I'm afraid he won't date me because of the age difference
Q. Dear Cupid, this 24 year old and I have been talking for over a year. He's an amazing guy and he is a gentlemen. We are very alike personality wise and we are always happy together. We both went on a group trip recently and we saw each other but ...
A. 8 April 2013: A 7-8 year age difference is nothing if both people are over 21. You didn't mention which country you're from, but I know that in the US, a 24 year old having sex with someone under the age of 18 is called statutory rape and can destroy his life if ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him his snapping and shouting is hurting me?
Q. Hi , My partner and I have been together for four years. We both have full time jobs and we work all the time ( I often work when I get home from work and at weekends too when I need to- to be honest I enjoy working). Lately he has been sna...
A. 8 April 2013: Maybe one of the other aunts can help you out with the procedure in the UK, but here in the US, typically in newspapers and online, there are many places where you can sublet or rent a room from someone as an interim to getting your own place if you ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my obsession with house music?
Q. About 9 months ago I went to my first rave. To make a long story short it was a life changing experience. I really connected to it. Ever since that day I eat, sleep and breath house music. I have attended quite a few concerts after that and I'm ...
A. 7 April 2013: As long as it doesn't interfere with life, grades, work, etc, there's nothing wrong with being excited! People spend hours with other hobbies, and this is no different.
Raves do have a dark side as well...hopefully your life-altering experien... (read in full...)
How can I tell him his snapping and shouting is hurting me?
Q. Hi , My partner and I have been together for four years. We both have full time jobs and we work all the time ( I often work when I get home from work and at weekends too when I need to- to be honest I enjoy working). Lately he has been sna...
A. 7 April 2013: Unless you two are married, you should not contribute one red cent to his debts, and he does not get to criticize how you spend your money.
Other than that, you ask how to tell him that his snapping at you is hurting you? You do it bluntly ... (read in full...)
Why didn't I realize he was a player? What can I do? I feel I was sucked into believing he was a single guy who liked me for me
Q. Hey all, Last November I met a guy through mutual friends. I liked him a lot from the moment we met and felt the feeling was mutual. We never hung out alone, just occasionally saw each other when we were out. I had heard rumors that he had...
A. 7 April 2013: I flat out adore CindyCares, for she has the patience I seem to have misplaced tonight. :)
You're looking for advice? You already know the answer!
Chalk this one up to the idiot move you vow never to speak about again. Don't beat yourself up... (read in full...)
I want my partner to be able to tell me everything but he's keeping secrets
Q. My partners keeping secrets, I know that he doesn't have to tell me everything but I want him to be able to! he took out a loan but its got a huge repayment. I got angry because we are already swamped with bills he's just been on holiday and to ...
A. 6 April 2013: You call him your partner. Are you married? Is this a legal civil union? Or are you living together but not married?
If he is your husband, you need to financially protect yourself, because if he's using your info to get money on the sly, it'... (read in full...)
Should I become my husband's carer?
Q. First of all a bit of background. My husband and I are in our mid 20's, married since January this year, expecting our first child and very short of money due to my husbands variable work hours. My husband also has Aspergers syndrome (diagnosed as a ...
A. 5 April 2013: You're overthinking things here. Of course you should register as his "carer". That doesn't mean you change things with him, it merely makes an intelligent decision to utilize all financial resources at your and your husband's disposal.
Remem... (read in full...)
My girlfriend claims we got too close too soon
Q. I'm so confused on what my gf is taking about. She said she's to attached to me to soon and feels she needs to take a step back. . We've been dating 3 months. The other day she's talking about me meeting all her family and her son and now this. I ...
A. 5 April 2013: Ahhh...female aunt reporting in here.
This is a classic, and when I mean classic, I mean *classic* case of her getting advice from friends or family.
CMMP is on the money here. Tell her that you are very happy to follow her lead here, and t... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend is asking me to send him pictures of my private bits. Why does he need them?
Q. Hello. I am a female in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives in another country. We still haven't med in person..but have communicated by email, telephone, text message and video and video messaging that he's sent me. This has been going ...
