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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Having an affair with a married woman. She's hesitant about leaving incase we don't work out, and I've tried to stop contacting her but it doesn't work! What can I do?
Q. Im madly in love with a women who's been married to this guy for 8 years and they have 3 kids in common. Im in a situation were I live with my mom and sis and they pretty much depend on me financial wise, she was actually my mom's friend and that's ...
A. 14 September 2009: Sorry, buddy.
You did the right thing in changing your phone number. Move on with your life. Eventually you will get over this, and find someone new.... (read in full...)
I won't go out with him if he has a girlfriend; he doesn't want to risk breaking up with her in case I won't go out with him after.
Q. I started a new job around 6 months ago, got on well with everyone. There was a guy who started like poking me and pulling my hair, not nastily, but in a fun way. I thought he liked me or something, until I was told he had a girlfriend, who actually ...
A. 2 September 2009: My two cents: don't go out with that guy again. He's trying to play you.
Trying to get involved with someone else while you're with somebody is called cheating. While I can understand that the world isn't square and people will sometime... (read in full...)
We have a sexual relationship only, should he at least have sent me a birthday card?
Q. I have a sexual relationship with this man. We have been seeing eachother for a while, mind you mainly just for sex. It was my birthday the other day and he did not call to say Happy Birthday. I did not expect a gift but I was expecting a phone ...
A. 31 August 2009: Some people would, and some wouldn't, out of fear that sending the card would make you think the relationship is more than initially offered.
Some people wouldn't send a card out of not having a heart.
If you want the card, that is because ... (read in full...)
I am 33 with four kids, can a relationship with a 21 year old work?
Q. I’m a 33-year old mother of four, who is dating a 21-year old man for about two years. I have always been attracted to younger men. He is very compassionate, thoughtful, financially supportative, and he always goes the extra mile to prove that he is ...
A. 31 August 2009: I think it could work, and very well. However, be aware that people change, and what he likes now that he is 21 might not be what he will like when he's 35.
Most likely, the problem will come from 1) the economic and emotional burden of acting l... (read in full...)
Size and ability to maintain erections
Q. I have a question, what make a man's penis "small"? and should a man blame his girl friend or wife for loosing his erections or not being able to get one when he's with her? If he looses his erections with his "hot" wife, is it possible that he is ...
A. 29 August 2009: A man's penis is small because that's how it is :-).
I don't think it's possible to blame the wife for being unable to sustain an erection. I do believe that many other factors can explain that, among them, for example, no desire to have sex with... (read in full...)
Every guy I meet has a girlfriend!
Q. im wondering if any other girls have been threw this? im in my early 30's single parent,working and renting my own home. Now...the prob is this...every guy i meet has a gf!! Ive been 'the other woman' for over 2yrs now to every man i meet....YES i ...
A. 29 August 2009: You'll find your guy. You're in the right age and you don't have many children. Most probably the guy will be a divorced man, with children of his own, too. But, he will come.
Some men won't tell you they have someone. Some others won't wa... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with my last night, and I have a lot of questions running through my mind. Please help!
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me last night. I am a 5th year senior and she is a senior at our college. This past summer, we spent the majority of our time together because we were living up at school working, and most of the time we didn't have any ...
A. 29 August 2009: We all have been there. This is a real change of heart regarding you. My advice is that you don't bang your head against a wall and move on. I agree with her: it's nothing you've done. It is just that she fell out of love. It didn't happen at ... (read in full...)
We broke up, still see each other every day as friends; she says she just doesn't want sex
Q. Hey, Well me and my girlfriend broke up about 1 month ago. More so to take a step back. We still see each other every day (live 200 M from each other), still love each other, and still loyal with each other (as in not interetsted in other people)...
A. 29 August 2009: I agree with Pinktopaz. Her blood iron levels have nothing to do with this. She doesn't want anything but a great "friendship", let's say. The unfair part of this arrangement is that both of you are left waiting. Who knows what will happen here... (read in full...)
Me and my husband have been having arguments about a vacation to see my friend, should I still go?
Q. About 3 months ago, my husband and I had a fight because I wanted to take a little vacation to visit my good friend. Reason of that fight was he didn’t trust me, and he dislike that friend of mine because he feels that I have changed since I met ...
A. 28 August 2009: Well, I have to say I don't have a clue about this one, either.... (read in full...)
Me and my husband have been having arguments about a vacation to see my friend, should I still go?
Q. About 3 months ago, my husband and I had a fight because I wanted to take a little vacation to visit my good friend. Reason of that fight was he didn’t trust me, and he dislike that friend of mine because he feels that I have changed since I met ...
