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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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His ex has a new and improved face!!
Q. Guys, here's a question for you. My boyfriend's ex, with whom he was in a 4 year relationship with, has had major plastic surgery on her face since they broke up nearly 3 years ago. She has a new chin, and most recently, a new nose, a la Micha...
A. 22 June 2010: Your question about plastic surgery is too general. "Plastic surgery" can mean "what you do to help a person with severe burns". I am saying this just for the sake of clarification, and I'm not that stupid not to notice that you mean "Plastic ... (read in full...)
Men: How is it that young men are attracted to older women- does he want just 'benefits' with me?
Q. Need your opinion on this one. I am a woman in my forties. I have a great family:a husband and a 23 years old daughter. I look very young, sometimes people think I am in my mid-thirties. The last few years really young guys started to lik...
A. 3 June 2010: Q1605 is right. A good woman is a good woman at any age.... (read in full...)
Just wondering what an orgasm looks like and feels like?
Q. Ok so I'm a bisexual sixteen year old and I've started experimenting with my girlfriend... Who I just love so much, but recently she ate me out for the first time, and it was amazing. I was nervous at first but then relaxed and it was amazing.. I ...
A. 29 May 2010: I'm not a lady, but I can tell you that an orgasm doesn't look like anything because you can't see it. It feels divine, and that makes the happy experience one that comes with several physical manifestations, which you can see, indeed.... (read in full...)
Should I attempt talk to him, even out of curiosity???
Q. Basically, I found out I was the "other woman" in about a two year affair. The kid was older and I kept my virginity, thankfully. He had always had a "mystery" to him - he disappeared for three months without a trace and reappeared wanting me ...
A. 29 May 2010: If you want to have a relationship with someone who will lie to you, that's your business.... (read in full...)
Did he say he was allergic to condoms just to trick me?
Q. Help... I Just had unprotected sex and i am so scared. He claims hes allergic to condoms. Can someome be allergic or did he trick me me? ...
A. 29 May 2010: I understand that the diagnosis of several STD's is very quick. If it is AIDS, however, you need to wait for several months. At least where I live.... (read in full...)
Did he say he was allergic to condoms just to trick me?
Q. Help... I Just had unprotected sex and i am so scared. He claims hes allergic to condoms. Can someome be allergic or did he trick me me? ...
A. 28 May 2010: Some people are indeed allergic to latex. However, I think this would be a good excuse for not wearing a condom. If you wanted protection from certain diseases, you should have made sure he was indeed allergic.
Since you had sex, what's done is ... (read in full...)
I feel I need to be single but am scared to break with this wonderful man..
Q. I need so much advice. I'm only 20 years old and I'm in this relationship with a wonderful man. He is caring and sweet and I love him very very much. But, I'm unhappy because i feel like I'm growing up too fast. The last couple of years of hig...
A. 28 May 2010: You have put off telling him because you know it won't be nice or easy. But this is not out of consideration for him, because you will be dropping the bomb anyways. I wonder if the fellow has noticed anything at all; most probably he thinks ... (read in full...)
Is it common for people to fight in public over a woman?
Q. This is not a relationship question but perhaps some of the aunts will spare a minute to satisfy my curiosity. Yesterday we had a long thread on DC about a violent brawl in a pub between two young men fighting over a girl. Regardless of the OP's...
A. 28 May 2010: I take it that you mean that situation in which two men are after the same woman, when the woman hasn't made it clear who she wants to be with.
Beyond it being common or not, I wonder whether it makes sense. It's offensive to the woman in quest... (read in full...)
My husband won't give affection, so I'm seeking it from elsewhere
Q. why do I do what I do? My husband is my world. He is kind, funny, hard working and attractive. But has hard time giving affection. I have been married for nine years and feel "we" will always be. He's been working on affection, but now my mind has ...
A. 27 May 2010: You say you love your husband, but you consider him a wuss that would put up with anything you did. Surprises do happen, you know? One fine day you will find you lost him. Yet it feels so bad to think that it wouldn't be love, but convenience, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants us to live with his parents. What should I do?
Q. Hello. I have a problem. My bf wants us to live in the same house as his parents. And even if I like them, I'm not sure I want to live quite so close to them. What should I do: tell him no and maybe lose him or agree to it?...
A. 27 May 2010: You shouldn't have to lose your boyfriend just for refusing to live with his parents. And then, it's usually best for a couple to live in a different home. Relatives do mess with couples. Don't let them do it.... (read in full...)
My sister is dating someone that doesn't seem right for her. What should I do?
