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writes:Sandra Bullock. Elin Woods. Shania Twain. Jennifer Aniston. Sienna Miller (both the cheater and the cheatee). Today's news brings information on Gabrielle Beauvouis (can't spell her name) also being cheated upon for 5 years. Kate fucking Gosselin. Elizabeth Hurley. Sarah Jessica Parker. Reese Witherspoon. Mary Louise Parker, Uma Thurman, Fergie, Kim Kardashian, maybe Kate Winslet, all the politicians' wives (John Edwards' wife, Hillary Clinton, Eliot Spitzer's wife, and that guy who went to Argentina last year to hang out with his mistress). Jennifer Love Hewitt said this week that she "has been cheated on a lot". The British singer Cheryl Cole - how beautiful is she anyway?? EVEN CHRISTIE BRINKLEY for gods sake!Honestly, should ordinary women just give up? I have spent an inordinate amount of time worrying about my wardrobe, actually buying a hugely expensive wardrobe, worrying about my butt, my thighs, my arms, my stomach, what he will think of me, how to look cute and be funny without overwhelming, etc etc, in order to "keep my man". All the media reports say "men are just wired to want to sleep around." So is that it? Biology? All these women can't be "impossible" to live with. And they are all stunningly beautiful. So if it's NOT about looks, what is it about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): I think you need to just find a man who shares the same morals as you. There are a lot of selfish, egotistical, insecure men out there that are starved to have attention by the opposite sex all the time. It doesn't matter how much they have, it's not enough to fill the void in their inner emptiness. And you don't have to be a man to experience this. I'm a twenty-something woman who just cheated on my husband for nine months, and it turned out my lover...now ex-lover...was also married with children. We both are dogs for our behavior and we're both addicts in our own respect. I think overall, we found each other in a bubble of acceptance - finally, we found another person of equal "fucked-up-ness!" We felt normal in our dysfunction and was just happy to feel our compassion. But obviously, we're also very delusional and we ended up neglecting our spouses and families. At least we had an opportunity to be mirrors to each other and see where we went wrong. I'm not sure if we'll come out of this with relationships still in tact, but hopefully we'll grow to becoming better people.
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reader, LoveGirl  +, writes (11 April 2010):
nah, cheating men just use the excuse that some magic was used, their pants are unzipped and their penis found themselves in another womans virgina.just as you get cheating men, the same applies to women. women are more conniving, sometimes more manipulative and then GET AWAY WITH IT.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Maybe it's how your wired! Ive just came out of a decade relationship, and though I was in situations that I could have cheated, none of the girls were worth the pain it would cast looking into my girlfriends eyes and seeing her heart break as I told her I had cheated, it wouldve killed her, and I never thought twice about it, cause I think I was perfectly happy with what I had, still am, even though that bitch fucked her boss, kind of makes me wish I had taken advantage of the oppurtunitys, maybe it wouldnt hurt as bad??
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Here this question has true answer, but true answer has no guarantee that it will be acceptable. Let me reformulate the question again: Why celebrities cheat their life partner on sexual matter? If such is the question, then answer lay in the nature of sex and nature of human intellect.
Sex has greater creative force, so great that it is not perceived by ordinary mind. Celebrities are all fall under single category, CREATIVE PEOPLE. Their creative mind want more and more sex, from more creative mind which they happen to see around them. but, after all they possess mind with ordinary emotional mechanism. They have the same jealous mentality like ordinary mind, that create news paper story.
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reader, LarryGalapagos +, writes (9 April 2010):
No, I don't think that all men are wired to sleep around.
I know a lot of great guys who are looking for a wonderful wife, and the thought of sleeping around or cheating is simply a completely foreign language to them.
I myself have a huge sex drive, but I don't have the desire to cheat, nor will I ever cheat.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Your question is a little more complicated then that. Are all men just wired to sleep around? No more than women are. Keep in mind, you NEVER hear about people NOT sleeping around. Like anything else, they just tell you about bad news because otherwise... it's not news.
Personally, I don't think you can list celebrities in the same category as normal people. Celebrities aren't normal. We can debate all we want, but celebrities don't GET to where they are by being normal. And unfortunately, the Hollywood world doesn't follow the same rules us normal people do.
This site is a perfect example of how it's not just men, but women cheat too. I don't think it's a men/women thing as much as it's an environment thing. Look at Tiger Woods. His dad cheated on his first wife. Most likely slept around lots of times. Tiger grew up seeing that.
Men look at other women besides their mate. There's no doubt about it. But it's how they are brought up that keeps them loyal to their mate. It's not a wired thing. You just need to find a "good" man. Same thing goes for men when searching for women. There are plenty of good girls out there, but there are also girls who are never happy with the man they have and think the grass is always greener.
Find a good man and you will be fine.
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 It's not wiring, its just temptation that every individual has to endure and, depending on their relationship, some people have more reasons to resist it than others. People differ. Some guys, and girls, can have a strong emotional relationship with their significant other and still cheat because they have a purely physical attraction towards another person whilst others can't do so because they can't have the physical without the emotional.Another problem, which is one that I face sometimes, is the fact that it's easy to set yourself up to cheat. What I mean is, you could speak to girl and unintentionally impress her somehow and put yourself in a position where you think to yourself "She gave me her number, we're talking and she's laughing at my REALLY not funny jokes...what's the next step?". These circumstances are hard to avoid because, expecially for celebrities such as the ones you mentioned, social oppotunities rise frequently which means there's A LOT of potential mistresses. Combine this with an arguement you had with your spouse and just a really bad day and you have yourself a traditional recipe for infidelity.Ps I'd only go for Kim K there...then agian, i'd probably cheat on her.She just looks like the "eventually get annoying" type.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (9 April 2010):
"Honestly, should ordinary women just give up?"I honestly don't think we can apply what happens to celebrities and public figures to ordinary people. "Ordinary" women attract "ordinary" men, and visa versa. That being said, I don't this either "ordinary" person has a tendency to cheat.It's nice you want to look good for your man, but if you are with the kind of man who cheats, he will cheat no matter how much of an effort you put in to looking good or being who you think he wants you to be. Like you say, it is not about looks, it is about a lack of empathy towards a mate, and a need to feel significant by having sex outside of a relationship. Perhaps there is a link between celebrity and power with infidelity?There are plenty of men and women who won't cheat on their partners and that is because they want to have a committed, loving relationship based on trust. They want this far more than a fling or affair. Try not to be influenced by the media so much, look at your man and judge him on his views, attitudes and the way he treats you. This is how you can judge what kind of a man he is.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 I can't answer for the men of most of those women you mentioned, because I, for example, would be very, very, very, very extremely pleased to be involved with a few of the lot you mentioned (Hillary being among the exceptions).
I can say all human beings are wired to feel attraction for someone other than their partners/spouses/significant others. But we can learn not to act on those. Some people don't cheat. I recognize that it seems to be fewer and fewer people every time.
I can tell you that it's not the looks that keep you interested in a person. We're not that shallow, you know? I can't know what kind of problems there were on those relationships, or why the men in question cheated.
Give me one of these and I'll be happy: Sandra, Jennifer, Shania, Elizabeth. Maybe Kate Winslet. I suppose I can't have all five?
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reader, Myau  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Not true at all. You need to look at the men those women you mention to see the truth.It is said to be a good actor you have to be emotionally shallow, and most starts and famous people are. These people really believe their own hype and thus endulge themselves at all times.Every women you mentioned has also cheated and will continue to. Because they cant really connect with anyone emotionally.Im a Man and I have never cheated, nor will I.If you want to keep your man then treat him the way youd want to be treated and dont over complain or demand
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