Can skinny men protect their women?
Q. I am dating a guy who is 6ft 4 and thin.I have not been dating lanky men since i was in sixth form.but he is just so different. However. my mum who I am very close with has mentioned I might get bored or feel unprotected as he is not muscly in bu...
A. 13 June 2013: Your mom is absolutely off the mark on this one. A thin guy can be just as much of a protector as anyone else. Thin can means agile and fast. The best guys in my TKD class growing up were nearly toothpicks, and they could kick the teeth out of a ... (read in full...)
My wife cannot have sex because of a medical problems and I need relief!
Q. Hello, My problem is embarrassing, but it is affecting my life very significantly now, and medicine seems not to be of help. My wife is everything to me. We met in college and fell in love, and everything went okay. We didn't have sex before ...
A. 13 June 2013: What is she doing for treatment of vaginismus? There are treatments from psychological (many cases are the result of childhood trauma or fear) to physical (dilation treatment has been known to work wonders).
I totally understand how you feel... (read in full...)
Our marriage is hanging by a thread. My husband changed his facebook password and won't give it to me!
Q. I need help trying to not let it bother me that my husband changed his fb pass on me and wont give it to me cause i cant trust him. Our marriage is hanging by a thread and im trying really hard to fix this prob. It doesnt help that most people I ...
A. 12 June 2013: What exactly are you saving your marriage *from*?
He has never cheated on you, and you consider him flirty, but to someone with insecure trust issues and looking for a reason to distrust, any and every communication with the opposite sex looks li... (read in full...)
G/f can achieve orgasm only by herself not through sex. I'm starting to love her less and less
Q. Thanks in advance for any replies. Basically my girlfriend rarely achieves orgasm when we are together. We've tried the obvious things from me going down on her for a long time, to putting a pillow under her hips for when I am on top. When she...
A. 12 June 2013: Stop asking to see her do it! That's her private time and she doesn't do it for your benefit. Her sexuality isn't yours, so it bothers me that you love her less because she doesn't want you to watch her? She's not a paid porn star!
If she says... (read in full...)
After 5 months of dating he says he needs time. I don't know what I did wrong?
Q. I've been dating this man for 5 months. Things have gone as they should and we've gotten very close. We spend every weekend together and see each other several times during the week. I have let him lead the relationship. It has always been him ...
A. 12 June 2013: Ohhh NO NO NO don't let him get away with that!
He's pretty much wanting Friends With Benefits. He wants the "Girlfriend Experience" without having the responsibilities of actually being in the relationship.
You're no naive young girl who w... (read in full...)
After 5 months of dating he says he needs time. I don't know what I did wrong?
Q. I've been dating this man for 5 months. Things have gone as they should and we've gotten very close. We spend every weekend together and see each other several times during the week. I have let him lead the relationship. It has always been him ...
A. 12 June 2013: Five months isn't much time to be in a relationship. When he said he needed time away from you, did you ask him why?
It sounds like his baggage is interfering with his ability to be emotionally intimate. It could mean that an ex has contacte... (read in full...)
Our marriage is hanging by a thread. My husband changed his facebook password and won't give it to me!
Q. I need help trying to not let it bother me that my husband changed his fb pass on me and wont give it to me cause i cant trust him. Our marriage is hanging by a thread and im trying really hard to fix this prob. It doesnt help that most people I ...
A. 12 June 2013: I'm a bit late to this party, but how long have you two been married??
I think there is a bit of a misunderstanding on your part as to what a husband or a wife is entitled to give each other.
The first question, obviously is, HAS HE CHEATED o... (read in full...)
My g/f broke up with me over a kiss and yet she cheated on me and I forgave her!
Q. Thanks for reading, I just don't know where to turn to, so I am asking you lovely people :) I have been with my girlfriend for just over 1 year. Things were really good between us. Very early on into the relationship, we did have a bump in the ro...
A. 12 June 2013: I should state the obvious here -
If she's cheating on you early in the relationship, and you're mouth-kissing other women for the cameras, then why aren't you concluding that neither of you are right for each other?
I know for sure that th... (read in full...)
