My boyfriend was naked with his cousin in our bed!!!
Q. Me and my bf have been with each other for 8 months. we asked his cousins to come play cards and they did. we all got totally wasted on vodka and beer and they were takinh pills. well i passed out in the next room and i woke up wondering were my bf ...
A. 31 October 2010: That makes sense Cerberus. I have blacked out before on alcohol (in my younger days!), but I've never personally combined them with pills. I've woken up in weird places and didn't remember how I got there.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was naked with his cousin in our bed!!!
Q. Me and my bf have been with each other for 8 months. we asked his cousins to come play cards and they did. we all got totally wasted on vodka and beer and they were takinh pills. well i passed out in the next room and i woke up wondering were my bf ...
A. 30 October 2010: First of all, good god. I actually believe the BF when he says he can't remember anything. Vodka and pills and beer.
However, and this is absolutely crucial. They had sex, no doubt about it. He needs to get tested for STD's, and you need to ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I'm not a virgin and he is ignoring me!
Q. Plz help me! i told my bf that i m not a virgin, he is ignoring me and even not talking to me. i m very depressed. my honest kill me, my all happiness is at stake. i m very serious i don't wanna lose this guy. i love him lot. ...
A. 29 October 2010: Is *he* a virgin???
Aunt honest is right. You did the right thing. If he's getting into a snit because you aren't a virgin, then he did you a favor because he's not for you. You want someone with whom you can be yourself with, and obviousl... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for my boyfriend to propose?
Q. How long should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? Without giving him any kind of specific time limit, or making it too obvious that I'm waiting? It would be preferable if he did it on his own. But how long is too long to wait?...
A. 29 October 2010: CaringGuy is right on the money. There are a lot of steps you both need to take in life before a proposal should be considered.
At your age, you need to start thinking long term. The proposal isn't the end game. The questions you should b... (read in full...)
Husband of 27 years regrets that he didn't have sex with other women!
Q. I have been married for 27 years and a while ago my husband told me that the biggest regret of his life was that he hadn't had sex with more women. He had always lead me to believe that he had only been with me, but during this odd conversation I ...
A. 29 October 2010: He's having a mid-life crisis. As hard as this may be, don't take it personally. This time in life causes men to do weird things, like buy a sports car, change his wardrobe, and cheat/divorce his wife because he's afraid he's missed out on the ... (read in full...)
5 days ago I said something to my boyfriend that I regret and he hasn't contacted me since
Q. A week last sunday I said something to my boyfriend which I really regret and I didnt mean. Everyone gets wound up sometimes and for me I blew and blurted it out. Well since then hes not spoken to me, ive text a few times, called and last night ...
A. 28 October 2010: Oh geeze, sounds like he's using what you said as an excuse to break up with you. Either way, I'm thinking you said exactly what you meant, but did it at the wrong time. You really *do* feel like he uses you for sex, but regret that you waited ... (read in full...)
Can I make a woman happy with a small penis?
Q. hello people, I am not a native speaker of English. If I make mistakes, pls forgive me. if you do not have this problem, I don't think you can fully understand what it feels like to have a small penis. My character has unfortunatelly b...
A. 28 October 2010: Oh geeze, don't worry about it! I think guys are much more obsessed with their penis size than the girls are. Dirtball is right on this one - become magnificent at giving her oral sex, and she won't care in the slightest about your length, not ... (read in full...)
I can't give in to my husband's sexual demands and now he's sulking
Q. I'm 46 been married 28 years. my husband demmands me to do things sexually that i'm not comfortable with. I've always gave in in the past but his recent demmand i just cant do. I've tried it but i dont like it. we have been fighting about it for 3 ...
A. 28 October 2010: The selfish one is him. Stand your ground, and if he pulls out the "you don't love me if you don't **fill in the blank**", tell him that he doesn't love you for asking. It can go two ways. You're not his personal sex toy.
Tell him to turn off... (read in full...)