A. 28 August 2009: While I was reading your post, I was wondering whether this "friend" was male or female. Yes, she's female. I kind of assumed the friend would be female, because I didn't think you wouldn't understand his point of view if the friend were male. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking that my boyfriend shouldn't be hanging out with his ex, even if it is with his kids?
Q. Am I wrong that my boyfriend is spending time with his ex wife and sons? I think he should be doing things with his sons only not including his ex wife?????...
A. 28 August 2009: I can see your point, and it would bother anybody, but the answer to your questions is "It depends". Let me use some examples. If "hanging out" means "making plans together to go to the movies and eat dinner afterwards, this beautiful Sunday", ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I want us to be more than just friends?
Q. alright...ive met this boy at a pool hall and hes so cute and such a gentleman.well on our first date i told him i was looking for a relationship and he said im not.well we've since then just been friends with benefits well now hes saying he really ...
A. 28 August 2009: Just like that: " I want to be more than your friend with benefits. That means I expect you to be my proper couple, first, and that I particularly expect you NOT to sleep with other people or have any other friends with benefits. I expect ... (read in full...)
The lying has stopped... or has it?
Q. My husband and I have been married now for over 8 years and in that entire time, we have been fighting over the same thing: trust. He has broken that trust to the point that it can never be repaired. For the rest of my life, I will never trust him ...
A. 28 August 2009: If you think you have to stay with this man, then the practical approach is to sort of live separate lives in the same household, and try to stay in conversational terms.
In my humble opinion, this is a very bad idea, however. I would leave. ... (read in full...)
What can my friend do legally with unfaithful husband?
Q. I have a friend that is being married for about 30 years, she recently find that her husband was cheating her with her roommate. She never found them but this lady became pregnant. Everybody outside said that this kid was from her husband but they ...
A. 28 August 2009: I don't know the laws in the United States, but maybe this website would be useful:
http://www.divorcesupport.com/... (read in full...)
Male Vs Female; A Debate On The Male Obsession With A Woman’s Past
Q. After recently seeing a large number of posts on this site from men asking how to deal with a woman’s sexual past, I wondered why men were so concerned with something that at the end of the day, cannot be changed. So I entered into a conversation ...
A. 28 August 2009: I can but remember what Oscar Wilde once said: "I like men with a future and women with a past". Particularly is she's hot.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my b/f but don't want him to be with someone else!
Q. Heres my story i want to leave my bf but i just dont want him being with someone els after me i feel like leaving him because he is the most selfish inconciderat loser i have ever meant he does nothing for me or our daughter i really need to leave ...
A. 28 August 2009: If you leave him, which seems to be the thing you should do, then you can't prevent him from finding someone else. But you should rather focus on yourself. Your problems, your life, your daughter. Let him go away.... (read in full...)
Why do guys who are walking past on the street stare at me?
Q. Fistly, I think I made a mistake signing up because I'm 21! Anyway... I don't mean staring at my boobs or butt or checking me out. Some guys (usually ugly!) stare into my eyes on the street and say nothing and I'm sick of it and find it scary. D...
A. 28 August 2009: If history gives us any clues in this matter, men stare at you because they find you hot.... (read in full...)
Not sure if my girlfriend was a virgin or not?
Q. I know that some girls bleed and some don't when they have sex for the first time. However before i could have sex with my girlfriend for the first time it took a while mainly because even if she was aroused i could never penetrate her, it even hurt ...
A. 28 August 2009: Man, does it really matter whether she was a virgin or not?... (read in full...)
Why do women flirt with me and then think I'm a loser for asking them out?
Q. Hi. I have a question about flirting. Why do women do this and then seem so surprised to be asked out? I've asked out a few women over the years, thinking they were interested. In the majority of cases the women have then proceeded to completely ...
A. 28 August 2009: Your problem is a lot more common than you think. It is, simply put, that you have trouble connecting to women. I was going to say "connecting and understanding women", but the "understanding" part is common to all males, so let's leave the ... (read in full...)
Can you help me think of the right job?
Q. Well how shall I start. Im a 22 year old mother to be. I've graduated from high school and put a pause on college but after my baby's born I intend on going back. I live at home with my parents and I share a room with my sisters. Im a very private ...
A. 27 August 2009: Your baby will need lots of attention and care. I hate to sound pessimistic, but you will need to assess how much attention the baby will need, and how much attention you can provide when you're working, before thinking of moving out.
Being... (read in full...)
He threw me out because I don't agree with him all the time
Q. My boyfriend kicked me out of our home on sunday, leaving me heart broken and homeless. his reasons were basically to cut a long story short that i react differently to him in situations and this frustrates him, im a very emotional person. I have ...