Planned a vacation with a friend but her negativity is giving me second thoughts
Q. Here is the upsetting situation for me with my friend. More than a year ago we went to a bar with her and I met one of the most gorgeous guys ever. He was younger and really good looking. He took my phone number in bar, and kept texting me after we...
A. 12 June 2013: Oh! I forgot to mention --
90% of the time, when you see symptoms like this, where you meet someone from out of town, they have wild sex with you, then go long distance, then they go distant when you make real steps to see them, it means ON... (read in full...)
Fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!!! I feel really used!!
Q. Hi everyone. OMG!!!! I just fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!! I am such a mess. I really need some help from all of you!!!!! We work together and he suggested we meet outside the workplace for coffee. We talked for a couple o...
A. 12 June 2013: Anon reader, I understand what you are saying. I judge the married man first and foremost for being cheating, using, pond scum, and I don't care who objects.
Keep in mind -- she is an ACCOMPLICE to his cheating. I don't know about Canada, ... (read in full...)
Planned a vacation with a friend but her negativity is giving me second thoughts
Q. Here is the upsetting situation for me with my friend. More than a year ago we went to a bar with her and I met one of the most gorgeous guys ever. He was younger and really good looking. He took my phone number in bar, and kept texting me after we...
A. 12 June 2013: I think you're deflecting here. You're mad at the wrong person to be honest. This guy entices you to go visit his country, then starts getting short with you and blowing you off! Why aren't you getting mad at HIM and not her?
Truth... (read in full...)
I think my crush on an actor is getting out of control
Q. This is going to sound really, really stupid, but I've recently developed a huge crush on an older Austrian actor... guess who? I don't actually find him that attractive per se, it's more that I like his voice, his films, his one-liners etc. and...
A. 12 June 2013: Oh geeze, I had a *massive* crush on Michael Biehn from Terminator. Then I realized he most likely had never taken a shower or brushed his teeth. I am weird when it comes to that stuff. Every time I see a morning "just waking up" kiss or ... (read in full...)
Fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!!! I feel really used!!
Q. Hi everyone. OMG!!!! I just fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!! I am such a mess. I really need some help from all of you!!!!! We work together and he suggested we meet outside the workplace for coffee. We talked for a couple o...
A. 12 June 2013: "No I do not see myself as his tart. Why can't he be my tart? Put very simply... He has fallen for the beauty and charm and youth of a younger woman. Very typical of men his age."
You're *his* tart because he's married, he's alienating affectio... (read in full...)
G/f can achieve orgasm only by herself not through sex. I'm starting to love her less and less
Q. Thanks in advance for any replies. Basically my girlfriend rarely achieves orgasm when we are together. We've tried the obvious things from me going down on her for a long time, to putting a pillow under her hips for when I am on top. When she...
A. 11 June 2013: WHAT?! She hasn't had an orgasm from you, so instead of becoming more innovative, considering it more of a great challenge, and talking with her into having sex become an amazing adventure where you would never think to call sexual prowess ... (read in full...)
I'm devastated after an affair and he will not leave his wife for me
Q. Hi, I decided to reach out to the users of this site because I am in desperate need of guidance and advice. I have been in an affair with a married man for exactly one year now. We used to live in the same town and his wife used to live in another ...
A. 11 June 2013: Heh, Anon is dead on. He hid like a coward behind his culture when it comes to divorce, yet adultery is celebrated? Sorry, but don't buy it for a second!
Also, he knew her for 9 years, but the marriage was only for a green card? What a crock. ... (read in full...)
I think my crush on an actor is getting out of control
Q. This is going to sound really, really stupid, but I've recently developed a huge crush on an older Austrian actor... guess who? I don't actually find him that attractive per se, it's more that I like his voice, his films, his one-liners etc. and...
A. 11 June 2013: Arnold Schwarzenegger or Maximilian Schell?
I'm guessing the former, eh?
Everyone was into Arnold in the 80's and 90's. Bodybuilder, Terminator, "Get to da CHOPPA!!!!" Predator?
Don't worry, it'll work its way through your system, and... (read in full...)
Should I do something for my b/f of 6 months on father's day?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months and he has a young son. Should I do something special for him for Fathers Day? I'm pretty sure his ex wife will get some something for him from their son but should I do something too?...
