He's clingy and angry -- should I just end it?
Q. My boyfriend lives in Pennsylvania, while I live a state over. We have been dating for 3 months. We have yet to met and he expects me to call him every single day and when I don't, he yells at me for not calling him. Not only that but he over reacts ...
A. 19 September 2010: You should definitely end it. If he's this high strung while you live far away from each other, I'd be nervous about my well-being if we were together. Better to cut him loose before this gets any worse.
Just summon the courage to do it on th... (read in full...)
He truly believes he did nothing wrong talking to old g/fs on FB
Q. I have been married for 18 years not all good but there has always been love and respect. We were partners in life. About a year and a half ago my husband went onto facebook and found an "old friend" they emailed and spoke on the phone for at least ...
A. 19 September 2010: You are not being unreasonable. Exes have no place in a marriage, and your husband has no right getting all "nostalgic", calling, planning to meet, or otherwise communicating with his exes if you're in any way uncomfortable about it. The fact that ... (read in full...)
Question for the ladies
Q. How many years after becoming sexually active did it take you to achieve an unassisted orgasm, i.e. an orgasm where the only stimulation is an erect penis, nobody's hands are being used.... I'm trying to find out how normal I am to have taken me 6.5 ...
A. 17 September 2010: Hmm...you know, it's not just how "normal" or not normal you are to have waited 6.5 years. Many women never have an orgasm that way, while some do pretty quickly.
A BIG factor (I would say one of the biggest) is the stamina and technique of your ... (read in full...)
Should I accept that he drinks? or should he respect me and our relationship and stop!
Q. I am young around legal drinking age, my fiancee is around my age too. I am a girl and I don't party, I don't dance and I don't drink. My fiancee when I met him partied and drank at least once a week. I don't like that face that he drinks an...
A. 17 September 2010: Well, here's the thing. He was that way when you met him. You can never change a guy, and you should never try to change someone, otherwise, resentment will build and the relationship is doomed.
As for his cheating on you, that's a differen... (read in full...)
Help! No longer sexually attracted to my chubby wife...
Q. So we all know that men are visual creatures. My problem is that I am just not that attracted to my wife anymore. We have been married 15 years. She is a pretty woman, but has slowly gained weight. She is maybe 40-50 lbs overweight, and weighs ...
A. 12 September 2010: Actually, all of the research and the general consensus is that the greatest sex organ a man or woman has is the brain, meaning that you absolutely *can* control your sexual attraction with your thoughts. It's the primary reason why illicit affairs ... (read in full...)
Help! No longer sexually attracted to my chubby wife...
Q. So we all know that men are visual creatures. My problem is that I am just not that attracted to my wife anymore. We have been married 15 years. She is a pretty woman, but has slowly gained weight. She is maybe 40-50 lbs overweight, and weighs ...
A. 12 September 2010: Here's the thing, to UniverseMan and the others who are agreeing about the woman gaining weight to be the ultimate deal breaker or that the wives are "whining" about being "unattractive", etc.
You should look at your wives with different eyes, ma... (read in full...)
5 weeks since he walked out without a word. Do I contact him?
Q. boyfriend of 8 years is verbally abusive to me and when he drinks it worse he is all about himself doesnt have a job hasnt in 3 years moved in with his mommy mind you hes 47 ii did everything and anything for him and i feel used i own my home work ...
A. 11 September 2010: Let's see. This guy
1. Does hard drugs
2. Abuses prescrption drugs
3. Is verbally abusive
4. can't support himself
5. has a criminal record
Don't you think that by extricating himself out of your life, he did you the biggest favor you've... (read in full...)
He left me for his old g/f he found on facebook, so why is he acting this way now?
Q. Ive been with my husband for 8 yrs... All of a sudden he found an old GF on Facebook... He talked to her 2 weeks and decided to ddrop everything for her, he says things are going good for them and they get along good.. house and all. It has been a ...
A. 10 September 2010: First of all, I'm really sorry he dropped you for some old flame. I'm sure your guts have been churning ever since. I know how easy it would be to slip back into letting him get physical with you (in any capacity), but make no mistake. You're not ... (read in full...)
