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writes:Give Me your Opinion Please!Signs he IS gay:1)He Likes Big Time Rush2)He Listens To Nick Jonas and thinks he is "raw"3)He Watches The Show "Glee"4)He Flirts with me and His overall interactions with me are completely different from other guys(but he doesn't know i'm gay)5)I showed Him a pic of the blue waffle (a brusied Vag) and i sent him a link to Meatspin.com ( which is this joke thing that has 2 dicks swinging and it plays "you spin me round") and he said the dicks one wasnt that bad but he is completely grossed out by the blue waffle6)He's Had GF's but they never did anything together,and his last GF was over a year ago7) He gets really defensive when you call him gay ex. Kid:Your gay...Him : No i'm not,i'm Hecka straight,all day everyday!8)He watches the show "Make It Or Break It"9) He's a fan of the fictional boyband from thats so raven "the boyz in motion" on facebook 10)He likes Electro dance popish music11)He has givin me fashion advise for my hair,like how i should cut and style it...also he complains about how bad his hair looks sometimesSigns he is NOT gay1)He LOVES sports,there like his life,his fav is swimming2)All of his friends are straight guys except for like 1 or 2 that need to come out3)He dresses average (jeans or Bball shorts with a tshirt)4)His Lingo is totally surferish and he doesnt sound the least bit gay (no lisp or abbreviations like delish or Fabo)5)He listens to Nickelback,Skillet,Daughtry and a lot of those other crappy "manly" rock bands6)He asks girls out ( unlike me where if i had a GF they were the one to ask me out,cause obviously i wouldnt cause im gay)7)He Plays Video Games...like Modern warfare 2 and some other onesSome mixed signs1)He told me about how the chlorine from swimming turns his pubic hair a lighter color ( idk if straight guys talk about there pubes with there straight friends so this could go either way)2)He was telling me some pokemon sex jokes Ex "When I'm around you, I am like a Geodude, as hard as a rock!" and "Can i put my Onix in your Meowth?"...i know straight guys tell eachother sexual jokes all the time but these seemed directed at me like he was trying to tell me something ya know....like i dont think straight guys talk about giving each other blow jobs or how they give each other erections when around them...thats just my opinion though3)He'll point out girls and say "look at her she's hella hot" and it will be like the steryotypical blonde slut..like he's just saying this cause he knows that other guys will think she's hot thus making him look straight...i hope you know what i'm trying to say4)Only a few times have i seen him sorta check out guys...my friend says that he's probably just looking at their clothes but i dont think he's admiring their P.E. UniformsPlease tell me what you think...thanks =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Alright, here's the deal. As you can see, I'm male.1. I like Glee.2. I get really defensive when I'm called gay.3. I hate sports. Never watch them, rarely play them.4. I never ask girls out.5. I have several friends who are either gay or bi.6. I love show tunes (and musicals in general), barbershop, and singing in choirs MORE than I like listening to mainstream music.7. I don't like pornography that doesn't have a male in it.Q: What sexual orientation am I?A: Straight.As for why I get defensive when I'm called gay, it's just because I've been teased about the things I like since I was a kid, because my actions can easily be misconstrued as "gay". As far as not asking girls out ... I just have never had the courage. Don't judge people by how they act ... you can and will often be wrong. You can't know for sure without him telling you.As for advice for you ... do you like him? If so, is the friendship important enough that you would risk losing it for the chance to possibly form a romantic relationship with him? This is something I've had to ask myself as I've been in very close friendships with girls with whom I've been in love on more than one occasion. If it is worth risking the friendship, then you need to talk to him. Inform him that you are gay (if he does not already know; not sure if you said if you were closeted or not), and tell him your feelings for him, and that it's okay if he doesn't reciprocate them, but you have to know if he feels the same way.IF YOU DO THIS, these are some of the possible outcomes:A) He is straightA1. He is weirded out by this, and is uncomfortable being around you after this. In this case, give him time. If he is never comfortable with it after he has already voiced that he is not interested in both you and other men, then you have lost him as a friend, but he was not worth the friendship in the first place. If he is a good friend, it may take time, but he will understand and be comfortable around you again.A2. He voices that he is not interested, but is still comfortable around you. This is your best outcome if he's straight.B) He is gayB1. He is not interested in you. Don't take it personally, but make sure (without being forceful) that he is being honest with you.B2. He is still denying being gay (entirely possible, but you won't know). If he gets defensive when/if you ask, just inform him that you weren't sure and had to know if he felt the same way. Make sure there is no pressure on his end and that you want to stay friends with him regardless (if you actually do).B3. He is interested in you. Congratulations! This may be the most difficult outcome of all, because if he IS gay, he's closeted, and may not want to come out, even if he is interested, so you may have to "sneak around" behind his other friends' backs (which is unfavorable). Hopefully, though, telling him how you feel (if he IS interested in you) will give him the courage to be honest about himself.Hope this helps.
