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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Do wonderful relationships just "happen" or do they take work
Q. Just curious on what your take is on this, because I've heard two different camps. A lot of people on this site say relationships take work and you need to work at it to keep it in good order; then there are other people who say that when you're in ...
A. 6 December 2009: Luck (or Satan the Devil) can bring you an absolutely wonderful person, and that person can fall for you, et cetera. But, if you don't work hard at keeping that person, the wonderful relationship will come to an end.
I suppose your friends ... (read in full...)
Opinions please! Does my co-worker like me...?
Q. I have a coworker who I've gradually formed a friendship with. He introduced himself to me when he first started at the company about two years ago, and we gradually progressed from quick, "Hello"s in the hallways to him stopping by my office to ...
A. 4 December 2009: I think he may have feelings for you, yes. I'm not sure what this could lead to. But, if you're married, and he is married, too, there is a lot of thinking to do.... (read in full...)
Can people of different social class date?
Q. So for the past few weeks I have been talking to this extremely good looking guy in my sociology class. The other day I missed class to study for my criminal justice test and the following class he asked me why I was away. I told him the reason, he ...
A. 26 November 2009: You're a woman, so the answer is yes: the guy won't usually care whether you're poorer or not. If you're hot, that's enough. Some guys with a crust DO care and could play with you but never entertain a serious idea. I don't think that is the ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you really love someone enough to let them go?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up. He feel into legal trouble, financial issues and family issues. I tried to be supportive, my life just kept progressing. We were happy together but we didn't spend as much time together since he was working to pay off ...
A. 26 November 2009: I could go back to someone, yes, but I would be very afraid of rejection. I am not sure whether he will return to you later. In any case, it would be waiting without knowing for sure whether you will have a chance or not.
Why don't you tell him... (read in full...)
My husband has developed feelings for another woman and I don't know how to handle it...
Q. me and my husband have been married for 3 and 1/2 years and recently he realized that he has feelings for another woman. I'm in a battle for him with her. My friends tell me to go but my heart tells me to stay cuz he will pick me, what do u think I ...
A. 26 November 2009: I think you should talk to him very directly and ask where you stand. And then you can make your decision on the basis of what you hear. His having another woman is unacceptable. If he's in love with her, where does that leave you?... (read in full...)
Married man problems...
Q. Hello all My boyfriend died a couple of years ago and i have never really got over him, i met a man in june this year who took an interest in me, saying that he would help me get over my boyfriend's death, and that he would look after me and sho...
A. 26 November 2009: I am afraid that you will end up hurt. I think he's giving excuses, and that can't be good. And it isn't good that you're seeing him either. Not only morally, but also from a point of view of convenience. You can get someone who is free and ... (read in full...)
I have never had an orgasm even after 8 different lovers and 1 vibrator
Q. I am 20 and I have had 6 different lovers. Not once have I felt what its like to have a vaginal orgasm. I just bought a vibrator and it did absolutely nothing for me. I don't think I even get "wet" anymore for sex. I think I've had a clitoral...
A. 26 November 2009: Let us give the floor to one lady:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/advice-to-young-men-about-young-women.html... (read in full...)
Guys, would you really love someone enough to let them go?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up. He feel into legal trouble, financial issues and family issues. I tried to be supportive, my life just kept progressing. We were happy together but we didn't spend as much time together since he was working to pay off ...
A. 25 November 2009: I am not sure what is going on here. It could be many things.
He might feel depressed and letting you go is his way to give up his hopes of ever improving.
He might honestly feel that sooner or later you will notice he's no good for you, yo... (read in full...)
How do I find a safe sex buddy?
Q. Bit of a strange question. I am a divorced woman and have been single for about 12 months. I have a healthy sex drive and masturbate regularly. I have not had sex with a man since splitting up from my husband and is really missing it. ...
A. 12 November 2009: I agree with Caring Guy. Many a man will mistake your need for an offer for sex with no strings, and that is not exactly what you want. For example, from your post I surmise that you want a stable partner. Someone could think that you would be ... (read in full...)
My LDR didn't work out, but I can't get him out of my head
Q. I'm 28 years old and during the past 10 years I've never been single... until now. In August I broke up with my boyfriend, with whom I had gone out for 2 years. I made the decision because I fell for someone else. The thing is, this guy lives v...
