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writes:My fiance actively seeks head from other men via the computer. I'm so confused right now. He is a manly man and has a history of being with women (2 children with his ex). He travels for business (airline) alot of the time. When he's away, he trolls internet sites for head from men. Confronting him would be difficult as I hacked into email (please don't attack me for this). I'm horrified that he is cheating on me-regardless that it's with a man-and worry about STDs. Is he bisexual? A penis fetish? What do I do? Can a straight man who's into this try to explain?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 A straight man wouldn't be into this, because a man who seeks this from other mean is bisexual, a closet gay, or gay who wants a cover.
He's bisexual or gay. You don't approve of this behavior, which I certainly consider cheating. I'm sorry to say this, but I'm not sure what you can get from the relationship. If he really has such preferences, he's not likely to drop them at your request. I mean, he might say "oh honey, sorry I did this, won't happen again) and then he might still do it when you don't see.
You need to think long and hard whether you can live with this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 April 2010):
He's either bi or gay. I suspect you hacked into his emails for the reason you've just written anyway, so on this occasion I'll say you did the right thing. I actually think you need to confront him, because if he is actively seeking it, then there is the risk of STD's, and certainly he's not sure about his identity. That's not fair on you at all. His history of being with women could be a cover if he's closeted. Tell him what you found.
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