5 days ago I said something to my boyfriend that I regret and he hasn't contacted me since
Q. A week last sunday I said something to my boyfriend which I really regret and I didnt mean. Everyone gets wound up sometimes and for me I blew and blurted it out. Well since then hes not spoken to me, ive text a few times, called and last night ...
A. 28 October 2010: My advice would depend on what you exactly said.
Either way, the thing about not controlling what you say is that usually when one loses their temper, words are like bullets. You can't ever call them back. Whether telling your parents that you... (read in full...)
Why am I hurting so bad when I was the one that ended it?
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months last thursday. he called me a bitch for the first(and last)time because i didnt call him wenesday. he had a key to my apt and spent 2 nights a week with me and weekends. we never faught much but when he ...
A. 28 October 2010: Let's see. He put his hands on you (by pushing you) and called you a bitch because you didn't call him? Then, after your breakup, his response wasn't to either apologize or request to talk it over, but he sent you more insults.
This guy has seri... (read in full...)
Having trouble reaching orgasm with this girl!
Q. I met this girl recently and we have only had sex twice Both times I think we both had fun and I think that we connect really well emotionally. The reason I worry is that each time I have had trouble reaching orgasm. The first time I didn't cl...
A. 26 October 2010: This has everything to do with knowledge and experience. Make the next session a "teaching" session. Tell her what feels good to you, and likewise, do what feels good to her. No matter how much sexual experience we have, each new person is a new ... (read in full...)
My best friend? or the guy she likes?
Q. Hi to all who read this...well I need some help there this guy I like I found him at my friends party he was sweet,nice, funny and so on but he is a good friend of my friend which is a she and now I want to get to know him better but I found out ...
A. 25 October 2010: You'll probably hear different things from different people, but I know that my best friend means the world to me. If I were single, and my best friend cared for a guy, he would be off limits to me unless nothing came of it. Then I'd discuss it ... (read in full...)
I am friends with my ex boyfriend but he now has a controlling girlfriend what should I do?
Q. Past few months I have started talking to my ex again and have become good friends. However, he has a girlfriend and basically, she is not nice and has in the past been very controlling of him and has been possessive. He has mentioned to me that ...
A. 21 October 2010: You were right to make the decision. You were right in more ways than one. Why was he your ex to begin with? That is a factor, and clearly, if she can get him to stop contact with you, they weren't about to break up. I would be wary of how much ... (read in full...)
Another Porn Issue
Q. Again....another porn issue. My boyfriend (who will be 50 next year) has 1182 snipettes of short porn movies, at least 3 folders of nude 20 somethings for his viewing pleasure and he doesn't understand why I might have an issue with this. I don't ...
A. 21 October 2010: LMAO! Is that the 2010 version of "I buy Playboy for the articles."? That's hysterical!
Anyways, other than that, you absolutely don't have to worry about competing with the porno babes who have more plastic in them than a landfill of water bo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lady friend doesn't want me around!
Q. Bf of 5 yrs has platonic(beyond doubt)unattractive lady friend nad I have befriended her at my insistance!I have eaten out with her,got her blind dates,girly goss together n the 3 of us have been out.However when my BF visits her from time to time ...
A. 18 October 2010: Okay, there's one contradiction is what you just said.
You said that your boyfriend agrees with you but thinks you're overreacting? Which is it
It sounds to me that even though you say that their relationship is platonic "beyond doubt", ... (read in full...)
I am angry he lied to me, or am I just being silly?
Q. My boyfriend used to be a heavy pot smoker but now says he hardly does it anymore. However, the other day while I was out he kept asking when I would come back to his house and when I said I was close he said he had to go out for a while to run some ...
A. 18 October 2010: I read this, and I was about to comment along the lines of blond and dirtball, because I think they're both on the right track in regards to the lying.
But something else hit me here too. I wonder if you're not thinking broadly enough about th... (read in full...)
I finish her, but she never makes sure to finish me
Q. My girlfriend never finishes me off. I love her very much, but i find that her lack of sexual interest pushes part of me away. I have tried talking to her about it straight forwardly, and tried to insinuate it by making her feel sexy by praising ...
