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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 15 May 2009: I just hope the gardening tool in question is NOT a machete.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 10 May 2009: I don't mean any harm, poster, but I agree with Armywife. Give the thing a mental rest and do what you have to do.... (read in full...)
29 and want to leave home for Spain, how do I tell my Mum?
Q. I really love my mom, but I'm having a problem with my mom and don't know how to deal with it. I've decided that I want to go study in Spain this year, in the fall. I've discussed my plans with my mother, but she is "freaking out." You m...
A. 2 May 2009: The only way is tell her, simply. She should respect your decision.... (read in full...)
When a man has an orgasm. Is it the same feeling as when a women has one?
Q. When a man has an orgasm. Is it the same feeling as when a women has one? Also could a man have an orgasm without actually semen coming out! Say if u were sucking there nipples?...
A. 1 May 2009: No one will ever know whether orgams is the same for both sexes.
As to "dry" orgasms in a man, it is possible, if you have had sex enough times to "deplete" the semen you had in store, whatever the method of stimulation.... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 1 May 2009: I agree with Lazy Guy :-). He hit the nail on the head. That would be too good to be true.... (read in full...)
I need a job but I don't want to work because my boyfriend is already giving me everything I need!
Q. i need some advice and no judgement please, my problem is, my boyfriend is taking care of me,very good care. what ever i neeed he provide, he's on the wealthy side, but i need a job, but i don't want to work because he giving me every thing i need ...
A. 1 May 2009: Get a job. Since you wouldn't really need the money, you're free to find a job that suits you, not anything that comes your way. But, by all means, get a job. You'll live a more productive life, you'll have your independence, and you'll have the ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to start my life with the person I love?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been with eachother a year and a half and we are also living together(with his fam.)I work and i support him untill he finishes college. He just got a job, so i asked him... "when are we moving out?" he said whenever he ...
A. 1 May 2009: It is only right that you want to move out and have a home of your own. You're not at all wrong in this.
I also want to praise you for wanting to stand on your own feet. You see, it's true that you're supporting him, but, as he said yourself... (read in full...)
Another chance? OR forget it?
Q. hey, i know this girl likes me very much but before i talked to her and things went ok then i sent her message on holiday and she said that i have a boyfriend and i dont want you as a friend and she hasnt any boyfriend so i said ok it was my fau...
A. 1 May 2009: I agree with the other two posts. She said she didn't want you, so let that be what happens. Ignore her and move on.... (read in full...)
She's gonna think I'm hitting her up only for sex
Q. Im a student at university and everyday i study in the library because of exams. and theres this girl who i think is really nice that i see there and i would like to get to know her. but recently a group of ppl in the library put on a porn video and ...
A. 1 May 2009: I don't see why she would think that. Like redharley said, you can use that for an ice-breaker.... (read in full...)
My husband is very mean to me
Q. I have been married for 18 years and i am very frustrated and confused about my marriage. I love my husband but i am not in love with him anymore because of the way he treats me. He is the kind of person who punishes me when he does not get his way. ...
A. 1 May 2009: I agree with Old Guy, word by word.... (read in full...)
Views on sex based abortion
Q. This is a question for those who are pro abortion or against it. I know of a person who has been pregnant 3 times and each time she found out she was having a boy and decided to have an abortion because she wanted a girl. Do you think this is ...
A. 30 April 2009: Just a comment: some men have impregnated women "unintentionally" and are very much in favor of abortion. The opposite of that, in our countries, is called "responsible fatherhood".... (read in full...)
Views on sex based abortion
Q. This is a question for those who are pro abortion or against it. I know of a person who has been pregnant 3 times and each time she found out she was having a boy and decided to have an abortion because she wanted a girl. Do you think this is ...
A. 30 April 2009: I'll add another grain of salt. In India, many women choose to have an abortion because they know that they will give birth to a girl. It's just the same case as the one you describe, only girls are killed.
Question: Do you, poster, see any ... (read in full...)
