52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 26 February 2013: I've gotta state the obvious here -- what the hell is wrong with women in their 50's?? Why do you have to search for women 20-30 years younger than you are for kicks?? The stigma of 50-something women will never be directly or indirectly applauded ... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 26 February 2013: I'm going to tell you this very directly:
Within 6 months, you will be in bed with this married man.
Don't delude yourself here. If you've already slept with a married man and haven't learned your lesson by now that you can't play with fire, ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my BF is telling the truth or not? What lengths will some men go to, to tell lies?
Q. How can you tell if your boyfriend is tellin the truth whether a "friend" is just a friend orwhether he has slept with her. He denies anything happened that hey were just friends. I somehow believe him, just want to know to what lenths will you ...
A. 26 February 2013: Not to diminish the pain that caused you to write this question, but in all fairness, lying is universal. Men *and* women both have told lies like this. It doesn't boil down to a gender, but to an individual.
There are men of high characte... (read in full...)
Is my Bf mean to tell me, "if you wore make up you could look as good as other girls"?
Q. My boyfriend makes me feel insecure then gets mad if I ask questions about him having his exs numbers/if he see's then ect. He confuses me cos he says such sweet things sometimes but then he says things like "if you wore make up you could look as ...
A. 26 February 2013: Stop RIGHT THERE!
Why haven't you already broken up with him?? This guy is telling you "if you wore make up you could look as good as other girls" to justify his ogling and his cheating and breaking you down!
Drop the cheater! This guy betray... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 26 February 2013: She's already sleeping with someone else? Already? She's either unbelievably easy or she never stopped sleeping with other people. You might want to get yourself tested, because sleeping around like that has risks involved. You had only been ... (read in full...)
I'm broken hearted and confused over boyfriend's cheating. Can anyone explain?
Q. so I had dated a guy for 2 years. he had kissed a girl i had been friends with in high school last year. i was kept in the dark for so long, she still partied with him and talked, he even asked me for her number. i didnt have any idea, i thought ...
A. 26 February 2013: Let me ask you this question:
What if you bought fresh corn on the cob from a certain farmer's market for the past 2 years, and it was the best corn you've ever eaten, but say you never quite felt right after eating it. You didn't even know why... (read in full...)
I'm moving out but too scared to tell Mom!
Q. Well alot if things had change lately. Hmmm so after everything my boyfriend ask me seriously to get a place with him. I must be out of my mind cause I told him yes I will get an apartment with him. Now.. I have no close what I'm going to tell me ...
A. 25 February 2013: No WAY should you move in with this guy! Are you even serious?
If you think that moving in together is "a big commitment he's making", you're sorely mistaken. Moving in IS NOT COMMITMENT, and if you think he's going to suddenly commit by movin... (read in full...)
What can I do about my fiance who continues to lie to me? Money is tight yet he still spends on things we can't afford.
Q. my fiance keeps lying about stupid things and its driving me up the wall. He's not working at the moment so money is tight, I have spoken to him about how much he keeps spending several times now. He has two kids from a previous relationshi...
A. 25 February 2013: Wait a minute - WHAT?!?
He rings up his credit card, yet you say "WE" have to pay it back with interest??
You're not married to him. Why do *you* have to pay back anything? It's his card, *his* bills. HE pays it back, nothing about th... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 25 February 2013: Wow, strange. She chooses you simply because she saw an older man in a porn video? Maybe Cerberus did hit pretty close with his "fetish" comments.
But if it's a fetish thing for her, and you said "It is not like the 20 year old would ever be ... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 24 February 2013: Your daughters didn't give you the ultimatum. They merely gave you their opinion.
The 20-year old woman you were seeing actually suggested you cut off your daughters for her, which in my opinion is completely hideous. You were right to drop her... (read in full...)
Would a guy text you every day if he just wanted sex?
Q. Hi, Would a guy text you every single day if he was just after sex. Me and this guy ( i know him yrs as were in the same group of friends years) had a drunken kiss at christmas. He had been trying it on a few times over the last couple of y...
A. 24 February 2013: Burn this into your emotions and your memory whenever you think of him:
If he does this to another woman, he'll do it to you. He already *is* a cheater if he's kissing you while with someone. What if his girlfriend was your best friend, or your ... (read in full...)
I think my guy is still hung up on his ex. There are too many rules about sex because of how he did things with her!
Q. I think my partner is still hung up on his ex. The reasons I think this are: 1) he won't kiss me properly (tongues are a definite no-no) as he says when he used to kiss her she wanted more than just kissing. I have assured him I am not the...