A. 4 April 2013: Listen closely!
"Opening the kimono" and "I'll show you mine, and now show me yours" is a trick, and you must not fall for it. Who cares if he does head stands while swinging his penis round and round like a helicopter? It does not obligate... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend is asking me to send him pictures of my private bits. Why does he need them?
Q. Hello. I am a female in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives in another country. We still haven't med in person..but have communicated by email, telephone, text message and video and video messaging that he's sent me. This has been going ...
A. 4 April 2013: Listen closely!
"Opening the kimono" and "I'll show you mine, and now show me yours" is a trick, and you must not fall for it. Who cares if he does head stands while swinging his penis round and round like a helicopter? It does not obligate... (read in full...)
My dad thinks my boyfriend has stolen from us and is going to report things to the police tomorrow! How will I deal with this if he is guilty?
Q. My parents divorced some months ago. The night my mom left, my father checked the house for things that were missing (she took appliances and some stuff) and through his gold (a couple family rings, etc), and it was there. The next day, my boy...
A. 4 April 2013: What's the most telling of this is that *you* have a shred of doubt here, and that you are actually thinking that your boyfriend might have it in him to steal. You questioned his having money, and you ate cookies he took without asking, and that ... (read in full...)
My parents are offensive to my guy. How can I bridge the gap in our expectations for the future?
Q. This is a bit long and I apologize but I have an issue. Anyway, I'm 21, ending my junior year of college, and I've been dating this amazing, intelligent, humorous man (also 21) for a year and two months. Even though I'm only 21, I feel like I wo...
A. 3 April 2013: You failed to mention whether or not your parents are aware of your current boyfriend's background or not. The advice changes very significantly based on whether or not they do.
1. Advice for if they do NOT know about your current BF's backgro... (read in full...)
A dating question: Can it work when one person has a career and the other what they consider 'an everyday job'?
Q. Hi I've been single for 16 months now. I've had a few dates, a few casual flings and I'm ready for a serious relationship. I met a guy online a few weeks ago. He's 8 years younger than me, intelligent, funny and we get on really well. In fact I g...
A. 3 April 2013: The other aunts have good points.
I saw it as possibly being something else. Given your ages, his being a bit younger than yours, he may in fact be considering gender roles as well.
He may be thinking that a woman can have a job or "every da... (read in full...)
When I'm single, I'm fun, outgoing and confident. When I'm dating, I become jealous and insecure. Help me!
Q. ok, so im just gunna get into it right away. heres my proublem im this fun, out going, very confident girl when im single. but whenever im in a relationship i turn into a jelous, insecure emotional girl. whenever i get into a relationship wit...
A. 2 April 2013: Heh...I know exactly how to help you get better:
DITCH HIM!
He's looking at naked pictures, ogling women in front of you, then putting you down for your reaction to his disrespect, right? He's keeping you off-balance and jealous ON PURPO... (read in full...)
He says he's had way hotter girlfriends than me???
Q. My boyfriend told me that he's had way hotter girlfriends than me, but he still tells me he thinks I'm beautiful/gorgeous on the inside and also on the outside and he loves me more then anything and that I don't even compare to his previous ex gfs.. ...
A. 2 April 2013: I agree with Honeypie here. This is a power issue with him. He wants you off balance, insecure, knocked down a peg, with the underlying message being "I can get someone better than you". Way hotter? I'd invite him to go ahead.
I also agree --... (read in full...)
My husband admitted to having a crush on someone else
Q. What do you do when you are so very in love with your husband, but can't handle the fact that he had an emotional affair? I struggle on a day to day basis knowing that he actually "put someone in the middle" of our relationship. Him and I, (so I ...
A. 2 April 2013: I read your post 3 times, and on the third time, some things jumped out at me in a sort of "read between the lines" thing. Bottom line -- you have every right to be upset, and you are NOT to blame for anything he's done. His words about how you ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? It bothers me that he says he has weak willpower and has had several opportunities to cheat on me, yet hasn't
Q. We've only been dating for a little over six months and have known each other for seven months, but I love him dearly. Despite our similarities, we're quite different in the sense that he's known for being a cheater/womanizer, he's sort of a man-wh...
