Is he testing the waters or am I seeing things?
Q. Ok I am happily married for 10 years and have recently developed feelings for my new friends husband. It is really throwing me for a loop because I know how irrational this is and that I am 100% infatuated with this man and nothing else! He brings ...
A. 8 June 2011: Look at it this way. If he truly loved his wife, no amount of alcohol would induce him to finger you in public in front of her and then laugh it off. He has zero respect for her.
But let's talk about you. Why were you topless in front of him a... (read in full...)
Should I go to a strip club to lose my virginity?
Q. Well first off im an 18 years old and im still a virgin. Everyone say to me that im lucky because I can share that experince with someone I truely care about but im having second thoughts. That maybe I should go to strip club and pay for it. So do ...
A. 17 November 2010: Yeah, repetitive's got a huge point. What's worse, telling a girl that you're a virgin, or telling her you hired a backroom prostitute to break in?
It's more your "buddies" who pick on you for your virginity. The girl you become interest... (read in full...)
Web cam adventure is turning into a nightmare! I'm being blackmailed!
Q. I did some stuff on cam for a guy once, he recorded it. he lives over seas. and now his threatening to send it to all my facebook contacts, his saved them. please dont say i shouldnt have done that, i know that now. but what do i do about it? if...
A. 17 November 2010: How can he contact your Facebook friends without his own Facebook account for which he must provide a name? Yes, the IP address on every email he sends will pinpoint his location, and you (with your mom's help...and yes, this is too big for you to ... (read in full...)
Web cam adventure is turning into a nightmare! I'm being blackmailed!
Q. I did some stuff on cam for a guy once, he recorded it. he lives over seas. and now his threatening to send it to all my facebook contacts, his saved them. please dont say i shouldnt have done that, i know that now. but what do i do about it? if...
A. 17 November 2010: Listen, if he lives in the United States, you can have him arrested for possessing child pornography, as you are underage. Tell him that by distributing child pornography is a major felony that carries implications that will ruin his life.
Maybe... (read in full...)
Should I go to a strip club to lose my virginity?
Q. Well first off im an 18 years old and im still a virgin. Everyone say to me that im lucky because I can share that experince with someone I truely care about but im having second thoughts. That maybe I should go to strip club and pay for it. So do ...
A. 17 November 2010: Going to a strip club or paying for sex is extremely risky! There's nothing in the man's handbook that says that herpes or worse is part of the manhood rite of passage! It also won't help in the event of finding someone you care for because not ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he cums inside me. What can we do?
Q. I'm 31 and dating a 56 year old male. He tends to have strong ejaculations to the point that he goes too deep and hard inside of me. Ive told him this is painful. The sex is great up until he ejaculates. I've asked him to pull out, but for some ...
A. 17 November 2010: Have you thought about having him wear a condom? It's not only much safer, but it'll solve a lot of problems for you! And, he can very well pull out, he just doesn't want to.
You shouldn't have to be in pain to have sex. If he won't come to ... (read in full...)
How should a single guy's bedroom look?
Q. Women, if you were at the house of a guy you liked and peeked in his bedroom, what would make a better impression on you: if it looked as though he entertained females there occasionally (candles, incense sticks, queen-size bed, tiny bottle of ...
A. 16 November 2010: The whole "entertaining females" thing would turn me off with the candles and massage oil.
It wouldn't bother me if it were a simple single man's room. I personally think that practicality is a good trait!
My favorite type is a room that r... (read in full...)
At what age do guys hit puberty?
Q. whatage do guys usually start puberty ? use your own story if you have to . butt my boyfriend is a year younger than me . and I'm pretty sure he hasn't hit puberty . about what age will he , and will he want more sexually activity from me ? please ...
A. 16 November 2010: Heh, yeah, I forgot how rabid Bieber fans are.
Sorry, kid.... (read in full...)
Why won't he add me on Facebook??
Q. hey there's this senior at school, i kinda like him and i added him on facebook but it's been like a month and he still hasn't added me or even rejected the request i added him again and still nothing...i know i sound pretty pathetic, he adds people ...