A. 23 February 2013: You gave 7 points, so I'm going to respond with 7 points:
1. What guy in the world does NOT want a girl to want more when they kiss?? That makes no sense. Did he have his penis bronzed with his exes name engraved on it?
2. You have no idea... (read in full...)
I'm moving out but too scared to tell Mom!
Q. Well alot if things had change lately. Hmmm so after everything my boyfriend ask me seriously to get a place with him. I must be out of my mind cause I told him yes I will get an apartment with him. Now.. I have no close what I'm going to tell me ...
A. 23 February 2013: If you're an adult, your mom can't stop you.
However, even more than what you're going to say to her, how will you live? How are you supporting yourself? What are your plans after you move in with him? Will you be going to school? Are you a mo... (read in full...)
What we had together was amazing. Why did my commitment phobic guy cut me off the way he did?
Q. I dated this guy for a year. He was commitment phobic from the start because he had some horrible experiences in his past, but we decided to go with the flow, because the chemistry and compatibility between us were very strong. In fact I woul...
A. 23 February 2013: Yeah, it all boils down to his being commitment-phobic from the start.
You have to understand something -- when you start dating someone, you cannot change them, nor will their relationship with you suddenly make them automatically lose all of t... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex in sex years and new guy is bigger. Will sex hurt like the first time again?
Q. I didn't have sex for 6 years after break out with my ex bf. Now ready to have sex with my current bf. He is lot bigger than my ex and I remember my vagina stretch painfully when I lost my virginity. I afraid this may happen to me again. Will I feel ...
A. 23 February 2013: The pain you felt when you lost your virginity was most likely because you tore your hymen, and that doesn't re-grow, so I think you'll be fine.
If your vagina was built to give birth to a baby, I think it'll take another inch or two. The hyme... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother swore at me!
Q. I was at my bf's home this other day with him til his mom appeared and she started swearing at me in not many words saying that i am a bitch i sleep with boys and obviously showing that i am not good for his son....so it is haunting me i cannot do ...
A. 23 February 2013: Have you met her before? How long have you been dating her son? Has there ever been any fighting between both of you before? Have you and your boyfriend ever broken up? Was there ever cheating involved? Does his mom know your mom?
Unles... (read in full...)
I resent my girlfriend because she's hot and I'm not!
Q. I'm a horrible person. I have a really great friend. She is by far the kindest and most sincere and loyal friend I have ever had. She's such a true friend that I truley.think if it came down to it she would throw herself in front of a car to save my ...
A. 23 February 2013: You can start by taking off the colored contact lenses. Take your mind off of yourself. The meaner you are to her, the uglier and more disgusting you are. The kinder you are to her and others, the more beautiful you are. Why bother with makeup ... (read in full...)
How do I get my daughter to open up and talk to me?
Q. How do you get your teen to open up and talk with you? My daughter is 15 and we have had on and off issues for few years so we are not as close as we used to be. Now I have suspicions she is sexually active but she is very shut down and seems ...
A. 23 February 2013: I talked to my mom on the phone today and mentioned your post to her, and her response was "I could have been the mom in that post when you were 15" which made me think about that.
My mom and I fought like cats and dogs right up until the time I w... (read in full...)
Was a Bj the first night too soon? Do you think we have a chance at dating and him respecting me?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm 27 years old and a few weeks ago I met a man at a party. We hit it off right away and spent the entire night talking and drinking, he got tipsy and invited me to stay the night there with him but I laughed it off and offered ...
A. 23 February 2013: Yeah, given that he tried to get you into bed right from the party, and given that even on the first date, he got you into his house and got physical to this degree shows that he wanted quick sexual gratification from you. He didn't want to take ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this baby Dad Drama, caused by his new GF? I need help.
Q. My child's father and I have been really going through the drama. His new girlfriend is the cause of it. She does things to influence our arguing I'm honestly tired out of fighting and I'm tired of her causing problems I talked to him about ...
A. 23 February 2013: This is not about your baby. You want him back and she's an obstacle. She wants him and you are her obstacle. This one's not hard at all.
You have to respect your ex's choice in women. Be classy. He's with someone else, so make all contact ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 23 February 2013: I thought that was going to be the case here.
Remember how you feel right now. Don't ever forget that lying about your age never gets you what you want. This isn't about some baggage from your abusive ex-wife. This is about you wanting a qualit... (read in full...)
Girlfriend on site to cheat with married man. Is it time to end things?