A. 2 April 2013: Of course it should bother you. He's manipulating you. You can see that, right? He's pulling this crap because he wants you to basically go crazy needing him while you're away. He's trying to make sure YOU don't find someone better than him.
... (read in full...)
The elephant in the room: is he my boyfriend?
Q. I met a guy on a dating website and we have been dating for 2 months. We speak to each other everyday and say goodnight before bed. We sleep at each other's houses and have sex twice a week. He seems very loyal and committed in his actions and has ...
A. 2 April 2013: I agree with SVC -- Tisha's question is a very valid one.
AuntyEm's post is very good too, and I agree with it with the exception that for me, becoming sexual with someone does make the question of exclusivity a valid one now, even at two months. ... (read in full...)
Have I let this friendship go too far? He's going through divorce and I am married. I won't cheat for him!
Q. First of all, I am married to a great guy whom I love very much. We are not a perfect couple but we are still good together. I trust him completely and he does the same with me. Having said this, I am finding myself in a bit of trouble. A f...
A. 2 April 2013: YES you should let him go as a friend! I'm glad you are letting your husband know about meeting with the guy, and that's good. But does your husband know that he was interested in you in college?
A very good rule when it comes to having friends ... (read in full...)
Friend told me we are better as friends but did he mean it as he is acting more into me now
Q. Hi, Just looking for some advice as to whether my frend meant it when he said we are better as friends. The back round is that we know each other yrs and have been getting closer in recent months as in talking every day. I know he has liked me for...
A. 2 April 2013: No, he is emotionally cheating on you if you or he or both of you have feelings for each other. How would you feel if you had a boyfriend you loved who was spending a lot of time talking to another woman, and they both had feelings for each ... (read in full...)
Let this April Fools joke slide? Or break up with him?
Q. Boyfriend pretended to break up with me as an April Fool's joke? Well, apparently, he said it was an April Fool's joke. Should i leave him?. I think that's a cruel joke....
A. 1 April 2013: Yeah, April Fool's jokes are supposed to be playful, not cruel. His thought was to get drunk and then pretend to break up with you via text message (disgusting anyways!) after not seeing you for a week?
I'd say he's an idiot, and you should t... (read in full...)
Is neck kissing a turn on for guys? Or just girls?
Q. Is neck kissing a turn on for guys? Or just girls?...
A. 1 April 2013: Husband loves it! He loves when I run my hands along his chest too.... (read in full...)
Why Does My Ex Have Hostile Feelings Towards Me?
Q. My BF broke up with me months ago on Halloween. Even though HE ended it, he is the one who is hostile. We just cannot seem to ever reach peace. He would contact me and it always starts good and nice, then ends really dramatic. We'll have good ...
A. 1 April 2013: "Peace" with an ex means no contact. Leave him alone! Don't be friends, don't pursue him for a nice relationship, or anything. Let him go. Drop him. Leave him alone. End all contact. The idea of "ex" is to move on with your life away from ... (read in full...)
The elephant in the room: is he my boyfriend?
Q. I met a guy on a dating website and we have been dating for 2 months. We speak to each other everyday and say goodnight before bed. We sleep at each other's houses and have sex twice a week. He seems very loyal and committed in his actions and has ...
A. 1 April 2013: Two months is a new relationship, and it's healthy that the Love word hasn't come out yet. However, if you've become sexually active, it's not needy to simply ask "just to clear something up. I've really liked being with you these past two months. ... (read in full...)
Who makes the first move on a third date?
Q. Hi Everyone! I am single and have joined an internet dating site. I met this fellow, let's call him Mr.M. Originally we organised a date for the week after we met, but it just so happened that our work gave us the same day off before th...
A. 1 April 2013: You can make the move, and I'd suggest breaking the ice before the end of the date and making the move in the middle of it. I'm guessing given the right romantic setting, both of you will have making the move on the mind.
