I'm a strippper, attractive and fit so why does my boyfriend still watch porn?
Q. so i am 18 years old, my fiance is 26. we have been together for a few years and we have a pretty good sex life. generally at least once a day. im just wondering why he wants to continue looking at porn when he has me. (i'm a stripper) i'm extremel...
A. 18 May 2013: Porn isn't about comparison anymore than a woman consciously sizing up her partner in comparison to the vibrator or her fingers or any other solo sex relief tool. Like a vibrator or steamy romance novel stimulates a woman, sexual images stimulates ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about this girl's actions!
Q. Alright, so long story, I'll attempt to make it short. I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend. I asked a girl out last year and she said yes. Come to find out, she had a boyfriend that I wasn't aware of. I cut my ties and said forget it. Yesterday...
A. 18 May 2013: You did the right thing by cutting ties! You don't want to date a girl who is happy to cheat on her boyfriend.
She is NOT the only girl out there! Other girls will happily go out with you, and since you know that girls will say yes when you ask ... (read in full...)
Am I demasculated pushover?
Q. Hey everyone, this is something that plaeged me growing up and especially in my teen and college years. Despite the fact that I love him to death, my Father seems to fit the bill for the "Nice Guy" profile while I grew up in the far more than sim...
A. 18 May 2013: Can I ask -- was the last time you attempted to date or be in a relationship in either high school or college?
Many immature girls are attracted to the "bad boys", but the ones who become mature, or the ones who didn't date in high school or the l... (read in full...)
He "wants to bang other girls"
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together a year at the end of this month. He went on a "rugby tour" with alot of his rugby friends about a week ago, and since then a lot of his people have been saying to me "I just want to bang other girls" now until ...
A. 18 May 2013: I personally would never date someone who talks about sex with other people as "banging". Also, if he's not having sex with you, but is talking about doing it, drunk or sober, it's a good indication of the relationship running past its expiration ... (read in full...)
Why is the smell of his cum so strong?
Q. After sex if my husband cums inside me afterwards some comes out and if it gets on my panties(specifically lacey ones) it turns the color of my panties. Like bleaching them. Also it smells really strong even when dry. Is this normal what could cause ...
A. 17 May 2013: Uhh yeah, you are going to get pregnant if you continue to practice the same haphazard non-protection you have been.
Eating foods, especially dairy, alcohol, garlic, onions, etc. will alter the odor of semen considerably. Another factor i... (read in full...)
Date asked if we could cut date short then said we'd go out for a drink but when the time came he never responded
Q. I went on a date last week with a guy I met online. We got on well, but after a few hours he said he had to leave to go to a friend's party. He asked me if I was free the next week to go for another drink. I said yes, we arranged to meet on a ...
A. 17 May 2013: I agree. He's a flake. Best to chalk it up to the experience many of us have when it's not us who decides we're not interested in someone we go on a date with. Sometimes the choice is ours, sometimes theirs.
Don't take it personally. It could... (read in full...)
Should I keep the shirt or return it to my ex?
Q. I was with my ex for 4 years and was in LDR for two years. I'm not a person that would ask for promises or commitment while my ex gave me his life commitment and talked about our future all the time. I ended my relationship last week because he's ...
A. 16 May 2013: I agree. A college shirt is very easily replaceable. If it was some old family heirloom or an engagement ring, I'd say send it back. However, Cindy's right -- he could have asked for it back if he wanted.
Just toss it somewhere out of sight... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I like him without ruining our friendship?
Q. So there's this guy and he is one o my close friends ( I'll call him zack ). Ok so zack and I have been getting along much more now and I have been having feelings for him for a little while. He is super nice and some days he's really fun funny ...
A. 15 May 2013: Since he's initiated the talk, you have an advantage.
The next day, ask him this question:
"If I tell you I like you, will it ruin our friendship?"
If he says "No, it won't", then ask him
"If you like me, why not take the risk first and ... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 15 May 2013: By definition, FWB is not a relationship. It is not the "first step" towards a relationship. It's designed for no-strings, no demands, no feelings, no pressure, pure physical sex. You use each other until you get bored with one another.
