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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Does a German woman/woman marriage "count" in the US?
Q. hey every one out there!!! got a question i 'm still married to a woman back in germany but i live here since 2006 and i'm also married to a man !!! does the marriage count here i mean between woman a woman?? cuz i here it don't!!! everyb...
A. 13 December 2008: I think you would have a problem in Germany. The same sex marriage is valid there; and the "heteromarriage" is valid, too. So you commited bigamy for the Germans, that's for sure.
And then, I'm not sure what happens with "homomar... (read in full...)
What visual characteristics are guys attracted to?
Q. What are some visual characteristics that get guys attention in a good way? Such as clothing, hair, make-up etc. What are guys attracted to? more skin/ hair down-up etc. I know to be myself... just asking for opinions that can help.. that I m...
A. 13 December 2008: Dyes are a turn-off when the woman "makes mistakes" in choosing the color. Please, no one take offense, but a dark-skinned woman, for example, should stay away from blond dyes. At least that's my opinion. And then senior ladies who we all know as ... (read in full...)
What visual characteristics are guys attracted to?
Q. What are some visual characteristics that get guys attention in a good way? Such as clothing, hair, make-up etc. What are guys attracted to? more skin/ hair down-up etc. I know to be myself... just asking for opinions that can help.. that I m...
A. 13 December 2008: None taken, Sirena. That's your preference and we should mind our own business.... (read in full...)
Does a German woman/woman marriage "count" in the US?
Q. hey every one out there!!! got a question i 'm still married to a woman back in germany but i live here since 2006 and i'm also married to a man !!! does the marriage count here i mean between woman a woman?? cuz i here it don't!!! everyb...
A. 13 December 2008: I'm not sure what would happen. I understand that, for the sake of international law, marriages valid in one country are valid in all others. That is to say, if you marry in Germany, under German laws, your marriage is valid in the United States ... (read in full...)
What visual characteristics are guys attracted to?
Q. What are some visual characteristics that get guys attention in a good way? Such as clothing, hair, make-up etc. What are guys attracted to? more skin/ hair down-up etc. I know to be myself... just asking for opinions that can help.. that I m...
A. 13 December 2008: Uncle, I forgot the private parts! Add that one, too!... (read in full...)
Is a man's orgasm more intense when he cums inside his partner?
Q. This a rather silly question but maybe the answer will resolve a dispute between my bf and I. Is a man's orgasm more intense when he cums inside his partner? I've been with my bf for over 2 years. I never refuse him sex. I don't make him wear a ...
A. 12 December 2008: You will get all kinds of answers. But, in general, I think most men would agree that having to withdraw and finish outside is NOT as good as finishing inside. Pay attention: I'm saying "having to withdraw". Because it is something the woman ... (read in full...)
What visual characteristics are guys attracted to?
Q. What are some visual characteristics that get guys attention in a good way? Such as clothing, hair, make-up etc. What are guys attracted to? more skin/ hair down-up etc. I know to be myself... just asking for opinions that can help.. that I m...
A. 12 December 2008: 1. Boobs
2. Boobs
3. Boobs
4. Face
5. Pelvis (yep, believe it or not)
6. Legs
7. Derrière (I don't want to say "ass"; it sounds better in French)
7. General shape
8. Eyes (shape, color)
9. Hair color
10. Hair type (straight, Curl... (read in full...)
I'm suddenly insecure about my size!
Q. I have a penis size of about 4.8" in length and 4.5" in girth. I'm a very malnutritioned guy at 19 years, really skinny. I'm wondering if exercise would have any effect on my size? I'm pretty much new to this 'penis envy' thing, I never really eve...
A. 12 December 2008: We all worry about our appearance, and that is good, to an extent, because that is what makes us trim our nails, cut our hair and bathe. We all would like to be absolutely attractive to everyone, but that just can't be. We need to accept ourselves ... (read in full...)
What movie can win her heart?
