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writes:So me and this guy talk but he lives like almost 3 hours away from me, and me and him sext all time but it's just not fun for me anymore... I feel bad because we can'r see each other and sexting is basically all we have... How do I make things fun for us again? Also we do talk on the phone and video chat but it's just not enough for me anymore like I want to be with him in that way but we can't. Help please? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2016):
 what is stopping you both travelling to see each other? It is a flat out you can't which makes me think that neither off you are at a position where you can visit each other. If that is the case you need to ask what happens in the future? You cannot keep up a virtual relationship. Everyone would get bored off that eventually. So you need to talk and see if you can make a plan or else face the fact that the long distance is not working.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (22 November 2016):
Sexting can be fun for awhile but it can get so tiring also. You two need to decide to either move closer to each other or end it since you two haven't been able to see each other but only to seXT with one another which was fun at first. Try a real relationship with someone that lives in the same area as you that way you can do more than seXTing with a guy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2016):
 I think the initial fun and naughtiness have worn off and that is hard to get back. You two have reached a plateau in the interactions.
I presume sexting is more fun when you are feeling it's impulsive, spontaneous and not a "chore". Right now? It might feel like a chore and thus, it does nothing for you.
Relationships aren't just about sex and most relationships that are BASED on texting (and sexting) do fizzle out. The fantasy and games are only fun for so long. Humans tend to want more.
Have you guy ever met?
And how long have you two been "talking"?
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reader, N91  +, writes (21 November 2016):
 If you have no plan in sight to be able to see each other at some point then it's impossible that this situation can improve. Speak to him, if you guys want to see each other that badly then 3 hours really isn't a huge deal, you could spend a weekend together once a month or something.
If that's not viable then you both need to find people closer to each other.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (21 November 2016):
 You can't change a negative into a positive but you can change it into reality. Unless one of you moves how will it get better. You have exhausted the gamut of techniques you used to get off while sexting. It can be an addiction in itself, and like all addictions you are now looking for the next level. Sorry but you have worn it out. You have just found out why people go for real relationships and not just sensual experience because that has a limited shelf life.
So in answer to your question try and get a realtime relationship either with this man, if he wants it, or with someone new who will love the whole you.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (21 November 2016):
 If you can't meet up, you should break it off. Things won't change because you're limited by this virtual stuff.
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