A. 27 August 2009: Dear poster, the man threw you out. Don't make the mistake of going back. He doesn't respect you now, as he can't tolerate differences of opinion, but he would respect you even less if you went back. Take this as a golden opportunity to leave the ... (read in full...)
Was the waitress hitting on me?
Q. I was at a waterfront restaurant with my friend and our waitress gave us food and all and there was another hot girl painting kids faces for some reason idk and the waitress asked while looking at me if we would like to get our faces painted I said ...
A. 27 August 2009: This happens with waitresses, bank tellers, cashiers, and nearly everyone who has to be kind to people. Don't waste another half of a nanosecond on this one.... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make my penis smaller?
Q. I have a situation that requires your expert advice. I have tried other online advice and have never been taking seriously. I have an abnormally large penis and it is causing physical and emotional issues for me and my wife. To begin, my flaccid ...
A. 27 August 2009: Have you heard about the "cannibal roulette"?... (read in full...)
Once a cheat always a cheat? Can you be faithful to "the one"?
Q. I have cheated in the past but then I thought I had met the "one" and I could never do it to them. People say once a cheat always a cheat I don't believe this. Does anyone think that once you have messed someone around its simply because they are...
A. 27 August 2009: You are perfectly capable of not cheating if you don't want to. Having found "the One" should make it very much easier, I believe.... (read in full...)
I'm 38, she's 19 and she wants a relationship.
Q. I am 38 years old and have recently been getting quite close with a very very beautiful 19 year old work colleague ( I am not her boss ).She is very mature, and works part time as a fashion model. She has told me she wants a relationship. We haven't ...
A. 27 August 2009: I was tempted to "speak in legal terms", but then I thought no one would understand. So, in plain terms, the law can't do anything against you. She's of full age (and bosom, apparently), and so are you. No harm done here.
On the other hand, my... (read in full...)
Found emails he sent to another woman. Did he cheat or not?
Q. i found out that my husband had some kind of relationship with another woman (don't know how far it went). He assures me that nothing happened, but the emails that he sent her, the words he told her sounded like he was either in love or had a huge ...
A. 27 August 2009: Perhaps he didn't sleep with anyone else, but, if his heart is elsewhere, then you do need to take this seriously. Would he have sent those e-mail messages if he were absolutely happy? Something is the matter, and you need to find out.... (read in full...)
I love her, but she's a bit younger, more than a bit.
Q. Hello, I've known this gal for some time, she's a cutie pie, very lovable and all, and I'm sure I have feelings, I think she has for me, she shows it, but my problem is, I'm very worries about age difference, there's like 13 and a half years of ...
A. 27 August 2009: Moderator: I noticed the age gap, and the "absolute age values", as a mathematician would call them.
Poster: You can't be serious about you, a 28-year old, dating a 15-year old. This smells of a fake post.... (read in full...)
Had sex with her, but she lied about her age - shes underage but now wants it every time we meet. What should I do?
Q. I'm 18 and she's 15 ... i really like her but she's fairly sexually aggressive and it's illegal ... what should i do? i mean she's not only in it for sex but she loves it ... she had told me she was 16 at the beginning and i apparently did something ...
A. 26 August 2009: Watch your ass and DON'T do it again until she's of age. And I mean, don't do it again with anyone underage, ever.... (read in full...)
Commitment phobia boyfriend
Q. What am I supposed to do when my boyfriend (been together for 3 years, lived together 2 years) tells me that: - in order to be fun a relationsip must be commitment-free - he's not sure he's gonna love me forever because he might not like me in t...
A. 25 August 2009: First of all, don't be afraid of being on your own. Everyone needs to feel comfortable on his or her own. That is a condition for happiness and balanced living.
In a way, he's very direct. He already said he will stay with you for as long as ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to make my girlfriend believe that I love her!
Q. I love my girlfriend and I told her this, but she and I got into an arguement of how we don't see each other enough, but we already discussed this and I told her it was because my parents are strict and she got mad and was hanging up on me, so I got ...
A. 25 August 2009: You need to work, and she needs to understand this. I don't see how a perfectly valid reason to stay away from her is beyond her understanding. I agree with your father: don't take the relationship too seriously. Love her with all of your heart, ... (read in full...)
Am I bench warmer or is this dude just too shy to make a move?
Q. This guy comes over my house pretty much every nite. We have dinner together, watch movies, have a few wines and we talk about everything. I really really dig him but I am NOT a first mover!! Lately he has been sleeping in my bed with me and we ...
A. 25 August 2009: I agree with Baby Duck. Ask the questions!... (read in full...)
Late thirties and single. Am I going to be on my own forever?
