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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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He invited me for coffee does that mean he fancies me?
Q. Hi, i'm Brenda and i'm 37.. been married no kids.. well i have a sandwich business and deliver to various offices, well theres this one guy who is hot - really hot - he has his own office (just him working there) we always chat for ages anyway he ...
A. 7 June 2009: You can now see that he did mean to ask you out. If you find him nice, why not give him a try? It's OK to be nervous.... (read in full...)
Males please-He seems to like me but I'm unsure about how to make the first move
Q. Of course all help and/or opinions will be much appreciated, but if possible a male's opinion would be amazing. There's this guy that I've liked for a while, probably a couple of months now and up until about 3 weeks ago, the most I'd said to...
A. 4 June 2009: Nobody is perfect. But maybe you can use the fact that you haven't seen him in a long time to arrange something.
I hope you're not Chelsea fans?... (read in full...)
Women who have left their husbands..how did you finally make the choice?
Q. I know,it is a very hard question.. But I wonder, how those, who decided to leave their husband were making their choice? When is it really enough, even if it is, painful, and risky? And very unsure ,how it will be after.. Cheating ? Abuse ? What i...
A. 25 May 2009: I have certainly never left a husband (and never will :-), since I'm straight), and never been married, but, at risk of underestimating your situation, I will make some comments based on the decision to leave someone you love, even if you're not ... (read in full...)
What does a girl have to do to become COMPLETELY desired by her man?
Q. I believe in some cases that the help provided here has shaped and even changed the outcome of some peoples lives. I desperatly need a little coaching or direction myself and would sincerely be gratfeul for any advice. What does a girlfriend hav...
A. 25 May 2009: I have the feeling that you believe that playing hard to get makes men desire women. "Playing hard to get" is not the same as "the chase". And then, love or desire do not come from a formula, something like "1-2-3 - there you go, you're ... (read in full...)
Drama Queen! I'm sick of it!
Q. i am with a girl. we planned a trip to hawaii but she cancelled because she will have her period then. we were supposed to go to a music festival yesterday but she canceled because i would not apologize to her for not opening a door for her all...
A. 25 May 2009: You can try to fix the relationship, or you can just give up. I would give up. I don't think she's a reasonable person, and I do think she wants you for a doormat.... (read in full...)
How do you back-off emotionally or withdraw emotionally in a relationship.
Q. How do you effectively back-away emotionally from a partner in a relationship. I've been with my fiance for 4 years. Lately she's been giving me really weird vibes and is very unclear as what she really wants from me. We were supposed to get ...
A. 23 May 2009: I would suppose that someone who wants to marry someone else would be trying to find ways to become closer to that person, not to detach himself emotionally. I see serious trouble here.
I have the feeling that you want to keep the relation... (read in full...)
How do you learn to love somebody more than the person you wanted to be with for the rest of your life?
Q. I'm 19, I've only ever had one real relationship, and it was long distance. My relationship was the best time of my life, and now that's over I don't feel like I will ever love somebody as much as I loved her. I miss her so much, but we're finished ...
A. 23 May 2009: Your time will come and you won't have to learn anything. Just let your heart open up.... (read in full...)
Bad boys verses gentlemen...
Q. all i have ever come across is players and bad boys that only want me for sex and never treat me right. Recently i started dating a guy and i was genuinely shocked! He wines and dines me, wants to meet up to go out during the day (not just textin...
A. 23 May 2009: You choose. A bad boy who is sexually forward, or this guy who wines and dines you.
Me, I will take this hint and never open doors for girls, wine or dine them, et cetera. This surely is the way to go.... (read in full...)
My girl's ethnic preference has got me down.. Don't wanna be racist, and don't think I am. But it still smarts!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and everything has been great. She's warm, funny, loving, great in bed, and on and on. I love her. Hell yeah I do! And we are about to move in together. Sounds great, right? It is, BUT.. I've been...
A. 23 May 2009: Disclaimer: I'm brown, which means my mum is white and my father is not. So I may not be the person you'd prefer to give an opinion on this, but, just like Hugo Chávez in front of a microphone, I can't be stopped. I just hope I'll be different ... (read in full...)
Married 25 years, great sex life, now at 45 years of age, have lost my sex drive, is this normal?
Q. I'm married to my wife 25 years ago. We had great sex, she is the love of my life. But a few years ago, I lost my sex drive, and have very weak erections. We have no sex life left, because of me. I went to the doc, but he says,I have no medical p...
A. 23 May 2009: See a doctor to rule out erectile dysfunction, and, if that is not the problem, tell your wife about the problem.... (read in full...)
Married 25 years, great sex life, now at 45 years of age, have lost my sex drive, is this normal?