Q. I have found out my girlfriend of 2 years went onto a site that is designed for married people to cheat on each other. Her friend told me. I am surprised she told her anyway. She wrote that she is single and looking for an uncomplicated no strings ...
A. 22 February 2013: Oh yeah, it's time to end it for good. Absolute irreversible dealbreaker for life.... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend.. but he joins me on xbox?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, 3 days ago and have been NC since. He'd started being distant and this was a problem I'd had for months. He said he wanted to be with/loved me but the distance was too much. I assumed he was waiting for me ...
A. 22 February 2013: Yeah, I play CODBO2 on occasion myself, and it doesn't mean much except maybe it's his way of keeping even a tiny bit of contact.
If you insist on NC, simply ignore him or leave the lobby where he is to find another game. There are 6 zillion ... (read in full...)
Is it really true? Once a cheater always a cheater?
Q. Can people be truly sorry for cheating and never go on to do it again? Or is it a case of once a cheater always a cheater? I've cheated in the past knew it was wrong and never done it again. My boyfriend of four years cheated in the b...
A. 22 February 2013: This may be long here, so I apologize in advance to everyone who reads this.
I believe cheating is like pneumonia. After tasting it once, you are extremely susceptible to doing it again. A cheater has a very high recidivism rate, especial... (read in full...)
How do I get my daughter to open up and talk to me?
Q. How do you get your teen to open up and talk with you? My daughter is 15 and we have had on and off issues for few years so we are not as close as we used to be. Now I have suspicions she is sexually active but she is very shut down and seems ...
A. 21 February 2013: I'm a mom too. Kids start developing their own worlds and start straining for their freedom. Not ready to fly yet, they start fighting against the parental restraints anyways. That's natural! If teenagers didn't go through this phase, no kid ... (read in full...)
Six years since I saw her and now old crush is commenting on my face book?
Q. Probably one of the stupidest and ridiculous things to be writing on here about, but I'm just not thinking straight right now. Female friend I crushed on in high school. Never took a chance, I went to a college far, far away, and contacted her vi...
A. 21 February 2013: So because you don't have the guts to contact her and ask her out, you've been torturing yourself for 6 years.
Why wonder why she's giving you Facebook attention? Who cares! You either are going to do something about how you feel, or you won'... (read in full...)
Online woman is pinning all her hopes on me but we are not exclusive. Is it ok if I meet someone else to date till we meet?
Q. I been single over 12 months and joined a few dating sites. Have been chatting to a woman in the USA for about 2 weeks and we really get on. Because we get on she has now set her profile to 'private' so she can concentrate on me, and she has plans ...
A. 21 February 2013: I think your answer would be found in the Golden Rule -- treat others how you would want to be treated.
You said this: "Im not leading the USA woamn on and we both agreed that we live our lives until we meet and see what happens from there," ... (read in full...)
My fiancee sometimes doesn't know his limits on drinking. Not sure when to interfere.
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for 6 years. His drinking has been an issue in the past but not for the last year or so. He's not an alcoholic but when he does indulge he becomes irate very easily. He went out for drinks with his male coworkers ...
A. 21 February 2013: I think that scheduling a haircut after knowing he was going out with the boys was not smart even if he showed restraint on his drinking. Your daughter shouldn't be in the hands of anyone who isn't stone cold sober when she's a toddler. I don't ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now my boyfriend wants concrete evidence that I won't cheat or go back to the other guy!
Q. I have been in a very stable relationship with my boyfriend and we were supposed to get married end of January.I did something horrible and i cheated on him a few weeks before we got married and now he wont take me back. The truth is i love my boyfr...
A. 21 February 2013: There's nothing you can do here. Writing a letter, proving yourself to him, pleading, begging, etc. are completely useless here, as there is nothing that can erase what happened and restore your relationship the way it was.
What he's really l... (read in full...)
Since I found out about her history I'd like her to get tested
Q. Hello all! I come with a questions and concern. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it's been great, I know I love her and I know I will spend the rest of my life with her. The problem is, I knew her back in grade sch...
A. 21 February 2013: I agree with doublejack in that you bring it up that before you both get sexually active, BOTH of you take STD tests together. Doesn't matter if you take one every year or after a relationship, you need to suggest BOTH of you getting tested.
... (read in full...)
When he tried to break up with me I started crying so hard he started crying to and said he would stay but now he doesn't text or call like he used to.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three months now. Everything was okay before one of his ex girfriends decided that she wanted to "reconnect". From the actions he is showing he doesn't want her back but she has basically pushed him ...
