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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear aunts and uncles,I have a lady fried with whom my relationship was completely platonic.I found her attractive when we first met and she is a good person. We hardly communicate and when we do it's about work related stuff. In the past week, one of her friends whom I had never spoken to but seen around before started texting me(we have a WhatsApp group for our organisation), just casual conversations totally out of the blue. And today all of a sudden my friend started talking about personal stuff for the first time complementing me on the good job I've been doing and also telling me that she's been feeling a little low and lonely lately. Does she want me to ask her out? Normally I would ask a woman out at this stage but I have a feeling that this is going from professional to personal too fast. Is she just being nice by opening up to me? Also It doesn't matter that we work together as I plan to go back to school in a couple of months and she knows about this.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2016):
 It seems she is probably looking for a friend, I suggest doing what honeypie says and see what she says to you.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986  +, writes (21 November 2016):
I don't think you should ask her out if it is going yo be a pity date because she is feeling lonely and sad at the same time but if you do ask her out. Take her to go see a movie like a comedy that way you both can sit there,without talking while watching the movie and she will be in a great mood. As for the personal questions maybe she wants to get to know you alot. If it gets uncomfortable change the topic to another conversation and you can tell her something about yourself that won't make you uncomfortable at all. Maybe your gal pal doesn't have a lot of friends where she works at or maybe she considers you a closer friend or maybe she likes you more than a friend. You and her need to talk and figure out why she is asking you all these personal questions that went from talking about both your jobs awhile ago now to personal questiins.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 November 2016):
 If she tells you she is feeling low and sad lately why not ask her... "What can I do to cheer you up?" That way you are NOT overstepping any boundaries as SHE can choose to say" Oh nothing" or she can say: " I don't know what do you suggest?" or "take me out for a movie!" (maybe)
But if doesn't make you seem like you are pushing for anything SUPER serious, yet it's still respectful.
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