Q. I'm married to my wife 25 years ago. We had great sex, she is the love of my life. But a few years ago, I lost my sex drive, and have very weak erections. We have no sex life left, because of me. I went to the doc, but he says,I have no medical p...
A. 22 May 2009: Sexual behavior is always difficult to define as "normal". However, I understand that your problem is very common. Old age is setting in, but, also, 25 years carry weight, you know?
Once, a man whose views I feel a tremendous respect for, who... (read in full...)
He's slept with nearly 100 women... opinions please!
Q. Hi would just like to ask what people make of a 30 year old man who has slept with nearly 100 women?...
A. 22 May 2009: Irish is right.... (read in full...)
He's slept with nearly 100 women... opinions please!
Q. Hi would just like to ask what people make of a 30 year old man who has slept with nearly 100 women?...
A. 22 May 2009: As Irish says, not necessarily is there something inherently bad in his having slept with that number of women. If he did, that is, and he's not promoting himself.
Again, why did he tell you this? Maybe because he wants you to know who he is. ... (read in full...)
He invited me for coffee does that mean he fancies me?
Q. Hi, i'm Brenda and i'm 37.. been married no kids.. well i have a sandwich business and deliver to various offices, well theres this one guy who is hot - really hot - he has his own office (just him working there) we always chat for ages anyway he ...
A. 21 May 2009: I'm with Fatherly Advice. He likes you.... (read in full...)
Career or baby... what do I do?
Q. okay i know im gonna get some abuse from all angry pregnant teens or parents on this site, but i have a baby shaped hole that really needs filling, but im so torn i really want a baby more than anything but i really wanna get my career sorted first, ...
A. 21 May 2009: I'm with Britt. Career first, baby later. Wait until you're something like 30.... (read in full...)
Males please-He seems to like me but I'm unsure about how to make the first move
Q. Of course all help and/or opinions will be much appreciated, but if possible a male's opinion would be amazing. There's this guy that I've liked for a while, probably a couple of months now and up until about 3 weeks ago, the most I'd said to...
A. 20 May 2009: I think we can't be sure whether he likes you, or liked the fact that he could talk about your common team. However, if you like him, let it show, and that way you'll know if he likes you too. Too bad the season is almost over, but perhaps you can ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep hurting this man when I love him so much?
Q. I am 34 separated from my husband because in the relationship Was mentally and verbally abused and also betrayed by my ex and Now I am in a relationship were I know the guy loves me but I keep Hurting him by calling other men and having them all ...
A. 20 May 2009: Two things:
Because you don't care at all about the new boyfriend,
OR
because you don't want to get hurt again, so you hurt the guy first. As in "Nah, you didn't hurt me; I did it".
Either way, it makes no sense.... (read in full...)
Do guys get over their first love and girls dont?
Q. i just want to know one thing,which is really frustrating so guys get over their first love they say they do but y cant i ever agree to them although i want to.. isn't it hard to forget the first love? ...
A. 20 May 2009: No. Everyone gets over the first love.... (read in full...)
Do guys like tall women?
Q. Im majorly tall, as in over 6ft (6ft 3 to be exact). i cant seem to find any guys taller than me who are at all attractive to me, and i worry that im not attractive to anyone else. I always feel out of place in any public place, and people stare at ...
A. 20 May 2009: I do. Everything in them is bigger :-).... (read in full...)
Deployed for 10 months to Iraq and now my wife claims she is no longer in love with me!
Q. Hi everyone, I need a little help with my marrige. Im in Iraq right now and i have been deployed for 10 month. I call my wife last sunday and she tells me she loves me but is no longer in love with me. This came out of the blue and i have no idea ...
A. 20 May 2009: Call me a bastard, but ask her to make up her mind. Did she fall out of love, yet she wants you to call her and still is "100%" committed to the marriage? I think you should be sure, and she should, too. I'm sorry to repeat this, but YOU CAN'T ... (read in full...)
Do girls like guys that try really hard?
Q. do girls hate guys that try to hard? I like this girl, but she's interested in some-one else i think, anyway when i talk to her i just feel like i need to spill my feeling for her? if you get me.. but if i do will she hate it? should i hang ...
A. 20 May 2009: Trying too hard is too close to being a nuisance. Trying hard is also hard on you. If you're doing your best and she won't respond, find someone else.... (read in full...)
Deployed for 10 months to Iraq and now my wife claims she is no longer in love with me!
Q. Hi everyone, I need a little help with my marrige. Im in Iraq right now and i have been deployed for 10 month. I call my wife last sunday and she tells me she loves me but is no longer in love with me. This came out of the blue and i have no idea ...
A. 20 May 2009: Call me an extremist, but I agree with Stars20. From my point of view, there's no use in trying to hold onto someone who does not want you there in the first place. So, my honest and heart-felt opinion is that you should move on. Call her, by all ... (read in full...)