A. 18 October 2010: First of all, it's awesome that you are that considerate of her to make sure she is satisfied. A girl can be every bit as selfish in bed as a guy, but it doesn't get so much attention because of the assumption that it's the woman who needs the ... (read in full...)
Cant believe he said this to me!
Q. Well we have been together 7 months and if im honest things have gone pretty slow and i feel sometimes like hes not after anything serious. I put a guard up and sometimes act like the tough girl who's not bothered but i do really care (i guess im ...
A. 17 October 2010: I think it's a matter of preference, and I agree with CaringGuy and everyone else that I don't think he intentionally meant to disrespect her.
I personally put "you're a good f**k" in the same category with "you're a good lay", or "you're ... (read in full...)
Cant believe he said this to me!
Q. Well we have been together 7 months and if im honest things have gone pretty slow and i feel sometimes like hes not after anything serious. I put a guard up and sometimes act like the tough girl who's not bothered but i do really care (i guess im ...
A. 17 October 2010: I don't often disagree with CaringGuy for good reason. He gives fantastic advice.
However, I actually see this from a bit of a different perspective. From a woman's perspective, saying "you're a really good f**k" has the connotation that we'... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a man to talk to a woman online when he has a wife and kids?
Q. I guy who follows my photography blog messaged me a few times about how much he liked my work, he also reblogged some of my images and told people about me. He sent me a message asking me to go and see him play (hes a musician) I didn't go even t...
A. 17 October 2010: Well, right now, the guy hasn't done anything wrong, and for a musician (or photographer for that matter), using the internet is a vital way of growing a fan base. In order to be noticed by the music industry, one has to make a loud enough popular ... (read in full...)
Lost virginity?
Q. My boyfriend fingered me hard by inserting 3 fingers into my vagina. Then the very next day I found brown stains on my panties. Have I lost my virginity already?...
A. 17 October 2010: Losing virginity is committed by the act of a penis penetrating a vagina. Since that didn't happen, then physically, you are still a virgin.
Now, emotionally (or spiritually, if you want to look at it that way), in my opinion, emotional virginit... (read in full...)
My boyfriend feels my problems shouldn't affect him in any way
Q. Iv been a bit depressed lately,because my family is going through a crisis, and iv been feeling very low, my PhD work is all stacked up..i have so much to do and i dont even know where to start from, and to top it all, I have a clingy boyfriend (Im ...
A. 17 October 2010: You are not overreacting. If you've tried to talk to him and he doesn't listen to you, then end it with him. Not "Take a break", but "break up". If you tell him that you want a break, he'll keep smothering you trying to get you to end the break. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have to accept this child
Q. I am a 26 year old female married for 4 years now to my husband. We have a 4 and 1/2 year old daughter as well as a 3 year old daughter. Yesterday, I found out that due to a one night stand with another woman, there is now a 5 yr old little girl ...
A. 17 October 2010: First of all, take a huge breath. You didn't cause this, and you don't have to do anything you don't want to. You do not have to accept this kid, which is evidence of the horrible pain your husband caused you.
There are many reasons that som... (read in full...)
Would him showing his friends naked pics of me be a deal breaker?
Q. I just found out my boyfriend of 2yrs showed a bunch of his friends and co-workers pictures of my breasts that he and I took during our first year of dating. I don't know at what point he showed these pictures--possibly during a big fight...or ...
A. 17 October 2010: Oh yeah, complete and utter deal breaker. All guys do NOT do that. A REAL man is a classy one, and wouldn't dream of exposing the woman he loves like that. You probably felt exposed and kinda violated when the friend commented on your boobs.
... (read in full...)
I am sick of being single, but too shy to ask guys out!
Q. Im really sick of being single. And Im shy and never been good around men. I dont wanna ask them out and then have them have a girlfreind or soemthign. It makes me really normal. what do you think that I should do...
A. 17 October 2010: Hopefully what I'm about to say will put you at ease.
If you had a friend who told you that she was finding it impossible to buy shoes or find any good shoes to take home, wouldn't you laugh if you realize that she was shopping at a candy store fo... (read in full...)
