Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 3 May 2013: There is a big stumbling block to the debate over whether it's the woman's responsibility to ask, or whether a guy should be upfront over his porn use at an appropriate stage in a growing relationship.
The stumbling block is many women's equating... (read in full...)
Will a guy ever see me as "special"?
Q. Hello my questions is about my dating history. I have a few boyfriends in the past. I have noticed that men like to chase women they like women who are hard to get. For some reason I don't why men don't chase me. I have to make all the moves in the ...
A. 2 May 2013: Unfortunately, you've fallen into an all-too-common trap in your thought process, where you hope that a guy will see you as special in order for you to feel special.
In fact, it's most emphatically the other way around. You have to see yourself... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop yelling at me all the time?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and in the beginning he would never yell at me, but now it's like everything I do is wrong. I can't talk to certain people otherwise he gets really angry and threatens to leave me, if I don't do ...
A. 2 May 2013: This guy is controlling. This isn't about not getting him to yell, because that's his way of controlling you. HE has a say in what person you talk to? Sorry, but unless you're talking about going on a date with other men or ex-boyfriends, he ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him I'm in love with him but am worried I may be saying it too soon. What does everyone think?
Q. My boyfriend and I met online. We have been together for almost 2 months now. I am in love with him and I'm pretty sure he feels the same about me. We haven't actually said it yet. Is it the guys job or the girls? He is turning 31 this year, he...
A. 2 May 2013: In truth, 2 months is too soon. Many people are just making decisions on being exclusive then, and some people at the 2 month mark are just becoming sexually active.
Saying "I love you" is more than simply an expression of deep emotions. It's a ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Pr3tty_in_pink86, agree with you there. And some women still believe that a guy will automatically stop stuff like that because they're dating, which would be consistent with their whole "porn is cheating" outlook on it. So they wouldn't think of ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Heh, it's not the same issue revealing the intimate details of past relationships, because they have no bearing on the present one. Porn is a present issue, happening during and concurrent with the relationship. It's not the same thing. However, ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: "Oh come on YouWish, that would only ever change if porn actresses weren't supposedly "superior" to normal women or women weren't so insecure about their own bodies and desirability."
Come on yourself, Cerberus. This all boils down to the fact... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Sorry I'm late, and this is a good, thought-provoking article. I have one question though.
What is so wrong about disclosing during the beginning of a dating process that you use porn? This article is written primarily so that a guy does NOT... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: A 6 year age difference is nothing after the younger person turns 21. You're the one making a big deal about it, but 6 years is nothing. The biggest age difference I've dated is 12 year...did another 10 year as well. My best friend is 6 years ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? My ex-husband and I live together and take care of our kids, we haven't had sex in over 2 years, and I have started seeing someone!
Q. my ex-husband and I live together and take care of our kids we have had no sexual relations in over 2 years he hasn't even tried. he doesn't kiss me or tell me he loves me. He doesn't even touch me in anyway. I have talked to him about it. he said ...
A. 1 May 2013: Whether or not you should feel guilty has to do with how you answer the following question:
Do you and your ex-husband have a finalized divorce? Meaning, have you officially dissolved your marriage through the courts AND as it been finalize... (read in full...)
He told me to keep the ring but I think he should have it!
Q. I was engaged to be married to this wonderful man,we were dating for 4 years and then he asked me to be his wife,we were engaged for 8 months and were to be married soon!BUt things took a complete downfall at his work,and he started taking those ...
A. 1 May 2013: There are two things at play here. First, he's devastated by what happened for sure. He doesn't believe he deserves the ring back. Second and more important, he hopes to one day change his life, clean up his act, hoping his job situation and his ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 30 April 2013: I think you need a reality check.
You can't rescue people from their bad choices. You met her and she was all of the things you tried to "rescue" her from. She didn't change, and you can't change her, and you can't rescue people from themselv... (read in full...)
Does every man in a relationship still look at other women? Would every man cheat with a gorgeous girl if they definately knew they would get away with it?
Q. Hi, sorry this is long. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, he treats me perfect and has never cheated on me or given me any reason not to trust him. But out of nowhere I've started to drive myself (and him) insane by questioning him ...
A. 29 April 2013: You're right. If you keep indulging the anxiety and insecurity and press him, you will push him away. He cannot accommodate your insecurity, nor should you make him.
You bring up specific points, so I want to go backwards from the most serious ... (read in full...)
My friend's behavior hurt and embarrassed me. Does everyone think I'm just a fat slob begging for food?