Views on sex based abortion
Q. This is a question for those who are pro abortion or against it. I know of a person who has been pregnant 3 times and each time she found out she was having a boy and decided to have an abortion because she wanted a girl. Do you think this is ...
A. 29 April 2009: No. Why not use contraception instead?... (read in full...)
Gay unrequited love problem.
Q. Quick details: 16 years old, 17 in August, England, Currently in college studying IT in hopes of going into industry. I have a case of homosexual unrequited love. He's straight, i'm gay, iv'e felt like this for about 8 months now, except then ...
A. 29 April 2009: I agree that getting over someone is not easy. But it can be done, provided that you really do not wish to suffer in vain.
I assume the advice for your situation is the same I would give to unrequited heterosexual love. This hurts a lot, but... (read in full...)
Do guys just want us girls for sex?
Q. is it true that when a guy is with a girl it is mostly for sex? most of my guy friends say they love a girl but then say i wanna do her tonight....
A. 29 April 2009: At your age, boys are desperate to have sex and some won't hesitate to speak sweet nothings just to get a girl in bed. It's a huge discovery they are making, too, and sometimes they won't really care what happens.
Some boys your age can also fal... (read in full...)
Will a shy guy's friend's pressure him into asking a girl out?
Q. If a guy likes a girl, but he is really shy and can't bring himself to talk to her and his friends know that he likes her. Will his friends start to pressure him into asking her out?...
A. 28 April 2009: Most likely they won't. The guy might be shy with girls, but I'm damned sure he's not shy with his pals. He will tell them to mind their own business. So, no, the pals won't put pressure on him.... (read in full...)
Abusive partner, what should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with this man for 12 yrs. and it's been off and on. He's been cheating, lying and he's even gotten the women he cheats with pregnant, he doesn't respect me, doesn't appreciates me, and when me and him get into an ...
A. 28 April 2009: I can tell you what to do: leave the man. However, it is you who needs to gather the strength to do just that. It will be very hard, but that's the only way you'll be free.... (read in full...)
She cheated, and I left but now she will not leave me alone!!
Q. I just recently broke up with my girfriend of 5 years. She had an affair with a co-worker last year, and I almost left her then. But I confronted her about it, and she begged me not to leave her. Well we worked things out, and I thought things were ...
A. 28 April 2009: She knows she very much controls you, and thinks you will accept any excuse she comes up with. She's been cheating on you for long, and will continue to do it. So, simply stand your ground and leave, forever.
Don't be heartbroken. She doesn't ... (read in full...)
Too shy? Or just not into me?
Q. Ok so I really like this guy and I see him everyday in the cafeteria, he always sits with a group of friends and i'm usually sitting alone, just so that I'm available if he comes and talks to me.. So today we both just exchanged stares all day, ...
A. 28 April 2009: Jrcook is right.... (read in full...)
Is he nervous/unsure or are we just friends?
Q. I just started talking to a guy online that I met through a dating website. We talk almost every day (he contacts me through IM or email), but he talks to me like I'm just a friend. I have flirted with him a bit, but he doesn't respond at all to my ...
A. 28 April 2009: I think he might want to be sure of what he's doing. So, as Irish said, at this moment he wants to be friends. Maybe it's best if you wait a little. Some of us don't like to be pushed into relationships.... (read in full...)
How do guys feel when a woman acts like she isn't interested anymore?
Q. I have a thing for this guy, and as far as what i'm getting from him, i think he had good intentions in the beginning, i missed a few signs, like him inviting me to party with his friends, him telling me personal info, just things like that, we ...
A. 27 April 2009: Guys who love you or care about you will care about lack of interest from you, whatever the ages of the persons involved.... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 27 April 2009: Guys, do you think my surname can be the reason why I'm single?... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 27 April 2009: If you send me a private message I will let you know. Just don't make a face at me...... (read in full...)
She's really independent -- should I worry that she doesn't want to hang with me everyday?
