently, that means you two can't be ... (read in full...)
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