A. 11 June 2013: I feel ambivalent about this. On the one hand, like FA said, if you like giving gifts as a rule, then Father's day is an opportunity.
On the other hand, he's not YOUR father, and you're not the mother of his son. If you're doing it to compete,... (read in full...)
My husband cheated told me 10 months later and I can't get past the bitterness and hurt
Q. Husband of 26 years got approached by a prostitute when he was in Makati City, Manila. She asked him if he was alone and would like some afternoon company. He said sure and then go back to the New World Makati Hotel and have sex using a condom. He ...
A. 10 June 2013: Yeah, I'd say he's a dumbass, that's for sure. And it's okay for you to feel how you do! It intrigues me that he went through so much stress over the issue with the 60 pounds and the night sweats. What he did devastated him as well. NO EXCUSE, ... (read in full...)
He won't tell me if he's gay and neither will anyone else!
Q. I'm 24, and gay, and there's a guy who I like who drinks at a local gay bar - the only one in our small Northern England coastal town. I've spoken to him a few times, seems like a nice guy, but how can I tell if he's gay or not? I know he comes to...
A. 10 June 2013: You're in a gay bar! If you're interested in this guy, don't worry about labels and ask him out! He can either say yes, or no. I actually wonder if he's playing with you in order to get you interested in him, you know?
But seriously! He's in ... (read in full...)
Attempts at anal sex cause extreme pain. What can we do?
Q. I apologize in advance if this gets to be too gross or weird. It is for me but I figured some answers might be helpful since past posts have always been. My boyfriend has tried anal sex a few times but I've always stopped him immediately beca...
A. 10 June 2013: Yeah, don't do it! You might have anal fissures, and definitely you could lose bowel control and cause permanent damage.
And you NEED lube, and in extremely copious amounts, as if his penis is bowling ball sized!
SEX is supposed to be p... (read in full...)
Men: how reasonable is it to think that they sent over 500 sexually explicit messages in a month, that they were only together twice?
Q. I am in a very difficult situation. I found out after 9 years of being with my husband he cheated. He didnt come clean, I just so happened to find out one day and confronted him about it. At first he lied over and over until he decided to "come all ...
A. 10 June 2013: First of all, I'm really sorry you found out your husband was cheating on you. There truly is nothing so devastating as to know the man you gave yourself to body and soul has betrayed you in the most intimate way possible.
That being said, I ... (read in full...)
Fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!!! I feel really used!!
Q. Hi everyone. OMG!!!! I just fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!! I am such a mess. I really need some help from all of you!!!!! We work together and he suggested we meet outside the workplace for coffee. We talked for a couple o...
A. 9 June 2013: You made a mistake. Fortunately, by what you do next, you can correct it.
This married co-worker said everything he thought would get you into bed with him. The whole "rejection", "wife is asexual", etc. are all words he used to get you to overr... (read in full...)
I shut my boyfriend out. How can I open up?
Q. Since my boyfriend and I have been dating he has from the start never been afraid to tell me things. Bad things that happened when he was younger etc. I haven't opened up to him at all. I had something that has really traumatized me I just don't wa...
A. 9 June 2013: How long have you been dating?
Just because you aren't ready to open up about a traumatizing event that happened to you doesn't mean that you shut him out. You are simply not ready. Intimacy takes on many forms, and sharing a past trauma o... (read in full...)
After two years I'm finding him both controlling and dull
Q. Hi. So I've been with my fiance for almost two years next month...(Cheated on him two weeks into our relationship) Anyway, I guess I'm finding him a bit boring and controlling these days... please note my partner has "Autistic tendencies...
A. 9 June 2013: There's only one thing you can do at this point, and that's to stop wasting your boyfriend's time and leave him.
Truthfully? It actually does sound like your boyfriend's made smarter decisions than you. You can't call him controlling if you're t... (read in full...)
We've only been married a year but I have to beg for anything to be done! What can I do?
Q. I am getting worn out. I have addressed issues which have gone ignored. If he disagrees on issues which matter to me, mostly relevant issues, he procrastinates. I give it time, and bring it up again and the process continues until i give up or he ...