You d... (read in full...)
For my porn-addicted boyfriend, will me not having sex with him make him distant or just horny?
Q. hello, this might sound childish but i really need to make my boyfriendd want me more, i really need to tease him, but will me not having sex with him (we r sexual active) make him distant or just horny. see the thing is he watches porn and i hate ...
A. 15 May 2013: First rule of relationships is to NEVER play games. Withholding sex as a weapon to get someone to do what you want is a recipe for disaster. Sex (or lack of it) is never to be used as a weapon to manipulate someone if you want a healthy ... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about my current boyfriend of 2 years!
Q. Im going to try and make this short...I was married for 12years to a very controlling and emotionally abusive man. The guy I am with now is 13years my junior. He is mature in some ways but others not so much (financially and education wise) Anyway w...
A. 15 May 2013: This may seem like one issue, but it's really two, and to make a good decision, an intelligently weighed decision, you must take great care not to LINK these issues. To do so will skew your thinking and cause regret down the line.
I will refer to... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in our relationship and his porn addiction is just breaking my heart!
Q. I would really love some advice from men and women. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. He is my 1st true relationship I'm 27 an he is 26. We got together when we were 18. I told him from the beginning that i was not okay with porn. He always ...
A. 14 May 2013: He is a porn addict who lied to you about his usage from the start. But you keep taking him back, so everything else is on you. Just because you leave him doesn't mean your kids won't have a dad. What does this have to do with money? Leave him, ... (read in full...)
He wont tell his married ex about me.....
Q. Hello that's my first time to ask online but I'm really upset and stressed. My story is long and will try to make It short. I'm in a long distance relation. He was my friend before becoming my bf but there was too much chemistry between us he was i...
A. 13 May 2013: You should leave him for good. You are who he's settling with because he can't have the woman he really wants. He'll be in contact with her every chance he gets and if and when she becomes free, he'll drop you fast and go running to her.
You n... (read in full...)
Do you stay out of the financial decisions your fiance makes with his children from another marriage?
Q. We live together. My fiance has two adult children from his first marriage. His son has a nice job and a new girlfriend. His son moved out of his apartment with his last girlfriend...he broke it off with her. His son is now moving into an ...
A. 13 May 2013: Staying out of it is a good idea when you're not married, but it is something for you to be well on your guard over. How a potential spouse handles money should be a major deciding factor of whether or not you would allow your finances to combine ... (read in full...)
I made a fool of myself when drunk. Tried to make out with a guy who's hot. Friends say I should text him and apologize. Should I?
Q. Ok so here's the deal. Last Friday, I got drunk and high with two of my friends and this guy I'm interested in. I've only known him for few weeks but he's really cute. Anyways I'm on this new medication for depression and I guess it messed with m...
A. 13 May 2013: First of all, he's got honor if he didn't take advantage of you. That's a plus. Second, if he's a party guy, he understands blackouts and most likely has seen people having them.
Listen to your friends and go for the hangout. Then talk to him..... (read in full...)
Did my comments to her bring on an eating disorder?
Q. I didn't mean to make my best friend have this problem and now I feel terrible, I didn't realise what effect my comment had and what she went through before! Over the last two weeks I made a few comments in very obvious jokes! She was making dinne...
A. 13 May 2013: Sorry, but you should feel terrible. You told someone who is a size 8 that she's chubby? You should look up Karen Carpenter and find out the result of someone who said she was "chubby".
She killed herself through anorexia, meaning she didn't e... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has moved out again, for the fifth time!
Q. My boyfriend of two years moved out again for the fifth time. He usually calls or comes back by now but not this time. His Family is being very nasty towards me and he didnt just move out he moved 3 hours away. When he left he said he was going to ...
A. 12 May 2013: Oh! I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your son. He can't fathom what you went through and what you're still going through, can he? As a mom myself, my heart breaks to think of that.
