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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I have fallen really hard, but she is moving 600 miles away. Do I just let her go?
Q. I met a women at my best friends wedding,we immediately started going out and things were going extremely good. Until tonight,she is going for an interview for a job in a town 600 miles away. What am I to do,should I be calm about it and wish her ...
A. 29 April 2010: Sorry to be the killjoy again. Did she stay because of you, or because going away didn't really go well with her personal plans?
Man, YOU HAVE TO KNOW FOR SURE WHETHER SHE IS INTO YOU OR NOT. Don't just react to the circumstances.... (read in full...)
How do you confess your feelings without risking a friendship?
Q. How do you find the confidence to risk a wonderful friendship for something more? I'm in love with a good friend who is in a relationship. I can't work up the nerve to tell her how I feel. Every time I think about doing it, my heart races and ...
A. 24 April 2010: What I mean is, spill the beans, man! Maybe she knows already. This way, you will know whether it's meant to be or not.... (read in full...)
How do you confess your feelings without risking a friendship?
Q. How do you find the confidence to risk a wonderful friendship for something more? I'm in love with a good friend who is in a relationship. I can't work up the nerve to tell her how I feel. Every time I think about doing it, my heart races and ...
A. 24 April 2010: I'm with marieclaire. There's no way to talk about your feelings without putting the friendship at risk. I am afraid that, women being women, she might already know what your feelings are anyways. Women are very apt at reading us.... (read in full...)
Should I be direct? Or not so direct?
Q. When I ask a woman out in the future, should I use plain language or fancy language? Is it best to be direct, and simply say "Do you want to go out with me on a date?" Or can it make things awkward if I am too direct? What is the best way ...
A. 24 April 2010: Use plain language, and not only when you're asking a woman out. Always.... (read in full...)
20 year age gap in a relationship..thoughts?
Q. I'm 21 and he is 44. We have been dating for 3 years. We went to tell my parents together about a year after we first started dating but I got mixed signals from my parents on the subject so I decided to wait until I was 21 to tell them. We'r...
A. 24 April 2010: In principle, I wouldn't like a daughter of mine to get into this kind of relationship. Maybe things seem fine now, but they won't when you're 40 and he's 60. Believe me.
Also, the big difference in years between him and you means there's ... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage please!
Q. Hi I'm 20 and the opposite person it's between 25-27 years old I would like to ask for some advice. I have a boyfriend he really loves me cares about me and likes having sex. I feel the same way too and I think we're meant to be together but I ...
A. 21 April 2010: I fully agree with Tisha.... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage please!
Q. Hi I'm 20 and the opposite person it's between 25-27 years old I would like to ask for some advice. I have a boyfriend he really loves me cares about me and likes having sex. I feel the same way too and I think we're meant to be together but I ...
A. 20 April 2010: Your post is not very clear, so let me speculate a bit.
You want to marry him, and don't want to have sex before you marry him.
Whenever you talk to him about marriage, he changes the subject.
Does this mean he pushes you for sex, or d... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing or not?
Q. Am I doing the right thing or not? My boyfriend and I have been together about 15 months. He is so great in every aspect but one: we fight a lot, and when we fight he becomes someone I barely recognise. At the beginning of our relationship, it ...
A. 20 April 2010: The one flaw you find in him is the visible expression of much deeper issues. The proverbial "tip of the iceberg". If those issues don't come to light and don't get solved, things will only worsen. You are doing the right thing.... (read in full...)
Fiance cheating on me with men?
Q. My fiance actively seeks head from other men via the computer. I'm so confused right now. He is a manly man and has a history of being with women (2 children with his ex). He travels for business (airline) alot of the time. When he's away, he ...
A. 18 April 2010: A straight man wouldn't be into this, because a man who seeks this from other mean is bisexual, a closet gay, or gay who wants a cover.
He's bisexual or gay. You don't approve of this behavior, which I certainly consider cheating. I'm sorry to... (read in full...)
One boob bigger than the other!
Q. Hi, im 16 and im really really self conscious of my breasts. basically ever since i was about 13 they have been really uneven, one at least a cupsize smaller than the other. it never used to bother me, but now ive started getting into more se...
A. 18 April 2010: My honest advice is, "leave them as they are". I bet they are fine and you're just concerned about his seeing you naked.
I have one ear higher than the other. You see, when my head was crowning, the doctor grabbed me by the ears and he pulled a... (read in full...)
Would he approve of my dress sense?
Q. I'm in a relationship w/ my bf for a year now. Do you think it's okay for a girl to wear whatever she wants to in a relationship? I know the basics that a girl shouldn't dress all slutty without the bf around, or even at all; BUT I feel like I can't ...
