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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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How easily can a guy get an erection?
Q. Hello. So this is a general question to everyone so all you guys and girls out there please feel free to go ahead and answer. So this subject intrigues me and i want to understand it more. So guys my age 14-15, how easily can they get an erection...
A. 19 April 2009: Yes, it's possible, particularly at that age.... (read in full...)
Hysterectomy..will my sex life be the same?
Q. Can someone please tell me if having a Hysterectomy will change my sex life. My husband and I have a wonderful, active sex life. I have been told by my doctor that I need to have a Hystrectomy due to enlarged Fibriods. This will be a partial ...
A. 18 April 2009: To answer one of the people here, yes, it would feel bad to have the testicles and half the penis removed. However, I would ask you not to believe that I would recommend hysterectomy out of some evil pleasure of mutilating a woman. To say that is ... (read in full...)
Hysterectomy..will my sex life be the same?
Q. Can someone please tell me if having a Hysterectomy will change my sex life. My husband and I have a wonderful, active sex life. I have been told by my doctor that I need to have a Hystrectomy due to enlarged Fibriods. This will be a partial ...
A. 18 April 2009: I find the posts by the many women very educating and enlightening, and am sorry if I misled the poster. I gave the information I had at hand about this, in the way it was given to me by a woman. Maybe, as someone wrote, the person didn't say all ... (read in full...)
What do I do to make him see that he is losing me?
Q. I met my boyfriend 10 months ago. We were doing really good. I even moved out of my parents house to be able to see him more often. The week i moved out, it turned out that he got a job in Miami. (over 1hr and 30 minutes away) We see each other ...
A. 18 April 2009: The best way to let someone know that s/he's losing you is simply to tell that, in a calm but serious manner.... (read in full...)
Sex! Where can we go and not get caught?
Q. I want to have (protected)sex with my bf tomorrow. But we can't go to my or his house. Any suggestions to where we should go and not get caught? And if we do get caught by the police and since I am 18 and he is 19 will we get in troubl...
A. 18 April 2009: I can't help you about a place to go, but this much I can say: I understand you can have sex with your boyfriend as you're both past the age of consent. Check if this is true in the state you live in.
Use a condom.... (read in full...)
What is a "rainbow kiss?"
Q. I'm 13 my boyfriend is 16. We are both non virgins from other relationships. We have had sex and done everything. Finger, BJ, 69, toss off, lick out ect. We were keen to move onto a rainbow kiss he said, I don't know what a rainbow kiss is.. What is ...
A. 18 April 2009: Ugggh!... (read in full...)
Hysterectomy..will my sex life be the same?
Q. Can someone please tell me if having a Hysterectomy will change my sex life. My husband and I have a wonderful, active sex life. I have been told by my doctor that I need to have a Hystrectomy due to enlarged Fibriods. This will be a partial ...
A. 18 April 2009: I hope I helped. The idea of talking to the surgeon is a great one.... (read in full...)
Hysterectomy..will my sex life be the same?
Q. Can someone please tell me if having a Hysterectomy will change my sex life. My husband and I have a wonderful, active sex life. I have been told by my doctor that I need to have a Hystrectomy due to enlarged Fibriods. This will be a partial ...
A. 17 April 2009: It might, but not for physical reasons.
I can't speak for personal experience, but I can speak from what I have heard from other people. From people that might not be as sophisticated as you.
Once, a woman I know was complaining that... (read in full...)
My husband likes to watch me sleeping. Is this odd?
Q. ok its a little weird but i have been married 7 and 1/2 years and ever since i got married when i go to bed at night after i am asleep my husband will mess with me in my sleep and i will wake up and not say anything but just pretend like i am still ...
A. 17 April 2009: I'm with Lazy Guy.... (read in full...)
My husband likes to watch me sleeping. Is this odd?
Q. ok its a little weird but i have been married 7 and 1/2 years and ever since i got married when i go to bed at night after i am asleep my husband will mess with me in my sleep and i will wake up and not say anything but just pretend like i am still ...
A. 17 April 2009: Yeah, Satin asked a good question.... (read in full...)
Guys and scars
Q. i'm pointing this question mostly at the guys (and ladies, if u had something similar going on).. i've been through a surgery in the past year, which left about 2cm scars all over my chest and back - i had to remove about 30-40 tiny skin tumors...