I made out with another guy but am not going to tell fiance
Q. So, I have know my fiance for most of our lives. He's one of my best friends, but the other night I made out with this guy I've known for like 12 years (no sex, just making out). Yes, I was drinking, but I wasn't drunk. I only had one drink. I...
A. 18 May 2009: The key point here is not so much telling or not telling your fiancé, but why you decided to make out with the other guy. You don't claim to have been drunk, which would be no excuse anyways; but your own statement has the value of showing that ... (read in full...)
Can I enlarge the size of my manhood?
Q. I want to ask you folks if there is anyway to enlarge my manhood without an operation and are those oerations good and effective in enlarging manhood?? I have a high sex drive and i can last very long 40 minutes but i am very shy of the size "4 ...
A. 18 May 2009: You've already received other kind of advice. I may add my two cents: If any of those penis-enlarging creams or stuff worked, then many men would be happy to *SHOW* the world their great achievement. Since that doesn't happen, you know what to ... (read in full...)
Colour, hair and personality...
Q. Do guys prefer blonde girls to black haired girls? Do they prefer them tall or short, tomboy or girly girly type? Do they prefer a heavy girl with blond hair who is short and heavy or black haired who is short and heavy?? ...
A. 17 May 2009: I agree with Satin, but then I have to add that, while you may have a preference for a particular kind of woman, you might like someone, and very much, even if she does not fit your "ideal".
If you want to know wheter you're attractive, in gener... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 15 May 2009: I just hope the gardening tool in question is NOT a machete.... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to be a middle aged old bag!
Q. I just had my 30th birthday last week, and it's a shock to reach that age where you have to feel ashamed of how old you are. I'm not ready to be a middle aged old bag. I wish and wish I were a young girl again. I've been extremely depressed, and ...
A. 12 May 2009: Yep, you're a bit crazy, because you have not yet understood that life is better at your age than ever before.
Some people who are much older than you are enjoying their life way better than they whent hey were young. Of course, you can't en... (read in full...)
He had an affair before we married... should I just come out and ask him if it's true?
Q. My husband Mark, and I have only been married for 5 months, we have a great sex life and we spend a lot of time together. A few weeks ago a female friend of mine that I have known for 6 years told me that she saw Mark with another woman at a ...
A. 11 May 2009: I think there is no way to improve on Baby Duck's answer.... (read in full...)
My wife is telling everyone but me that we're getting a divorce
Q. Hi there, I found out my wife is telling all her friends that she is getting a divorce from me. She hasnt told me yet! It all started when she started to work for a fashion store and she started to go to clubs with the younger employees. I had no p...
A. 11 May 2009: Yes, there are loyal women left. You'll find one.... (read in full...)
Sit around and wait? Or find another person?
Q. I am 36 she is 44. age is not a problem as we seen past this in our first month of our relationship. we have been dating for over a year now and she has seemed to of lost interest in me. Our first 6 months were great. Sex all the time sometimes 3...
A. 10 May 2009: Opinions about what each person would do could vary, but, in your situation, all you can do is behave as a friend. Which means you're free to find someone else. How much you should go about that, only you can tell. Just bear in mind that you have ... (read in full...)
My wife is telling everyone but me that we're getting a divorce
Q. Hi there, I found out my wife is telling all her friends that she is getting a divorce from me. She hasnt told me yet! It all started when she started to work for a fashion store and she started to go to clubs with the younger employees. I had no p...
A. 10 May 2009: I don't see a marriage worth saving. Just write her a note: "Complete Stranger: Since you're divorcing me, I'm leaving you. You're so good at telling things that you can take care of letting our friends know, can't you? Without any love left, ... (read in full...)
He prefers bigger breasts and mine are small...how do I deal with his remarks about that?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to stop being insecure, but I don't know how. Granted, never been the most self confident chick in the block, since I'm not the prettiest. But when we started dating, he used to compliment me a lot which gave me a huge ...
A. 10 May 2009: Well, poster, I am sorry to say that you don't get it. And I'm choosing my words, not to hurt you, but indeed to insist on what you are missing.
Again: you don't have to have anybody's dream physique. You're as you are and who you are. Most me... (read in full...)
Do I trust logic? Or my intuition?
Q. So I have this moral dilemma. Basically my brain has more proof than it ever had before that things between me and my ex are through. She said to: "Leave me alone, and I will not read or listen to anything you have to say" That was about ...
A. 10 May 2009: My opinion is that you should always go for the HARD facts. "HARD" as in "solid, likely to be useful as foundations".
What you know here is that she says one thing now, and an absolutely opposite thing later. You already apologized, and she can ... (read in full...)