Q. I was want to make a special night for a girl I know. She is into acting, and loves movies. Her favorite genre is Romance, and her fantasy is to live a scene from a romance movie. I absolutely don't know what her favorite romance movie, nor would ...
A. 12 December 2008: As a joke, I would go for "Death Wish". Did you notice Charles Bronson kills because he loved his wife and daughter? Isn't that true love?
On a more serious tone, I would go for "The year of living dangerously". Watch it and you tell me wheth... (read in full...)
I'm bored with my man and fantasize about excitement
Q. please help, i don't know what's wrong with me really. my boyfriend of a year is pretty much the perfect boyfriend. he does everything for me, he supports me, he loves me, he makes me coffee in the morning, he respects me carries my bags, doesnt ...
A. 11 December 2008: I think we only change when we realize our behavior is bad for us. Sometimes we don't change despite that realization. You need to put the effort if you want to change.... (read in full...)
I'm attracting the wrong kind of man!
Q. I want to be in a relationship, but I just don't attract the right kind of men that i would be interested in, i attract old men, alot older then I am. What should i do or not do?... ...
A. 11 December 2008: Your age is what attracts older men, and it always will. Maybe you are also very pretty. But you have the winning card, dear: if you don't want a man, all he can do is accept that and move on. So, don't worry about attracting them, because you ... (read in full...)
Does a man have a higher sex drive if he has hair on his chest??
Q. I heard, man with hairy chest has higher sex drive , than man with no hair on his chest. It seem to work in my relation ship, as my husband lost his drive and has no hair on his chest. But I don't know ,if it is a myth , or real? What do you think?...
A. 11 December 2008: This is a myth.... (read in full...)
Her dildos are bigger than I am
Q. My girlfriend and i have been living together for about 3 months now.I recently found 2 dildos she had hidden in our closet.She hasn't told me about them.They are both larger than me in size.What should i do?I dont know how i should feel about it....
A. 11 December 2008: Suppose she bought the dildoes because she wants something larger. You can't grow a larger penis. I know that some people offer creams and exercises, but I think we can bet that, if those worked at all, everyone would have penis of at least ten ... (read in full...)
Does he want more than just fooling around?
Q. For the past several months i have been fooling around with this guy. we have known each other for a couple years. We go for weeks without talking and months without seeing each other but in the past two months we see each other every saturday. we ...
A. 11 December 2008: It sounds like he wants more. If you like him, why not try your luck?... (read in full...)
FWB relationship turning into more-do I go with it?
Q. I think I am falling in love with my friends w/benefits. I picked him as my FWB because I didn't see any future with him because he has 3 kids and 2 exwife at 28years old. We are compatible in every way and have the best of time when we are ...
A. 11 December 2008: You need to take your chances. He seems a good guy, though. Loyal and responsible, which is a lot more than what you can say these days.
By the way, make sure you're good for his children, too.... (read in full...)
They're calling my boyfriend a pedophile
Q. im 13 and my boyfriend is 16. we have only been going out for a week but we like eachother and have known eachother for a long time. Thing is people at school are calling him a pedophile even though hes not. we hav never had sex but we have kissed ...
A. 11 December 2008: Yep, I can. A sixteen year old dating a thirteen year old is not morally wrong. Whoever said that is stupid. Don't pay attention to what stupid people say; or, even better, pay attention, so you can learn from their mistakes.
Pedop... (read in full...)
Is it too weird to have sex with my friend's mom?
Q. I need some help with my situation. Would it be wise to enter into a relationship with someone older. I am 20 and she is 45. The whole thing is kind of complicated. She is my friend's mother. She was kind of like my second mom growing up and I ...
A. 11 December 2008: You are not taking any advantage of the woman because, as you very correctly point out, she initiated the whole thing. You should also be aware that she's not taking advantage of you, but she's at an advantage. Those years she is older than you ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant while on my menstrual taking Metformin?