Q. When dating a girl who is really independant and likes doing her own thing how do you go about dating her? She likes to hang with her friends and do things on her own. She is a freshman in college I'm a junior in college. Is this just what young ...
A. 27 April 2009: Well, I'm not sure what to say. The meaning of "not wanting to hang with you" is the key here. If that means "not really caring much about you", then I would worry. If it means "not giving up her group of friends and her old activities, but still ... (read in full...)
Insecure over the casual sex she had before me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now and have a great relationship, a month or two into our relationship, we were walking down the street and this guy grabbed her from behind in a friendly sort of way. When he left, she casually ...
A. 27 April 2009: There is nothing you can do to change the past. She can't, either. All you can do is keep going. If this thing she did is something you can't get over, you will have to leave her. It will be best for her and you.... (read in full...)
He's angry because I want to keep the baby!
Q. I met a guy a few months ago, from the get go I knew he had a girlfriend of four months at the time. We got involved and had a intimate relationship. I recently found out I was pregnant and i told him and he flipped and told me to get rid of the ...
A. 27 April 2009: I think you should forget about this man, because he doesn't love you and most probably doesn't care about you or the baby.
He said it loud and clear: if it were the baby by another woman, he would want to keep it. But, he doesn't want to keep ... (read in full...)
Irish spice!
Q. Hi Me and my girlfriend have been together around 3 years now. We met in Spain while she was studying and I was working. At the time I was earning really good money, the best I have ever earned and she was earning nothing just money from her m...
A. 27 April 2009: Satin hit the nail on the head.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 26 April 2009: I misunderstood your post, then. You don't want to be a virgin because you would feel bad about yourself if she weren't.
I'm afraid there's no solution here, because I don't see a problem, either. Everyone has sex for a first time, and it can h... (read in full...)
My husband's parents favor his kids more than my oldest child.
Q. My husband's parents favor his kids more than my oldest child. I got with him 2 days after i found out i was pregnant with my son (3 years old) he sees my son as his own. He has a daughter that is 8 and we have a 2 week old daughter together. the ...
A. 26 April 2009: I'm sorry, but I think there is no way to change that family's feelings. They don't feel that your child is their flesh and blood and, in a strict sense, he isn't. They should be able to be bigger persons and love an innocent child, but they ... (read in full...)
Advice needed... How do you get over your first love?
Q. How do you get over your first love? I realized I still have feelings for my first boyfriend (for more details check my other question, please), who I dated for about 3 years. I want to forget about him because he is in a relationship and...
A. 26 April 2009: To get over someone, you must make a decision to do so. Sounds untrue, but it is true.
You need to understand, with your mind, that your relationship is over, and that the commitments he has and your way to be make it impossible for you to be to... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 26 April 2009: At 15, most guys say they are having sex, even if they aren't. That is called "bragging", I guess. Don't believe everything you hear.
Anyways, having sex just because the rest of the pack are having sex -or say they are- is a bad idea. If the r... (read in full...)
Are these the signs that he fancies you?
Q. If a boy gives you these signs does that mean they FANCY you: • Staring at me in to my eyes • Makes me laugh • Comes out and knocks on my door too see me NOT my brother once asked where I was. • Sometimes stays out in my garden to wait til...
A. 26 April 2009: Sounds like he does like you. But you need to find out for sure.... (read in full...)
This guy sent me a text message saying he wants me. Should I confront him next time or leave it as it is?
Q. This guy is a player...I met as a customer who helped me close a deal. He has a GF and he's GI also. I know he doesn't like me and although he's cute, he's not my type. He went out w/ some buddies and I got a message last night from his cell sa...
A. 26 April 2009: I agree with the girls. If he had any interest, this is not the way to show it, and his conditions are not right.... (read in full...)
Who can advise him how to leave his wife and children for me?
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man with children. We want to be together but he is finding it very difficult to foresee a way he can leave his children. Is there any advise as to who would be the right person to talk to to help him achieve ...