He prefers bigger breasts and mine are small...how do I deal with his remarks about that?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to stop being insecure, but I don't know how. Granted, never been the most self confident chick in the block, since I'm not the prettiest. But when we started dating, he used to compliment me a lot which gave me a huge ...
A. 10 May 2009: Poster, please DON'T ignore my post about men liking big breasts. That is the truth. It does not mean that we can't get to like smaller breasts, or that you have to feel bad with your breasts, but it is the truth. If I am lying, how come all the ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 10 May 2009: I don't mean any harm, poster, but I agree with Armywife. Give the thing a mental rest and do what you have to do.... (read in full...)
He prefers bigger breasts and mine are small...how do I deal with his remarks about that?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to stop being insecure, but I don't know how. Granted, never been the most self confident chick in the block, since I'm not the prettiest. But when we started dating, he used to compliment me a lot which gave me a huge ...
A. 10 May 2009: There is no woman in this world that is exactly the way her man wants her to be, yet men fall in love with them. Not only in your country, but around the world all men like big breasts. So, your breasts are smaller than he wishes they were. ... (read in full...)
Do I disappear until after the court case is handled?
Q. I have a problem with the man that I am dating now...the issue that we have come across is that the man that i am dating is going through a nasty custody battle and recently divorced. I have been dating him for about four months now and he has been ...
A. 9 May 2009: You're in pain because you love the man but can't be with him, and you fear that perhaps he's forgetting you and will not come back to you at all.
It seems early to say he has forgotten you. Or to say he will. But, I know this is heartbre... (read in full...)
Within a few days I lost my pregnancy and my Mom booted me from her life. How do I cope with this?!?!
Q. well three months ago i found out i was pregnant for the first time, i have always wanted kids as i have been raised looking after my twin 10 year younger brothers and helping out looking after my two nieces. well as u can expect i was over the moon ...
A. 9 May 2009: I know this will sound like too easy to say, particularly coming from someone who has not experienced your pain, but the honest advice I can give you is to let your pain follow its course, yes, but also to make a resolve to carry on, no matter what. ... (read in full...)
Neep help with a big decision!
Q. So I'm faced with a really huge decision I have to make, and soon. My husband has told me that he wants our marriage to end. I have tried to persuade him to reconsider, get counselling, take a break etc. but he is not budging. The tricky thing is, I ...
A. 6 May 2009: We must not be afraid of mistakes, not only because we will always make more than a few, but also because they help us learn. In your case, you're young and you have a long time to make up for your past mistakes, problems, whatever.
Sorry... (read in full...)
He likes to call me names like whore, bitch and slut. Is this normal for a person in love to call his girlfriend these names in bed?
Q. My boyfriend likes to either be dominanted or be dominant in bed. I have figured out what turns him on. I on the other hand like it without the role playing every time. He either wants to pretend that I'm raping him or that I'm this naughty girl ...
A. 5 May 2009: This isn't something I would like, either. I remember that some time ago I read an article about why people would do this. The logic to it is that some people have grown up believing that sex is a dirty thing, and they can't have it unless they ... (read in full...)
My wife touched his privates to check out his problem..did she go too far?
Q. I need a little advice, or maybe just reassurance, or maybe someone to tell me i'm being dumb. Or maybe I am right and this is nothing. My wife has her 2 year degree, and about 2 years ago we decided that she should pursue a full degree to get ce...
A. 3 May 2009: I do believe she went over the edge. Both of them did.... (read in full...)
My marriage is dead. Is there a chance with this new woman?
Q. I am a 57 year old married man with two teenage daughters one of whom does not live with my wife and I any more and the other being 17 years old. My marriage is dead and has been for years. There is no love any more between my wife and I and too ...
A. 3 May 2009: I think I need to give you three opinions, not one. One is about your divorce, the second about the 21 year old, and the third is about the two things not being one and the same.
Regarding your divorce, it seems that there is no reason related ... (read in full...)
29 and want to leave home for Spain, how do I tell my Mum?
Q. I really love my mom, but I'm having a problem with my mom and don't know how to deal with it. I've decided that I want to go study in Spain this year, in the fall. I've discussed my plans with my mother, but she is "freaking out." You m...
A. 2 May 2009: The only way is tell her, simply. She should respect your decision.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 26 April 2009: I misunderstood your post, then. You don't want to be a virgin because you would feel bad about yourself if she weren't.
I'm afraid there's no solution here, because I don't see a problem, either. Everyone has sex for a first time, and it can h... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 26 April 2009: At 15, most guys say they are having sex, even if they aren't. That is called "bragging", I guess. Don't believe everything you hear.
Anyways, having sex just because the rest of the pack are having sex -or say they are- is a bad idea. If the r... (read in full...)
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