Q. I've heard it is possible to become pregnant being on your menstrual but I was curious about if there was a higher chance pf becoming pregnant being on your menstrual and taking metformin. ~Extra Info~ *I haven't had a normal menstrual in...
A. 11 December 2008: This is something for a doctor to answer. Metformin is used primarily to treat diabetes; however, it can also be used to make menstrual cycles more regular. I don't know if what the absence of menstruation, or the irregularity in menses, ... (read in full...)
Can I deduce that he's bisexual from his AdultFriendFinder account?
Q. Dear friends, I am really shocked as i have discovered that my boyfriend of three years has an adultfriend finder account. I would have never expected such a thing from a guy who is so conventional in sex and so serious. Also, even though his ...
A. 11 December 2008: Not necessarily. Maybe he slept with the wife only. There are some couples that do that.
The key problem here is whether he is still using his account.... (read in full...)
My husband has ED and wants me to have a child with his brother!
Q. my hubbie suffers from ed and cannot get an erection. he has given me permission to find a lover as long as he knows about. i am 32 years of age and i have not had any children and i am desperate to have a child. my hubbie knows i want a child and ...
A. 11 December 2008: I agree with Uncle Phil, and I quote him: "58 is far too old to start playing daddy". I just would like to add that maybe it's not only his age that comes into play here.
It is not nice to see that you're getting older and you're losing abilitie... (read in full...)
I hate French Kissing but my boyfriend tries to choke me with his tongue!
Q. I don't like French (or 'tongue') kissing. I am almost 30 years old and have never liked it. I don't like wet sloppy kisses and on top of that I have a very small mouth. My boyfriend insists on ramming his tongue into my mouth every time we kiss for ...
A. 11 December 2008: I'm sure he enjoys it. It's difficult for him not to want to do it, but it doesn't "just happen". It will continue to happen for as long as he gets it. Maybe you can refuse to kiss him if he will do his French kissing again?... (read in full...)
My older hubby wants kids but I'm not ready for parenting!
Q. I’m 28 and my husband is 46, The problem is that he desperately wants to have kids but I don’t feel ready, I’m not even sure that I want to have kids at all but I’ve decided that if I do choose to get pregnant I’d rather do it when I’m well int...
A. 11 December 2008: Just one correction: he wouldn't be sixty by the time your child became an adult. He would be something like seventy. If he's 46, and, say, you became pregnant tonight, the baby would be born when he were 47. The baby would be 20 by the time he ... (read in full...)
I'm in med school, should I quit and choose modelling?
Q. hey i am 20 years old..n i am in a major delima...i have always wanted to get into the glamour field ever since i realised i had the potential for it,its not only me but everyone around me thought that i deserved to be in the field rather than ...
A. 11 December 2008: This is a very personal decision. If I were you, I wouldn't quit medical school. In that field, all you need to do is work hard and study, and there you go, you have a profession. In modelling, you're at the mercy of someone else: the guys who ... (read in full...)
I only want an affair with him but he hesitates, what do you think?
Q. Please help. I have been married for 3 years but my husband and I are on the verge of splitting. I've come to realise I don't love him anymore and I can't stand him being anywhere near me. We have a son who is almost two. I've recently met someone ...
A. 11 December 2008: You have too many issues to solve at one time. You need to deal with them all, one by one.
First, end it with your husband, or stay with him. Do not just "discuss" separation. Make a decision about that.
Second, it seems that the second ... (read in full...)
Should I hire a private investigator to see if he's really single?
Q. I'm 24, and currently single. My best friend's 23, and had a lucky escape from a guy she met in a bar. She said he was 5 years older than her, single, and seemed like a nice guy, but when she told her friend about him, her friend suggested she hire...
A. 11 December 2008: All of us will have bad experiences with bad people we meet along the way. In my personal opinion, however, that does not mean we should hire private investigators to check on what the other person says.
