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anonymous
writes:I am English, and my girlfriend is originally Polish. We went over to Poland in July to meet her family. She introduced me to her second cousin who is our age, who was pretty good at English. At first she said she was shy talking English and would talk to me more after having had a drink. I just got small signals off her that she might like me a little. But I really have no idea. Mainly giving a silly high pitched giggle if I said something funny or silly, wanting to have photos taken of just us two together etc. She would also ask lots of questions when she got over her embarrassment of talking English.I have spoken with her a few times on Facebook to arrange a second trip and we have chatted. I like to practice Polish phrases with her. I was just surprised that she put LOTS of winks and 'blowing a kiss' icons after things she would say, also saying things like 'I'm so glad I met you' and 'I'm waiting for you to come back'.I suspect she just enjoyed having a Brit speak some Polish to her, or was excited to meet a new member of the family. But I don't know. I just felt a little uncomfortable in ways.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 November 2016):
 Yes you could be right, it could be her personality mixed with the fact that she does not have English as her first language. I have had this a few times where people have made me uncomfortable until I have realized that this is the only way they know how to communicate and don't mean any harm. If she over steps the mark tell her. If you are uncomfortable then tell your girlfriend so she knows that she can trust you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2016): I am the person who asked the question. We don't chat often or secretly we have just kept in touch since meeting and often share links etc, my girlfriend is always around it is not behind her back. I suspect that a lot of the blunt things she says might be the result of her not being totally fluent in english, maybe everything comes across a little stronger ?
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reader, N91 +, writes (23 November 2016):
 She definitely likes you to some extent. I don't think those are the kind of things you'd say to someone you only wanted a platonic relationship with.
I think it would be best if you let her know that this is strictly friends.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (23 November 2016):
 Simple- "Hey..look (insert name) I dont mind chatting but Im in a relationship with your cousin, she means a lot to me and i feel a bit uncomfortable with you sending me flirty emojis. Im sure you can understand just how very easily things like this can get misunderstood so I need for you not to do it."
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2016): How does it matter? Just don't act from your side and quit trying to find out if she likes you. As a good boyfriend, you should know that even if this cousin girl does have any such feelings, she has to eventually get over it. Unless, you are looking to play dirty tricks on your gf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2016): Don't contact her unless you want to jeopardise your current relationship. She does seem to be sweet on you. I think contacting her other having private conversations with her on Facebook might be giving her wrong signals though it was not your intent.
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