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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I need help decoding a man!
Q. Ok.. So theres this boy, he is 22 and i am 19. We have known each other for about 2 yrs now. I need advice, he is soo confusing. We have been on and off for those 2 yrs. He has told me he really likes me and i have told him too. Once we had like 5 ...
A. 8 December 2008: Pay attention to action, not words. His actions say he is not that much into you. It is nice to "mess around" every once in a while, find you when he wants, you, et cetera, but he isn't thinking of a traditional relationship with you. He comes to ... (read in full...)
Can Men really change their faults?
Q. I have a question for the Men. If you found the right girl for you, could her love and support make you change to live up to your potential? Or should you accept them exactly the way you found them even though you know... and they know they cou...
A. 8 December 2008: It is difficult to answer this question.
When I was in high school, I met a guy who would go to the prostitutes every week, didn't do homework, always arrived late, was often drunk and was a trickster. When he married (and people asked him who ... (read in full...)
I became a teacher out of desperation but now I found my calling in life. Is it too late for me?
Q. In my late teens, and throughout my twenties, I struggled to find my calling, or what I wanted to do with my life. I want so much more than just to have a job that I put up with. I want to be SOMEBODY, and to have hopes, and dreams... a place. I...
A. 7 December 2008: Many people have this very same problem. I suspect that many others would be aware they have it, too, if only they hadn't followed what their families or friends expected from them. At least where I live, many people marry, have children and go to ... (read in full...)
After ALL my sacrifices for her, she doesn't care! I have wasted 9 years. Please advise.
Q. Hi. I'm a British guy who was divorced after a long term relationship. I'm from a South Asian background. I posted up my details on a matrimonial site as I was 31 at the time and needed to find a companion. Altho many many girls were interested, I ...
A. 6 December 2008: I'm sorry, but this is a no-brainer for me. It's very clear that your wife doesn't want you around. If she did, she would sign the papers for the sponsorship. I haven't seen a clearer sign of disinterest than this one.
She can't push you away... (read in full...)
Did he dump me?
Q. I have been dating with this guy for 3 years.He recently lives in Lisbon for getting an Portuguese residence.He used to call me and we talked on the phone every week.I live in Madrid since we dont see each other alot,i knew that he doesnt have a ...
A. 6 December 2008: It seems we are talking about a man who was not born in any of the EU countries. I apologize if I don't know about this, but it seems to me that, if being allowed to live in Portugal means he can live in Paris, then he could go back to Paris if he ... (read in full...)
Do men really only want women with big breasts?
Q. Do men really only want women with big breasts - my breasts are no bigger than Kate Moss's - I'm naturally small, but worry men will be disappointed when I get undressed !...
A. 6 December 2008: No. We like women of all sizes.... (read in full...)
Opinions about perfume!
Q. Hi, This isn't a problem or anything but I want peoples opinion. What kind of perfume do guys like more? (girls can answer too) Fruity, floral, or more musky?? (any specific perfume would be helpful too :D ) thanks...
A. 6 December 2008: Sirena Blusera, I like the smell on the raw skin :-). The card is useless.... (read in full...)
Opinions about perfume!
Q. Hi, This isn't a problem or anything but I want peoples opinion. What kind of perfume do guys like more? (girls can answer too) Fruity, floral, or more musky?? (any specific perfume would be helpful too :D ) thanks...
A. 6 December 2008: Well, I suppose the research you qoute, Tisha-1, is not about the lavender scent you find in deodorants. At least, not the ones available in the Third, er, Tenth World. THAT smell of "lavender" gives you the shivers.
By the way, Karl Marx was... (read in full...)
Opinions about perfume!
Q. Hi, This isn't a problem or anything but I want peoples opinion. What kind of perfume do guys like more? (girls can answer too) Fruity, floral, or more musky?? (any specific perfume would be helpful too :D ) thanks...
A. 5 December 2008: Well, Oldersister, you have a good taste on perfumes.
My additional two cents (that makes it four cents). A floral perfume can be great, and I respect other people's opinions, but that smells too much like "The Little House on the Prairie"... (read in full...)
My Indian boyfriend required space because his family oppose to our relationship, I'm scared he will leave me eventually!
Q. i have been dating an indian muslim boy for over a year now and he has brought me to india as well to check whether the family can accept me, although almost every one likes me when we come back from india to the country we are working his brot...
A. 5 December 2008: Cultural differences are important. We might make serious mistakes if we ignored them. However, I think that in any culture there comes a time when parents or family should not be the most important factor for you to decide something. If he likes ... (read in full...)
Opinions about perfume!
Q. Hi, This isn't a problem or anything but I want peoples opinion. What kind of perfume do guys like more? (girls can answer too) Fruity, floral, or more musky?? (any specific perfume would be helpful too :D ) thanks...