Q. So there's this girl, whom I'm friends with. We're not best friends, but we do go out for coffee, we hang out with other friends, etc. I though she was so nice, and that she liked me also. Today she was with some people (who I also know). I sa...
A. 29 April 2013: It actually sounded like she was being considerate of you instead of mean. What would have been mean is if she, knowing the sweat and toil it took you to lose 90 pounds (congratulations by the way! well done!), were to pull out the candy bar, take ... (read in full...)
Does everything has to be "his way"? Is there anyway to get him to see reason?
Q. Hello everyone, hoping to get some objective feedback. My partner and I have been together for three and a half years, but have been in a long distance relationship for the past 1 year and 8 months (approx) and we have a two year old son who live...
A. 27 April 2013: You have to stay where you are. You know this and your boyfriend doesn't that changing environments and instability are detrimental to kids especially in the first 5 years. Sometimes it can't be helped, but in this case, it very much can.
You a... (read in full...)
He calls me immature for questioning his relationship with his ex
Q. I have a serious problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for five years and have a three year old twins. His ex girlfriend, who is also his other child mother is a serious problem in our relationship. He cheated on me with her multiple ...
A. 27 April 2013: Umm, leave him?
You know he's cheating, lying, and he should have been gone ages ago. Leave him, file a child support order in court, and never see him again except for visitation for the kids. ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried if my boyfriend asked a girl on facebook for her number?
Q. My boyfriend of almost 5 months asked another girl on Facebook for her number. We go to different schools but see each other every weekend. I know this because I went on his Facebook to post something really sweet and it popped up in a little chat ...
A. 27 April 2013: I would ask him about it. He shouldn't be asking other girls for a phone number. Usually if it's for a school project, people usually exchange numbers in person, and if you two are exclusive, he would have told you he had to work with the girl in ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to kiss others if you are dating but not exclusive?
Q. Honest opinions on this, if you are taking a girl out on dates, so you are dating now. Is it okay to still kiss other girls, or does that count as cheating even if she isn't your girlfriend? I don't mean a lot of dates only about 2 maybe 3, but s...
A. 27 April 2013: Actually, you totally need another woman's opinion of the situation, since the problem is with the girl you're dating taking exception to your Facebook pictures.
No, since you're not exclusive with the girl you're dating, that means that kissing ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about her being a threat to our relationship?
Q. Im a 20 year old female and i am in a relationship with a great guy. BUt I'm concerned you see a few months back the girl showed up out of the blue to see him before he got home from work i was at the house making dinner and she introduced herself ...
A. 27 April 2013: She is *not* a threat. She wants to be. She sized you up and tried a couple of petty moves, but the "I miss you buddy" and the "who the f*** are you" says it all.
He doesn't like her. He tolerates her, but she's actually looking kinda pathetic... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to gain his feelings back ?
Q. So once again my boyfriend and I are having issues. He told me he Lost feelings and interest in me .. He said he wants me to make him get those feelings back. I have no clue how to do that :( I feel that after I see him tomorrow I will be a single ...
A. 27 April 2013: You should be more scared of what your life will become if you stay with him. Never allow yourself to feel those kinds of feelings of desperation for any man.
You've not been with anyone else but him? So? Don't think of him as your only. H... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to gain his feelings back ?
Q. So once again my boyfriend and I are having issues. He told me he Lost feelings and interest in me .. He said he wants me to make him get those feelings back. I have no clue how to do that :( I feel that after I see him tomorrow I will be a single ...
A. 27 April 2013: He wants YOU to *make* him get his feelings back???
Trust me, you becoming a single woman would be the greatest gift you could ever hope to live for. This isn't about being a quitter. This is about cutting out a toxic jerk from your life. ... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 27 April 2013: You were home schooled? Don't worry! You will not be at a disadvantage when you enter college. If you find someone you really like, within a few dates, you'll figure out her view on sexuality's place in a relationship.
Where you meet her and ... (read in full...)
Are my insecurities playing a part in this? Or were his comments rude?
Q. I’ve been seeing this guy (exclusively but not boyfriend and girlfriend yet)for just over 2 months (I have known him for 5 months but things started progressing properly 3 months in), I'm 20, he's 21, things are really good between us in general....
A. 27 April 2013: First of all, ugh, the texting strikes again. Without eye-contact, voice inflection, and body language, many things are lost when it comes to texting.
He was teasing you. I know, I wouldn't appreciate it either, but he's playing the cool alo... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 27 April 2013: This subject always brings up a lot of emotions on both sides of the opinion table, and I like reading the differences of opinions whenever it comes up.