A. 16 November 2010: It's more likely your age. You're 13-15 and he's 17-18 as a senior. I wouldn't sweat it. Rejection is a common thing, and the sooner you come to grips with it and turn it into something positive in your life, you'll be ahead of the game. I doubt ... (read in full...)
Why do I want this guy if hes a manwhore?! Help!
Q. Why do i want this guy if hes a manwhore?! i cant get him out of my head and its driving me, and my bf insane! i cant stop thinking about him hes one of my best friends and its becoming more and more difficult to hang out with him because i kn...
A. 16 November 2010: You do realize that you can't change a guy. If he's a manwhore, he's a manwhore. You also have a boyfriend. How fair is it to obsess over another guy? Break it off with your boyfriend so that you don't hurt the poor guy by cheating on him!
... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my wife could've cheated on me and the baby is not mine?
Q. I am suspicious that my wife might have been pregant before as she acts wierd in front of the doctor when he asks - also is it possible that she could have bled after conceiving and as such is it possible that she could have cheated on me, and the ...
A. 16 November 2010: I think we may need more to go by to come to that conclusion, because hormones make women act "weird" when pregnant, and many women bleed after conceiving. Mostly spotting, but some medical conditions are serious, cause a lot of bleeding, and are ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my ex I'm engaged without breaking his heart?
Q. My first boyfriend took my virginity and the next day I caught him having sex with another girl in his basement. He didn't even care and had the nerve to twist it like it was my fault. I ended up having to get counseling for a year and now that I am ...
A. 16 November 2010: You're engaged! You got over the trash that was your ex! Why does it matter what he feels? He is a user of women and deserves zero consideration!
Don't go reliving the past and sever any bonding feelings you have for him, or you'll be setting ... (read in full...)
Male pattern baldness!
Q. Hey people, I can't help but feel that I'll be single for the rest of my life. Here's my situation: I'm in my early twenties and started balding a couple of years back. Instead of opting for hair transplants and whatnot, I chose to shave my head an...
A. 16 November 2010: Geeze, you're kinda bitter! Go easy on us girls, will you?
I personally think that you're making more of a big deal about your hair than we would. But, that's human. We tend to focus on our physical flaws way too much, like Pinktopaz says.
... (read in full...)
He called me the "W" word!
Q. im in a bit of a pickle and ive gotten myself caught in a deep depression and im super paranoid...so back story...i dated myy ex boyfriend for 2 months and ultimately broke up because i was naive and stupid and would kiss him. (pathetic I kn ow) and ...
A. 16 November 2010: Yeah, your best friend should have kept her mouth shut. First of all, you're not the "W" word. BUT, if he's flirting with other girls and not wanting it known that you two were together, that doesn't bode well for you. If he cared about you, he ... (read in full...)
At what age do guys hit puberty?
Q. whatage do guys usually start puberty ? use your own story if you have to . butt my boyfriend is a year younger than me . and I'm pretty sure he hasn't hit puberty . about what age will he , and will he want more sexually activity from me ? please ...
A. 16 November 2010: Guys hit it later than girls do for whatever reason. Usually 13-17 with the mean age being about 15. There are, of course, anomolies.
However, if you're Justin Bieber, the answer is NEVER. :D
... (read in full...)
I can't stand that she's not a virgin!
Q. Okay so im fairly certain that i want to break up with my girlfriend. We've been together for almost 9 months now and in her eyes everything is going great. But a few months ago I found out she s not a virgin(I am a virgin). Ive tried to let time ...
A. 16 November 2010: These are interesting. I had a really close friend who met a guy who was like you - a virgin. She was not a virgin, and the guy, believing that the woman he was going to be with would be "sexually pure" broke up with her.
But he couldn't... (read in full...)
Just who is telling me the truth here?! Help!
Q. My ex and I got back together but he dumped me the next day b/c he said 'Its too soon" and doesn't want to hurt me again. He said him and his ex may be over and not getting back together but he doesn't want to use me as a rebound. He claims he needs ...
A. 15 November 2010: Think logically here. There are multiple reports of multiple cheatings. He still spends the night at a friend of his. He cheated on this other girl, and now you're hearing that he cheated on you. This guy is now wavering on getting back together ... (read in full...)
We'll be talking frequently, then suddenly he vanishes for weeks on end! What is going on?