A. 12 November 2009: Anna, it will go away over time. What you need to do is sit one afternoon and analyze things as you would if you were not personally involved. You will eventually realize that the relationship is over and you can't revive it. You will also notice ... (read in full...)
I need your help aunts... What's wrong with me????
Q. Hello everyone and thanks for reading. I could use a little bit advice; first of all i'm a single woman, 20 years old and i dont like myself at all. Nor in the physical angle or spiritual one. Each day i have to go along, standing amid a sea of "n...
A. 12 November 2009: Dear paisana, you're like everyone else. Don't sweat it. Focus on what you don't like and improve it if you can, recognizing you won't always achieve all you set yourself to achieve.
No te azotes y quiérete más. No tienes que ser perfecta... (read in full...)
High Maintenance...
Q. i need some advice mainly from men.. but women please can you give your opinions too.. are men really put off with high maintenance girls? and whenever they classify a girl as high maintenance what exactly do they mean? Personally i always like my...
A. 12 November 2009: I agree with Double M's definition of "high maintenance", and will add that NO, MEN DON'T LIKE THAT.... (read in full...)
Are we doomed from the start because of religion and virginity?
Q. I am 20 years old and am still a virgin. It's never bothered me before until know. I really like this guy but he is quite a strong northern irish catholic and i'm a scottish protestant. I think there is something between us but I just fear that our ...
A. 12 November 2009: I can't tell you what you should do, but I can tell you what I would do.
I wouldn't care about the difference in religion, provided he were Catholic enough to understand that he isn't always right, and that the Catholic Church DOES NOT frown on... (read in full...)
Should I indulge her rape fantasies?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going through some rough times lately, and things look to be going downhill fast, no matter what I do. She's 8 months pregnant and I know her hormones are raging, so I've put my selfish needs aside in an attemp t...
A. 11 November 2009: Don't give in to this fantasy, EVER.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend controlling?
Q. Hi All Please help My girlfriend of one year has these traits. She is too bossy * Says I do everything wrong around the house * Housework and cooking have to be done her way * If i clean kitchen but leave milk or sauce out she complains ...
A. 11 November 2009: Your girl is indeed controlling. Here's the proof, in your own words: "Says that my thinking should be more inline with hers". What I see here is someone who can't handle differences, and won't compromise.... (read in full...)
My boyfriends love of butts makes me insecure!
Q. I have a petite butt, small and a bit flat comparing to most women. My boyfriend said he loves my butt and he can't seem to keep his hands off of it. I'm just wondering why he seems to love my butt when my butt is smaller and not as nice as most ...
A. 10 November 2009: You do make sense: the man loves you, and that's why he loves your butt. Butts are lovely things.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a threesome!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and very much in love. We were both kind of promiscuous before we ended up together but we are very happy to be in a faithful, trustworthy relationship. The boyfriend has brought up havin...
A. 10 November 2009: It's pretty obvious you don't want the threesome. Don't do it.... (read in full...)
Do men want a woman to take charge in the bedroom?
Q. do men like a girl to take control in the bedroom department? i mean what do guys like a girl to act like a sergent major screaming at them to do certain things or do men like girls who let them take over? i like the man to take control most of ...
A. 10 November 2009: No one can give you an answer that will be true of all men. I can tell you, as me, myself and my seven other personalities, that I hate the military and therefore I don't want anyone to act like a sergeant.
I believe many men will say that the... (read in full...)
How should I approach sharing my wife?
Q. Hi, I want to hear from guys who have shared there wifes with a friend,stranger,etc. How did you approach it. How did it feel watching her when he started making love to her etc. My wife and I want to try something new . We sat in conversation one...
A. 10 November 2009: I don't have a wife, but you can share yours with me. :-). That's my point of view.... (read in full...)
Do guys like it when women moan during sex?
Q. Do guys like it when girls moan during sex?...
A. 10 November 2009: I'm with Lazy Guy. If you mean it, yes.
Three Cheers for Lazy, sleeping in his hammock.... (read in full...)
Is there too much going against us?
