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36-40,
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writes:Ok my problem is pretty simple - I am recently out of a long term relationship and since I've been single, a few guys I know (old work colleagues, classmates etc) have contacted me via Facebook and asked me out. Unfortunately I've not been attracted to any of them. I'm really not used to this and I find it awkward as some of them I've not spoken to in years. If a stranger approaches me I'm ok to simply tell them I'm not interested, but with these guys I'm not too sure how to word it. One guy was a bit pissy at me because we used to get on well as friends so he couldn't understand why I turned him down. Any suggestions?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 November 2016):
 I get that it can be awkward with friends. I would just tell them that you are not over your last relationship and you are not in the right place at the moment to have a date but you do like them as a friend.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (22 November 2016):
 Thank you, I'm flattered but I'd rather be focused on my friendships and not relationships just yet. Its all that bit too soon for me.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 November 2016):
 I would just say :" Thanks for the offer but I'm not ready to date ANYONE right now and I don't know if I want to date you as I don't see you as more than a friend". Or " I'm flattered but I don't feel any chemistry between us, so that is a no."
If he gets "pissy" cut him off. It's not like you OWE him to go out with him just because he asked.
IT IS OK FOR YOU to say no, thanks.
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