Q. Ok so I am a bit confused. There's this guy, we met about 7 months ago and the chemistry was amazing. Then he had to go home (we met while he was on vacation) but we've been keeping in touch via the net. I had plans to come visit him early next y...
A. 12 November 2010: I'm with olderthandirt on this one. Long silences usually mean another life, one involving another girl. Before confronting him, investigate him. Relationship status on Facebook, Intellius searches (which lists relatives including spouses), ... (read in full...)
How can I compete with someone I have never met?
Q. i need help,7 yrs ago 2 before we got married my husband called me by his ex wifes name,i got angry ,he apolojised but it stil happens sometimes.one night we had sex and he called by her name after this i asked him why did you do that,he said no i ...
A. 12 November 2010: Sounds like he's not over her. By 7 years, he should barely remember her, much less calling out her name over and over during sex. You need to make a stand about this and not let him off the hook about it.... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here, its got the point where I literally cannot concentrate on work anymore!
Q. Help, I'm sinking in lust and love and I'm going bananas!!! I've fancied this guy at work from the moment he started last year; it has taken a while but we have gradually begun to talk more, stare at each other constantly and flirt outrageously! ...
A. 12 November 2010: Well, you're in a quandary. I'm sure in your open relationship, it's understood that you can have friends with benefits, but I'm also sure that it would be out of bounds for you to fall in love with someone else.
Likewise, he also has a boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why do I seem to attract players and man whores?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles! I have been noticing I attract players and man whores. Sure I admit it, I have large breasts, curves, and I'm (unfortunatly) very skinny. I don't want to be this way, I eat like a cow yet, I never gain a pound. I'm extre...
A. 10 November 2010: Listen, if they touch you like that without your permission, that's unwanted sexual contact which could be viewed as a form of minor sexual assault. A very sharp and loud "STOP IT!!!" should stop the inappropriate touching. If it doesn't work, a ... (read in full...)
Erection problem... Is it all in my head?
Q. Straight to the point I can't keep it up during sex with my girlfriend. I think it started when I found out her ex was massive and it put sooo much pressure on me I nearly ended it. I then fell in love with her she's smart and sexy and loves me more ...
A. 10 November 2010: How did you find out her ex was "massive"? By the way, if he was such a massive specimen of a man who satisfied her every need and made her scream continually, she wouldn't be with you!
You're a good guy, and you have to regain your self-con... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to passify me until the divorce is over?
Q. Okay I am recently separated with 2 kids. My husband told me he was not happy and he was talking to a co-worker. he told me nothing would ever happen they are co-workers and friends. I found text messages saying things like "All i need to see is ...
A. 10 November 2010: He *is* using you for sex. Don't just play hard to get. Play IMPOSSIBLE to get. Throw him out with the trash. There is no bet hedging when it comes to affairs of the heart. You need to cut him out of your heart and away from you personally. He ... (read in full...)
Why do I seem to attract players and man whores?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles! I have been noticing I attract players and man whores. Sure I admit it, I have large breasts, curves, and I'm (unfortunatly) very skinny. I don't want to be this way, I eat like a cow yet, I never gain a pound. I'm extre...
A. 10 November 2010: Thewalkin' is absolutely right about locations and interests.
Another thing (and this is a BIG thing) is your image. You say you have big breasts and curves? You say you're shy and "otaku"? You should work on your image.
I'm guessing ... (read in full...)
Do you think it matters how quick a girl orgasms?
Q. I tend to orgasm within 5 minutes during sex with my bf. I don't know if my bf likes the idea that I finish really quick cause I feel like he wants to go longer. Of course he gets to finish, but i feel like he wants sex to last longer... Obviously I ...
A. 4 November 2010: Oh man...don't change ANYTHING! You have what a zillion other women want - the ability to let go and enjoy yourself!
The way to make it last longer is in the foreplay - the stuff leading up to it. Also, you didn't mention whether or not you ... (read in full...)
He can't marry me because of his parents, and he won't even try to convince them.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in love with a guy younger to me by 3 years. We are together for 1 year. I am crazy about him and he says he feels the same way. So i brought about marriage few days ago and he says he cannot marry me since his parents wont acc...