I knew the story of a girl who married ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and in love with a straight guy!
Q. Hey Everyone, I am a gay man and all my friends know. I currently am living with a straight mate, but I have recently fallen in love with him and not telling him is driving me crazy. He has a girlfriend who he has been seeing for 3 years and I ge...
A. 11 December 2008: Disclaimer: I am straight and I don't like to be approached by gays.
In a nutshell: make sure you're not seeing what you want to see.
This seems to me one of those cases when you wish there was more. You're in love, and you wish he would re... (read in full...)
What is "Lolita Syndrome"?
Q. hi my moms new boyfriend told me that i have Lolita syndrome and i better fix it before he is alone with me. is that some sort of disease? could he catch it from me? should i tell my mom so i can get checked?...
A. 10 December 2008: This sounds dangerous. The "Lolita syndrome" was how people used to describe the seduction of older men by younger women. This is a way to say "she made me do it". It's true that sometimes young girls want to sleep with older men, but that does ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends are all young guys! What's up with that??
Q. Hi - my boyfriend is 32 and I am 36 we have a long distance relationship but see each other as often as we can. When he moved from our home town 2 years ago he struggled to make new friends and joined a local informal football team which sounded ...
A. 10 December 2008: I guess that the best way to help you, at the moment, is to voice the idea that seems to be hidden in your post.
His relationship with such young guys has made you suspect. Maybe you think that he has a thing for young men? Is this the problem?... (read in full...)
My husband is hitting on men! Is he gay??
Q. I'm 26, my husband's 28. We've been married for 6 months, and are well-liked locally. We like socializing, and do it fairly frequently. However, there's one problem which is affecting our marriage badly. He's flirting. Not with other women t...
A. 10 December 2008: Dear Rebecca, my opinion is that this is not a joke. Even if it had started as one, the consequences of it are no laughing matter. And I don't think it started as a joke.
You're in a very difficult and painful situation. You just married ... (read in full...)
Do I trust my instincts? Or my friend?
Q. I am currently very attracted to a girl, she seems almost too good to be true. According to my friend, who is best friends with her, she is psyched about me liking her. When I talk to her she seems a bit dry. Not much to say in the conversation. ...
A. 10 December 2008: Facts.
You talk to her and she doesn't respond. Whatever the reason, that is the stubborn fact. Act on the basis of facts.... (read in full...)
9 months and we still haven't kissed!
Q. My gf and I have been going out for 9 months. We love each other very much, however, we unfortunately haven't kissed because my gf stills feels very uncomfortable with intimacy due to her last abusive relationship. She wants privacy, which i have ...
A. 10 December 2008: Being utterly heartbroken is the best thing that can happen to you if it makes you face the truth.
Whatever the other boyfriend did, it's about time she moves on. Think what would happen if you didn't kiss her because of what a previous girlfrie... (read in full...)
When a woman has an orgasm. how much fluid is normal?
Q. When a women does ejaculate, how much fluid is an average amount?...
A. 10 December 2008: I'm with Boredatwork :-). I think these kinds of thoughts make a working day not that boring, right, Bored?... (read in full...)
Is my penis too large?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and my penis 9 inches flacid and 10.5 inches erect. I am a bit scared as I was going have oral sex with my girlfriend but she declined me due to my size. I feel my penis is too large and I don't know what to do. Is this normal and if not ...
A. 10 December 2008: Sorry. They will complain about the size, but not about it being "too small".... (read in full...)
Is this a phase that most men go through at mid-life or is he just being a complete cheating jerk?
Q. I’m 45 and have had two children and my body isn’t what it used to be of course and I suspect that my husband is lusting after a younger woman really, really bad. My husband keeps comparing me to younger women and makes comments like “you used to ...
A. 10 December 2008: Men of all ages (save for some who don't know any better) will always love 27 to 47 year olds. His noticing other women is not a phase all men go through. Or, it is; we all have a strong desire for women built into ourselves. We can't avoid ... (read in full...)