Q. Help! My sister is dating this guy and he doesn't seem right for her at all. What should I do? Should I tell her or shut up and pretend to be happy for her? The absolutely biggest reason that I can point out is that she really wants kids and pretty ...
A. 27 May 2010: I am sorry to say it this way, but this is your sister's business.... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to have sex with me? Or do we really connect?
Q. I met a man one night through a mutual friend. He lives a couple states away but asked for my number so that we could "keep in touch." I assumed it was just a friendly thing as I'm a very social person with friends all over the world. But when we ...
A. 27 May 2010: Your "really connecting" wouldn't exclude sleeping together. That said,
You say none of you could realistically be involved with the other, at least not for the time being. Yet you two seem interested in having a relationship. In this kind of ... (read in full...)
My husband left for another woman but I still love him
Q. Hi i am a 39yr old women married to a 39yr old man, we have been together 24 years and married 17 together we have 3 children. 5 weeks ago he woke me up to let me know he had met someone else, he met her 2 weeks before they started texting each ...
A. 27 May 2010: What you're feeling is only natural. Your love for a person doesn't automatically end just when the person leaves or hurts you, or both.
Now, his behavior is something I don't think you should put up with. You just can't suffer him to treat yo... (read in full...)
Is he honest about his feelings?
Q. I've been friends with this guy (let's call him Carlos)for almost 1.5 years. We met at school and we clicked instantly. There seemed to be an attraction. He asked out me out to lunch a few times, but at the time I had a boyfriend so I was really ...
A. 27 May 2010: Carlos is a Spanish name. If your alias for him is his real name, or if he's Hispanic, his hugging you meant a lot more than it would usually mean in Anglo culture. It would mean he REALLY liked you but was being respectful. In this sense, it ... (read in full...)
Do I confront her with the discovery of her email?
Q. I recently discovered my long-term partner had been exchanging messages with an ex boyfriend on Facebook. I work away a lot and these exchanges took place while I was away in January. What concerns me is not so much that she contacted this g...
A. 27 May 2010: I agree with the anonymous male poster that telling her about the Facebook thing would make her feel that you don't trust her. Because that's exactly what one would logically feel about it. You claim not to be a jealous man and to be perfectly ... (read in full...)
What can I do to show them that my lack of belief doesn't affect the person I am?
Q. My ex's parents do not like me. I don't think her dad is too fond of me but she said that today she heard her mom say to someone on the phone that she hates me. We are trying to work on our relationship and get back together but I'm afraid this will ...
A. 27 May 2010: There is nothing you can do here.
You said,
Just because I don't believe in what she does she thinks I'm a bad person or something?
YES. That's what they believe. And they have already toyed with the idea that they might be wrong, and... (read in full...)
The dates seemed to go really well, so why the silent treatment?
Q. I met a woman at the building I work in about a month or so ago and have been out with her twice so far. The first date went very well, she was obviously having a great time, good conversation, etc. etc. and she suggested at the end of the date that ...
A. 27 May 2010: I suggest you don't try to go anywhere near her. If things happened this way, you did nothing wrong. So there's no room for apologizing for something you didn't do. If she has a problem, she can't expect you to read her mind. And, if she will ... (read in full...)
Is the height difference between my boyfriend and me normal?
Q. Hi friends! I need your advice.I'm 17, my height is 153cm. It has always bothered me. I do not know, tell me, please, is it too short? My boyfriend is 179cm. Is the height difference between us normal?...
A. 26 May 2010: I think size doesnt' matter.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 26 May 2010: From what I see, what I can honestly recommend is to kick the man ...somewhere..., to reduce his sex drive so that it matches yours.... (read in full...)
Do men like a woman with a British sounding accent?
Q. Does a good as in posh ish British accent sound good on a woman? Are guys attracted to such women? not the stuffy posh accent but generally the accent of people educated at a private school....
A. 26 May 2010: I wouldn't mind your accent.... (read in full...)
Can you really love those you once hated?
Q. I have two questions. Are men attracted to women who have similiar personalities as they do? The other questions is I like this guy that I intially hated. Now I have a huge crush on him. Not sure how that happened but what I want to know is does ...
A. 26 May 2010: Yes, some men are attracted to women who have similar personalities to them.
And yes, sometimes you get to become attracted to someone you didn't initially like.... (read in full...)
I am ginger with glasses, how do I make myself more attractive?
Q. I am ginger with glasses and people give me a har time over it. How do I make mysel more attractive without dyeing my hair (I love my hair as it is) or getting contacts....
A. 25 May 2010: Ginger with glasses, I have been told I should get a new pair of glasses because I didn't notice you're a guy.
If you're a man I don't like you, OK? Bear that in mind. I like women, buxom above all.