A. 4 November 2010: Yeah, if he can't make his own choices about who he is going to marry by the age of at least 23, you're better off without him.
Listen, it's not his parents who are at fault. *HE* does not respect you. It's HIS choice to look down on your cas... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this relationship? I am a saver, he is a spender and it is just not working!
Q. my boyfriend of several years is upset im not buying him a house, car, and lavish gifts. I make much more money than he does, and its a sore spot. Im a saver, he is a spender. He has had several flighs over the years and refuses couciling, stating ...
A. 4 November 2010: I thought of something else. Make sure you keep your personal info private. I could see him hijacking your credit/identity to get things for himself, and wrecking your good name in the process.
Make sure you keep an eye on your credit score, a... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this relationship? I am a saver, he is a spender and it is just not working!
Q. my boyfriend of several years is upset im not buying him a house, car, and lavish gifts. I make much more money than he does, and its a sore spot. Im a saver, he is a spender. He has had several flighs over the years and refuses couciling, stating ...
A. 3 November 2010: You should leave him, and if you fear his retaliation, go to the police if you fear for your life or property.
Finances are the number two cause of divorce, and you do not owe him cars and lavish gifts. Does he love you for love, or is he looki... (read in full...)
What to do about my feelings/dreams?
Q. My dad just remarried not to long ago to a woman who has 3 kids. I am an only child. Her oldest is a year younger than me. I haven't gotten to know them a great deal but I'm cool being around them. Anyways I had a dream about the oldest and i...
A. 3 November 2010: Of course you haven't done anything wrong! You two aren't related by blood, so there isn't that "ewww" factor going on like there would be if you dreamed about sex with a biological sibling.
However, the law in most states puts sexual relation... (read in full...)
I regret telling him how I feel about him.....
Q. The thing is that I told this boy I love about my feelings... and now I kind of regret it and feel very anxious and guilty ALL THE TIME.It`s like a torture,I feel stupid for sending him a letter I knew that he would not respond positively,it never ...
A. 3 November 2010: Awwww, I'm so sorry that you put your heart on the line and it wasn't returned. :( You're feeling this way because the sting of rejection hurts, stings, is embarrassing, all of the above!
You do not have to feel guilty though. You did what so ... (read in full...)
We're drifting apart, and I'm worried he's considering leaving
Q. I am a woman of 62 and my husband is 68. I have Parkinsons Disease and have put a lot of weight on because of the medication I have to take. My husband doesn't touch me, kiss me or make love to me and he makes it pretty obvious that my being fat ...
A. 1 November 2010: The guy's 68! I seriously doubt that he'll leave you and start skirt chasing simply because you have Parkinson's. You are feeling inadequate because the medication and the disease is changing your image, and maybe your husband is having to deal ... (read in full...)
Soap as a lubricant?
Q. is it ok to use soap as a lubricant to masturbate?...
A. 1 November 2010: I wouldn't. For women, you could cause a urinary tract infection by getting soap in your vagina and not washing it out. The pain of a UTI far outweighs the pleasure from a 10 second orgasm.
Use KY jelly instead if you're needing lubrican... (read in full...)
My Fiance's sister in law is a monster
Q. Hi, My fiance and I have been together for almost a year now and have a great relationship. At the beginning though, his ex wife made things very difficult for us because she was stuck on getting him back. What made things even more difficult t...
A. 1 November 2010: Okay, it's very tough for some family members to accept a change to the family, especially if the family members were close to the ex. Just because one family members stops loving their spouse doesn't mean it's easy for the rest of the family to do ... (read in full...)
Is he testing the waters or am I seeing things?
Q. Ok I am happily married for 10 years and have recently developed feelings for my new friends husband. It is really throwing me for a loop because I know how irrational this is and that I am 100% infatuated with this man and nothing else! He brings ...
A. 1 November 2010: You're saying that this friend is a new friend, and her husband is smooching all over you and telling you he "loves you like a sister"? He's totally flirting with you. He wouldn't be giving the message that there's no chemistry while smooching all ... (read in full...)
Tips to quit smoking?