Such a traumatic tragedy can kick a relationship so hard ... (read in full...)
Stress has caused us to fight a lot lately, and the last one, he got a little violent. I don't know what to do.
Q. So here is the thing. We have been in a great relationship for almost 3 years. I love him with all my heart and he is the type of guy who brings me flowers for nothing in particular. We moved in together about 7 months ago and things have been going ...
A. 10 May 2013: I'm glad you figured it out, because if there's one thing that can destroy a relationship, it's emotional abuse, and you were using the guy as an emotional punching bag.
Having a conversation isn't the same as being stressed and constant... (read in full...)
How do you help someone with a fear of flying?
Q. My boyfriend has a serious phobia of airplane rides. We've been dating for a year and will be taking our first international trip together soon. We're both looking forward to the trip itself but as our flight date approaches, he's becoming quite ...
A. 10 May 2013: SVC, you are totally intelligent!
Ativan is phenomenal for panic attacks. I have never been afraid of flying (except for flying to Ontario airport on September 23rd, 2001 when we were all freaked out from 9/11),
But I wouldn't have gotten throu... (read in full...)
We had a fight and I haven't heard from him since
Q. Dear Cupid Its been a week since my bf ( or ex) called me. We had a fight a week back when he unloaded his frustation on me and called me names. Usually when he verbally abuses i wont fight back, this time i couldnt take it, so fought back. Sin...
A. 9 May 2013: So, he unloaded and called you a bunch of names, and before this fight, you never fought back?
This one's easy -- he's still trying to punish you. Do not apologize to him. Do not cave. Do not roll over here, because you don't deserve to be ca... (read in full...)
How do you help someone with a fear of flying?
Q. My boyfriend has a serious phobia of airplane rides. We've been dating for a year and will be taking our first international trip together soon. We're both looking forward to the trip itself but as our flight date approaches, he's becoming quite ...
A. 9 May 2013: Oh man, phobias are so tough to deal with when you have one. He is really brave to go on the flight regardless of the crippling anxiety.
Sounds like he's already getting therapy if he's got prescription drugs to help cope. Truthfully, you bein... (read in full...)
How can I have clean fun at work when my husband works there too?
Q. Help!!!! I work in the same department as my husband and we have been married for three years. However I find one particular man at work very attractive and sweet. He is young and I am so sexulay attracted to him. We talk and work together but I ...
A. 8 May 2013: No such thing as clean fun when you're sexually attracted to someone else. That's dangerous, and there's nothing platonic or clean when it comes to flirty banter. Consider if you'd want your husband having "clean" fun with some hot girl he's ... (read in full...)
The internet is part of the blame for my lack in social skills
Q. I often wonder what would anyone else do in my place I'm 21 years old and through the years of growing up i've done an outstanding job of being socially withdrawn.. losing contact with friends, never having a gf, that sort of thing. I know ...
A. 8 May 2013: The first step for you is to completely erase all mentions of anything external when it comes to "blame" for your situation in life. Do not partly blame the internet. Only and completely put the responsibility on yourself. This is quite freeing ... (read in full...)
Why now? Why did he tell me he likes me, now when he's going away? Does he really like me?
Q. I have been friends with this guy since high school and we used to live in the same neighborhood. Four months ago he moved away and since then we had stopped talking, about a week ago he texted me and he told me that's he's going to the army for...
A. 8 May 2013: You're from the US? Did he say he was going into the army for "a year or two"?
If that's what he said, he is full of crap and is grooming you to use you to sleep with you. He's using the tired old "I'm going off to war" schtick because it works... (read in full...)
Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?
Q. If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to st...
A. 7 May 2013: If a drunk person were to murder someone, he or she would still be legally and morally responsible, drunk or no.
How would he feel if you got drunk and jumped onto men's laps flirting and breathing all over them? I'm guessing he wouldn't care wha... (read in full...)