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reader, christo +, writes (8 April 2010):
 i think he is gay but afraid to come out. i think you should talk about like come out to him slowly. like ask him how he feels about gay people, and if he says like i don't care about them, you know what i mean by that lol. then tell him that you r gay and then he might come out to you. if he doesn't dont try to rush him to come out to you. just let him have time to think and all that i hope everything turns out grrrrrreeeeeeeet
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Eeew! Who the hell would be turned on by a "blue waffle?!?
I don't gross out easily, and I'm not squeamish, but that really grossed me out. The average person would probably throw up at the sight of that.
You can't stereotype guys, either. Not all gay guys talk with a lisp and listen to electronic or dance music. I'm 100% straight but many of my interests are "guy" things. None of those stereotypes define what it means to be gay. It simply means a guy who's attracted to other guys.
Most of my gay friends have told me that they can sense if a guy is gay ("gaydar"). I can usually sense if another girl is a lesbian, but when it comes to guys, I have a really difficult time. It's a sixth sense.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Maps, one time (long ago) I read in The Economist that gay people have what the magazine called a "gaydar", which is to say they recognize who is gay and who is not. I don't know how true this is, but I assume that time and familiarity do reveal some character traits and therefore they do let you know if someone would be gay, like yourself. Have you noticed anything?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Blue waffle is truly the most disgusting thing ever. Any guy who is turned on by that has SERIOUS problems.
I think you're reading too much into stereotypes and focusing on dividing up his character into straight/gay labels. Gosh, if someone did that about me, who knows what they would think I am? I love to BBQ, watch UFC fights and I'll point out a girls fantastic butt, and yet I still love chick flicks, (shamefully) have Britney Spears on my iPod and have a fondness for the mall. So, step away from trying to throw him into a box. And, keep in mind that there is a looootttt of gray area in between.
As for your question, from your list I have no idea. Because I don't know him and he hasn't decided to label himself! If based solely on the list, and forced to choose which I think he is, I'd go with straight (seeing as he checks out girls, asks them out and wants girlfriends), but who knows? This stuff is all just trivial. I think you just need to ask him, if you're really that curious.
Good luck, sweetness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): All of those are just signs, but some straight people like those bands and those types of music, and will talk or joke about anything, even sarcastically acting gay, so you can't go by any of them. Just ask him if he is or not, and he'll tell you. He won't get offended if you ask him in the proper way.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (28 March 2010):
 He probably is on some se-gay sh!t aka secret gay behavior.
Straight dudes dont really have secret gay friends (u did mention all his friends are straight,except for 1-2 that have to come out)...
He might be gay,or just a weird/non-stereotypical guy who enjoys the company of gay guys
Or ...could he be metro? (metrosexual) like david beckham? (he is a professional football player,loves his hair and fashion...but ISNT gay) Hrmm?
The question here isnt if hes gay or not,its HOW you'll find out. I get a feeling you're intrested in him.
You could get some signs from gay porn. Dudes normally watch porn together. Invite the gig over for a movie or something and then "accidentally" show them straight porn on your pc.Add some gay on gay action scenes and watch his behavior!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): No. 3 ...Most people like glee. No.5 - mostpeople are disgusted by blue waffle you fool! He could just be a vain straight guy, stop wishing him to be gay.
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