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*renchy
writes:alright long story short i was seeing this girl for a little bit it wasn't anything serious it was mainly for the sex , she enjoyed it i enjoyed it ect ect.. until a week ago i told her that we needed to stop cuz i fancied a girl and we were gonna start going out blah blah blah.... so anyway the girl bitches me out insults me ... the whole shabang , and she made it clear that we weren't gonna see each other again ...indefinitely, but the thing is its been a week since that and she is constantly sending me texts saying that she wants to meet up...did she not get the message ? what the hell does she want ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): ohhhh,i get it now . well you know what.If this is the case I think that she was just testing you to see what you were going to do(women do that alot) and she was probably hurt when you did that.You see women say things like that and do things like to be nice/polite and to TEST guys sometimes.even though she said that the sex was just for fun she could have changed her mind and started to really like you.Either way,she's still pretty peeved.If I were you I would just apologize,tell her how I felt thus far in detail,and treat her with kindness and respect to avoid any further confrontation
good luck,dude x3
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reader, frenchy +, writes (19 October 2010):
frenchy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i wasn't very clear on the matter let me throw in a few things i left out...
first off we weren't "dating" i'm sorry for me saying "seeing a girl" it's misleading
second, one of the first things she said and made clear in the beginning was that it wasn't serious ,either of us could stop whenever we wanted ,it was mainly for fun and it would be kept on the DL (secret).so we were pretty much what you called " friends with benefits" .
also we have the same group of friends and she noticed that me and THE girl were flirting and later on suggested that we stop because she didn't wanna get in the way of "the girl" which is a good friend of hers and i said something like
" no "the girl" doesn't really like me she likes someone else... ect"
(1-2 weeks later)
turns out i was wrong she surprisingly actually did like me
so i told her that we needed to stop seeing each other
thats when she got mad and bitched me out
ps sorry for not being very descriptive but i made it as short as possible , thats probly why it sounded so cold
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): Please tell us that this is really a crank a joke pure bs because I can't even begin to fit it in my head that a human would even be capable of treating another in such gross deplorable disrespectful manner. Really?! There's no way you think your behavior is in the slightest of slightest bit humane. You Nevermind I don't want to sin. Yuck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Take a moment and seriously consider the whole and not simply the part. How would it make you feel or better yet how would it affect your heart if the situation in reverese and she or anothe girl did this to you. Better yet how would it make you feel if a boy did this to your daughter. Are you really this heartless. Are you familiar with Karma. Buddy you really owe the girl a mega mass major apology. The way you did and are doing her has me crying right now and it's not even my issue so I can only imagimagine the severe crippling pain she's facing. Find the Lord. So wrong and heartless.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 She wants an emotional relationship with you. Sex for her was an emotional thing that bonds her to you, while for you, it was a conduit to relieve sexual tension and nothing more. If course she's going to be angry if you just drop her with no thought of what the relationship has done to her.
For you, it might not have been serious, but for her, it might have been. It's tough giving your body to someone and then realizing you've been used.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Well, she did get it but she wants to try maybe she can still get you back. Some people are really persistent until they get what they want. If I were you, block her in all like chat, mobile (some mobile phones have block system I guess). Or just plainly ignore her messages, you'll see in time you will receive less and less messages from her until it will stop.
It will take time but time is just what you need. However, maybe next time be sure if a girl is just for sex, to tell her what your intentions really are or to know what both of you intend in your relationship. As a girl, I understand the pain it is for her and this may explain her behavior now, she cannot accept you just dump her like that once you find a new one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): ok um,look dude.i know i'm just a kid and all but i've been through alot of crap and have been exposed to things a child shouldn't even be exposed to so just hear me out when i tell you that you should have never done what you did.Remember,she is a FEMALE and females are extremely emotional and fickle creatures.for all you know she most likely could have fallen in love with you(was probably too shy to admit it or somethin idk) and now she feels rejected,used,sad,every bad emotion u can think of.i don't mean to be mean but what you did to her,that's what a total cold-hearted jerk/jackass would do.so,if you want this to stop here's what you do.first off,apologize(not a bullshit sorry but really just sit her down and give her a sincere apology cuz girls love that,i should know since i am one) next,explain how you feel in the nicest most clearest way you can and you should be fine. P.S. Don't be so friggin careless next time,remember although it doesn't seem like it at times females are EMOTIONAL and you gotta take this fact into consideration. good luck,dude ^-^
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): Not to be rude but you sound a bit insensitive. Did this girl know you two were just about sex or didn't you make that clear to her? Even if she knew it was just about sex, telling her you no longer want her around because you fancy someone else isn't the best way of going about telling her you don't want to be with her anymore. To be honest i'm not suprised she's angry from the way you spoke to her. Maybe start treating women with a bit more respect.
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