I'm confused about the ratings on Dear Cupid
Q. confused about ratings? how many do u nd to get before theyy show up and is it 5 for high/good Q or A? plus is there any way of answering that is likelyy to be rated? I rate a lot but dont thinlk anyone has rated me :(...
A. 7 May 2013: You *are* being rated. You only have a handful of answers, so you are seeing the green bars of ratings. It's a volume thing -- keep answering questions and you'll see ratings. Not everyone rates, and not everyone rates extremely high or extremely ... (read in full...)
HE wouldn't tell me if I'm his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. I've met a guy 7months ago. We've been sleeping together we text each other everyday he calls sometimes. 5months ago i told him that i want a serious relationship. So i asked him where do i stand with you? Am i your girlfriend? And he could'nt give ...
A. 6 May 2013: Yeah, 5 months and you're having sex? He's already answered your question, meaning he's using you until someone else comes along.
Like other people have said, the "boyfriend" question must be answered before sexual activity starts. Exclusiv... (read in full...)
Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?
Q. I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...
A. 6 May 2013: If your best friend knows the sexual history of the girl he's seeing, then he has made the choice to accept that, and his feelings about the matter may be different than yours are. In this case, it's about compatibility. I totally agree with ... (read in full...)
Should you be worried if your partner says they don't know why they love you?
Q. So I hear recently from a radio advice guru on love that it is always important to ask your partner WHY he or she loves you. If they can't tell you...then it's a cause for concern. The reason he said that is that often infatuation is mistaken for ...
A. 6 May 2013: In my opinion, the guy on the radio is a complete moron.
I've often thought that love was a language that sometimes couldn't be put into words. Love isn't like writing a review for a product on Angie's list. Sometimes, love is just...l... (read in full...)
He wants anal but it hurts, and he says I'll get used to it!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years now and we have tried anal sex in the past but I find it painful at times and other times it’s alright. My issue is he won’t stop asking me for anal sex even after I've had some tearing as a result ...
A. 5 May 2013: I agree with you, iAmHereToHelpYou. I had to say it anyways though. :)
It's amazing how many people need help doing what on paper is the most obvious thing to do. Those hormones, chemicals, ego, overanalyzing, second guessing, and manipula... (read in full...)
He wants anal but it hurts, and he says I'll get used to it!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years now and we have tried anal sex in the past but I find it painful at times and other times it’s alright. My issue is he won’t stop asking me for anal sex even after I've had some tearing as a result ...
A. 5 May 2013: I'd leave him anyways. You already told him you don't want to do it, and he berates you by calling you selfish and doesn't care about how you were hurt. He doesn't deserve to have you, and I'm guessing if someone rammed a 14-inch dildo up his anal ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me but we work together and no one knew we were dating!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years dumped me thru phone. He was very mean and verbally abusive to me all the time and broke up with me yesterday. We started working in the same office 2 months back. I cant quit my job, noone in office knows we are dat...
A. 5 May 2013: Well, if he really treated you badly and was verbally abusive and dumped you by phone like a little coward, be thankful you're not the person he moved onto, because obviously this guy is an immature waste of space for any girl unfortunate enough to ... (read in full...)
I dumped the good guy for the bad guy, now I want the good guy back!
Q. Hello, what am writing about is, I was seeing some one about a year ago, he was a prince charming kinda guy, treated me great, about 3 months, my ex was in jail, the one who phy. abuse me, beat me, choke me, just a bad guy, but I was in love with ...
A. 5 May 2013: Hopefully you didn't cheat on the good guy with the bad guy, or you pretty much made your bed and have to lie in it, because cheating is a nasty thing to do.
However, if you didn't cheat on him and you broke his heart by breaking up with him befo... (read in full...)
What to do now, do I say something else to him? I feel lost and crushed by his lies and his games
Q. I am going to try to make this as short as possible by giving enough info but it's a long story. any advice is welcomed. refrain from judgement and ill comments please. My fiance and I got into an argument one day. very stupid argument and...
A. 5 May 2013: Let's get the most important issue out of the way.
He is no longer your fiance, nor is he your boyfriend. All he is to you now is your ex and the father of your daughter.