Is my penis too large?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and my penis 9 inches flacid and 10.5 inches erect. I am a bit scared as I was going have oral sex with my girlfriend but she declined me due to my size. I feel my penis is too large and I don't know what to do. Is this normal and if not ...
A. 10 December 2008: The only way you could change that is surgery. I mean, chopping a bit off it. I certainly don't recommend that.
If that's what you got, use it wisely. At least they won't complain about the size of it, will they?... (read in full...)
His "finishing pattern" is weird when we have sex.
Q. Hii! :] My bf and I have been having sex lately for the past 3 weeks... he's 19 and I'm 17. Usually about 5 times a week we use protection and everything but his pattern for finishing is weird.... our first time he lasted about 10 minutes and now he ...
A. 10 December 2008: The amount of semen that comes out varies from time to time. If you really enjoyed it, then you will ejaculate more... in principle. If you ejaculated recently, then you won't ejaculate as much the next time, no matter how good it is. If you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does not reply to messages promptly, feel ignored
Q. Hello aunts, I am in a new relationship and my bf does not reply promptly to my text messages and it makes me thinks if he is just "using" me (we have had sex). Its not like he dosent reply at all but it just feels like whenever he has free time or ...
A. 10 December 2008: I have the feeling that he thought he was using up your valuable time, and is waiting for you to be available.... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 10 December 2008: (Idea): Why do cats moan?... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 10 December 2008: This reminds me of a joke they told me. It was in Spanish, so I tried to sort of translate it. I have the feeling that it exists in other languages, too.
Oh! John, don't do that...
Oh! John, don't do...
Oh! John, don't...
Oh! John....... (read in full...)
Why are white men always falling for white women and not me, the Puerto Rican?
Q. Hello dear cupiders, I am puerto rican. shoulder length cruley brown hair/ very tan skin/ reg. brown eyes/ short/ I believe I'm attractive I give myself a 7 1/2 out of 10. I am attracted primary to 'white' men. (Not that I'm racist or anyth...
A. 9 December 2008: I'm a "café con leche", that is to say, mixed blood, but I agree with Steaknife. Preferences do exist (and, sometimes, racism, too), but I wouldn't say these guys have dumped you just because of the color of your skin.
Say you're a racist. ... (read in full...)
He gives me mixed messages but we are just friends! How do I know if he wants more?
Q. Hi I am so confused. How do I know if a guy wants more than just freindship? Myself and this guy are very close, we do a lot of things together as freinds. I have known him a few years now. I am very reserved on my feelings, always have been...
A. 8 December 2008: Sorry if my post gave you the wrong impression. I do not mean to hurt you or make any less of your post. I was just trying to be I-don't-know-what-but-obviously-nice.
This is "GOOD" nice, never "bad" nice.
"HA-HA-HA" he's noticed because ... (read in full...)
He gives me mixed messages but we are just friends! How do I know if he wants more?
Q. Hi I am so confused. How do I know if a guy wants more than just freindship? Myself and this guy are very close, we do a lot of things together as freinds. I have known him a few years now. I am very reserved on my feelings, always have been...
A. 8 December 2008: I have a few things to say myself.
First, it is very clear that the guy is very much interested in you. Something holds him back. You think that we men don't remember certain things, but you're wrong. We do when they are important for us. Jus... (read in full...)
I need help decoding a man!
Q. Ok.. So theres this boy, he is 22 and i am 19. We have known each other for about 2 yrs now. I need advice, he is soo confusing. We have been on and off for those 2 yrs. He has told me he really likes me and i have told him too. Once we had like 5 ...
A. 8 December 2008: Pay attention to action, not words. His actions say he is not that much into you. It is nice to "mess around" every once in a while, find you when he wants, you, et cetera, but he isn't thinking of a traditional relationship with you. He comes to ... (read in full...)
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