He says he wants me but it certainly does not feel like it.
Q. Why is it my boyfriend says "dunno" to everything, i say to him "what we doing tomorrow" his reply "dunno" But yet he complains we never do anything, i am forever suggesting things, like bobbing uptown for something to do, then he makes excuses up ...
A. 8 August 2010: You know, he might be depressed. Sometimes, when someone is dealing with depression, all they want to do is isolate themselves from the public and lose all ambition to do anything. If he's complaining that you both never do anything, he could be ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 6 August 2010: Being anti-porn is a lot like being vegan, so that's a good analogy actually. Porn isn't good or evil - it's a tool. Some people use it, others hate it. Some couples use it together, and some use it during times like being single or say - forced ... (read in full...)
We were supposed to get married, but instead we drifted apart.
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for about 5 years (we study abroad and lived together for 1 year but our parents didn't know because we are christian orthodox and his father is a priest and very strict and wouldn't approve). At the end of the s...
A. 6 August 2010: You know, it's not your fault. It's really nobody's fault. Your relationship is like a fire that ran out of fuel. The timing in your lives was bad, and you both were in separate directions. You were right to speak out for yourself in terms of ... (read in full...)
I broke his trust, but I really want him back. Is there hope?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago because i hurt him badly. I didnt cheat on him but he just doesnt trust me now and i've ruined everything. I regret it so much but he has accepted my apology. The thing is he told me he still loves me very ...
A. 6 August 2010: It's really hard to give you advice without knowing what you did to hurt him. Usually, it's cheating that causes that level of pain in a guy, but you said there wasn't one. Did you talk to an ex or steal his identity for financial fraud or ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 6 August 2010: This guy sounds like a great guy! I think you're a little too hyper on the anti-porn gatherings and letting a little fearmongering get the best of you on this one. I've seen "anti-this or that" groups treat whatever object of their fear and hate ... (read in full...)
I'm Engaged to Someone I Don't Trust
Q. *OP Title* I met my fiance about 6 yrs ago in college. We began dating for about 8 months, but eventually broke up. Nothing serious happened we were just young college grads and decided to remained friends. Over the yrs we dated other people but ...
A. 6 August 2010: Okay, I counted at least *4* examples of his lying and cheating on you, and one time of unprotected sex. The problem , believe it or not, isn't him. He is what he is, a lying cheater, and he has never and will never change. No size of diamond ... (read in full...)
How to stop the sex?
Q. So, I have been with my boyfriend a year and a few months. We both weren't virgins when we met and we got close fast so we really didn't wait long to have sex. The thing is lately it seems he has been more touchy and all over me then usual and I've ...
A. 25 June 2010: I understand how you feel. The sex has taken over the relationship to the detriment of the other things, like courtship, getting to know each other, and falling in love. That makes you feel like YOU are secondary to what you do for him ... (read in full...)
Does his texting mean he likes me?
Q. he's txting and he tells (good nite sweet dreams) every night. Does this mean he likes mii more than a friend?...
A. 23 June 2010: He might or might not! YOu might just be a good friend to him. If you want it to be more, follow sunnycomet's advice.... (read in full...)
How do I prove my innocence?
Q. How can i prove that i am 100% innocent and am telling the truth to my boyfriend? I stupidly lied to my boyfriend of almost 3 years in a panic because i thought that he would think there was something going on between someone else when there wasn't. ...
A. 23 June 2010: Tell your boyfriend to put a sock in it. You don't need to apologize for his immature and jealous nature. Tell him that if he keeps it up, he WILL lose you.... (read in full...)
My b/f's been exchanging dirty texts with other guys
Q. hey, i really need advice. a couple of months ago i looked through my boyfriends phone and i found that he was sending credit to his old number. so the next time i was in his house, i had a snoop and found the second phone with his old sim in it. i ...
A. 23 June 2010: Oh boy. Yeah, you will definitely have to confront him, especially if he's been having anonymous sex with random guys. Don't wait on this either.
You will also need to have an STD test done, as casual sex with strangers is a very dangerou... (read in full...)
Do women worry about their parts the way men worry about theirs?
Q. I love the female form. There are so many variations of the female genitalia. What is the reason some women's labia majoria is hidden and others are larger and seem to hang out. Secondly, do women get hung up on there vaginas like men do with ...
A. 23 June 2010: LOL!!!!! This question made me laugh!
Guys are so funny. Trust me, we're not straddling handheld mirrors and admiring our vaginas. When we compare ourselves to other women, it's not the size or shape of our clitorises that even enters o... (read in full...)
Help! I'm not attracted to my boyfriend at all!
Q. please help. i am not attracted to my partner at all. i love him and care for him but dont think im in love. i dont get excited about him . but he is the nicest boyfriend and would do anything to make me happy. we have a 7 month old son and i do...