Help! No longer sexually attracted to my chubby wife...
Q. So we all know that men are visual creatures. My problem is that I am just not that attracted to my wife anymore. We have been married 15 years. She is a pretty woman, but has slowly gained weight. She is maybe 40-50 lbs overweight, and weighs ...
A. 10 September 2010: First, to the guy who got "side action" with an old high school girl, if I were your wife, I wouldn't cry if you had told me that my weight "caused" you to do that. I would pity your weakness and then leave you. I'd pity your "side girl" for being ... (read in full...)
Husband calling chat lines all the time!
Q. Hello, I need some advice this is driving me crazy! I just found out that my husband has been calling these chat lines they advertise on TV. This is not just once or twice; he is doing this excessively causing us to go over our minutes on our phone ...
A. 10 September 2010: Shut off that phone. Get a new one and put a key lock on it. Put a parental lock on the pay per views, and that will take care of the logistical and financial side of it.
As for the rest, you work, and he doesn't. Why would you have to put up w... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has already been there, done that and it concerns me
Q. I love my boyfriend and I know this because seeing him happy and smiling warms my heart. I respect him as a person, a man... His flaws are a part of him and I accept them as he accepts mine. I don't look for other men and just holding his hand ...
A. 10 September 2010: Yes, he's been there and done that. But he hasn't been there and done that with you. And every relationship is different. It's possible that he's in a different place in life than you are, but that's really up to you.
The big concern is your ... (read in full...)
I told him I was pregnant, he said he was fine but now he's not talking to me
Q. I think I'm losing the father of my baby to be. I told him that I was pregnant and he flipped!!! Then he said he was fine! But now he isnt talking to me? Im so confused. I want to keep the baby but would it be the best for it? I dont want to be a ...
A. 10 September 2010: You are very young, and it won't be easy to take care of a baby. You need to first shore up your support system. That means, parents, relatives, and close friends, plus the close friends' parents.
Also, you need to figure out ALL of your opt... (read in full...)
We hung out but think he got freaked out when he found out I was gay, now he has a girlfriend?
Q. i'm gay. i'm in uni first yr. i have very few friends. but then i met this guy who was a really gud friend. and i had a crush on him. we hanged out a couple of time. but i think i ruined everything now. i didnt tell him i was gay before but since he ...
A. 9 September 2010: He might be struggling with his own sexuality. He may feel awkward knowing that you might be interested in him, so he's distancing himself from you.
I don't think there is much you can do about it. It's his problem to sort out. You should f... (read in full...)
I think I'm attractive but I don't get looked at or hit on!
Q. I have this strange issue. I feel that I am very attractive however, I think I must be the only one as I never get hit on, no one asks me out and no one stares at me in the street. Whenever, I walk into a room I don't even get a glance from one guy, ...
A. 9 September 2010: In this case, it's all about the signals you're putting out. You may be very attractive, but if people think that you're a snob or an ice queen or otherwise intimidating, they won't look in your direction.
Make brief eye contact and smile at... (read in full...)
I don't want to get hurt!
Q. So, im dating this guy. I really like him and he says he really likes me too. and weve only dated for a week adn we already hug and junk. which might not sound fast but is for me. But see i dated his bestfriend for 3 weeks before school ended, and i ...
A. 9 September 2010: Yes, you are one of the smartest kids I've seen on here. This guy (your boyfriend) could definitely be doing his friend a favor by taking revenge on you. The fact that he's being prematurely physical is also cause for you to be on guard.
Just ... (read in full...)
He's trying to get me pregnant without telling me about it!!!!
Q. About 2 weeks ago my hubby and I had unprotected sex, and he came in me (w/o permission) for the first time ever while I wasn't on BC. I am now a week and a half late, but 4 preg tests in the last 5 days have said I'm not pregnant. Today during s...
