He doesn't have the time or motivation to be committed?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday. It just doesn't feel right. I am 19 and he is 20. He is in school for pre-medicine 2 hours away. We had been going out for 14 months and had already conquered the first year of school away from each other. ...
A. 20 August 2010: I concur - he is wanting out. He's chosen his school and pursuits over a relationship with you. He even said it - it's bad timing for him and he feels that the relationship with its obligations and demands are tripping him up out of his motivation ... (read in full...)
Can I tell him I love him yet?
Q. I feel so in love with my...guy. We're away from each other for a few days and it like feels ages, unbearable. He drove 8hrs once just to see me. My friends don't think he's attractive, (he's older by 16) but I think he's beautiful, we look at each ...
A. 20 August 2010: First question - is he Spanish or someone whom Spanish is the primary language? If so, say "Te quiero" back.
If it's not, then he's testing the waters to see if he does want to tell you "I love you". You say he has commitment issues? Hmm...th... (read in full...)
Headache after Sex... Should I be worried?
Q. Recently, after having sex, when i'm having an orgasm,i get this shooting pain in my head followed by a headache that last for at least thirty minutes sometimes longer. Is this something i should be worried about?...
A. 20 August 2010: GO to the doctor and have your blood pressure checked.... (read in full...)
Why does she get to decide when we make love?
Q. What could cause my girlfriend to make me feel really bad and guilty, almost like she hates me, when I ask her to make love but she doesn't want to? I've never even came close to forcing her. The only thing I will do is ask her why she doesn't want ...
A. 20 August 2010: Geeze, I can tell you right now that the real issue isn't whether or not she "decides" to make love. The issue for you is power in the relationship, and I'll tell you right here and now: Let it go or you will lose her.
Women and men oftentim... (read in full...)
G/f has gained weight, complains about it, but doesn't do anything about it?
Q. Before I begin I want to say that I absolutely love my girlfriend. I also know that she is the girl I am going to one day marry, and she knows this too. Deep down she is a great person and apparently I am the greatest boyfriend ever; I treat her ...
A. 19 August 2010: It's the stress that's doing it, I'm pretty sure of that. If she's lived a life of working out and taking care of herself and then changes that when she starts dealing with high stress like her job and this legal situation, that can have an effect ... (read in full...)
My husband's been browsing escorts on his phone!!
Q. Hi all, Just wondered if anyone had any advice for me about a very personal problem... I have recently discovered that my husband has been browsing escorts on his mobile phone (i dont really understand the phone and found this all by accident when...
A. 17 August 2010: Well, there's one way to find out the truth about the escort, and that's to get a hold of his calling records from his phone to see whether or not he's been calling the escort services that host these women he's "supposedly" using to masturbate ... (read in full...)
I attacked my Husband!!
Q. Today I got into an argument with my husband. The row started getting worse and then i pushed him and slapped him in the face. I also scratched him when he pushed me back. I've done this a few years ago and thought I'm over my 'anger' feelings...
A. 17 August 2010: OMG. If you were a guy who wrote a post like yours, or if you were a girl who wrote about your husband doing that to you, the number of "Get away from him" posts would be staggering. We would all agree that he is abusive and that there is no ... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to my BF in 3 weeks. What to do?
Q. Hi everyone, I've never done this before. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I have lots of friends and the few I have told - i have trusted their opinion but i would like to hear more....opinions. My boyfriend of 8 Months has recently 'disappeare...
A. 17 August 2010: Hmm...not to sound too negative, but his answer to you about being "anxious" when you call him or he's about to call you is a load of BS. If someone has feelings for someone else, especially within the first year of dating, they think about that ... (read in full...)
Did I fail?
Q. I'm back with another dating-related problem. Let me see if I can keep this short and sweet... Alright, I just got back from a camp I volunteered for. The camp was for kids who have kidney related diseases or transplants. I'm a transplant patie...
A. 17 August 2010: Hey! I'm also a transplant patient.
Your issue is shyness. Why wait until camp? You're only 2 hours away! Go tell her you have feelings for her and see where it goes! Your days of admiring her from afar are easy for you because that insulate... (read in full...)
I want to donate a kidney so my mother can have another couple of years
Q. hi..ok i know this isnt about relationships but im desperate. my mum is currently on the waiting list for a kidney, both of hers are failing and we are running out of time, we've been told she won't get one in time so we need to consider being ...
A. 17 August 2010: Wow, sorry for weighing in on this late, but on the 4th of July, I was in the hospital recovering from a kidney transplant myself.
From my experience, kidney tranplant saved my life. I feel so incredible now that it's happened. Being free fro... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this marriage? I'm sooooo bored now that the kids are up and away.
Q. i've been married for 28 years and now that the children are grown and gone i found myself to be living a sedentary and bored life with my wife. i'm tired of the monotony and routine and i want to get out of it because i no longer desire to continue ...