A. 17 April 2009: Some people might not like the scars, while others won't mind. Some other people might not like them at first, but they will not be turned off for them as time goes by. Of course, you want to be with the ones who won't mind, at first, or ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to fake my own death to see if she still loves me?
Q. Well basically my ex havn't been going out for ages, but I'm going out for her best mate (2 months) and she's always trying to get her to dump me but the girl i'm with doesn't want to dump me so i'm thinking. Is it wrong to fake my own death to prov...
A. 17 April 2009: Of course it is wrong. Emotional blackmail is always wrong.... (read in full...)
The passion is gone
Q. Should I stay with my boyfriend when I don't feel there is any passion in our relationship? Even though I know he loves me and I love him!...
A. 17 April 2009: Bleeding, you're a twenty-something and you describe yourself as "highly sexed". If he's a sixty-something, I am afraid that, yes, he or most anyone else would feel "too old" and like being unable to "keep up". And it wouldn't have anything at all ... (read in full...)
Breast problems!
Q. Okay, I am a collage student and I am having a big problem. I noticed that my left boob is a whole cup size bigger then my right one and it's never been this way until the last couple of months. What should I do? ...
A. 16 April 2009: I agree with what's been said. If you're unsure, go see a doctor for your peace of mind only.
Uncle Phil, I think you were the most popular kid on the block when you were a child. Or at least the one who had the most active imagination :-). Ke... (read in full...)
Wife was raped, will it affect her reproductive system?
Q. My wife was once rape or just a little insertion of penis when she was in 1 standard with a boy who is 5 yrs senior to her and she is now 20 yrs old. I would like to know whether this incident would effect her reproductive system in future or not. ...
A. 16 April 2009: You don't have anything to forgive here. You said it yourself: she was raped. It was not her fault.
I don't think her reproductive system will be affected. Her psyche, however, most likely was. She does not need to be blamed for rape.
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Why would an older guy like a much younger girl?
Q. Why would an older guy like a much younger girl? I'm concrned for my younger sister who is a freshman at 14, dating a senior at 18. I told her no good will come of it, but she isn't listening. If someone could help me to understand why he was so ...
A. 16 April 2009: Perspectives on this might change depending on where you are from, or how old you are. When I was a teen-ager, which was not that long ago but was indeed before the mere concept of "statutory rape" existed, relationships between minors with an age ... (read in full...)
Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me.
Q. I am 17 and my girlfriend is 15. Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me. I never forced her, but can I still get in trouble....
A. 15 April 2009: Well, in this case, the poster would do good to protect himself.... (read in full...)
Why do we cry when someone dies?
Q. Hey y'all! Ummm I just need to ask this but why do we cry when someone dies? Or leaves us? Or anything like that why do you think we cry other than when we get hurt? Cause I can't help but cry everytime I see my fathers pictures and think of his ...
A. 15 April 2009: Death is part of life, but a very painful part of it. I see that it is your father who passed away. This is a significant death for you. Please accept my sympathies. I did not know your father, but I know what you are feeling.
What you are ... (read in full...)
Wife thinks she wants out of 17 year marriage..mid life crisis?
Q. i think my wife is going through a MLC she told me she was numb and that she loves me but not in love with me ,weve been married for 17 years with 4 kids and a dog. she had also said she wanted a divorce but i calmed her down and somehow got her to ...
A. 15 April 2009: I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I'm not sure if I can help you with much of your problem, but there's one thing I'm noticing. You say that your wife must be going through a mid-life crisis since she is suggesting a divorce. That ... (read in full...)
Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me.
Q. I am 17 and my girlfriend is 15. Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me. I never forced her, but can I still get in trouble....
A. 15 April 2009: I agree, both kids should have been thinking with their brains. Which is something that can be said of millions and millions of people around the world. Including the mother who thinks that sending a teen-ager to jail is the way to protect her ... (read in full...)
Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me.
Q. I am 17 and my girlfriend is 15. Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me. I never forced her, but can I still get in trouble....
A. 15 April 2009: I don't know what the law is in the United States. I know that, where I live, you wouldn't be charged with anything. Both of you would be minors, both would be equally protected by the Code of Children and Adolescents, and you wouldn't be charged ... (read in full...)