A. 9 September 2010: Here's the thing. If you don't want to become pregnant, you should not trust your birth control to someone other than yourself. It *is* a severe breach of trust for him to do that without your consent. You will be the one doing the work of ... (read in full...)
How do I get over feeling duped?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 10 years. When we first started living together she expressed her dislike for certain things in bed. She said she didn't care for sex toys, porn, and oral sex, among other things. We have a healthy sex life, ...
A. 8 September 2010: I have a couple of questions.
First, how did you get into a sex conversation with her ex? That seems to be a bit weird. Also, her ex of course will embellish the idea of his ex being some sort of adventurous sex nympho just to undermine you. I'... (read in full...)
Is he thinking of impregnating me?
Q. My boyfriend confuses me again and again...I am 20 and he is 36. We've been dating more than half a year. When it comes to sex, we use the pull-out method. From the first, he stated that he wanted no kids. I shrugged it off since I'm young and ...
A. 8 September 2010: That's a big YES.
I'd very highly recommend taking charge of your own birth control and NOT relying on him to pull out a bit too late.
I'd also have a talk about this with him, and NOT during or after you're being intimate.... (read in full...)
Evidence that he's looked at escort sites and had a Craiglist ad
Q. Hi everyone. Have been reading the site because I'm just so lost right now. I ended things with my boyfriend of 10 months earlier this week. There have been some trust issues in the past which I guess is what led up to this. This past Tues...
A. 6 September 2010: Did you check the full headers of the email with the pictures against an email verified to have come from him? Any change in the X-originating IP? If the email was "spammed", they would not match.
I'm guessing they totally match, meaning ... (read in full...)
Evidence that he's looked at escort sites and had a Craiglist ad
Q. Hi everyone. Have been reading the site because I'm just so lost right now. I ended things with my boyfriend of 10 months earlier this week. There have been some trust issues in the past which I guess is what led up to this. This past Tues...
A. 5 September 2010: Cherly, you did the right thing. HE IS A LIAR. Turning it around and trying to blame the accuser is a classic liar pose. His computer was hacked. He saw "Dateline". He was spammed and someone took his pictures out of his computer and emailed ... (read in full...)
Why do guys say they want one thing then act totally different like they don't?
Q. Why do guys say they want one thing then act totally different like they don't? Thing is my immediate answer would be, hes a player. But hes not hes a nice guy. He says he wants to be good friends with me yet he wont make any effort with me or speak ...
A. 5 September 2010: This could be one of two things - either he's playing hard to get, which is driving you crazy enough to want to chase him, or he's not interested in you.
My question to you is - do you want a guy who makes no effort for you and shows no interest... (read in full...)
Please help, I cheated on my wife with a prostitute
Q. I've been married for a year and a half, I cheated on my wife with a prostitute and got caught. I love my wife and was seeing the prostitute just because I was so damn horny and wanted to do things with the prostitute that my wife doesn't do. Since ...
A. 5 September 2010: Before I advise you, what would keep you from cheating on your wife a second time? You claimed that you were "so damn horny" which made you visit one. Guess what? You'll be "so damn horny" again! How do you know that you deserve a second chance ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he will abuse me if we start dating?
Q. im 16 and the guy im talking to is 17. he seems really nice and we had a class together when i was a freshman. im a junior now. well he moved last year but is returning to my school this year. ive heard bad things about him tho. he dated a girl in ...
A. 5 September 2010: I knew someone who didn't listen to stories of abuse about a guy she was interested in. They started dating, and she broke it off 6 months later because, GUESS WHAT? She was abused, physically and mentally. After she broke it off, he was enraged, ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he will abuse me if we start dating?
Q. im 16 and the guy im talking to is 17. he seems really nice and we had a class together when i was a freshman. im a junior now. well he moved last year but is returning to my school this year. ive heard bad things about him tho. he dated a girl in ...
A. 4 September 2010: Listen really closely:
You have NO IDEA how many girls get caught up in abusive relationships and end up GOING BACK to the guy until they either end up dead, completely broken, and a miserable shell of the girl they once were.
Most abusers ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't want to live with me any more! Help!