A. 18 April 2010: If you like it, I do.... (read in full...)
I have fallen really hard, but she is moving 600 miles away. Do I just let her go?
Q. I met a women at my best friends wedding,we immediately started going out and things were going extremely good. Until tonight,she is going for an interview for a job in a town 600 miles away. What am I to do,should I be calm about it and wish her ...
A. 15 April 2010: Again, the physical distance is not what matters.
Maybe it's futile now, but I guess you're sort of avoiding the difficult issue. Did she leave because she didn't care that much about you, or because she had just met you? You need to determin... (read in full...)
Are we destined to have bad relationships depending on how we were raised?
Q. Dear cupid, I've been wondering this for a while now and maybe it's true maybe it's not but I have watched it happen to alot of people, heard famous songs about it, even watched it in movies and those movie ideas had to of come from someone....
A. 14 April 2010: Destined, no. More likely, yes.... (read in full...)
I have fallen really hard, but she is moving 600 miles away. Do I just let her go?
Q. I met a women at my best friends wedding,we immediately started going out and things were going extremely good. Until tonight,she is going for an interview for a job in a town 600 miles away. What am I to do,should I be calm about it and wish her ...
A. 13 April 2010: Physical distance doesn't matter that much if two people really love each other. If you love the girl, and your only hope of seeing her is sailing all the way to China on a can of tuna, you do it, and the perils and hazards become just simple and ... (read in full...)
Should I end the relationship with a married woman for someone else?
Q. I am in a turmoil mentally. I have been seeing a married woman for just over 2 years now. She still lives with her 9 yr old boy and husband (who does obviously not know about us) but their marriage is now one of convenience after 16 years. She ...
A. 13 April 2010: Sorry to be this brutally honest. Like you said, it's morally wrong to be involved with a married woman. I know nobody's perfect, so I won't cast stones at you (though I might insult you with my post). It seems like your married woman isn't going ... (read in full...)
What do men think of make up?
Q. Hey, just wondering what people's opinions are of make up in general? As a girl, I know that make up is important to a lot of women when it comes to their appearance but I'm not so sure when men think of it. Answers from all, male and female, ...
A. 13 April 2010: Personally, if it's excessive, I don't like that. But it's not my business, is it?... (read in full...)
No one compares to my first love...what can I do?
Q. I don't know what to do, I recently got a boyfriend and I like him but the day he asked me out I was thinking about another guy. athe guy I was thinking about was my first love. I still haven't gotten over him and it's been almost 2 years, I don't ...
A. 13 April 2010: You will get over that guy. I felt the same way when I was your age, and I have learned that we do move on. And sometimes we believe that our 17-year old sweetie is the greatest person on Earth, and then we find out that, yes, she might be, only ... (read in full...)
Did my past infidelities cause my wife's cervical cancer. This guilt is eating me alive! Help!
Q. I am married and have been unfaithful to my wife through out our whole marriage, and not with the same girl. I always used protection because I did not want to be responsible for an STD. I have changed and now I am a new man thanks to my religion I ...
A. 13 April 2010: As pinktopaz says, the possibility is there. Condoms are useless against HPV. But you can't know for sure.
I don't have to know, but, if your wife had sex with other people before she had sex with you, then any of those men might perfectl... (read in full...)
Are men just 'wired' to want to sleep around?
Q. Sandra Bullock. Elin Woods. Shania Twain. Jennifer Aniston. Sienna Miller (both the cheater and the cheatee). Today's news brings information on Gabrielle Beauvouis (can't spell her name) also being cheated upon for 5 years. Kate fucking Gosselin. ...
A. 9 April 2010: I can't answer for the men of most of those women you mentioned, because I, for example, would be very, very, very, very extremely pleased to be involved with a few of the lot you mentioned (Hillary being among the exceptions).
I can say all huma... (read in full...)
Email saying he's in love with another woman. I want answers!
Q. hi i met this man on a dating agency, he works on the oil rigs, we chatted and texted for 3 weeks and got on really well, we arranged to meet up for a meal when he returned from his months leave, we went out on the thursday,and then after i went to ...
A. 7 April 2010: Probably she was involved, but it had to be HIM who requested the restraint order. So, let him miss out.... (read in full...)
Email saying he's in love with another woman. I want answers!
Q. hi i met this man on a dating agency, he works on the oil rigs, we chatted and texted for 3 weeks and got on really well, we arranged to meet up for a meal when he returned from his months leave, we went out on the thursday,and then after i went to ...