A. 23 June 2010: What happened? Obviously you used to be attracted to him enough to have a son together. Before you trash the relationship, think about whether or not it might be post-partum depression, or you need a vacation (you're burned out) or something like ... (read in full...)
He threw out his ring so I threw out mine! What does it mean?
Q. My b/f and I were having an argument the other day on the highway coming home, at one point during the fight, he pulled off his ring and put it on the dash of the car. A few minutes later he pulled over, rolled down the window and threw the ring ...
A. 23 June 2010: Heh...that was a stupid thing for both of you to do, and I know you both regret it. You're reading a bit too much into it. I think it was just a fight that went horribly awry. Think of it this way - better the rings out the window than ash trays ... (read in full...)
Having sex with him may have ruined everything. Please help!
Q. *OP's Original Title* So, recently I've been having alot of dramma and streaa with my bestfriend. My friend is a guy and we have been bestfriends for about three years. Once we met it we had this weird instant connection but he had a gf so we didn'...
A. 23 June 2010: I read this a few times actually. Normally, I would have thought he was using you, but in this case, I don't think so. You haven't ruined everything by having sex with him. This is a case of him not knowing that you want more than a friendship.
... (read in full...)
Ex and I are fighting over his family home. What should I do?
Q. My exhusband and I have been seperated for 3 years now. I filed for divorce because he is an alcholic. We are still not divorced, and it all has to do with a house we own. This house was his grandparents and then we purchased it for 50k. It is now ...
A. 23 June 2010: The house is NOT an heirloom. You helped BUY it for $50,000. Had it been a car you bought from an in-law, it would still be community property.
The house wasn't willed exclusively to your husband, and he didn't pay with funds that were exc... (read in full...)
Why are my 3 sons so painfully shy?
Q. Do weak ,shy fathers cause their son to be weak and shy? I have 3 sons,and none of them ever had a girlfriend,or not really even a friend. They also have other serious confidence issues,and they are all painfully shy. What is hard in every ...
A. 22 June 2010: It takes much more than just a shy dad. It can also take an overbearing, domineering mother to cause a guy to escape into his shell.
I knew a family for about 13 years with a similar dynamic. Shy, short-ish, timid dad and a VERY overbear... (read in full...)
Should I believe my husband?
Q. hello, I need some help and I HOPE someone out there offers advice. back info*** my dad always cheated on my mom. he was abusive and left wen I was 13, since i started dating my hubby 7 years ago i have ALWAYS had issues with insecurity and c...
A. 22 June 2010: You are killing your marriage.
Because your dad cheated is no excuse for you to be doing what you're doing now.
If your husband watches porn, his sex life will be naturally diminished. AND, it's notorious for sending spam from sex sites o... (read in full...)
Boyfriend blues
Q. 5 years in august. The two of us have been through it all. Apart from the silly arguments I still am attracted to him. But recently he hhas had very premiscuous behavior. Cell fone. Hiding, internet trafficking, he says I'm crazy and that I harass...
A. 22 June 2010: You ask "What are the signs to let go?" They're right in front of you with the internet and cell phone and infidelity. He's switched off from you.
The question you should really be asking yourself is "Why am I still attracted to him even tho... (read in full...)
Difference between "love" and "in love"?
Q. I was always wondering wat is the differnece between "loving someonne" and "being in love wif someone". My best friend says that she loves her boyfriend but she isn't in love. I don't know what it means to be in love at least i don't think so. So ...
A. 22 June 2010: Well, since this is all about opinions, I'll state mine.
I think the whole "I love you but I'm not in love with you" is grade A bullshit. People say that for the same reason that they say "it's not you, it's me."
People say that when they r... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy?
Q. I could never date a non vegan, it doesn't matter how nice they are I just never could! Am I being ridiculous? Also why do people resent vegitarians and vegans? I have a few ideas why but would just like to know what you guys think!...
A. 21 June 2010: You're not being too fussy for not wanting to date a non-vegan any more than a Republican not wanting to date a Democrat.
People don't resent vegetarians or vegans on the basis of what they choose to eat. The sense of resentment comes from the... (read in full...)
How can he do that at his age?
Q. How is my lover of 62 able to keep an erection for up to three hours?...
A. 21 June 2010: Oh yeah...Viagra or Cialis or something.... (read in full...)
Is there a manual for dating a librarian?
Q. Hello, I am on summer research at a school far away from mine. I regularly use the library here, and have noticed one of the librarians who checks out books is very nice and also attractive. I would like to approach her and ask her out or just ...
A. 21 June 2010: Librarians are people too! In fact, you kinda have an advantage now, because you know what her passion is. I've never met a librarian who wasn't who she was unless she had an incredible passion for books and the library.