Q. me and m boyfriend have been dating for about two years and a half and now we lived togther for a year and a half. Now he doesnt want to live with me what should i do ? I scared that at the end he wont change his mind....
A. 4 September 2010: Aww, there's not much you can do about that if he's feeling that way. However, if you both have a lease and his name is on it, he still has a financial obligation to keep up his end of the lease. If he bails on you and leaves you holding the bag, ... (read in full...)
Can a woman have an anal orgasm?
Q. Can a woman have an anal orgasm?...
A. 4 September 2010: Yes, they can. However, know that the clitoral system is the source of all orgasms. How it's stimulated (g-spot, vaginally, anally) causes different sensations. Some people can have an anal orgasm, many can't. That's the fun of sexual ... (read in full...)
I don't like when the guy I have been seeing for 4 months just shows up at my door!
Q. I am dating a guy for the last 4 months. I feel like he is already trying to mark his territory. Gave me two teddy bears with his colone sent.. three pictures of him on a frame. He left his toothbrush with his name labled. Now he is starting to ...
A. 4 September 2010: The only way is directly. Tell him gently that you don't feel like the relationship is to the point where showing up unannounced and leaving a toothbrush is yet appropriate, and it's causing you to pull back from him. Tell him that you still like ... (read in full...)
Frustrated...
Q. I know Im not unlike others. My husband who can be sweet when he chooses has been so mean lately. He gets mad at me at the slightest word he doesn't like. He can be so demanding of me and what he wants but today I only asked if he would stop to say ...
A. 4 September 2010: I read your question twice through, and this could go a number of ways. First, the fact that you said you're pregnant possibly serves to amplify the feelings you're having with the way he's treating you. Sometimes, being pregnant makes us pretty ... (read in full...)
Do guys lie about not being virgins?
Q. Do guys lie and say theyre not virgins when they really are? and will theyre guy friends lie for them??because im a virgin and my boyfriend and his friend said he wasnt a virgin .then when we tryed to have sex he could put it in..and he told me to ...
A. 3 September 2010: Having a problem "putting it in" in itself might not have been an indicator of being a virgin, since if you were a virgin, you'd be a bit tight and he might not have wanted to hurt you. However, putting it in "the wrong places" is something ... (read in full...)
It never goes further than a few dates. It makes me feel so down.
Q. hey, im 19 and feel im going to along forever. i go on dates with boys but it never goes futher than that. i dont know whats wrong with me, or what im doing wrong. everyine around me are getting together or metting new boys/girls and making a ...
A. 3 September 2010: How do these dates go? What do you usually talk about? Who does most of the talking? Is there physical contact? How is your breath? (believe it or not, that's one of the biggest first date dealbreakers that never gets revealed!!)
What might do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl. I have asked him not to befriend her, but he says I'm being unreasonable.
Q. My boyfriend has a crush on another girl. Is there anything he can do to not have the crush deepen? I asked him to remain aquaintences with her and not to become friends, but he says that is unreasonable and I have no right to tell him who to be ...
A. 3 September 2010: The very essence of a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is that the boyfriend is only interested in the girlfriend. If it's confirmed that he has a romantic interest in a new girl, it's within your right to question his desire to have more access ... (read in full...)
Am I reasonable to expect my ex to do more?
Q. Hello Aunts I would love as many unbiased views as possible please as Im am trying be remain fair but also not wear myself out completely. I am a single mother of 2 children 15 and 12 who up till now have seen their dad every other weekend, j...
A. 2 September 2010: You are very reasonable to expect him to come get his kids. You have custody of them 24/7 and do a lot for them, and he's forgetting that they're his kids. He made the choice to move away from you, not the other way around.
However, if he won't... (read in full...)
Am I in danger from this guy who texted a nude pic to me?
Q. I went on plenty of fish several months ago and was flooded with emails. I tried to weed out the jerks and players and would block them when I realized they were users. There was alot sleezy guys on this site. (as a caution to the ladies out ...