A. 26 April 2009: I assume he is not resorting to old, worn-out excuses here, and that he really wants out of his marriage but is afraid of the consequences on his children.
I'm afraid there is no right person to talk to him. Whether he will divorce, when, or... (read in full...)
How can I tell my family that I want to have sex?
Q. i am 14 years old. and my boyfriend is 15 and i love him and loves me too.and i want to have sex with him but im scared that my family will think that i am a hoe. what should i do? i really want to have sex with him because i love him how should i...
A. 26 April 2009: I agree with bobbles32: this isn't the sort of thing I would discuss with my parents. Sex is your thing, not something that needs anybody's approval.
However, sex at 14 is a very bad idea. I was 14 once, and I know why you want it and all that... (read in full...)
How can I split up with him?
Q. I am in what I know is a bad relationship that is going on 9 years but I feel trapped. I have two children from a previous marriage and one with my boyfriend. I have had a well paying, flexible job working for an older couple that I feel a great ...
A. 26 April 2009: This does seem a difficult situation, particularly because you have a child with your boyfriend. So, even if you end your relationship with him, you will still have to come to an understanding with him, and see him once in a while.
This sounds l... (read in full...)
Is it my personality they are attracted to?
Q. hello all, well i will have to explain first before my quesiton so please follow :), okay im 18 guys with normal face and a nice body (178 cm,75kg). there are many girls in school who are attracted to me and not to anyone of my group or...
A. 26 April 2009: Man, I wish I had your problem! Enjoy!... (read in full...)
My husband is converting to Islam and wants ME to convert too!
Q. I was shocked by what I found around the house when I woke up this morning. There were a lot of prayer books and a copy of the Koran (is that how you spell it??) lying around, plus some other Islamic literature. I asked my husband why there was Is...
A. 26 April 2009: I believe your religion is a matter that belongs to yourself. If he wants to convert to Islam, which is as respectable a religion as any, that is his right, but, by the same principle, he can't ask you to convert, too. He must know by now that you ... (read in full...)
Raped -- what can I do?
Q. I have a rather strange question. I am pretty sure I was raped. I question it becasue I don't think I can do much about it. I knew this guy since forever..he gave me a ride home, and next I know we are out in the woods and he parks the truck. Next, ...
A. 25 April 2009: I'm sorry to hear that you were raped, because that is what it was. I disagree with you: there's a lot you can do about it.
I suggest you report the case to the Police. Let them help you determine whether something can be actually done against ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 25 April 2009: Just some humour: If your guy had MY last name, I am sure HE would ask you, on his knees, to keep your own name :-), and perhaps to even share yours with him :-).
I think you've got a lot of good opinions here. Just keep your name and that's i... (read in full...)
I'm a disaster when it comes to relationships
Q. Hi! I need some help to figure out my feelings. I'm a disaster when it comes to relationships. I like some guy and then I always end up dating him seriously without really falling in love with him...So, yeah, my relationships have all b...
A. 25 April 2009: We don't have any details about your relationships and why they end the way they do, or why you get involved with someone you don't love. I'm afraid that, even if we did, no hard and fast conclusion could be derived. So I think all I can do is ... (read in full...)
Because we live 50 miles apart I only see him weekends but he never seems to want sex!
Q. HELP!! I'm a 31 year old woman driving myself MAD!! I've been with my fella for 8 months now and we live 50 miles apart so see each other most weekends... my sex drive is way high and all I want to do is *well-you know* when we get time together, ...
A. 20 April 2009: Something seems to be the matter, but I am not sure what. His behavior is not what I would expect, but I can't tell you why he acts like that.
Maybe he's not interested anymore, but let's not rush to conclusions.... (read in full...)
How easily can a guy get an erection?
Q. Hello. So this is a general question to everyone so all you guys and girls out there please feel free to go ahead and answer. So this subject intrigues me and i want to understand it more. So guys my age 14-15, how easily can they get an erection...
A. 19 April 2009: Yes, it's possible, particularly at that age.... (read in full...)
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