A. 8 June 2013: You are new to his country? How long have you been there? You need to do some exploring to become independent and self-sufficient. I typically don't care to tell my husband to get car seats or fix curtains. I usually go to the store and get what ... (read in full...)
I don't want to steal my teacher away from his wife but I do want a kiss from him!
Q. Hello everyone. I am in very difficult situation. When I was in 9 grade I felt something for my science teacher,the problem is that he is more older than me, he is over 50, I was 15 y.o. At first I didn't understand what is happening with me, I ...
A. 8 June 2013: Three things are very big reasons for NOT even thinking about it:
1. If you had a husband or boyfriend you loved, how would you feel if some other girl stole a kiss from him
2. Obviously you don't love him, because you you did, you wouldn'... (read in full...)
Why do people hold onto marriages that they don't want?
Q. Why would two people remain married after being seperated fir 3 and a half years, both be involved in serious relationships for over a year, one party having been involved for the whole three years with another person. They were only married for ...
A. 8 June 2013: I would be guessing that the wife is the one holding on if she's caring enough to harass the girlfriend.
Money, pride, ego, all of those could be involved. ... (read in full...)
We cheated on our partners, got together then I find a letter he wrote to his ex asking her back but she wouldn't take him. I feel hurt!
Q. Me and my boyfriend were both in relationships when we got together. Believe me I know it's wrong and I regret that we both cheated so id appreciate if replies could focus on the issue in this post. When we got discovered I broke up with my ex bo...
A. 6 June 2013: Heh, the OP was looking through a year's worth of text messages because a relationship built on cheating has already had all sense of trust obliterated. She didn't trust him because he got with her by lying and cheating on his girlfriend.... (read in full...)
He dumped me and is off enjoying his life -- why can't I?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dumped a month ago from a 3 yr relationship. He called me really nasty names while dumping me and the relationship was very abusive the last few months. I am trying to get over him, its getting difficult with each passing day....
A. 6 June 2013: Go easy on yourself! You don't know if he's all happy, and it's natural to grieve for a month after a long relationship has broken up!
It also sounds like he did you a favor by breaking up with you. Do you want someone who has it in him to verba... (read in full...)
Do you guys even care how a woman looks even if it's just a one night stand?
Q. Do you guys even care at all who to have sex with even if it's for one night? I went out with a friend yesterday who is quite a bit older than me. She is 53. And she looks it. She has plenty of wrinkles, short, a little overweight. She loves to...
A. 6 June 2013: I am not judging *you*, OP. I am reading your post (I read it through twice) and responding to what you said. Apparently, my answer raised your blood pressure some.
You started out by ripping your friend and being critical about her looks. ... (read in full...)
Can I operate to become a virgin again?
Q. Can i have my virginity back by doing an operation?...
A. 6 June 2013: You can surgically restore your hymen, but spending all of that money to restore it after having torn it the first time...and getting ready to tear it again...you'd only be doing it to pretend to be a virgin again. I won't judge you, because there ... (read in full...)
Do you guys even care how a woman looks even if it's just a one night stand?
Q. Do you guys even care at all who to have sex with even if it's for one night? I went out with a friend yesterday who is quite a bit older than me. She is 53. And she looks it. She has plenty of wrinkles, short, a little overweight. She loves to...
A. 6 June 2013: Women are so much more harsh on other women. You would have condemned your 53 year old friend to a life without sex because of how she looks. I have seen 50 year-old women and even older look more beautiful (without plastic surgery!) than their ... (read in full...)
We cheated on our partners, got together then I find a letter he wrote to his ex asking her back but she wouldn't take him. I feel hurt!
Q. Me and my boyfriend were both in relationships when we got together. Believe me I know it's wrong and I regret that we both cheated so id appreciate if replies could focus on the issue in this post. When we got discovered I broke up with my ex bo...
A. 6 June 2013: What did you expect? When the very core of your relationship is cheating and lying and both of you are doing it so easily, there's no chance for trust to ever develop. You're a cheater, he's a cheater, and you're shocked that he'd lie to you?? In ... (read in full...)
Should I down play myself? Are men intimidated by me?
Q. So I am a 26 year old female living in the Midwest. I have been single for about a year. I am putting myself out there, going on dates regularly and even do online dating....but still no luck. It seems the guys that like me, I don't like...and the ...