A. 17 August 2010: Geeze - if she's really like that, you need to stand up for yourself! It's not enough to simply divorce her because like it or not, you are half the problem with that marriage, and now that you're a middle-aged empty-nester, you're starting to have ... (read in full...)
I'm at a high risk of being hurt of these rumours are true...
Q. I'm seventeen. I work at Krystal and recently, a beautiful girl started working there and she's my age. We're the only ones still in school that work there. I've liked her for awhile and finally after work I just told her. And she replied by saying ...
A. 17 August 2010: "Whore" is a harsh term. Have you judged who is saying that about her and more importantly, WHY? Some women are called whores if they happen to be with a guy that another girl is interested in.
Also, if they love sex and up until this point, t... (read in full...)
He asked to see someone's boobs, but everyone is telling me it's what boys do!
Q. me and my bf have been together for 3 years. we were at his sister wedding reception and I found out he asked another girl to see her boobs. I kown this girl shes married with kids and not at all interested in him. He and his sister have know her ...
A. 17 August 2010: Umm...no, that's not what guys in committed relationships do. Asking to see other girl's boobs is what 13 year old adolescent single virgin boys do, not men. Of COURSE you'd be pissed, and you have every right to be! What a moron he is, and deep ... (read in full...)
Can only orgasm from missionary. Is something wrong?
Q. Husband and i have been married for 4 years, sex is great everytime but we are still stuck with the missionary position.I can only climax with him on top of me.We have tried different positions but never reached orgasm with any.I have heard great ...
A. 17 August 2010: Oh hey! Don't sweat it! The missionary position offers excellent stimulation! Just keep being adventurous with sex, and you might find something else that stimulates that way! BUT - don't feel bad that you haven't found it yet!
Howev... (read in full...)
Women, what kind of porn do you like?
Q. straight women, what kind of porn do u like?...
A. 17 August 2010: I'm not really into porn. For the most part, it looks really painful and unpleasant to the women porn stars, and I'm not into guys grunting and shoving for 10 minutes to the tune of "Bow chicka bow wow".
And the oral sex is worse! Trust me, the ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? My boyfriend is boring and this other guy isn't.
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend for 4 months now. I have been talking to this other guy who is 18. I like the boy who is 18 but I also like my boyfriend. My problem is my boyfriend is very committed more than I am. The 18 year old is very funny an...
A. 17 August 2010: If you want to break up with your current boyfriend, you should. Don't tell him that you're speaking to an 18 year old and that your boyfriend is boring. YIKES!
Tell him that you feel the need to be on your own and that you two should break up... (read in full...)
Falling in love with my "non-serious boyfriend."
Q. [OP original title] Back Story: I met this person at a bar. Went home with him. Slept with him. Hung out the next weekend. Had the conversation that neither of us was looking for anything serious. My reasoning: I was freshly out of a mar...
A. 17 August 2010: Oh boy - this is the danger of "friends with benefits".
If he's reminded you "several times" that your relationship will not be serious, I'm afraid that you're going to be hurt by him eventually.
Let me ask you this - why would you love a... (read in full...)
Finding a girl I've seen online whom I've never met or spoken to...???
Q. I can see how this might come off as strange or creepy but i'm really looking for advice/opinions on this. I recently joined an online dating site in an attempt to find a girl as similar to me as possible and it looks like I might have suceeded. T...
A. 17 August 2010: Well, I have a thought.
If you want to go to this event to see this girl, why not? However, I would advise that you do it on this condition only - do not tell her right off the bat that you saw her on the dating site and tracked her down based on... (read in full...)
Do I just come straight out and say "it" or do I wait for HIM to say "it?"
Q. Hello :) my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months and I know that I am in love with him, I can't stop thinking it and how badly I want to tell him. A couple of weeks ago he came over to my house after going out one night and he w...
A. 17 August 2010: To clarify, I was never burned in the past by anyone with love issues. I'm not speaking from any sense of hurt or offense whatsoever. However, I have known more than a few guy friends who have had reservations about saying "the words", and the ... (read in full...)
Are these kisses real???
Q. Okay, so this is kind of a weird question, but I'm really interested to know; Do the kisses you read about in books and watch in films actually exist? I don't know if its because I've never been in love with someone, but every kiss I've had with a ...
A. 17 August 2010: Oh absolutely they exist! And yes, you do have to have strong chemistry and feelings for someone to unlock your passion in the kiss itself. You just have to find the right person, but I can tell you from experience that a real kiss is like ... (read in full...)
Should I become a christian in order to have a chance to date her?
Q. i have a crush on this girl. Through her i get to know that the next boyfriend she have should at least be a christian. She dont know that i have a crush on her yet. I am a free thinker. To have a chance to be her boyfriend, something inside...