... (read in full...)
My partner says I'm too heavy for sex!
Q. We cannot have sexual intercouse because my female partner has told me that I am too heavy for her. What is the best way to lose weight? Is it a good idea for me to go to the gym? Has this been a common problem for other couples when hav...
A. 31 March 2013: Does your partner only believe in the missionary position?? Sorry, but her telling you you're too heavy so all sex is out is cruel. I think it's more to it than that.
I applaud you for going to the gym, but do it for yourself and not just to ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to handle our rude friends?
Q. I'm in an awkward position with a family that we have known for quite a bit. Recently we started doing more outings together as their little boy grew up, and they are more free with their time. Both husband and son act very strange when we inv...
A. 31 March 2013: I agree. If you recently made friends of them and found out this about them, time to either not invite them anymore or even discontinue a friendship with them.
Personally, if this kid was doing that at my house and the mom was saying nothing,... (read in full...)
I don't love him now. He never takes me out. He lies to me. I feel he's dangerous too. How can I safely get him out of my life?
Q. Hi all I just need an advice on how to get rid of a very dangerous boyfriend in my life. My problem is I don’t love him anymore and when I tell him the true he fights with and ask me question like am I dating someone. I’ve tried to be honest wit...
A. 31 March 2013: You need some help! Do you have parents, friends, brothers or other people close to you? If he is violent, you need to protect yourself.
When you say "violent", are you meaning that he hits you? Or are you meaning that he throws furnitur... (read in full...)
Whenever he sighs 'I love you' I think of him saying that to his ex
Q. dear cupids, whenever i'm with my 10 month boyfriend having sex and he sighs "i love you" i instantley remember a situation that happened between him and a girl he once slept with before me, in which he sighed to her "i love you" and she said tha...
A. 31 March 2013: How do you know about this thing he did with his ex? Did he tell you this? Did his ex tell you this? It's unusual that you should know about these kinds of details about a sexual past.
If he told you about this ritual he did with his ex, then... (read in full...)
What could my fwb want to 'discuss'?
Q. Friends with 'some' benefits situation: here goes: Nov 2012: approached him, started to hang out with him, told him I liked him, he told me he liked me too. Started to send flirty text messages daily. Saw him 2wice a week. Very sexually attract...
A. 30 March 2013: You're playing a losing game.
You're trying to play hard to get in order to try and get him to want you more for a relationship than just sex. However, he doesn't want that, and he wants to simply use you for sex. There's no such thing as "excl... (read in full...)
It is sad that our society is so quick to reinforce the idea of "old maids"!
Q. So, I just want to challenge an attitude that I've found rather unappealing on here. Recently someone asked a question about a woman who was single at 42. She had never married, and Fatherly Advice presented the view that if you have not found a...
A. 30 March 2013: On a side note, I always preferred the Phil Collins cover to "You Can't Hurry Love" though I'm a Supremes fan as well.
Each case is different as to why some people take longer to marry. One thing is certain, OP, is that that post and some of ... (read in full...)
I'm experiencing weird feelings towards a male married coworker! What does this mean and what do I do?
Q. This is going to sound bad probably but I need advice or someone's thoughts. I am married, I've been with my husband for a few years. We have had ups and downs like all marriages, though sometimes I wonder if we are suited to be together forever, we ...
A. 30 March 2013: It doesn't matter how emotional you are. No one is beyond learning self-control and emotional discipline. Many people even in happy marriages meet others we feel an attraction or at least strong chemistry for. This is the part when we say to ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend reaching out to my enemy?
Q. I "broke up" with my former best friend Margo three years ago. There's no love lost and I am very happy to have her out of my life. Not getting into the details, I truly believe that I was completely in the right to permanently cut off all contact ...
A. 30 March 2013: Actually, I'm more interested in your intentions rather than Anne's. You ended a friendship with Margo 3 years ago, so whatever Margo is up to is now irrelevant to your life. As far as Anne becoming friends with Margo, who cares how sympathetic ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my insecurities regarding my body weight?