Anyways, this wrong post of mine is great... (read in full...)
Warn the Cheating Ex's New Girlfriend?
Q. My ex was cheating on me. For more details you can go here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-checking-a-partners-internet-activities-a-violation.html I have since the break-up been breaking my own rule and checking his Facebook. I alre...
A. 25 May 2010: Er,....
No. Don't stalk the man.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: Not having sex is not a nice thing to happen, but then I would expect a 27-year old man who loved you to understand he won't always get it.... (read in full...)
How long should you wait if you want to keep a man?
Q. How long should you wait to have sex with a man you are seeing if you want to keep him?...
A. 25 May 2010: I would put together the answers given by Lazy Guy and Cnith. There's your answer, in my humble, plagiarized opinion.... (read in full...)
Do men like it when you play with their hair?
Q. Hey, I was wondering do (most) guys with longish hair like it when girls play with it or do they think it weird? I know its kinda a silly question but i don't just wanna be like "hey can i play with your hair" out of no where. Thanks....
A. 25 May 2010: What do you mean "playing with their hair"?
If it's something pretty innocent, then I would say some men would like it and some others wouldn't. Ask your guy and you'll know.... (read in full...)
I am ginger with glasses, how do I make myself more attractive?
Q. I am ginger with glasses and people give me a har time over it. How do I make mysel more attractive without dyeing my hair (I love my hair as it is) or getting contacts....
A. 25 May 2010: "Ginger with glasses" doesn't say much about you, except for "ginger with glasses". However, your describing yourself as simply "ginger with glasses" does tell me that you don't think that combination (plus all your other virtues) can be ... (read in full...)
Do I want contact with him for closure or to get back with him?
Q. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We broke up 5 months ago (I didn't realise at the time we were breaking up). We had both mentioned at the time that we felt things hadn't been working out, but I thought we would work on things like we ...
A. 23 May 2010: We all have trouble moving on. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
Latin men and french kissing
Q. Hello, I am a white woman 42, dating a very handsome Mexican man in his thirties. we have been dating for about a month. I was wondering why it is that he doesn't french kiss? I was wondering if it is a latin thing for men not to kiss like that ...
A. 23 May 2010: His kissing practices have nothing to do with his race. I think that should be obvious to anyone. Perhaps my being Mexican puts me in a position where the unnatural thing to do would be to even have any doubts about it.
And the race thing is... (read in full...)
Do I want contact with him for closure or to get back with him?
Q. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We broke up 5 months ago (I didn't realise at the time we were breaking up). We had both mentioned at the time that we felt things hadn't been working out, but I thought we would work on things like we ...
A. 23 May 2010: You want to get back together with him, and not only deep down, but on the surface of it.
Do you think he would say yes? When these things happen, one doesn't know whether to "find out for sure" or to say nothing and keep going. If you ask and ... (read in full...)
Latin men and french kissing
Q. Hello, I am a white woman 42, dating a very handsome Mexican man in his thirties. we have been dating for about a month. I was wondering why it is that he doesn't french kiss? I was wondering if it is a latin thing for men not to kiss like that ...
A. 23 May 2010: White Woman 42, another very handsome, sex-exuding Mexican is answering your question.
He doesn't French kiss because he's a damned fool. Where can I find this man to kick his ass?
Don't be subtle and tell the man you want to French kiss. If... (read in full...)
Is he insecure about me leaving him?
Q. okay ive been having some weird feelings about the guy ive been with for about a year now. i know for a fact we are exclusive and make plans for the future (holidays, having kids one day). one day we were chatting and he was talking about ho...
A. 23 May 2010: He's insecure about losing you.... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my husband even though he cheated on me with 18 year old?
Q. My husband cheated on me with an 18 year old from the district in which he teaches at. We have a family and a beautiful area where we live. Should I stay with him even though he did this to me? He has been married before and he would probably still ...
A. 23 May 2010: Don't waste your time with the girl your husband cheated with. Suppose you embarrassed her and everything; that wouldn't change a thing. It could help you let off some steam, but that's it.
As to staying with your husband, the unfortun... (read in full...)
Are there really guys who would stop watching porn if it really was a problem for me?
Q. I was wondering. It seems the general consensus on this website is that women who have problems with porn are insecure and that all men watch it and it's not fair to them to ask them to stop. However, I was wondering if it's fair in my case to ask. ...
A. 21 May 2010: I'm sorry to say this, but I feel kind of disappointed to know that this was a hypothetical question and that you enjoy porn, too. Now it seems to me like the whole thing can be understood as your feeling insecure about him. Yes, the man has eyes ... (read in full...)