A. 5 December 2008: I say, Opium, Chanel N° 5, Carolina Herrera 212. I wouldn't know what kind of perfumes they are, but these are the perfumes a hot woman would use.... (read in full...)
The Nice Guy
Q. I remember being a kid and watching those corny teen movies like “Can’t Hardly Wait” and I recall thinking that the nice guy always gets the girl and believing that is how it really is. But as I got older I came to learn that Hollywood is full of ...
A. 5 December 2008: Your question comes up every once in a while. I always give the floor to women, by giving guys this link:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml.
There you go.... (read in full...)
I just can't figure women out!
Q. Hi, I need some views here about a lovely woman I met a few weeks back. We had a few good dates and got along perfectly and shared some common interests and backgrounds. The last time I saw her, she introduced me to a friend of hers and we went on ...
A. 4 December 2008: Dear female anonymous poster, you're right! "Spilling the seed" is not right - that must be why so many farmers are unhappy; I knew it wasn't the intermediaries after all :-).
On a more serious note, yes, dear anonymous sincere and great fe... (read in full...)
I just can't figure women out!
Q. Hi, I need some views here about a lovely woman I met a few weeks back. We had a few good dates and got along perfectly and shared some common interests and backgrounds. The last time I saw her, she introduced me to a friend of hers and we went on ...
A. 4 December 2008: If we men were able to understand women all the time, then questions like yours wouldn't be posted every so often here in Dear Cupid.
Women are not men with a funny way of thinking. They think in a way you and I won't always understand; but that... (read in full...)
How can I break his heart into tiny little pieces?
Q. Hey I'd really like a male perspective on my problem but would also appreciate female feedback as well... I've been in an on and off again realtionship with my daughter's father, during one of our "breakups" he decided to go and have another ...
A. 4 December 2008: In my humble opinion, the best you can do is put an end to the relationship. The moment you two decided to have an "off and on" relationship, you two (and I also mean "you, TOO") decided to leave the door open to this kind of situations. The ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with men in their 40's losing interest in sex?
Q. This question is for finding out, a very confusing secret. I hear all the time , that man losing interest in sex, in their 40 -es, now they say this is aging. But I don't see that anywhere, I know at least 50 man in this age, but I don't know any...
A. 3 December 2008: So, your sister's man is looking at you. He might have trouble having an erection, but a hot woman is always hot, and will always be hot for a man no matter his age. That doesn't mean it is right of you to feel that perhaps a fresh lover like you ... (read in full...)
What are the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5''?
Q. What are all the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5 inches? I secretly cry in my pillow after sex because my body is so sexually pent up. I am 33 but I do kegol exercises everyday and I've had no children and my ex boyfriends ...
A. 3 December 2008: From your post, it is easy to see that you don't have fulfilling sex, and, more importantly, that you think it would be fulfilling if his penis were larger. I'm afraid that is not necessarily true.
If, deep inside, you are convinced that his size... (read in full...)
Is it okay to lick the vaginal fluids?
Q. hie i love licking the vagina but, is it okay to lick both with the vagina fluids and stuff ?...
A. 3 December 2008: A healthy vagina is just that, healthy. You can't get a disease from someone who is not sick with that disease. Therefore, a healthy vagina, or a healthy mouth, hand or cheek, for that matter, poses no risks. If your concern is whether vaginas ... (read in full...)
Contraception for an Epileptic?
Q. Hi, I have previously been on the contraceptive pill. I came off that maybe 2 years ago due to been diagnosed with epilepsy. I stopped taking it as it was making my mood low and it just wasn't agreeing with me. Since then my husband and I have been ...
A. 1 December 2008: I agree with Gina. However, I think I understand your concern: you would prefer not to use anything that will get into your system. Diaphragms (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diaphragm_(contraceptive)) could be useful in your case. No method is ... (read in full...)
Why don't white guys approach me?
Q. I'm a good looking, outgoing latina who is highly attracted to white men. My question is, why is it that they'll check me out - but not approach me? ...
A. 29 November 2008: There can be many reasons. I guess every man has a different reason NOT to approach a girl. I assume some of them had girlfriends, others were just passersby, et cetera. Then some must have found you attractive but were not attracted to you, et ... (read in full...)
Told a few white lies in the beginning, feel guilty......
Q. Everything is going well, and we are in love. Just have a quick question. I told some very minor white lies in the very beginning of it. Nothing harmful, just small things to "pump" myself up I guess to make her like me. Just kind of slightly ...
A. 29 November 2008: Man, let's be direct. If she came back to you in the morning and said she over reacted, that means you are blowing this out of proportion. You told her you had lied, she got angry, then she forgave you. What is your problem? If your problem is ... (read in full...)
How many men out there prefer pubic hair on a girl?