Q. How practical and realistic is it for a single woman between the age of 35 to 40 to find a single guy, really??...
A. 25 August 2009: I see you live in Trinidad and Tobago. Though all the people are the same, and that means we usually have similar dating habits, I am not sure what would happen there.
Where I live, your chances of finding a single guy would not be that high. Y... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to go off to uni when you're in a serious relationship?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months now. I'm 18 and he's 22, every things great. we love each other so much and i am so happy with him. Anyway the problem is, he's a plumber/electrician and still lives with his parent. Whereas i have ...
A. 25 August 2009: I don't think it is selfish to want to pursue higher education, particularly if you are a smart girl. I do understand, however, that he feels bad about your leaving, as it might well be the end of the relationship. I speculate that he's not ... (read in full...)
Can Jewish guys be in relationships with Christian girls?
Q. I've liked this guy for a long time. He's Jewish and I'm a Christian, but that really never bothered me in any way. Today we were rehearsing for our school musical, we have a scene where two people are trying to find their perfect matches. The guy ...
A. 25 August 2009: I don't see anything wrong. I understand, however, that some Jews don't want their children to marry a goy (non-Jewish). The reason is not so much religious as one of "survival". There are thirteen million Jews or so. When they marry outside of ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married woman. She's hesitant about leaving incase we don't work out, and I've tried to stop contacting her but it doesn't work! What can I do?
Q. Im madly in love with a women who's been married to this guy for 8 years and they have 3 kids in common. Im in a situation were I live with my mom and sis and they pretty much depend on me financial wise, she was actually my mom's friend and that's ...
A. 24 August 2009: Erick Gómez, leave the woman alone and move on. I know this seems so bad for you, but I honestly believe this is the best advice you can receive.
I am sure you have not thought so, but your getting involved with a married woman is wrong in sever... (read in full...)
Me and my husband had a threesome with my friend, he wants to try it again but It's worrying me. What can I do?
Q. Hi, My husbamd and I have been married 6 years we are in our 40's my husband and I have sex and talk naughty about threesomes often it is very hot. about 4 years ago we went to a hotel and I got him a stripper it was hot as hell. there was no invas...
A. 24 August 2009: Yep, I agree with Eyes. It's so difficult to say "no" now. But, you might try your luck.... (read in full...)
I want my foreskin restored
Q. I hate being circumcised, I am not religious and I would like it if my foreskin was intact. I am afraid that girls do not like cut penises. Is there any way I can restore the foreskin. ...
A. 24 August 2009: We're not supposed to be mean here, or to insult anyone. I feel that is not what I will do. I will try, however, to shake you, dear poster. I believe that recovering your foreskin is not really something that merits thought. I think the ... (read in full...)
How can I increase sensitivity on my circumcised penis?
Q. How can I increase sensitivity on my circumcised penis? I have never been able to achieve an orgasm from oral sex with any of the many partners I've had, and am only able to achieve orgasm in vaginal intercourse with extreme difficulty. Many times ...
A. 23 August 2009: What you describe is an uncommon thing. People are usually able to achieve orgasm with oral sex, and find it more difficult to achieve it in the traditional matter. I have a question for you, but I would rather pose that question in private. Ple... (read in full...)
How can I convince my parents that the person I'm dating is a good guy?
Q. Some of you may remember my first question, about which guy I should choose, and I chose the guy that my parents don't like. We have been secretly dating, but then my parents came home while he was here, and they were furious. How can I convince ...
A. 23 August 2009: Yep, I agree with Sphronas and Baby Duck.... (read in full...)
Do I move away and follow my heart?
Q. My wife and I got separated in December and we have been apart for 8 months now. We have 3 woderful kids aged 10-16 who we are both unbelievably close with. The kids have handled the separation and impending divorce well. Our relationships have ...
A. 23 August 2009: If the separation from your wife is final, then the only concern is your kids. And life needs to continue for all of you. Maybe it would be a good idea to move to Florida but stay in close and permanent touch with your kids, maybe with frequent ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating to kiss another guy?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over three years and never ever cheated on him. I'm so loyal so I feel really guilty because I kissed a very nice guy that I met the other night. He kissed me first and I went along with it for a few seconds. Is that ...
A. 23 August 2009: It is cheating, yes. On the other hand, the root problem is your relationship with your boyfriend. Make your mind up in that regard.... (read in full...)
Please help me... We love each other but cant be together, I'm having a breakdown.
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last 3 months. We love each other so much it sometimes scares me. She makes me happier than I have ever been in my life. About a month and a half ago we were having some drinks, then a fight started, she pus...
A. 23 August 2009: We're missing the most important information: why the Police arrests the person who calls them. Can you tell us more?... (read in full...)
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