A. 5 April 2010: This was just awful. It shows the kind of person you were getting involved with. Though I'm sure you won't agree with me for the time being, it's simply best this way.... (read in full...)
Feeling guilt over leaving!
Q. I have been with my loving partner for three years now. The problem is i still have this guilt that i cannot seem to get over. I was married for eighteen years and my ex husband was a good provider, he was verbally abusive towards me, not interest...
A. 29 March 2010: I fully agree with Basschick.... (read in full...)
Signs that he's gay vs. signs that he's not...
Q. Give Me your Opinion Please! Signs he IS gay: 1)He Likes Big Time Rush 2)He Listens To Nick Jonas and thinks he is "raw" 3)He Watches The Show "Glee" 4)He Flirts with me and His overall interactions with me are completely different fro...
A. 29 March 2010: Maps, one time (long ago) I read in The Economist that gay people have what the magazine called a "gaydar", which is to say they recognize who is gay and who is not. I don't know how true this is, but I assume that time and familiarity do reveal ... (read in full...)
Mood swings after ejaculation!
Q. Ok, always after i ejaculation from masturbating i have maybe 6 ssecs of pleasure then it all turns to hate, anger, and depression all towards myself. But after about 10 mins im back to my normal self and i always go back to doing the same thing. ...
A. 29 March 2010: Curious4incest, I couldn't help but noticing your nickname. And, I wondered whether these mood swings of yours happen with ejaculation related to any sort of incest. If they are, then it's not the ejaculation itself, but the incest?... (read in full...)
Do guys get excited when they get a little thigh action?
Q. Do guys get excited when they are touching a girl's legs? Especially the upper part of the leg?...
A. 29 March 2010: Yeppers.... (read in full...)
He won't have sex with me anymore...
Q. I had finally met him! The guy, the right guy. He was more than everything that I wanted, he was what I needed. We are both in our 30's and have been together now for over a year. While things are not always perfect, they are comfortable, safe ...
A. 29 March 2010: Dear anonymous, I think it's easy to see why he isn't having sex with you anymore. He doesn't want kids, period. And, since he knows you want them, though he is not yet at the point where he would leave you, eventually he will.
I'm sorry to... (read in full...)
She thinks it's okay to flirt with other guys in front of me!
Q. I've been dating a girl for about four months now. I've met her parents, and we're going abroad for a holiday next week. Things are great when we are together, except for one thing: she neither loves me (she 'likes me a lot'), nor does she consider ...
A. 29 March 2010: You can't do nothing to make her love you. You can do a lot to make her respect you, however: walk away.
Would you do this to her? No, because you love her. There, you can see why she does it to you. It's not about what you have done for her,... (read in full...)
He posted online for male sex partners! Is he just bi-curious?
Q. I have recently discovered that my boyfriend has been posting m4m ads on craigslist. For some reason, this is more comforting than m4w. But that's another story... I don't know if he's acted on any of these (I only know of three) but why is he ...
A. 27 March 2010: No. He's more than curious.... (read in full...)
Love at work place
Q. I am married for the last seven years and I have two kids, however my marriage is loveless. Last year I met this woman at work she is divorced with kids. From the first moment I saw her, I felt attracted to her and she was to me and in no time we ...
A. 27 March 2010: Either you stay married or you go with her.... (read in full...)
I found my dream girl, but I can't tell her my feelings. Help!
Q. Dear Friends, it's the first time i really feel i need help !, till now i was in control of my life. i thought i would not fall in love simply because this special girl in my dreams doesn't exist and i decided to lead a single life . however ...
A. 27 March 2010: Why can't you tell her your feelings?
If this is your dream girl, will you lose her before even trying?... (read in full...)
I cheated and now she only wants to be friends. How can I change her mind?
Q. i recently have cheated on my girlfriend of almost 6yrs. We have been dating since we were 15 and now we our 22 about to graduate college. about a month ago i cheated with a 28 yr girl that had picked me up at a bar. at the time our relationship was ...
A. 27 March 2010: Anonymous, I'm afraid she won't trust you again. Something has changed forever. I'm also afraid that your trying to do "anything" for her will be useless, as you can't prove you'll stay faithful.
I'm afraid she might be leading you on with thi... (read in full...)
Okay so the guy I'm seeing is a Christian but his preaching to me is driving me nuts!
Q. I am dating a guy who is a strong Christian believer. We know each other from work and have been hanging out for a few months now. Often we have quality time together but lately he has been preaching to me, on almost every meeting. I have hinted and ...
