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writes:I am very confused; this is going to sound like a film but im in love with my best friend and I don't know what to do! So we've been friends since January and we've spoken everyday for the past nine/ten months but in September I told him how I felt and he didn't feel the same. Therefore we stopped talking and had some time apart. Then I got diagnosed with anxiety and he generally messaged to ask how I was and we started talking again. We talked generally for a while and i noticed he was abit different, he would tell me he loves me and that I'm different from his other friends. A few weeks back he asked me "what would I do if he told me he liked me and wanted to be hie girlfriend" and "if I still like him" I have like a weird answer where I said yes and no to both questions. I feel like he does like me but isn't telling me because he thinks I don't like him anymore. He kept on saying that he didn't like the girl he used to like and liked someone else I guess a few names and he goes "you missed yourself off the list" but when I guessed me he goes I don't like anyone. He's so confusing and I don't know what to do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2016):
 This sounds like a dilemma a 13 year old would have. He needs to grow up and stop playing games with you. You are suffering enough battling with anxiety you do not need him messing with your head on top off it.
I hope you are getting help for your anxiety as it truly is the worst feeling in the world. Also I hope you can be strong enough to not play games and tell this guy how you really feel.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 November 2016):
 I agree with N91, tell him to stop playing games. And honestly, if you still have feelings for him and he is doing this back and forth thing, I'd stop the contact because it's only making you feel confused and hurt and WHAT is the point in that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2016): Dear A Female,
First of all, I hope you are out of Anxiety and living a normal happy life right now. Secondly, please understand the root cause of your anxiety and it has a tendency to come back so never ever let it come back. Do regular Meditations, join fun clubs, zumba classes, yoga, dance classes or anything. Engage yourself. Thirdly, your best friend is a loser. Dont give him enough space in your head or heart. If you have convinced your feeling before he could do it and he has the same feeling, then he would have accepted it before only. He is either being ditched by some girl and he is finding the required comfort in you or he might be feeling guilty of your Anxiety problem. What I have learnt from my experience, guys are never confused, they are always very clear in their mind about everything. A guy has a strong commitment and mind than you have. If they like someone, then they will accept it and not linger around. If he is lingering then he is in doubts and doing it just to make him guilt free.
Confusion is a state of girls' mind. Of couse, he might have loved you or still do but a friend and not as a girl friend. You will find someone who will love u without conditions.
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reader, N91 +, writes (21 November 2016):
 Just tell him to stop playing games, he either likes you or he doesnt. Ask him straight up and tell him to stop wasting your time and playing with your head.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (21 November 2016):
Maybe he does still like you but hasn't bring himself to tell you but is trying to see if you still like him as a bf or maybe he is teying to toy with your emotions that you feel for him. Do you both live in the same state abd same city? Do you both go to the same school together? Which year in January did you two meet eachother?
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