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writes:4 years ago, I met 2 men on the same day: I was interested in both of them, but only one of them very assertively pursued me and I ended up in a realtionship with him for 2 years, and friends with the other "romantic associate"/man during that time. After I broke up with the other gentleman, my "friend" (other romantic associate?) invited me over, he made me dinner, but I was so heartbroken over my recent break up that that's what we ended up talking about all night, as well as his broken heart from years ago. 2 years later: here we are. Things have "changed" between us; I am over my break up and starting to develop feelings for him - I KNOW since day one he liked me. We've been close friends for 4 years but now we just started kissing a few weeks ago, talking almost every day, he's always cuddling me, holding my hand, affectionate - but as a gentleman. He's never touched me in a sexual way. The other night we were snuggling on the sofa and I could tell he was aroused, but, he walked me to my car, kissed me (a lot) and said good night without even trying anything! What is going on?! Most men would ripping my cloths off by now - can someone please explain what's happening? Thank you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 In addition to all that has been said, give him time and, believe me, he will sleep with you :-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): You answered your own question...he's a gentleman! Take it slow, enjoy the foreplay. This is the most exciting time of a relationship! Don't look at it as though something is wrong with it! He's priming you. He's waiting for you to be good and primed...when you can't take anymore "priming" make a move! It's okay for you to let him know you are ready for MORE! He's waiting for a sign from you that you are ready! So, enjoy!
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Odds are hes like me and wont make the first move unless there is a major hint that action is wanted. I just don't want to risk messing up a friendship or relationship by letting my urges get the best of me. All men have the same urges but some tend to retain them and try to do what is right to both people involved.
I ask you this would you rather him be sex starved and basically trying to strip you down to nothing in a matter of seconds with little consent. I think not.
Previous answer is right he isn't other guys. There are exceptions to the sex starved pervert of a male, you just haven't looked for one in the right places.
Sounds like you hit the jackpot, lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): maybe he wants to take it slow and make it special, maybe he's afriad to take the next step and gamble on your friendship?? he can answer this question best. just ask him! it seems like he is really interested
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): Key word: "most". Is he "most" men?
Think: It's not that difficult. If you feel that he's a gentleman, then [drum roll] he is....... You guessed it. A gentleman.
Advice: Lay off on the mental drama and just go with the flow. Rather than fret over what "most" other men might do, just do whatever you feel is right for you in this new relationship. Maybe you can even be a little more assertive on your part. Then again, caution: he may be trying to take it slower.
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