Personally, I'm okay with you preferring to be with a virgin if you are also one. To me, it's... (read in full...)
His answer to me standing up for myself is to break up
Q. Dear Cupid My bf broke with me cause i called him more than twice today. I had some money problem, i called him for his help, he got angry that im calling more than im supposed to and broke up with me in phone. I know i have to m...
A. 26 April 2013: There's more than one thing at play here.
Why are you calling your boyfriend up asking for money over and over again? That's inappropriate in any relationship. Partners are not ATM's, and asking or begging or guilting for money is a surefire... (read in full...)
Is my older boyfriend just realistic or pessimistic?
Q. HI there, I am 22 years old (female) and my boyfriend of two years is 32. I know the age gap is big but so far its not worked too badly. My BF isn't very experienced and so it sort of works. My question though is this: I am a very positive person,...
A. 26 April 2013: Hmm...well, your dream puts pretty much an expiration date on your relationship, so he might just not be enthusiastic about a dream you have that would most likely signal the end of your relationship with him.
I think your BF is a realist.... (read in full...)
Should I seek counselling let go and forgive, or Should I leave and not bother trying to fix this?
Q. Everytime my boyfriend and I have a huge argument I would leave for a night to go to my parents house to cool off or to go and speak to them and ask advice. When my boyfriend and I argue, we stay mad, irritated, etc., at least a whole day/night. So ...
A. 26 April 2013: For a guy to go message other women to meet up is asinine. He's using other women for a cheap ego boost, and he's trying to get an edge over you by showing how desirable he can be if you make him mad.
I wouldn't tolerate the behavior or his expl... (read in full...)
We didn't have sex but he use erection support pills! What to do?
Q. Please help, I don't know what to think!!! My boyfriend and I finally decided to live together and he took all his things to my apartment. Today when he already went to work I put his things in shelves. He has a lot of supplements and pills, e...
A. 26 April 2013: I'm guessing he bought them for the same reason guys buy condoms who aren't currently sexually active. They're bring prepared.
He wants to be ready to perform when it's time. Don't jump to conclusions that he's with someone else simply because ... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: Ahh geeze. I think you should leave her for more reasons than this.
One reason is this: "I've had to accommodate her insecurities through the relationship." That doesn't get any better, and indulging insecurities is only a slippery slope th... (read in full...)
Does my ex boyfriend really love me, when he has a girlfriend?
Q. Does he really love me? I dated this one guy for about 6 months and then, like most relationships, if came to an end. We never really spoke after we broke up, I mean sometimes we did talk. But if I ever needed help he would always be there for me. ...
A. 25 April 2013: Don't believe a word of it until he breaks up with his girlfriend. A couple of cheap texts mean nothing without action behind it, because he could merely be looking for sex on the side, or he could be trying to get back at his girlfriend for some ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my crushes on 2 teachers?
Q. I am sooooo shy, but, out of no where! I am suddenly attracted to older men and 2 of my male teachers!!! I've never thought of them in this way before but now just have sexual thoughts about them. It's really annoying because now I can't talk t...
A. 25 April 2013: Disciplining your mind is exactly right. That solution doesn't help because you don't want it to help.
Keep the reason why you're in school at the forefront of all of your interactions with your teachers. You're there to learn and get good gra... (read in full...)
Are these fishy goings-on, or am I paranoid?
Q. Hi there, I found a message in my boyfriends phone, he was flirting with a girl, but she lives/ works in another country, but yearly at least they come together at a conference in the same place. There was a lot of prompting from her side, ...
A. 25 April 2013: You "rarely" snoop, yet you're digging through his cell phone messages and breaking into his Facebook account?
You just answered your own question here without realizing it:
"I've not been paranoid in my previous 4 year relationship and... (read in full...)
He's separted from his wife but still legally married . We've been dating but now he wants a break. What should I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, this may be long so I apologize in advance. I have found myself in a situation I can't really talk to anyone about, except all of you. For seven months now I have been in a relationship with a gentleman who is separat...
A. 25 April 2013: I agree with the other aunts. You are the crutch, the bandaid, the diversion. He wants his wife and kids and family.
I will say something that they didn't say though. The reason you're feeling so out of control and would be willing to be tr... (read in full...)
Girlfriend still has 'feelings' for her ex. Is this normal? What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone. Please can you give me some advice. I have been with my GF for about 3 mnths. She is from Italy and has gone home there for a month. we spoke on skype and she told me that she had seen her ex at the weekend. she then told me that...