Q. How can I get over my self-consciousness? I'm 20 years old, have dated a few guys in the past, but things didn't work for various reasons, most being that I just didn't "click" with them. Now, I'm overweight. In person, I have thick thighs and ...
A. 30 March 2013: The truth is, body insecurity is actually less attractive than the body itself. Your confidence in who you are, and even more important, your ability to take your mind off of yourself will set you apart from your peers in life.
Not to sound cr... (read in full...)
How can I make sex easier for my virgin girlfriend?
Q. Hi, me and my new girlfriend (since last night) just had our first sexual encounter last night. We played with each other, no actual sex. I've noticed that she's extremely tight. As in, one finger only, two hurts. I asked her if this is normal f...
A. 29 March 2013: Did you say she's only been her girlfriend since last night? Does that mean you've only known her for a day?
Best to slow down and not think about sex for a couple of months if that's the case because you both are strangers to each other.... (read in full...)
Is it the wrong time to be marrying with dating sites in the background?
Q. I am getting married in June. Two years ago I found her to be going on dating sites. First she lied about it, and then admitted she did it for a joke. I caught her doing it again and I left that time. We got back after she begged me and promised she ...
A. 28 March 2013: You can't marry her. Seriously, do people who are about to get married even think of dating sites? No way! I remember three months before I got married, and besides the wedding preparations and of course daily work and stuff, the feelings on my ... (read in full...)
Dealing with my wife's past...need help
Q. I’ve been married for 6 months now and I have been with my wife for 1 ½ years. We are both Christians, but we met while we were in our previous marriages. I found out early in the relationship that she had an affair about 9 years earlier with a ...
A. 28 March 2013: I'm with Jannie on this, and I'd like to add that both of you have a past that's not clean cut. One night stands are just as destructive and profound as her affair with the state trooper. You both are in your marriage starting out with a handicap ... (read in full...)
How can I make him realize the amount of distance his lying is putting between us?
Q. I have been with my husband for 19yrs. We have had our plights and problems. I left him about 5 yrs ago, for about 2 years, over a problem he covered up with a mountain of lies and betrayals. I continue to work with forgive and forget issues. He ...
A. 28 March 2013: Has he always been someone who lies? You said you've been married 19 years, and at least for the past 5 you've had issues about this. Was this the case earlier? 10 years ago? 15? 20?
In this case, no matter what the answer is, the two of y... (read in full...)
I'm feeling left out because I'm not as into gaming as he and his friends are!
Q. Dear cupid my boyfriend (hes 23) and I have a great relationship but I'm confused about his friends sometimes. Don't get me wrong I love his friends and I am glad that they have such a great relationship with my boyfriend, but they are always ...
A. 26 March 2013: Hold on a second! Are you telling the truth when you say that he games "all day every day"? Does he have school? Work? How old is he???
I am a gamer, so people who play in moderation are like anyone else with a hobby. But any hobby out of c... (read in full...)
I've gone from being madly in love with her to wishing our relationship were over. Break up or stay? Help!
Q. I'm in a long term relationship with my girlfriend (4 1/2 years). I have two kids (13/12) from a previous marriage. The kids live with me. About one year ago my girlfriend moved in with us. We had some problems during these 4 1/2 years. She woul...
A. 26 March 2013: I think you should break up with her. Flirting and talking about sex with exes is a no-no, and her excuses of "being lonely" are worthless. You shouldn't have moved in with her, and while I agree that she didn't sign on to be a maid for your kids, ... (read in full...)
How is it I enjoy having sex with him, but when ever he tries anything else, I can't seem to enjoy it?
Q. The first time my boyfriend tried pleasuring me, it was amazing, and I even had an orgasm. He continued after that point, and we both figured the irritation / discomfort I was feeling as he continued was because of over-stimulation. Ever since, ...
A. 26 March 2013: It's in your mind! Your clitoris is really sensitive after orgasm, but now your mind is trying to avoid that feeling, so now you're snxious about the entire stimulation. Just relax, enjoy the orgasm, and you have the power to remove his fingers ... (read in full...)
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