Q. I just got out of a relationship recently and my self-esteem took a bit of a hit. I'm a smoker and I realize that a lot of women find smoking repulsive (I don't blame them). Anyways I decided to quit, currently I'm on day two. I'm struggling a ...
A. 1 November 2010: First of all, I totally applaud you on quitting smoking! I am a woman who finds it repulsive too. My parents and brothers were all smokers at one time (one of my brothers still is), and their biggest suggestion to help quit is to
1. Get over... (read in full...)
She's pregnant and I'm not in love with her
Q. Ok im not in love with my girlfriend but she's pregnant. Don't get me wrong i wana and gona give my baby everything she needs ( yes its a girl) but me and just don't see things eye to eye we argue a lot. Wat should I do cuz i wana be n my child's ...
A. 1 November 2010: Okay, there might be something missing from this question. When you had sex with her, did you love her then? Did something happen that made you stop loving her?
If you loved her and are just running into her arguing with you, you might want to ... (read in full...)
I want my feelings for wife's sister to go away!
Q. To make a long story short here recently (very recently) Im having feeling about my sister in law.I dont know were these feeling have come from. Am I wierd? I really dont know what to do. I have been married for 7 years and have a 5 year old son. My ...
A. 1 November 2010: You're not crazy for having the feelings. However, DO NOT ACT on them! Stay as far away from your wife's sister as you can possibly get. Do NOT see her in private, nor go to her house, nor discuss your personal life with her in any way.
You n... (read in full...)
How long should we wait before sex?
Q. Okay, so I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. He has had a hand job and a blow job before. I myself have never given one before. We have only been dating for a month and two weeks and was wondering how long we should date till I should give him one?...
A. 1 November 2010: Don't ever think in terms of "should" when it comes to getting physical with a guy. There is never a should, only when you're ready and you absolutely want to. Never give one out of pressure, coersion, or to keep a guy interested in you.
You a... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend keep looking at porn???
Q. I've caught my boyfriend for the second time looking at porn and masturbating over it. I hate the thought of my boyfriend looking at other naked girls on the internet and wanking off to them. Iv been seeing him for just over 2 years and its ...
A. 1 November 2010: It's a lie that all men look at porn and that you have to just accept it. That's almost the same as saying "All men go to prostitutes and you have to just accept it". If prostitution were free, you bet your life that eventually, a group of weak ... (read in full...)
My parents cant stand my boyfriend and they have forbidden me from seeing him ever again. What should I do?
Q. So I'm 16 and I'm in love. Yeah yeah, I know it's corny, and I'm sure you've seen hundreds of questions before from lovestruck teenagers, but this is for real. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and it's been amazing. I love him with ...
A. 1 November 2010: You might not want to hear this, but parents have been around the block more than you have when it comes to love and relationships, so before you jump to a conclusion that they're being unfair and unreasonable, you should sit down with your parents ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should dump my needy boyfriend
Q. well im dating this guy he is a very nice guy but he calls 24 seven. he never leaves me alone. i need time for my self and he wants me to be around him and i have things to do he would yell at me some times for saying i couldnt come over or talk he ...
A. 31 October 2010: First of all, do not date the new guy until you've broken up with the other one. You'll have to face your boyfriend and break up with him. Be gentle and tell him that it's not working out between you two. So what if he yells at you. Don't "try" ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was naked with his cousin in our bed!!!
Q. Me and my bf have been with each other for 8 months. we asked his cousins to come play cards and they did. we all got totally wasted on vodka and beer and they were takinh pills. well i passed out in the next room and i woke up wondering were my bf ...
A. 31 October 2010: That makes sense Cerberus. I have blacked out before on alcohol (in my younger days!), but I've never personally combined them with pills. I've woken up in weird places and didn't remember how I got there.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was naked with his cousin in our bed!!!
Q. Me and my bf have been with each other for 8 months. we asked his cousins to come play cards and they did. we all got totally wasted on vodka and beer and they were takinh pills. well i passed out in the next room and i woke up wondering were my bf ...
A. 30 October 2010: First of all, good god. I actually believe the BF when he says he can't remember anything. Vodka and pills and beer.
However, and this is absolutely crucial. They had sex, no doubt about it. He needs to get tested for STD's, and you need to ... (read in full...)
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