Q. I am 25 dating a 36 year old woman. The attraction is always there, but I am slowly getting past all the other factors. She had a kid, the age difference of course, and the social stigma of "cradle robbing". Do you think it’s ok? Do you think it can ...
A. 10 November 2009: Yes, it could be, if you both work on the relationship. I mean BOTH.... (read in full...)
Older women? Should I date one?
Q. I'm 30, I had a woman give me her friend's phone number (the friend had liked me for some time). This was in the supermarket where I worked at the time. This woman was 35. I was also asked out by a 39 year old woman. What should I do? Is it ok to go ...
A. 10 November 2009: These women are not "old". They are older than you, that's right, but I don't see why you should have a problem.
If you don't want them, I can take the pair :-).... (read in full...)
I ended the affair with my friend's wife
Q. Im in love with my friends wife. We have all been friends for a long time now. It all started when she asked me to take her out to play pool and drink some beer. She asked in fron of her husband and he didnt have a problem with it as long as he ...
A. 9 November 2009: I am in agreement with the anonymous female. You did the wrong thing in calling the husband. I am convinced that you told him because you wanted the couple to break up, so she would be free to be with you.
I have some bad news for you, sorry. ... (read in full...)
How do I make my penis smaller?
Q. I don't like the size of my penis. It actually gets in the way. How can I make it smaller?...
A. 8 November 2009: Sounds to me like this isn't a real post. A 30-35 year old man who wouldn't know this?
May I jokingly suggest chopping a bit of it off? That seems to be the only way. But, like I said, I don't think this is a real post, and I am giving you iron... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to masterbate after sex?
Q. I was wondering if it is normal for a man to masturbate after sex, even if he cums? also if a man tells me he loves me dring sex, what does that mean? he only said when we were in the act....
A. 8 November 2009: I don't like to use the word "normal" to make reference to sex. I prefer to use terms such as "common" or "not common". Please notice that the word "uncommon" would have a different nuance to it.
In my view of things, I can't see why a man woul... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my gorgeous aunt
Q. My Aunt is a gorgeous redhead with an amazing body. I fell in love with her about three years ago and ever since then I cant stop thinking of her in a sexual way. Every time I see her I flirt with her and sometimes I suspect she knows this and ...
A. 8 November 2009: You have a very typical case of hormone overdrive.
Your aunt is a woman and she's hot (I like her myself). You're a male animal. But, the relationship is inappropriate and wrong. END OF STORY. Everyone has felt attraction for people they sho... (read in full...)
I want a family he wants his career and a harem.
Q. I broke off with the guy i was seeing last December because i couldn't continue living without emotional security and without being able to express honestly my feelings and emotions with him. I want a family he wants his career and a harem. I said ...
A. 8 November 2009: All I can add to what quiet-echo said is "Plexi, leave the man". He sounds like he's not good at all for you.... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me more then a friend?
Q. Does this guy like me more then a friend? he's a year older then me and during lunch he would come and carry me around or take my stuff so i would have to chase him. this year during lunch he comes to wear i sit (we have different lunches) but his...
A. 8 November 2009: The guy has an "I LIKE YOU AS MORE THAN A FRIEND" written across his face.... (read in full...)
Why am I still holding on when he doesn't want me?
Q. April 2009 i moved out of my ex's house and moved in with my mom. it was a very confusing breakup i didnt really understand why we were breaking up but i knew i had to leave. anyway, i still loved him very deeply and he started treating me badly ...
A. 8 November 2009: I don't think he is holding on to you. Perhaps he feels he has a responsibility to help. He sounds like he wants to be helpful.
You're still holding on because love dies hard.
Take care.... (read in full...)
I need my man to be sexy AND have brains!
Q. Hey people.. I recently met a guy ..we have chemistry, but the thing is he's not that educated aka we cant talk about philosophy, literature etc. Sex-wise I'm attracted to him but then again I dont know if I could be satisfied with a sexual re...
A. 8 November 2009: You're wrong. I'm brown. I could pass for Greek to you. But I'm much older, sorry; I could be your father.
I think you're perfectly OK in not wanting another Greek guy. They are too much like you, aren't they? And that makes them BORING. ... (read in full...)