A. 17 August 2010: You should only become a Christian if you are feeling a desire to become one. You shouldn't go through the motions just for a girl, because religion is a lifetime commitment that requires a firm belief and adherence to the faith. Eventually, both ... (read in full...)
He was drunk and kissed her...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for almost 3 months... not very long. However, we've developed such an amazing connection. Strong, amazing, happy feelings I haven't felt in years. He's become both my close friend and lover. most importantly, he's ...
A. 17 August 2010: I read your post three times, and I want to say how sorry I am that you're going through this. I can only imagine the devastation, fury, sadness, insecurity, and heartbreak you are feeling now and felt the moment this guy revealed to you what has ... (read in full...)
Do I just come straight out and say "it" or do I wait for HIM to say "it?"
Q. Hello :) my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months and I know that I am in love with him, I can't stop thinking it and how badly I want to tell him. A couple of weeks ago he came over to my house after going out one night and he w...
A. 17 August 2010: Whatever you do, do NOT say it first. Absolutely do NOT say it first. For you, love is an expression of emotion. For him, it's a declaration of commitment and a statement of a future with you. For him, it's a "next step", and if you say it first ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I don't have a job or a car
Q. i have recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months, we were getting along so great untill this week. she seemed really distant from me and really moody in everything i did, then she broke it off with 2 days ago, saying that she cant do this ...
A. 17 August 2010: If that's the case, and up until this week, she's been content with who you are and is all of a sudden citing your job and your car as the issues, it sounds like she's met someone else and is using these other things as an excuse to justify breaking ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I don't have a job or a car
Q. i have recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months, we were getting along so great untill this week. she seemed really distant from me and really moody in everything i did, then she broke it off with 2 days ago, saying that she cant do this ...
A. 16 August 2010: Hmm...I thought of this, and there are two ways that this could go. One way is unfixable by you, and that is that she has found someone new (someone with a job and car) and no longer is interested in you, in which case you don't stand a chance to ... (read in full...)
Lesbian sex!
Q. hi, i am a lesbian and i have a girlfriend. she seems to love giving me sex and i love taking it. but when it comes to giving it to her i dont seem to enjoy it. do you think this could mean i am no longer gay or dont find her attractive because i am ...
A. 12 August 2010: Yeah, my friend from Vault Tec is right. There are lots of girls who write on here complaining about giving oral sex to their boyfriends and him not returning the favor, and most responses would be how selfish the guy is.
You have to ask how you ... (read in full...)
I'm the cheated wife!
Q. Hi I'm the cheated Wife. My Ex found his true love at work and they both conspired to Divorce their spouses. She has a kid and I've a little boy as well. My ex was not sure in the beginning but she pressured him to get the divorce first and she woul...
A. 12 August 2010: Fantastic post, Gamine!!
I echo that. Do NOT let him reconcile and definitely don't let him waffle sexually between the two of you. Sounds like deep down, he knew he didn't want to really lose you, but she pushed him to cut you loose.
Leaving... (read in full...)
Our first kiss was not anything like I imagined it would be!
Q. me and my long distance boyfriend kissed for the first time today,it is the first kiss ever for both of us. i didnt feel anything although i love him so much,actually the kiss was terrible,it is nothing like i imagined ..he was so nervous and just ...
A. 12 August 2010: If you think he's worth staying with in spite of being a bad kisser, then there's only one thing you can do, and that's teach him. Next time he goes for a slobbery bad kiss, stop him in his tracks and tell him that you want to show him how you want ... (read in full...)
I want him to ask me out!
Q. I have had a crush on my best friends brother for some time now and he calls me honey n sweetie n his poppet wich means love or darling and I think he knows I like him but idk...my cousin tells me he is a loser and I don't beleive her and he says ...
A. 11 August 2010: I'll answer in two parts:
1. Don't discredit your cousin's report on his drinking and drug use. These are serious potential character flaws that should be considered deal breakers to you having a relationship with him. Do your own research... (read in full...)
No one wants to have sex with me!
Q. I have to vent right now as I am SO angry and upset! I want to have sex but my partner keeps coming up with lame excuses. I am a virgin and he is much older than me and not a virgin and yet somehow its ME that has to pester him for sex. It starte...
A. 11 August 2010: Well, here's the thing. What kind of guys are you attracted to? Sometimes, we tend to fall for guys with similar traits. Also, there's kind of a "Madonna - whore" complex in play where you're "pure", and guys respect and don't want to open the ... (read in full...)
I can't remember my childhood!
Q. Don't know where to start but ill start with I don't remember anything about my childhood.. and when I try to remember I get this bad feeling type of deal.. I know I had my far share of bad things my best friend got tooken away and my great grandma ...
A. 11 August 2010: I'm trying not to scare you, but sometimes to protect yourself from trauma that you've had as a child, your brain will block out the time period in your life that the trauma occured in. Also, a brain injury can cause the same thing.