Q. How many men out there prefer pubic hair on a girl? I'm an Asian and I know by experience that most Asian men love pubic hair on a girl. What about the majority of men in the world? Are most men put off by that?...
A. 28 November 2008: This question would require several billions of answers. No one can give you the opinion of "most men".
I think, however, that the question is not the right one to ask. Pubic hair is something you grow naturally. As with any other feature ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want a fling, but doesn't want anything serious - what DOES he want?
Q. Can anyone enlighten me to what a guy means when he says he doesn't like flings but he doesn't want anything serious. He doesn't want anything serious because he's going traveling and claims it might stop him. But then he keeps saying how he wants ...
A. 28 November 2008: He wants a fling, but he also wants you to think he doesn't. That way maybe you won't refuse to have a little action.... (read in full...)
Told a few white lies in the beginning, feel guilty......
Q. Everything is going well, and we are in love. Just have a quick question. I told some very minor white lies in the very beginning of it. Nothing harmful, just small things to "pump" myself up I guess to make her like me. Just kind of slightly ...
A. 28 November 2008: Disclaimer: Oblivia is a very dear friend.
I think that the poster is missing something. The opinions we give here are just that, opinions. It is up to the poster to judge what his or her situation really is and act accordingly. The aunts ca... (read in full...)
Is it possible something more happened?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a month and I know that isn't long but I really love her. She kissed her ex and on another day he showed himself to her (down below) now I'm wary that more happened, I mean I do have trust issues anyway through ...
A. 26 November 2008: No, you're not making it more of a problem than it is. Don't just forget it. Suppose it had been you who kissed your ex, and your ex who showed you her body "down below". What would your girl be saying at this time?
Not only are you not maki... (read in full...)
I had a miscarriage and my boyfriend is devestated. How can I make it up to him?
Q. I really love my boy-friend, and this situation is killing me. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year. One night, about a month ago, it was our eleven month anniversary, we ended up getting really drunk, and did the nasty =]. When this ...
A. 26 November 2008: He loves you but he believes you had an abortion, not a miscarriage. Or, at the very least, he thinks that the miscarriage was "your fault". I think you have done the right thing in telling him that "I'm sorry" gets old over time, but, anyways, if ... (read in full...)
Vegetarianism anyone?
Q. I need help becoming a lacto-ovo vegetarian... any suggestions/tips? I'm a really picky eater as well... don't like spices, or herbs =P.... I want to really cut all meat from my diet, except for fish occasionally, but how do I do this without ...
A. 22 November 2008: I'm with my dear Birdy. Our bodies need food of animal origin. The problem with absolute vegetarianism is that one or two vitamins, I forget which ones, can only be obtained from animal foods, so you become deficient in those vitamins and when you ... (read in full...)
When is it okay to take back someone who has once cheated and may still have lingering feelings for the other person?
Q. When is it okay to take back someone who has once cheated and may still have lingering feelings for the other person? What can the couple do to get past this and build trust again? Is trust something that once lost is lost forever? He said he would ...
A. 22 November 2008: Question number one: In my humble opinion, never.
Question number two: It depends on the couple.
Question number three: Sometimes trust is never restored. Sometimes it is.
How do you know when to trust again? You don't. You take you... (read in full...)
Need help choosing between two women
Q. There are these two girls I met recently that I like at the moment and I'd like your opinions on what I should do. The first girl is a kind hearted girl next door kind of girl that your mom would LOVE you to date, but has been cheated on in al...
A. 22 November 2008: You always need to know what you want and why. That's the advice. If you don't know that, think until you get to that point.
One girl is sweet, the other one is pretty. I think the "sustainable" way to go is this: get to know the pretty o... (read in full...)
Would a married man say he loves his family and still flirt or sweet talk to a girl?
Q. There's this guy who I met a year back in a meeting. He was all sweet and flirty with me, I almost fall for him until I saw he was married. So, I took it cool. Turned out we had to communicate via email for the same meeting business, until ...
A. 22 November 2008: It seems he likes you a lot but won't cheat on his wife. Or, you want him to go further than he wants to. Or both. I think you should spare yourself the heartbreak and move on. You can still be friends, but that's it.
... (read in full...)
Is This guy a player/womanizer?
Q. I've been seeing this guy since September, we've been out for lunch, shopping, cinema, dinner and he takes me out in his car a lot. He used to call me and text me all the time, but now things have changed. One time when he picked me up in his car...
A. 22 November 2008: I think he's not serious about you. He seems to have been interested before, but apparently now that is gone.... (read in full...)
I can't get over the fact she killed my child!