A. 5 June 2013: It's interesting that you used the word "downplay".
I can tell you're a pretty intense sort of person anyways, because your post read like a resume here. If you're talking to guys and listing your attributes, I can see where you might want to ... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea for me to continue dating this guy who lives with another female?
Q. Hey everyone I have a question. Would it be a bad idea for me to continue dating this guy who lives with another female? I've been dating a guy who's roommate is his best friend and it's a female. He jokes around saying he loves her and that she's ...
A. 5 June 2013: Truly? The only time you don't have a single thing to worry about when you hear that a guy you're dating is living with the girl...is if she's his sister!
Even if the relationship has ever and always have been platonic, the "awkward" factor i... (read in full...)
Is it a bad thing to want to make my boyfriend jealous?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm dating this guy for a month now, and I know I shouldn't be playing games but I like to make him jealouss with other men,like I make sure he knows of the men that flirt with me,or the men that have asked me out and I said no cuz I...
A. 5 June 2013: If I didn't know you better, I would have thought you were trying to get rid of your boyfriend. The whole "make him jealous" thing with other guys will make him think you're easy and about to take him for a ride. If there's one thing guys hate, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if I ever snoop on him again its over!
Q. I think I've ruined my relationship. I'll try keep it short... My boyfriend was in a relationship with a girl about three years ago. She had a young son from a previous relationship and he said that the kid started to see him like a father. When t...
A. 5 June 2013: I don't know that you take pleasure in sabotaging your own happiness, but he's right that you *are* sabotaging your relationship. Insecurity is a repelling thing in someone, and no relationship can possibly stand when someone has to constantly ... (read in full...)
So my problem is my husband says I must convince her to move back. Or he is divorcing me!
Q. My problems with my 25 year old step-daughter have once again reared their ugly head. She moved in with us about a year ago and it was very difficult living with her. I wanted to sit down before she moved in and discuss, like 3 grown roommates, how ...
A. 5 June 2013: I agree with the others.
His daughter is an adult who should be supporting herself. He's doing her a grave disservice at least not expecting her to help respect and maintain the house. His striking out at the productive member of the house (a... (read in full...)
B/f called parents during a drunken fight we were having. Now they want him to dump me only knowing his side of the story!
Q. My boyfriend and I are college students at different universities and have been dating for about two years. We decided to get an apartment for the summer together, which is kind of far from friends and family due to our summer jobs. We found that ...
A. 3 June 2013: Truthfully? I have a take on this you might not like, but I think it's essential to point these out. You can't blame all of this on alcohol and think that just removing it will solve all problems here.
The point of dating is to get to know eac... (read in full...)
Is it rude to ask someone about a scar?
Q. Is it rude to ask about a scar? I've had a tummy tuck and lost 20ilbs. after. I am happy with my physique now and enjoy wearing bikinis. I had a friend ask me the other day about a 1inch scar from the surgery. I just mentioned I had ...
A. 3 June 2013: I totally agree -- scars are a part of who we are. It's normal for a friend to ask. A stranger not so much, but it's not rude for a friend to ask at all! I also agree that the reason you had your surgery is why you chafed a bit at the question. ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting, not getting ANYTHING for mother's day?
Q. I am the mother of two small children, four and two and this year for mother's day I didn't get anything from anyone. No one in my family and my bf of four years, the father of my children, didn't get me anything either. No card, no flowers, ...
A. 3 June 2013: That makes sense then. If his mother was so horrific, the holiday might cause him to recoil, subconsciously or consciously, because when he hears "Mother", it's not feelings of appreciation for you, it's the trauma of past beatings and horrific ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting, not getting ANYTHING for mother's day?
Q. I am the mother of two small children, four and two and this year for mother's day I didn't get anything from anyone. No one in my family and my bf of four years, the father of my children, didn't get me anything either. No card, no flowers, ...
A. 2 June 2013: Your kids are kinda young when it comes to Mother's day giving. Wait until they get into school, and then you'll start getting awesome stuff they made.
You're not your boyfriend's mom, but he could have worked with your kids to make you somethin... (read in full...)
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