A. 23 April 2013: Actually, I think she is being honest with you. She had a problem letting go of her ex, even though a year had passed since the breakup, she still had sex with him and had kept ties.
It's good that she lives half of a world away from her ex, and ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and he finishes with me?? What the...
Q. Hi everyone. This may be a bit long-- but please bare with me. I'm very shocked. I found out yesterday I am pregnant. I'm 24 and very fortunate to be in a good well paying job with a good maternity package also. I have been with my boyfriend for...
A. 23 April 2013: SVC is correct. If the thinking of his mom is that his ex-wife had to "trap" him in order to marry him, it's clear that the guy was spoiled from day one.
This guy is 38. He will never change. He can never improve. He will never be good par... (read in full...)
He has a close, touchy female friend
Q. my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship. we've been apart for almost two years and plan to see each other and live together soon this year.he studies and works abroad. he has a very close female friend who is his co-worker too. the ...
A. 23 April 2013: If my boyfriend so much as dared to suggest that I was overreacting to a message that a girl left him that said "I miss your face and penis", I would break up with him. I would kick him to the curb.
I'm wondering if this touchy "friend'... (read in full...)
I'm feeling paranoid about his roving eye!
Q. I have just met a divorced guy with a teenage son. He seems lovely and genuine. We have been going out a lot these past few months and I can't help but notice how visual he is towards attractive women. I asked him if he knew the prety barmaid last ...
A. 22 April 2013: Heh, human males also like to scratch their umm...packages on a regular basis, but they wouldn't do it in public or at work or out on a date or a job interview. Same for blowing their noses, but never at the dinner table.
All men are visual, ... (read in full...)
I still think my ex is the one for me
Q. I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???...
A. 21 April 2013: It's the same thing, whether 12 or 13. A two year age difference is nothing....after both of you are 18. However, at the junior high level, it's an impassible gulf. Any parent worth their parenting chops would be exceedingly protective of their ... (read in full...)
Did my panicking ruin my relationship for good?
Q. Hi! My boyfriend and I broke up after two and a half years together at the end of January because of my over the top overreacting and how I handle things sometimes. It started out as a break but I panicked and it turned into a break up. I kept...
A. 20 April 2013: You are criminally stalking him. I had an ex who did exactly what you're doing, and I ended up getting a restraining order and he spent a month in jail before he got the hint, and even then for months he'd physically follow me around.
You h... (read in full...)
He resents me for revealing to others he is a cross-dresser. Can I fix this?
Q. So I completly messed up my relationship. When we fell on hard times over a year ago I told my not so best friend that my boyfriend was a cross dresser. Honestly I am pretty inky I like it. Well she tossed it in his face cats out of the bag now and ...
A. 20 April 2013: "When we fell on hard times..."
That's the true test of whether or not you can keep a confidence. If your friend tells you a secret about their life, and later on the down the road, you fall out of friendship with that person and they become y... (read in full...)
Is what my sister charges for babysitting unreasonable?
Q. I've got a bit of a dilemma around family and babysitting. I have four children. When I go for a night out I ask my 19 year old sister to look after them. She said ok and I used to give her £20-30 for sitting them. Sometimes it would be at night ...
A. 19 April 2013: Yep, if she wants payment, she pays you as well if you're watching her child.
Also, tell her that if she's requesting all of these extras, you should fill out the appropriate forms with the government and report it as income taxes.
Not onl... (read in full...)
Advice on the pullout method
Q. I have been with a guy for over a year now and we have been having sex the entire time we came together on the pretext of just sex on both parts it obviously escalated more due to our time together, well we have been using the pullout method and one ...
A. 19 April 2013: Pulling out takes so much technique and so much self-control, and many guys when they ejaculate actually lock up for that split second too long. 40% of the ejaculate comes out that first squirt alone. If the guy is young, he lacks experience and ... (read in full...)
I still think my ex is the one for me
Q. I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???...
A. 19 April 2013: You're 15 and she's 12 years old? Yeah, that makes sense why your mom would tell you that she's too young.
If what you have is real, then you can wait and be patient. She's 12, and that is too young to be in any kind of a serious relation... (read in full...)
I still think my ex is the one for me
Q. I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???...
A. 18 April 2013: Well, does she have another boyfriend? Why is she your ex? Who did the breaking up, and why? Do you have a girlfriend now? How long ago did you two break up?
Can you give more information, because it's tough to advise you without knowing ... (read in full...)
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