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writes:I am 19 years old, about 5'6", I weigh (roughly) around 110 pounds, and I have a size 32D bust. I went from being that "ugly girl" to a "hot girl" (I was teased A LOT as a kid because of my teeth and how long it took me to develop).Here's my problem: Even though I do get attention now, I still feel insecure. I went from being teased all the time to getting all this attention.I don't believe anyone that calls me "hot", beautiful, sexy or gorgeous. I take cute and pretty, but anything else I have a hard time taking. I've been pretty good when it comes to how I feel, but there are days where I feel so ugly, I just sit and cry. My (ex by technical terms, but we're working on things) tells me I'm cute all the time. He doesn't really use the word beautiful (which also hurts).It also hurts when I know he looks at porn.How can I get over this insecurity? Whenever he talks about another girl (whether it be saying she's pretty to anything else) I get so jealous and instantly close up. I want to be able to be flirty and sexy for him (or any guy I'm with, for that matter) but I feel like I can't. I would love to learn how to pole dance (not professionally, just as something for a workout and for my boyfriend) but when it comes down to it, I feel like I wouldn't be good enough. I would love tips on how to overcome this and feel beautiful and sexy.What I feel insecure about are my breasts. I know I wear a 32D, but they don't look that big. I don't wish they were huge, but I wish they appeared better to me. I have faint stretch marks from them growing so fast (due to birth control) and I hate them. I'm pale./view.php?pic=1zz259g and s=5I really hope to hear some responses. This is something I've been battling for awhile. Hearing that I'm pretty just doesn't do it. :/
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Well, since you don't believe those words, let me call you "highly desirable" and that will do, I hope :-).
Now, seriously, you just need to learn to put that big insecurity of yours in the garbage (sorry, the recycle bin), accept compliments gracefully, and that's it. Nobody is perfect, not even Microsoft Word.
I have the feeling that you got a lot more than the average Jane, only she does not need Tarzan to reassure her. Some approving looks from Cheetah, while the chimp takes lice off his hair and eats them, is perhaps all Jane needs.
You would want to keep the King of the Apes always by your side and feel sure of his love, and think your beauty will do the trick. It helps, yes, but not being insecure is like 90% of the way.
Don't learn pole dancing just for him. He's the King of the Apes anyways and he moves from vine to vine (bumping into an occasional tree). If you want to learn pole dancing, do it for yourself.
Well, I'm off to save some more people in the forest.
Kriga bundolo! OOOOOOOO, OOOOOOOOh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): iAshee, you are still in the "adolescent panic" stage. Get out of it. Go with who you are, not what you perceived yourself or were perceived to be as a child. "Beautiful" is a very dashy word. It does not mean the same to everyone. There are many women celebrities, actresses and models, who all the mags call "beautiful", but I do do not think they all are....Many of their faces are really pretty blank...with no character or personality. Worry less about your looks and more about what people think of you as a person. (hugs) Tom.
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