He said I was "not the one" and then had sex with me anyway
Q. My boyfriend and i broke up . we had a nice dinner and he said i was not the "one" however he kept saying he loves me and wants to be my friend. when we left the restaurant we ended up having sex in the parking lot. he still kept saying how ...
A. 17 October 2010: He is a user. He's keeping you in the wings to hedge his bets while he's out there looking for someone else. What an asshat to break up with someone and then have sex with them.
You do not want to be is friend, and you did the right thing by... (read in full...)
Conference Call During Dinner Date Bad, or Wife Overreacting?
Q. What's the word out there on a husband who suggests an early dinner to his wife. ; she says she's not very hungry but will keep him company and enjoy a glass of wine. Food is ordered and husband announces he is expecting a phone call. Turns ou...
A. 16 October 2010: Geeze, I don't think you overreacted one bit. A dinner out is a social occasion. Usually, the phone is turned off or on silent, and on first dates (and second, third, or subsequent times), the phone is turned off, and a guy taking a girl out ... (read in full...)
Doesn't want a relationship, doesn't want to commit, but wants you around all the time?
Q. What do you call someone who doesn't want a relationship, and doesn't want to commit, but wants to be with you ALL THE TIME? If you're in this situation where you're stuck with this person, and you love her dearly, what do you do? She doesn't want a ...
A. 16 October 2010: For lack of a better word, this is a sucky situation. You want something that clearly she doesn't, but likes your company enough for you to keep hope alive that she will change.
You can never change someone, and to be honest, you can not wast... (read in full...)
Didn't she get the message that its over?
Q. alright long story short i was seeing this girl for a little bit it wasn't anything serious it was mainly for the sex , she enjoyed it i enjoyed it ect ect.. until a week ago i told her that we needed to stop cuz i fancied a girl and we were gonna ...
A. 16 October 2010: She wants an emotional relationship with you. Sex for her was an emotional thing that bonds her to you, while for you, it was a conduit to relieve sexual tension and nothing more. If course she's going to be angry if you just drop her with no ... (read in full...)
Questions for women who aren't virgins
Q. when and why did you decide to lose your virginity? was there a particular event which set you off or was it a logical decision? did you regret losing it the way you did or still have fond memories of it? what went really well/really bad?...
A. 16 October 2010: Why do you avoid virgins?? That's a weird statement. Is it because you're only wanting casual sex, or is it because you are afraid of commitment?... (read in full...)
How to make my ex-girlfriend realise I'm not hooked ?
Q. My ex-girlfriend thinks I'm hooked. So she plays emotional games with me even if I don't reply (by email and common friends). She doesn't stop. Makes me insane to know that she may try unexpected things on me all the time. Taking into account th...
A. 16 October 2010: Change your email. Block her from your Facebook and other social networks. Tell your common friends that you don't want to hear about her anymore.
If her trying things makes you insane, then you are still hooked. You have to get to the poin... (read in full...)
Husband embarrasses me in public!
Q. Dear cupid, my husband and I have been having some trust issues, though not the kind you'd normally think of. With us, it's that if he embarrasses me in public, and I ask him nicely to stop, he won't. He just keeps doing what he's doing, saying "oh, ...
A. 16 October 2010: Here's the thing. You have to talk to him when it's not in the thick of the incident. This means not in public during an act of embarrassment
Aunt Honesty is right - sit down and explain it to him alone. Come up with instances where he embar... (read in full...)
He hits me saying its the only way I'll shut up
Q. Hi i just would like some advice from someone i have been with my partner for 4years and we have child that is 5months but he is really horrible sometimes and hits me he say it is the only way i will shut up and i feel like i deserved it i want to ...
A. 16 October 2010: GET OUT OF THERE. If he's hitting you, he DOESN'T love you. No one deserves to be hit. He is a weak, insecure man. Think of your baby. What if he starts hitting him or her to make them shut up? Seriously.... (read in full...)