Q. My Fiance and I Have been going through a lot. In the beginning things were perfect, she got pregnant and things were still fine but she was becoming distant. I was sitting watching a football game one night (this was the day before we were going to ...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm sorry, but I don't think you will ever get over the abortion, and I don't think that is the only reason why your relationship with your wife does not work. It is perhaps a big reason why problems are harder to approacho and solve.
I think th... (read in full...)
I feel resentment towards her for breaking my heart in this way.
Q. I fell in love with a girl around 6 months back. On one of the first few times I met her. We became good friends and I asked her out a few weeks ago, she said no. It was heart-breaking to say the least and I think about what I could have possi...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm with Tisha, too. Hers are the words of wisdom.... (read in full...)
He lives in another country... but I want to date NOW!
Q. Hey everyone I'll say sorry for the length now but I really really need someones help I have the most amazing boyfriend, He understands me, makes me laugh, and truely cares about me. And I love him more then air more then anyone in the world. T...
A. 20 November 2008: Nobody has a roadmap that will show him/her what to do in life. You are free to go one way or the other, and, when you do choose something, you also go for all the things that come with it. Of course you can make mistakes, and most of us do, and ... (read in full...)
Just found out my ex-girlfriend is dating someone else, whom I know. This is bothering me more than it should.
Q. Just found out my ex-girlfriend is dating someone else, whom I know. This is bothering me more than it should. How do I get over this?...
A. 20 November 2008: You get over this when you understand that it is over, and that it means you have a chance to find someone new.... (read in full...)
My lesbian lover makes me mad as hell sometimes!
Q. I am 26 and I am a lesbian dating a 42 year old woman and we are both virgos we have a lot in common and then we don't on views of life and etc. She makes me feel mad as hell when she says things that I don't feel she be said example. When she ...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm not sure I get the particulars of your post, but I guess I do get the general idea. You are with someone who is much older than you and whose views on life are very different from yours. Maybe that is the problem?... (read in full...)
Should I break my virginity or keep it?
Q. Hi everyone I really want the answer to this question. I am 25 years old, and am still a virgin. Should I go on to keep the virginity? Or should I break it? Your answer will be valued. ...
A. 19 November 2008: That's just for you to decide.... (read in full...)
Ladies: Would you wear a ring on your left ring finger if you're single?
Q. This question is for the ladies. Oh man :)... crushes really are unavoidable aren't they? It's a like a slow motion car crash and it just keeps building every time you see her and there's nothing you can do about it. So she's got what looks l...
A. 19 November 2008: Again, I'm not a lady, but I can say that, if she has a boyfriend and makes that clear on Facebook, that is a big "Keep Off" sign. She might like you and enjoy your attention but that doesn't mean she will actually consider anything at all with ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Would you wear a ring on your left ring finger if you're single?
Q. This question is for the ladies. Oh man :)... crushes really are unavoidable aren't they? It's a like a slow motion car crash and it just keeps building every time you see her and there's nothing you can do about it. So she's got what looks l...
A. 19 November 2008: I'm not a lady, but I know for a fact that many women who work at banks wear rings just to keep some men away. I wonder if they do it in America as well.
And then, nothing in life is guaranteed anymore :-). Some time ago, only women would ha... (read in full...)
Is it ok if an eight-year-old masturbates?
Q. I been babysitting all my life since i was 16. I baby sit this 8 yr old girl she's Always wanting Privacy. One Day I was Baby sitting Just her cause the other went to spend the night with grandparents. well One Day i was down stairs Doing some ...
A. 16 November 2008: I guess that her using the toothbrush doesn't change anything, really.... (read in full...)
My stupid ape-looking boobs
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been getting pretty far in our relationship, sexually wise. On our last make-out session, we both took off our shirts. He wanted to take off my bra. I told him no because I'm not altogether comfortable with the way my ...
A. 13 November 2008: I'm with Double M. I will also add that what looks "ape" to you might look "great" to another person.... (read in full...)
I had a miscarriage and my boyfriend is devestated. How can I make it up to him?
Q. I really love my boy-friend, and this situation is killing me. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year. One night, about a month ago, it was our eleven month anniversary, we ended up getting really drunk, and did the nasty =]. When this ...
A. 10 November 2008: I'm sorry about the miscarriage. But, dear poster, you don't owe him anything. You can't control whether you will miscarry. It often happens to women who are going to have their first child. So, why should you make it up to him?
It would be... (read in full...)
Is it ok if an eight-year-old masturbates?
Q. I been babysitting all my life since i was 16. I baby sit this 8 yr old girl she's Always wanting Privacy. One Day I was Baby sitting Just her cause the other went to spend the night with grandparents. well One Day i was down stairs Doing some ...
A. 8 September 2008: The answers will vary, particularly because this is an eight year old girl. I'm not sure if this is something we should consider as "correct" or "wrong". She's doing it, because she enjoys it, and many other small boys and girls do it as well. ... (read in full...)
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