Do people stop using condoms in a committed relationship?
Q. I am a foreigner dating an American and in the country I came from it is quite natural if you are in a committed relationship to drop condoms and using other types of birth control such as loop or pills. The other day my boyfriend said t...
A. 15 April 2009: I smell a wrong idea hiding beneath the boyfriend's answer. People seem to think that condoms are used primarily for protection against sexually transmitted diseases, and only secondarily for contraception. In fact, those of us old enough know ... (read in full...)
24, virgin, totally inexperienced with dating....what should I do with this girl???
Q. I'm 24 and in graduate school.....not only am I a virgin, i've never really 'dated' or even kissed a girl....i lost a bunch of weight during freshman year of college and the confidence didn't just materialize...so as a result, i haven't been able to ...
A. 14 April 2009: First, don't look for therapy because that's not what you need. With all due respect for therapists and people who trust them, all you need is perhaps a friend who is drunk, irresponsible and a womanizer; he'll do the trick and it will be fun and ... (read in full...)
Do all girls play this game?
Q. there is this girl who loves playing with me,catching my attention,beeing allitile seductive and stuff,but sometimes she suddenly backoff,and continues after a few days as nothing happened and my problem is when she backsoff i keep worrying about wh...
A. 14 April 2009: I have some questions for you. Do you happen to be married, or otherwise "taken", and she knows about it? Does she happen to be married or otherwise taken?
What is your reaction to her trying to get your attention? Do you respond to that, or... (read in full...)
Is this a sin?
Q. Im so embarassed because I recently started to masturbate and need help. I've read pages on the internet saying how it isnt a sin and some saying that it is. So idk what to do?! I want to but I feel guilty and weird like I'm sinning really bad. ahhh ...
A. 14 April 2009: Oh, this is one of those issues no one can agree about. If I said it's a sin, then one side of people will bury me at the stake (which is a sin, by the way, or at the very least a serious violation of human rights). If I said it isn't, then the ... (read in full...)
17 guys...do you think that's a lot?
Q. To my knowledge every female makes a list with every guy she's ever been intimate with. Well I was bored and decided to make mine. And over the course of 8 years I've been with 17 guys. Do you think that's a lot?...
A. 14 April 2009: I believe that the right person to answer that question is yourself. Do you think that's a lot? Some people are happy to have been with one person only, while others are happy because they have been with many (though I imagine that some of those ... (read in full...)
The passion is gone
Q. Should I stay with my boyfriend when I don't feel there is any passion in our relationship? Even though I know he loves me and I love him!...
A. 14 April 2009: All relationships cool off after a while. When you say the "passion" is gone, do you mean the love, or the novelty?... (read in full...)
Any advice on what we should do
Q. I'm engaged to get married in September and I jsut found out that I am 10 weeks pregnant. That mean that I will be 7 months pregnant on my wedding day. I want to postpone the wedding but my finance doesnt want to. I have always dreamed of this ...
A. 14 April 2009: If you don't want the people to spend the extra money, then you can't postpone the wedding.
If you tell them why you would want it postponed, perhaps they will agree to change dates?
Why does your fiancé not want to change the date? Is it the... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?
Q. I'm 18 and still a virgin, but I live in a dorm and people here all just, they pretty much go after me and talk with each other about how I'm scared to have sex just cuz I havent ever done it. Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?...
A. 14 April 2009: In four words: No.
In more words: Whether you're a virgin or not is your business. If they say you're scared to have sex, use irony and ask whether they have a mirror :-). Or, you can tell them to mind their own business.... (read in full...)
Almost my whole school has labeled me as a "slut'...
Q. I started having sex 2 years ago and soon found myself sleeping with different guys at parties almost every weekend. There really isnt anything sexually that I didnt try and almost my whole school has labeled me as a "slut'. I know that I deseve it ...
A. 14 April 2009: What we did we cannot change, so I am afraid people in your school will always remember your past. And then, because we human beings like to put others down so we can feel superior, they will continue to point fingers at you, and call you names. ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to have biological children and I do!
Q. My husband doesn't want to have biological children and I do. What should I do?...
A. 14 April 2009: I think this is what I would call "a line in the sand". One of you has to agree to what the other wants.