A. 2 September 2010: YES, call the police and keep ALL communication from this guy, including his anger at you blocking him. Your real name is on plentyoffish. Get a restraining order against him.... (read in full...)
We were on a break! but he can't forgive me.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. However last year we split up for 3months he split up with me because we kept arguing as i was abit overprotective. i begged and begged him back he told me no every time said he can never get back, even ...
A. 2 September 2010: You didn't cheat on him. He broke up with you. He told you he'd "never get back" with you. You were single when you slept with someone else. You never cheated! Who knows what he did while he was away from you.
Bottom line, you were within y... (read in full...)
Married for 21 years and I'm afraid of being alone
Q. Because of my husband's affair 3 years ago I could no longer handle the pain, it was always coming up and fights broke out, he provoked things by not being there in conversation, all I could think of was you knew what to converse with other ...
A. 2 September 2010: It is NOT your fault. It's not your fault. You didn't cause this. Take NONE of the blame. He has to live with himself and his deeds, and now he takes his selfishness to the next relationship.
You could look at is as that after 21 years, y... (read in full...)
How can I 'woo' my travel companion into bed?
Q. I’m on a group tour. Most people on the tour have a partner or travel companion. Being a single traveler I was thinking about not going on the trip but then I thought I should. Anyways, on the tour I met a cute woman who is also a single traveler. ...
A. 2 September 2010: Well, the trick is not to come out and ask for sex with her, because she'll think that you want sex FROM her, as in, you want to use her while you're travelling. That's out. You have to ascertain whether or not she's the type of girl who is up for ... (read in full...)
Will his big penis always be a problem for me?
Q. Hi, I have a new boyfriend, he is 35 and i'm 42, and finally I seem to have found someone who matches me in personality, sexual appetite and pleasures, however, he has a 'girthy' penis. Monday morning I felt like i'd been kicked in the crotch, ...
A. 2 September 2010: You will stretch until you fit him like a glove. In the meantime, maybe you can use more lube and try to take it much more gently, so as to "break you in", so to speak.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to join the marines. I don't want him to go.
Q. Hey, I really need some help my boyfriend wants to join the marines and i really dont want him to. We were gonna get married soon but i told him i dont wanna marry him before he goes cause i dont want to be newly weds and never get to see him. We ...
A. 1 September 2010: I agree with CaringGuy. Being together means encouraging each other to follow their dreams. When you try to hold him back, and if he tried to hold you back from what you dream of, that causes real issues in life. He would resent you.
You h... (read in full...)
We've been dating for a year and seven months. He wants to have sex but I don't feel ready.
Q. Dearcupid , iam a 18 year old young women,i started dating last year,and m stil a virgn,i have been dating m boyfriend for over a year and 7 month,he now want to have sex with me,but iam not ready i feel like i need to talk to hm first about how i ...
A. 1 September 2010: The first part is simple. You don't want to have sex until you're ready.
The second part is not cool. Sex should *never* be a reward for behavior, nor should its witholding be used as a weapon to correct someone's behavior. Just admit that you... (read in full...)
Eight years of marriage down the drain. Help!
Q. I have an 8 yr marriege... My husband met up with his ex 3 weeks ago.. We were already having problems.. but this made up his mind.. after 3 weeks he wants too sell house and completely split.. Whats going thru his head?? ...
A. 1 September 2010: Well, apart from his being an idiot, he's been having nostalgic feelings for his ex. What he conveniently forgot is that there was a reason they broke up the first time.
There's nothing you can do except get a lawyer and protect your interest... (read in full...)
My ex and his girlfriend are making things so hard for me. I just want to move on. Help
Q. So Im a junior in high school now. Last year was horrible because my boyfriend of 2 years cheatd on me 8 times and left me for another girl. Him and that girl harassed me all year long. This year I was hoping for a fresh start but she still glares ...
A. 1 September 2010: Yeah, you should thank her for taking that cheating dog off your back. That would freak her out! You do not want to keep that guy of 2 years who cheated on you 8 times. They're both immature and deserve one another.
Don't talk to them, don't se... (read in full...)
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