He told me I am loved more than I realise
Q. What did a male friend mean when they told me that im loved more than i realize?...
A. 8 November 2009: Yep, the man is telling you that he wants you, badly.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be sexually active at 15 years old?
Q. Is is ok to be sexually active with your boyfriend at the age of 15 if you two have only been going out for about 4 months or so??...
A. 8 November 2009: I think that the very serious effects of teen pregnancy make it unwise to have sex, for the time being.... (read in full...)
I need my man to be sexy AND have brains!
Q. Hey people.. I recently met a guy ..we have chemistry, but the thing is he's not that educated aka we cant talk about philosophy, literature etc. Sex-wise I'm attracted to him but then again I dont know if I could be satisfied with a sexual re...
A. 8 November 2009: Mizz Butterflies, since you have a preference and I am NOT an African American, I feel confident and free to tell you that I am sexy and smart. However, we can only be poster and uncle. Now, I will try to answer your post.
Quite honestly... (read in full...)
How can I tell?
Q. dear cupid, I want to have sex with my soon to be husband but the problem is that I dont know if he wants to have sex with me. How can I tell if he wants to have sex with me before the weding? ...
A. 8 November 2009: If he's the average guy, he must have wanted to have sex with you way before he proposed :-).
q1605, I consulted my ouija board and yes, the spirits agree with your grandma. The man wants sex with this woman. What they couldn't answer to me, a... (read in full...)
Can a person that is still a virgin get a disease?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...
A. 6 November 2009: Just like Satin, I assume you mean a sexually transmitted disease, and not diseases like the flu.
Yes, you can be a virgin and get a sexually transmitted disease. You'd technically be a virgin, meaning "no penetration", if you rubbed your pen... (read in full...)
He is a father figure to this boy..he calls his son. Not sure where I fit in here?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a year. I love him and we've discussed moving in together... The problem in our relationship right now is his "son". Six years ago, he began dating a single mother. Her son was only 3 months old when ...
A. 2 November 2009: I put myself in the place of this man, and, also, in the place of the child. They are fond of each other, and that is great. I think it would hurt them very much if you asked them to put an end to their relationship. It would be cruel on the ... (read in full...)
I am 37..my husband is 34. Is this a big age difference?
Q. Hey there it is me again, so being 37, AND MY HUSBAND BEING 35, do u think the age difference is to much? i am just tired of all the immature jerks that i have dated in the past, they have cheated on me, lied and used me,who knows what they want ...
A. 2 November 2009: The age difference seems unimportant here. But, aren't you married already, anyways?... (read in full...)
Am I shallow because I like men, based on their looks?
Q. I need some advice/opinions/anything on this issue I have. As long as I can remember I’ve been really attracted to blond/blue eyed/boyish looking men (Brad Pitt when he was young, Jensen Ackles, Patrick Wilson type guys). I’ve ‘chased’ a few guys in ...
A. 2 November 2009: Well, you like the men you like. Now, are you serious about your boyfriend? Do you see him as "Brownie-I-Settled-For"?... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with a prostitute...What is the solution to my fixation?
Q. Hi i have been seeing a prostitute now for some time as i was quite upset about myself losing my girlfriend few years ago i decided this was my only option. I had visited the brothels on several ocassions seeing a multiple of girls and living my ...
A. 2 November 2009: A man can fall in love with a prostitute because, despite her line of work, she is still a woman, and she still has virtues. Big flaws as well, yes, but there's always someone for everyone. And I am sure that he will like the sex.
That said, I ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my boyfriend in a nice way?
Q. im moving to another city in a few weeks, which is about 2 hours away from were i live. I have a boyfriend that ive been with for about 7/8 months. He treats me really nice and i do love him but i feel like i want to be single and start a fresh wh...
A. 2 November 2009: There is no such thing as a "nice way". There is an honest and direct way, and that is the one you should go for.
It will be a bad moment for him and for you, too, but that's how it should be. Honest and direct.... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 2 November 2009: Duce 00, I think you're becoming something like Duce 007 by now. Three Cheers For You.... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 1 November 2009: You're asking several questions, some of which don't seem to have an easy answer.
I believe that, in general, Frank's opinion can be included into Human Male's: it's not always that a man doesn't want to commit to anyone at all, but perhaps ... (read in full...)
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