A. 21 March 2010: This isn't going to work, but it's not because he's a Christian or not. This is not about religion. It won't work because it has to be his way or no way. He doesn't seem to get that you don't share his beliefs. Maybe it is because you haven't ... (read in full...)
Okay so the guy I'm seeing is a Christian but his preaching to me is driving me nuts!
Q. I am dating a guy who is a strong Christian believer. We know each other from work and have been hanging out for a few months now. Often we have quality time together but lately he has been preaching to me, on almost every meeting. I have hinted and ...
A. 21 March 2010: This isn't going to work, but it's not because he's a Christian or not. This is not about religion. It won't work because it has to be his way or no way. He doesn't seem to get that you don't share his beliefs. Maybe it is because you haven't ... (read in full...)
Should I go and meet a guy from the past when I'm married?
Q. Recently and old "friend" has contacted me through facebook. We have not seen each other in 21 years. And we had sexual relations at the time. I feel that everything happens for a reason. And I think that we are developing some feelings for one ...
A. 21 March 2010: This is all to easy for me to say, and I'm aware it's too difficult for you to do, but...
If your marriage is bad, either fix it or end it.
Then you can meet another guy.... (read in full...)
Men, Please help me feel better about my boyfriend's past!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating a few months but have already fallen in love. We're both 21. Recently we made the mistake of discussing each other's pasts. I'm a virgin, but he has been with one girl 2 years ago. He questioned losing it to her...
A. 18 March 2010: Dear poster, I have something to tell you first. I do not give opinions so that posters will feel better. That is not the right thing to do. In my opinion, if you have a problem, what I need to do is help you analyze it so you can reach your own ... (read in full...)
How long is too long...before I ejaculate?
Q. How long is to long to hold your ejaculation? Like i will masturbate for about an hour or so without ejaculating. I will just stop before it gets close and wait a few and then get back to it. is that okay to do. Or should i not wait that long to ...
A. 18 March 2010: If I understand you correctly, you're masturbating for a long time. Each time you are close to the point of orgasm, you stop doing it, so you can continue to masturbate. The problem is NOT that you're unable to ejaculate before an hour. The ... (read in full...)
(Specially for the MEN) Why should he act like that?
Q. So there's a guy who liked me.. Then after a year of not getting any prospective respond from me, he maintained to have a new relationship and now he's just got a girlfriend. What i really don't understand is.. Whenever he saw me he seems sooo ne...
A. 18 March 2010: Perhaps he likes you, perhaps he doesn't. But, you don't like him, do you? So just act as you normally would.... (read in full...)
Can someone offer some more perspective on my situation? My husband blames me for his problems
Q. I have been married for 10years and with my husband a total of 20years. Because of financial problems our family (3kids) had to move in with his parents 2 years ago. He started staying out all times of the night and sometimes not returning at all. ...
A. 17 March 2010: The man is a bastard and is ruthlessly using you. He does not deserve another minute of your time or another tear from your eyes. You're absolutely better off without him. I think your kids would also benefit if you two split. There's no benefit ... (read in full...)
How can I bring up the subject of STI's without offending him???
Q. hello, well im in a bit of a dilemma, im 15 and i like this guy who is 18. im not in love or anything and i have seen him a few times, on which occaisions, he fingered me and i tossed him off. He is the first and only guy up to yet who i have don...
A. 10 March 2010: Dear, if you don't protect yourself, no one will protect you. And I take it you don't want a disease. STI's are a hard reality and, in case you didn't notice, you're not immune to them, and neither is he. Yes, you might catch many things from ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to help out in the house more?
Q. Ok... I am a mum of two. A 3 year old and 6 month old. Due to my son still being young im not working but my partner is, But he helps out with nothing at home! Its driving me mad. He does nothing for the little ones, feeding, bathing, cooking, nappy ...
A. 10 March 2010: I know this isn't funny to you, but I could but smile a bit when I read that "he says he doesn't have a problem" with the current situation. Because he doesn't have any :-) at the time, and he would if he decided to lend a hand. So the strong ... (read in full...)
Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse???
Q. Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse? That is, can a women still be a virgin after 'having sex' with another woman?...
A. 10 March 2010: Yes.... (read in full...)
I felt like a complete twat!!!
Q. I met this guy through a friend of mine, ive only sopken 2 him on facebook and from what we have spoken about he seems a really nice guy, the reason why my friend said add him was because he was single, Anyway since then we chat on fb every day ...
A. 9 March 2010: You weren't wrong to ask. You didn't know whether he had someone. You can still talk to him, if both of you are mature enough. Don't worry and be happy.... (read in full...)
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