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writes:My ex-girlfriend thinks I'm hooked. So she plays emotional games with me even if I don't reply (by email and common friends). She doesn't stop.Makes me insane to know that she may try unexpected things on me all the time.Taking into account that I'm in a different city and she doesn't have my mobile nr anymore...How can I make her realise that:I'M OVER AND OUT OF HER GAME?????????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs the difficult to organize everything (is a long story) but here is the main information (feel free to ask me if you need for more)...
My girlfriend broke up with me one month and a half ago. She did this all the time for one entire year, so is a usual behaviour she has eveytime I point her mistakes. She never says "I'm sorry". Instead she says "I don't want this relationship anymore". But because she didn't did any efforts to be with me we ended up in different cities. So, this time (after she broke up) I just gave up. One month without replies to her. I love her and that is why I cannot stop thinking about her. But I don't know what to expect from her. I want to talk to her but I'm afraid to get hurt again as I love her deeply.
She uses my feelings to maintain her power and keep behaving like an idiot. The only time she was nice to me was when she saw me quiting the relationship forever. But only this time. Apart from that she just plays mind games.
She behaves like she is superior without any consideration for my feelings. But now, because I don't reply anymore she is using other people.
you can see her last emails here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-with-her-emails.html
I love her but I don't believe that she loves me. One year of pain is enough. She expects me to quit my job for her. But I will not because she decided to chance city without me.
I want to quit this relationship by taking her power.
Is true she has it. My fault. I've fallen in love for the wrong woman. But I don't want her to think that I'm hooked. And that is why I ask for help here. I don't know how to do it.
I know how to love. I don't know how to take love away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): CONGRATS!!!!!! YOU DID IT!!!!! YOU CONQUERED THE FIRST AND MOST DIFFICULT STEP OF ALL---"CONFRONTING and VALIDATING TRUTH." If you don't mind sharing, could you please provide a synopsis of your and her history and what lead to your break up, as this will allow for the formulation of an effective strategy to meet your end. (Signed, PBIAB--I'm the party who posted the answer just prior to your confession)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): ok. I'm hooked. But what I need you to tell me is how to make her think that I'm not.
She has hurt me a lot for one entire year. She was the one that broke up with me. And she was the one that changed city.
So... maybe she did all this because she believed it was too easy. Now, I don't want this torture of pain any more. My love for her has hurt me too much. I have just made 30 years old and because of her I have now wrinkles and white hair. I don't want more pain.
I need help in making her realise that she has no power on me... even if she has. Because is by believing that I'm hooked that she keeps the torture.
Please give me advices!!! ...don't just tell me that I'm in love and hooked. I know that. That's not the point.
The point is I don't want her to think this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): She's not making you insane. You're making yourself insane, whatever tactic/strategy that you're utilizing to supress the fact that you're still hooked on her, and perhaps moreso than she hooked on you, is inneffective. Hey, you can run from love but you can't hide it. You're in love with the girl.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Change your email. Block her from your Facebook and other social networks. Tell your common friends that you don't want to hear about her anymore.
If her trying things makes you insane, then you are still hooked. You have to get to the point where her existence and what she does means no more to you than hearing about a power outage in Bangladesh.
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