If you haven't talked h... (read in full...)
Should I meet this 43 year old online friend?
Q. On wednesday I'm supposed to meet up with a 43 year old man off this chat room, I'm just not sure if I want to. We first started talking when I was 16 and he really wanted to meet me and we would talk fir hours on the phone an skype etc, i dec...
A. 21 June 2010: May I suggest that a hotel to meet someone over 20 years your senior is not the right place for a first meeting?
I also VERY highly recommend that you are NOT alone when you meet the guy? Even if it's 2 years that you have talked with him, it'... (read in full...)
Help! My wife found out about an affair I'd rather forget, how can I get her back now?
Q. F*^ and ! Sorry for my language but everything is horrible. The woman I had the affair with some how found me on the internet and sent me a message. Say how she wished the night ended differently and how even. Though it was only a couple mintues ...
A. 21 June 2010: Yep, you're screwed. You devastated her beyond anything she's ever felt in her life. And there's nothing you can ever say to change it. Your relationship, as it stands, is over.
You have a glimmer of hope though. You must transfer all of that ... (read in full...)
How can I get over him- EG stop bringing him up in conversations, or being reminded of him?
Q. I was in a relationship with this guy for about 3 years and then we broke up suddenly.weve been broken up for about 8 months now but We still had a relationship somewhat though but we did not have the title of boyfriend and girlfriend. I just ended ...
A. 21 June 2010: Ahh, you just did last week what you should have done 8 months ago, and that's break it off COMPLETELY.
Why did you two break up? I'm guessing that given the ultra-quick way you broke up, and that you pissed off your friends by still talking ... (read in full...)
It was my first time and I was bleeding alot, should I be worried??
Q. Hi I'm 18 and I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time but then during the sex I was bleeding alot. I used a condom but I'm afraid, am I'm going to get pregnant?...
A. 21 June 2010: You were bleeding because your hymen was broken. Most girls bleed some, and some, like you, bleed a lot. Did you know that in ancient times, after a husband took his wife to bed for the first time, they displayed the blood stained sheets to show ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive boyfriend for lying about drinking?
Q. Ok so i really need help. Me and my boyfriend had been dating for about 10 months and he is about to leave for the marines. Well the weekend before he left, we were in a little argument over something he did but nothing huge. recently we didnt even ...
A. 21 June 2010: Oh, and another thing - you used the word "faithful" in regards to ONLY drinking, which is how I know for a fact that you're worried about more than just drinking.
Has he cheated on you before?? If not, you need to seriously trust the guy.
... (read in full...)
Should I forgive boyfriend for lying about drinking?
Q. Ok so i really need help. Me and my boyfriend had been dating for about 10 months and he is about to leave for the marines. Well the weekend before he left, we were in a little argument over something he did but nothing huge. recently we didnt even ...
A. 21 June 2010: Drinking is legal. Unless he's strung out on a 3 day binge, if he's over 21, he can drink whenever he wants to. I could understand if he was smoking weed or going to strip clubs, but drinking is something this guy has every right to do.
If yo... (read in full...)
Best friend to girlfriend?
Q. I've been bestfriends with this girl since 7th grade and we tried dating in 8th but it was too weird...we were texting one night and she said "sometimes i wonder why we never tried to date again,i mean you'd be the perfect guy for me cause i trust ...
A. 21 June 2010: Most definitely make sure she ends it with HER boyfriend before you start dating her. You do NOT want to be caught in a love triangle. Think about being in her boyfriend's place knowing that your girlfriend is secretly texting her interest towards ... (read in full...)
She won't have sex with me!
Q. hello, me and my girlfriend are having relationship problems and i need your advice. Me and her have been goin out for 5 months and i have been waiting for her to want a physical relationship with me but everytime we engage we only get as far as ...
A. 21 June 2010: Your dreams are your brain's way of trying to work out the problem. Guys do feel rejection when their advances are rebuffed, which means I know that you're after her for more than just sex. But you're also a mega-hormonal teenager ... (read in full...)
Is he still a virgin?
Q. So the other nite I had sex with a virgin...When we were doing it I felt kind of bad bcuz I wasnt a virgin. Knowing that I was taking his virginity was bad enough so I punkt out and stopped after while...So is he still a virgin?(if he didn't cum)...
A. 21 June 2010: He didn't cum? Oh man. Talk about blue balls!
That's a really good guy who can stop himself at your wishes.
Nope. He's not a virgin. Any penetration ends it, so you are forever the distinction of being his first.
If you still like him... (read in full...)
She won't do any more physical stuff with me!