I would re... (read in full...)
Confused and hurt
Q. im 17 and very mature for my age, last year i was in a relationship for about 2 months with a fella who was 21 at that time. we broke up as he got back with his ex girlfriend and we havent spoke since to recently until about a month and a half ago ...
A. 10 August 2010: If a guy dropped me for an ex, I wouldn't give him the time of day after that. Once bitten, twice shy. The fact that you gave him a second chance and he's ignoring you now? Forget it. He's not worth your time. ... (read in full...)
Does semen volume impress the ladies?
Q. Hi aunts, All the questions about penis size and female squirters got me wondering about another "size" related topic that many men obsess over...semen volume. But I wanted a womans take on it. Men are sometimes obsessed with producing a volu...
A. 10 August 2010: Gross!!! I couldn't care less about volume. All that means is that the guy was pent up and hadn't gotten any before that moment for a little longer than normal.
Smelly, sticky, gooey, gross, and it can't go away fast enough is how I feel abo... (read in full...)
Do u think that I should continue talking to my ex even though its obvious my boyfriend is my choice?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend have been talking and friends. He called me one time a couple weeks ago. Every time I try and talk like friends he always says he misses me. I really don’t believe he does miss me because he would try to win me back. He really ...
A. 10 August 2010: Let me ask you this - if your new boyfriend were keeping his ex as close as you're keeping your ex, how would you feel about his keeping in contact with her?
Honestly? I think you're using your new boyfriend as a way to hurt your ex and get him ... (read in full...)
Unworthy of love...???
Q. So I know it might be common here, but even despite the similar situation I feel lost. Well it appears I am almost 21 and I have never been in a relationship, even worse I've never been kissed. I've come into terms that I am gay and all. I've even ...
A. 8 August 2010: Did you know, that EVERYONE who's going into a relationship is new at it, no matter if they've never been kissed or if they've had 20 relationships before the new one they're starting? Everyone feels that anxiety and adrenaline rush of becoming ... (read in full...)
I resent my boyfriend for not being ready to start a family with me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years living together for 2, he has a child from a previous relationship. I had an unplanned pregnancy 2 years ago which resulted in an early miscarriage, since then I have been desperate to have a baby, and have ...
A. 8 August 2010: You may have been together for 6 years, but you are pretty young. If your boyfriend already has a kid, he knows the responsibility and weight a decision to have a child is as well as its impact on a relationship, especially if he's no longer with ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to flirt on the net while in a relationship?
Q. Hi My question is should I beleive him?? My partner of 18 months who has moved in with me 7 months ago tells me he is being set up. I found his profile up live on Red Hot Pie dating site today. He denies that he put it up. He was on there when I ...
A. 8 August 2010: I personally think that he's full of crap and re-activated it himself, but one test to see if he's telling the truth would be for him to let you have access to his account, and YOU change the email address, password, and security question to ... (read in full...)
Help! Do we have a future together?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have split up again, I don't know why we do it, you would not put us together but we get on so well have some sort of connection. It is love between us, we have been seeing each other sixteen months and split twice for 2 months ...
A. 8 August 2010: I was going to answer this one way, but I read your question again and something came to me out of nowhere.
Let's say the woman of your dreams is out there. Let's say if I told you that two years from now, you'll meet someone that literall... (read in full...)
I'm super interested in trying anal, but is it normal/okay that I mandate he wear a condom
Q. As I've always said since becoming sexually active, I'll try anything once. When I was younger I tried anal (first with a small toy) and that did not go well at all...oww... Nevertheless, it's something I've always been interested in and I'm hopin...
A. 8 August 2010: Oh yeah. Definitely use a condom! An STD can be spread just as easily through the "back door" as through anywhere else! Also, less likely but it's still a risk, any semen that might leak out from the back door and make its way into the front ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my friend she is being so stupid to go out with a much older man?
Q. Okay so my friend met this guy on myspace who wants to "take her out." usually i wouldnt care so much only my friend is 13 and he is 27. she says "i dont care i need affection blah blah blah". I'm trying to convince her that she is being stupid but ...
A. 8 August 2010: Yeah, 13 and a 27 year old is completely nuts. Tell her that it's not only stupid, but highly illegal. Tell her that if the guy were to be caught with a 13 year old, he would have to register as a sex offender for life. Tell her that a 27 year ... (read in full...)
He says he wants me but it certainly does not feel like it.
Q. Why is it my boyfriend says "dunno" to everything, i say to him "what we doing tomorrow" his reply "dunno" But yet he complains we never do anything, i am forever suggesting things, like bobbing uptown for something to do, then he makes excuses up ...
A. 8 August 2010: You know, he might be depressed. Sometimes, when someone is dealing with depression, all they want to do is isolate themselves from the public and lose all ambition to do anything. If he's complaining that you both never do anything, he could be ... (read in full...)
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