If you can't live with this, all you can do is divorce him.
I see you're 26-29. I am afraid that you might want a child even more when y... (read in full...)
I used my best friend's sister for sex and now she's pregnant! What do I do now?
Q. I started messing around with my best friend's little sister, and now she is pregnant. I have been friends with the guy since elementary school and I have a girlfriend who is always in college. I LOVE my g/f and planned on asking her to marry me...
A. 14 April 2009: I'm sorry, but you were a jerk to use someone for sex. So, "sounding as a jerk" is the least of your problems.
My simple answer would be something like, in the line of Sean Connery, "If you can't do the time, don't do the crime". That is to sa... (read in full...)
What is the best way to accentuate your bust without it making you look easy?
Q. Odd question, sorry: If a girl is quite busty and curvy, what is the best way for her to accentuate it without looking easy? -GG...
A. 14 April 2009: Wear a sweater!... (read in full...)
I am scared of turning 30 and never having no boyfriend...
Q. I am scared of turning 30 and never having no boyfriend ever and never even got my first kiss Am I a joke?...
A. 13 April 2009: No. This happens to more people than you would believe.
Just keep going and your chance will come.... (read in full...)
Are all guys like to have skinny girlfriends?
Q. just looking for body advice.. Im 61kgs and probably around 165 cms maybe a bit taller. Im not fat, im curvy. I like my bum i like that i have one. The only things i dont really like is my boobs, there a bit small but im not that phased. The th...
A. 13 April 2009: No, not all guys are like this. You'd be surprise how many of us actually want more flesh than what you would find in a skinny woman.
Satin, I know you're married and this is nothing more than a compliment, which I will take back if you ask me t... (read in full...)
Should I take a sabbatical from all men?
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost two years, he has a lot of problems and growing up to do as far as his own life is concerned and I got tired of waiting around and so I told him I was going to start seeing someone else. After ha...
A. 13 April 2009: I think you should sit and really find out what you really want. Once you know that, you can act on it and do things the way no one gets hurt. If this is what you mean by "sabbatical", then that's what you should do.... (read in full...)
I was just wondering generally do MOST men cheat?
Q. I was just wondering generally do MOST men cheat? I blame my male friends for making me have this opinion because as lovely as they all are and as much as they love their gfs, they have all cheated at some point and don't seem to think that it is...
A. 12 April 2009: I won't talk about whether most men or women cheat, because there are many answers about that. I do want to make reference to one specific point: that our poster "never want(s) to get too close to anybody due to a fear of getting hurt".
Unfor... (read in full...)
I am pregnant by my FWB, and my lovely ex-husband is now cancer free. What to do?
Q. My friend-with-benefits is seventeen years my senior and we each have kids from our previous marriages. He has four and I have one. After having known each other for three months, I found out I was pregnant a month ago. I know that sounds as if I'm ...
A. 11 April 2009: I mean, tell him what your real situation is, and see what happens.... (read in full...)
I am pregnant by my FWB, and my lovely ex-husband is now cancer free. What to do?
Q. My friend-with-benefits is seventeen years my senior and we each have kids from our previous marriages. He has four and I have one. After having known each other for three months, I found out I was pregnant a month ago. I know that sounds as if I'm ...
A. 11 April 2009: I guess the only way to handle this situation is to be honest with your ex-husband.... (read in full...)
Follow up: My husband's "mysterious" trips to Canada
Q. A follow-up on my original question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-my-husband-having-business-trips-.html I thought I'd post a follow-up. Apparently my husband had been living a double life - in Canada and over here. I know this becaus...
A. 10 April 2009: Perhaps he is looking for work there, and won't tell you because he thinks he can handle the problems. Or, he's preparing a gracious exit.
If he were just having problems at work, this kind of activities are not the ones people should hide fro... (read in full...)
An equal loving relationship between three, where all are involved. Possible, or not?
Q. So, the short... I've been married to my husband, who i love from depths i cannot describe, just over a year now. But he has a part of him that i want to understand and support but still sometimes doubt if i am really capable of making work. He...
A. 10 April 2009: Since you ask for sincere advice, I can tell you I don't think this kind of arrangement will ever work. There might be more than one way to look at this situation. One can be that you seem to be looking for someone who is bisexual and can ... (read in full...)
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