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writes:i broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months last thursday. he called me a bitch for the first(and last)time because i didnt call him wenesday. he had a key to my apt and spent 2 nights a week with me and weekends. we never faught much but when he called me outa my name i told him to give me my key and get out my apt. you can tell he was didnt expect me to do that. he was hot. he threw the key, pushed me on his way out and called me the b word again under his breath. when he got back to his barracks he started thrown all kinds of insults at me via txt messages. i didnt respond. i deleted him as my facebook friend and all. i havent heard from him since and i miss him like crazy. niether of us have contacted each other. did i overreact by putting him out for disrespecting me. why am i hurting so bad when i dumped him?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 You definitely can! I think I need to learn a lesson from you and never accept things like that from a guy ever again either. I've putup with too much too many times. Never again! And you know, all the things he told you in messages after you had kicked him out were just out of anger and spite, and are worthless. And why should you even care what a man like that says anyway?
Im positive you will feel better soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks 4 the advise guys. he didnt deserve me and i feel like i can move on to something bigger and better
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Let's see. He put his hands on you (by pushing you) and called you a bitch because you didn't call him? Then, after your breakup, his response wasn't to either apologize or request to talk it over, but he sent you more insults.
This guy has serious issues. He did you a favor by revealing his true nature to you before you two either had a kid or got married. He did more than disrespect you. He showed a violent temper and a propensity for verbal and physical abuse.
You're hurting because the end of any relationship is a period for mourning. But you have to let him go for your own safety. To stay with him would mean subjecting yourself to more abuse, because if this is his reaction to you simply not calling him, it will only get MUCH worse.
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reader, LaDiabla13 +, writes (28 October 2010):
We all get over people in our own time, but you were in the right to let him go. I think maybe part of the reason why you can't let go is because you know you hurt his feelings.
Take assessment of how the relationship was. I once had a hard time getting over someone who wasn't at all the one for me, so what I did was that I created a list of reasons why he rocked vs why he sucked. Did you know that I got 102 reasons why he sucked over 12 reasons why he rocked? No one is perfect mind you, but with a ratio of 1 good reason to almost 10, I started to see that I was right to walk away.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (28 October 2010):
I think you were in your rights to throw him out for disrespecting you. It hurts of course, because you cared for the guy. Yes he did you wrong, but you still need to grieve, because you are not heartless. It hurts no matter who ended it, because you weren't prepared for the break-up to happen. And even if you were it could have hurt, because it is still a grieving process. You cared, that is why you are sad. You hoped for better than this, and you are disappointed.
Be strong and stand for what you believe in. You didn't want to be treated that way, and if you didn't break up with him he would have thought it was ok to treat you like that, and you would have heard it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): If he called you a bitch....and did not even apologise; i'd say good riddance.
It hurts coz you loved him...:). Its natural when you lose someone you love...especially like this.
I don't think you made a mistake at all...he obviously does not respect you.
Give it some time; you'll feel better once you accept that its over....try not to be alone during this time...or you'll feel even worse.
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