I cannot help but feel that I blew it somehow with a man?
Q. You cannot help how you feel. I guess I am looking for confirmation that I did the right thing. But I still feel lousy. I met a man online - we went to dinner for the 1st time in mid April. We had a good time and I really felt a connection. And ...
A. 19 May 2010: Not sure. The big question is whether he would commit to you. It seems he can be committed, but his work won't allow him to be there for you all the time. A relationship with him could have been great, if you could keep up with his forced ... (read in full...)
Co-Workers Flirting!
Q. I was at my job and starting and about a year and a half ago I noticed what I think is two co-workers flirting with one another. One of them is married and I know the partner. If you were in a position to tell the married partner whether there was ...
A. 19 May 2010: I agree that this is none of your business.... (read in full...)
"My kids dad died 5 years ago but I can't stop thinking on his friend"
Q. Hi I m 24 year old single mom, my kids dad died 5 year ago n when this happened his close friend was there to pick up the pieces, even tho we hadn't spoke much before. we grew extremely close, he brought me out to dinner,took me places, introduced ...
A. 19 May 2010: Good luck!... (read in full...)
Help: My marriage is in trouble!
Q. So I guess I will give a brief description of our relationship. My wife and I were mutual friends before we started dating in 2004. She was 19 and I was 21. She had a 13 month old boy that I immediately bonded with. We were crazy in love, l...
A. 17 May 2010: I'm sorry to say that I see no hopes here. Do the best you can.... (read in full...)
I don't think I can be just friends with her. Should I end it?
Q. I met this girl about 18-20 months ago when I started my new school to do my A-levels. I'm 18 years old, and so is she. About a month in, I decided to stand up and dance to Michael Jackson's Thriller in front of half the sixth form (like, 150 ...
A. 16 May 2010: I see you understand how things will happen. But this is about keeping your distance from her, right? There's no hopes. And what you need to drill into your mind is that you won't be with her.... (read in full...)
I disagree with my parents view on arranged marriage
Q. My parents are strictly orthodox and believe in arranged marriages. I love them a lot. I'm not that pretty either. I have two secret crushes, both of them complicated. Crush 1 I have been sent to an all girls school but we interact with the ...
A. 16 May 2010: The alphabet soup got me confused but I did understand that both guys are involved with someone else, which should mean they are not available for you. As to the arranged marriage, Bravo! I agree with you. Don't give in to that source of lots a... (read in full...)
What's holding me back?
Q. Hey people i need your advice. I dont understand myself. Its been awhile since i broke up with my ex boyfriend but i do find it so hard to start dating again. So many men have approached me but idont know whats holding me to do so. Am confused cause ...
A. 16 May 2010: I think I could speculate a lot and still wouldn't know the answer. But we all have been there. I do know that at some point you need to convince yourself that there's love out there and you could have it if you allowed yourself to.... (read in full...)
I don't think I can be just friends with her. Should I end it?
Q. I met this girl about 18-20 months ago when I started my new school to do my A-levels. I'm 18 years old, and so is she. About a month in, I decided to stand up and dance to Michael Jackson's Thriller in front of half the sixth form (like, 150 ...
A. 16 May 2010: A week seems like a lot now, but think of it this way: "I've already spent a week without her. Well, that means I can spend another week without her". And, once you reach the two weeks, you can think that you can go four weeks. And so on. One ... (read in full...)
Help: My marriage is in trouble!
Q. So I guess I will give a brief description of our relationship. My wife and I were mutual friends before we started dating in 2004. She was 19 and I was 21. She had a 13 month old boy that I immediately bonded with. We were crazy in love, l...
A. 16 May 2010: Supporting the children is not optional, not just legally, but morally. Your wife could hate you but you've been a father to her kid with another man and your kid with her, and these two children are innocent of whatever happened. So, that's not ... (read in full...)
Are there really guys who would stop watching porn if it really was a problem for me?
Q. I was wondering. It seems the general consensus on this website is that women who have problems with porn are insecure and that all men watch it and it's not fair to them to ask them to stop. However, I was wondering if it's fair in my case to ask. ...
A. 16 May 2010: There are guys who would give it up for you because they would care about you, dearest.
I'm sure I don't have to tell you those guys were bastards.... (read in full...)
I don't think I can be just friends with her. Should I end it?
Q. I met this girl about 18-20 months ago when I started my new school to do my A-levels. I'm 18 years old, and so is she. About a month in, I decided to stand up and dance to Michael Jackson's Thriller in front of half the sixth form (like, 150 ...
A. 16 May 2010: All you need to do is make yourself unavailable for some time. You'll be doing the right thing, for her and for you.... (read in full...)
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