Wife wasn't happy about my marriage proposal, what can I do about it now?
Q. Hi there This is a question for men and women! I'm looking forward to get answers from both, male and female! I proposed my now-wife 1 1/2 years ago. She said yes, but was very disappointed by the way I asked. So I asked her a second time beca...
A. 16 October 2010: You have every right to be peeved. The point of the proposal is to get married. If she said yes, that's fine. Personally, I would have been pissed if she had said "yes" but made you ask again. You do not need to fulfill some girlhood dream of ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: I wonder how many of your friends are saying she's "gross and ugly". If it's one or two, I'd say that they are interested in her and want you out of the way. :P
... (read in full...)
Lonely... my boyfriend of two years just moved out, out of the blue!
Q. I am so confused.. my boyfriend of the last 2 years just moved out, out of the blue. We have lived together almost the entire time. We have had some money issues and he is not used to not having extra money to spend. He says he still wants to be ...
A. 14 October 2010: Ahhh...two of the things you said in your question are very telling:
1. He's moved in with a recently separated buddy. Guys makes many decisions based on what their friends are doing. If they start seeing friends "drop like flies", meaning ... (read in full...)
Should I disclose a past prostitute visit to my girlfriend?
Q. I am in a committed relationship now. However, a few years before, I lost my virginity to a prostitute. I did so because I was feeling depressed, things were looking bleak, and thought I wouldn't be in a relationship. I don't have any desire to ...
A. 12 October 2010: I think I agree with Person, especially since you're now in a committed relationship. It's not the right time if you're just starting dating, and it's too late when you're engaged and planning a life together. Now is a good time, because ... (read in full...)
Married but I fell in love with another man but all he did was take money and cheat on me
Q. hi everyone i am 45 years asian lady having 2 children and nice husband and i didn't know how did i fall in love to asian man and he is married too with 3 children. one year we talked on the phone all the time when possible and we met few times an...
A. 11 October 2010: You need to seriously get over this guy. If you love your husband, you need to focus on how you would feel about destroying him and your marriage.
This worthless guy insulted you after taking your money? Do not let him move you one iota. Y... (read in full...)
Is having PMS a reason to act like a spoiled brat?
Q. Hi, I have a question regarding my girlfriend and her PMS. I know that it is a stressful time for a girl as the hormones are running wild, but should it be an excuse to act like a spoiled brat? Me and my girlfriend, who are both 20 years old, we...
A. 11 October 2010: I absolutely don't think that PMS is an excuse to behave badly. However, this isn't really a PMS issue. This is a communication issue, and the fact that you just called your girlfriend a "spoiled brat" says a lot about you.
Your girlfrie... (read in full...)
I drunkenly cheated on my fiance and now she doesn't know if she'll ever trust me again!
Q. My fiancée and I have been together for two years (living together for 1.5 years); we were supposed to get married March of 2011. I love her more than my own life and would stop at nothing to make damn sure that she's happy. But last month, I to...
A. 11 October 2010: Here's the thing. Usually when people are drunk, the alcohol takes away the inhibitions that keep us from doing this type of thing in the first place. In your fiance's mind, you did what you've always wanted to do, and it's killing her that you ... (read in full...)
He always stops before he ejaculates
Q. So I'm not sure what to make of my new bf's sexual technique, and I'd love some comments about why he doesn't ejaculate from any female and esp. male readers, please. We've been together 2 months, sleeping together for a couple of weeks. He's ...
A. 10 October 2010: Hmmm....this one might be complicated. If it weren't for the episode where he grasped his penis and claimed that it "might get messy", I'd chalk it up to the fact that he's used to orgasm through masturbation to the point where normal sex doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: Hearing the one you love call you by name (and not just during sex) can be just about as powerful as hearing "I love you".... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: Using someone you love's name is a mark of intimacy. It sounds like he has intimacy problems. You can fix this by not responding to "are you there" or "hey you". Train him to call your name!
If he starts calling for you without using your nam... (read in full...)
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