A. 21 February 2013: I agree with the others. Your relationship is over now, even though he backed off when you reacted to his breakup of you.
You can't let any guy make you react like that in front of him. If he wants to break up to go run back to some ex he sa... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 21 February 2013: 10 years may be okay, but you're actually 17 years older than she is. Basically, you did to her what a 65 year old woman would do to you.
If you're so interested in the truth, then here's the *real* truth:
You didn't falsify your age because... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 19 February 2013: Yeah, you can't start a relationship on a lie. If you are 48, you have the option of posting which age range of woman you're interested in dating. If I found out a guy lied about his age, it would really put me off and wonder how easy lying comes ... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 19 February 2013: I am quite sure you're in the clear based on what you've said and what you discovered. Like I said, guys with things to hide on their phones tend to keep them from their wives, not ask them to look through them.
I'd just casually ask him "oh hey,... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 19 February 2013: Before you jump off of the paranoid express here, let's think about this one logically.
If this guy had a major secret to hide, he wouldn't be asking you to search through his phone to find a number if he was hiding something from you.
Seco... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has 20,000.00 he borrowed from me. Will I get it back?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years broke up with me few days back, he was very abusive during the last 1 yr. Im still under depression and i did all things like begging, sending him mails, calling him to take me back. He didnt repond to anything, i gues...
A. 19 February 2013: Oh, and did I mention to get a good lawyer??... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has 20,000.00 he borrowed from me. Will I get it back?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years broke up with me few days back, he was very abusive during the last 1 yr. Im still under depression and i did all things like begging, sending him mails, calling him to take me back. He didnt repond to anything, i gues...
A. 19 February 2013: Pardon my language, but HOLY SHIT!
What the hell are you, a bank?!?
You listen to me very VERY carefully:
Document *everything* you communicate with him from here on out, and if possible, let everything be in writing:
Send him a R... (read in full...)
How to cope with your man going to prison
Q. im 19 me and my man got busted together hes going to prison. I feel so guilty like its my fault. I tried taking some of his charges but he wouldn't let me. were in love but its so hard for me not being able to see him. im waiting for him but all I ...
A. 19 February 2013: Oh man, I'm going to be hard on you, but before I do, please understand that it's only from the best intentions here and that I'm trying to be kind to you.
Here goes:
WAKE THE HELL UP!!!!!!
What kind of life do you want? Being a felon wil... (read in full...)
My wife confessed that she cheated and our 4 year old daughter isn't mine. How do we proceed from here?
Q. I'm 32, and my wife's 31; been together for 9 years now. We have a 5-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. Last night she told me she had something to confess; I asked her what it was, and she admitted to me: "Our 4-year-old daughter isn't m...
A. 18 February 2013: You don't sound stupid in your post, but articulate, well-spoken, and a good person. In my experience, someone like you so quick to forgive without talking through deep underlying issues may be doing so out of guilt. I wonder if there are things ... (read in full...)
How do I stop sexting crap with my ex girlfriend?
Q. Guys, i dont know how to handle this situation. Me and my highschool sweetheart have texting for a while now after a gap of about 4 years. I kind of like another girl now, and i am seriously considering her as my partner. But lately my texting ...
A. 18 February 2013: Cut off contact. Staying in constant contact with an ex is a dealbreaker for other girls, and if you're interested and make a move on someone else, they'll go ballistic to see an ongoing sexting relationship with an ex. How would you feel if your ... (read in full...)
How can I get past this doubt in my heart that she's being faithful?
Q. I've heard some rumors about my girlfriend from a friend of mines on campus. He says that someone he knows has been saying he and my girlfriend had a thing a few months back. We're weren't a couple back then so naturally this was something that ...
A. 18 February 2013: That would sure be something if we had the Insecurity Perfect Storm happening, and she thinks you being with someone will make you a target for other women to make sport of busting you up, sort of like a dog who digs a hole to hide its bone to keep ... (read in full...)
How can I get past this doubt in my heart that she's being faithful?
Q. I've heard some rumors about my girlfriend from a friend of mines on campus. He says that someone he knows has been saying he and my girlfriend had a thing a few months back. We're weren't a couple back then so naturally this was something that ...
A. 17 February 2013: Ooh, you should be extremely paranoid right now, but not of your girlfriend.
If there's someone to be paranoid of right now, it's your friend, because it sounds an awful lot like he's got designs for your girlfriend. What better way than to plant... (read in full...)
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