You need to end things with him all the way. Doesn't matter why, or w... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't know that I found out she's considering leaving me. What do I do?
Q. My wife doesn't know that I saw her messages to her friend from a forum she always on but I saw how she said I dont have ambition anymore. she's always talking down about my family. I also read that she talked to her father and how she was thinking ...
A. 5 May 2013: Not so fast.
You've got an 11-month old, right? That in itself is really demanding, and your wife may simply feel overwhelmed, be griping about everything external, and may have just been venting with her friend. There are many times people t... (read in full...)
How do I break off an affair with a married co-worker?
Q. I've just turned 21 and have been working at my job for about 18 months now. It started at last years work staff party. Everyone was dancing, drinking and partying, because i dont drink or smoke, i kept myself one side and chatted to anyone wh...
A. 4 May 2013: All you can do is break it off. There's no easy answer. Never date a married woman or a cheater, because just think about if she and you got everything you want and she becomes free and you were with her. Then imagine her cheating on you the way ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm OLD and time is running out.
Q. All of my friends have found significant others and have been married for a while. I was in a long term relationship that didn't work out. He left me after 7 years together for a 25 year old. I find myself single, 36, no prospects. I'm in college ...
A. 4 May 2013: First of all, your long term leaving you for a 25 year old is a jerk, and don't let his weakness cause you to buy into the belief that you're not good enough. If you're interested in meeting someone, you can go online to a site like Match and find ... (read in full...)
I found links to live cam shows on his computer! How would you feel about that?
Q. Alright. I've just returned from being out of town for two weeks. In the time that I was gone my boyfriend accidently broke my computer, so I've been using his laptop. Anyway, I know it's sort of an invasion of privacy, but when I typed into the...
A. 4 May 2013: Okay, I clicked on redtube (GROSS!). There's an automatic pop-up advertising a live sex cam. That does NOT mean he's paying to have someone live do that.
Yeah, the only thing that's definite is that he's watching porn on redtube. The pop-ups ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for women to get out of the dreaded friend zone?
Q. Just a general to-the-point question. Do girls/women ever come out of the friend zone? I hear from some that girls are never put into the friend zone completely - which to me is nonsense because it happens all the time to me. I recently realized...
A. 4 May 2013: You can't be in a friend zone with this guy. You have been sexual with him by making out with you, and he propositioned you to get to use you sexually. Even if you both hung out and no sex or making out took place, it wouldn't be the friend ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 3 May 2013: There is a big stumbling block to the debate over whether it's the woman's responsibility to ask, or whether a guy should be upfront over his porn use at an appropriate stage in a growing relationship.
The stumbling block is many women's equating... (read in full...)
Will a guy ever see me as "special"?
Q. Hello my questions is about my dating history. I have a few boyfriends in the past. I have noticed that men like to chase women they like women who are hard to get. For some reason I don't why men don't chase me. I have to make all the moves in the ...
A. 2 May 2013: Unfortunately, you've fallen into an all-too-common trap in your thought process, where you hope that a guy will see you as special in order for you to feel special.
In fact, it's most emphatically the other way around. You have to see yourself... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Pr3tty_in_pink86, agree with you there. And some women still believe that a guy will automatically stop stuff like that because they're dating, which would be consistent with their whole "porn is cheating" outlook on it. So they wouldn't think of ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Heh, it's not the same issue revealing the intimate details of past relationships, because they have no bearing on the present one. Porn is a present issue, happening during and concurrent with the relationship. It's not the same thing. However, ... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: "Oh come on YouWish, that would only ever change if porn actresses weren't supposedly "superior" to normal women or women weren't so insecure about their own bodies and desirability."
Come on yourself, Cerberus. This all boils down to the fact... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Sorry I'm late, and this is a good, thought-provoking article. I have one question though.
What is so wrong about disclosing during the beginning of a dating process that you use porn? This article is written primarily so that a guy does NOT... (read in full...)
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