Q. Hey everyone, My girlfriend and i have a pretty physical relationship but of course it has died down some. I made it very romantic for her one time and since we both are completely free from our parents sometimes we have to go to the back of the c...
A. 21 June 2010: What was the SUPER ROMANTIC part??
There's a stigma attached to the back of the car sex. It's uncomfortable, the police could break it up (happened to me once!), and girls who give it up in the back of the car have been unfairly labeled as "easy... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 21 June 2010: He can't make you pay back the money for school. That was a gift made within the relationship. However, why would you drop out of school?
If you're breaking up with him, wouldn't working on your school/career be the smart thing for you to do?... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my female boss!
Q. I'm 21 year old female and I'm stupid in love with my also female boss, My first though when I get up in the morning is for her, the same goes when I go to bed. At first it wasn't so bad to work with her and work around my feelings, but now, but...
A. 21 June 2010: Here's the thing. Since it's you and your boss, it's YOU that has to make the *very* definitive first move. She can't make a move on you for legal reasons (i.e. sexual harrassment laws).
If you're interested in her, and she's also gay and inte... (read in full...)
I have a new boyfriend but I'm scared of being hurt again...
Q. I had my heart broken by a guy i was in love with, i loved him from the moment i saw him, for months after i spent all my days thinking about him, talking to him, each time falling deeper, but all this time he was hurting me, i didnt realise how ...
A. 21 June 2010: It's actually easier than you think. What went wrong the last time was that you were so obsessed with your old boyfriend that you were eating, sleeping, and breathing him. You lost sight of who you are, and gave up EVERYTHING for the guy.
... (read in full...)
She blew up in my face out of nowhere and now I want to end it with her!
Q. I am 26 and my girlfriend is 24. We have been together for 2.5 years and have been living together for 2 years. She had a bad ex-boyfriend who abused her physically and mentally and unfortunately brought a hell of a lot of insecurities to the ...
A. 21 June 2010: Her problems ARE her fault. What's happened to her in the past is one thing, but how she treats others and what she chooses to do with her life are completely within her control.
Unfortunately, you can't change her, and she doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
How can I let go of the man who would be completely perfect if it wasn't because he's too jealous?
Q. I'm having a hard time letting go of my ex. We had many issues concerning jealousy (mostly his) during the relationship. The problem is, I was very patient during our relationship, and I put up with his distrust, jealousy and anger. I never cheated ...
A. 21 June 2010: You have to remember - he's NOT perfect. What you saw from him and what you see now is HIM trying to impress you. He cultivated that "compatible" image, and is now pouring on the charm even more since you left him.
You have to consider what the... (read in full...)
Used me as rebound girl for 5 months? Is this good revenge on him?
Q. Does he really want me or is he still hung over his ex gf? When I first met boyfriend, he would rant on and on to me about his ex, how she was psycho and all. I felt it was okay since we were just friends given the distance between us it would be...
A. 21 June 2010: Yep, he's hedging his bets. He's not over his ex, and he doesn't want to cut her out of his life. You shouldn't have to nag him to tell her about you, because if a guy truly cares about you and is done with his ex, the conversation should have ... (read in full...)
Girl trouble! Very bad!
Q. This the first time this has happened to me. So me and this girl have been good friends for about 6 months. Well just out of nowhere about a week ago she says she likes me so we start going out. four days later she says “so what do you think about ...
A. 21 June 2010: Aww man. Good question. Probably the thing you should say to her is "why do you want to be just friends again?"
If you both are the same age, it's kinda typical for both boys and girls to be a bit flighty. She could have met another guy. OR... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed with my voice...
Q. Hey im 15 and i'll be 16 in march, something is bugging me but i guess its not really serious. Well everyone i know says my voice sounds like im around 10 years old is that normal? My boyfriend said he doesnt mind and that he thinks its cute, but im ...
A. 21 June 2010: Awww, there are people with voices like yours who make seriously insane amounts of money as voice actors. The voice of Pikachu and Bart Simpson are good examples.
You have a voice desired by MANY women who think they sound like Olga the Bulgaria... (read in full...)
My best friend practically ignores me online now. What do I do?
Q. Well right now i feel so sad because me and my best friend used to talk every day on messenger cause she is in mexico and i came to the united states when i was 6 years old but i go every year. Well the problem is that since she meet a boy she ...
A. 21 June 2010: Awww....this happens in real life too when a close friend gets a guy and then no one and nothing else matters. If she's the same age you are, she hasn't learned how to balance her life and this guy.
Don't take it personally. She doesn't ... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 20 June 2010: I hope this guy doesn't have an Argentine lover stashed somewhere that he's seeing on his long getaways, because behavior like this almost always points to someone else that's come into the picture.
It sounds like he's got another girl (or a gu... (read in full...)
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