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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Dump your girlfriend.
She deserves better than to be talked about like this behind her back. But don't go crying back to her when the "hot" girl decides she's had enough of you.
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reader, Moonknight +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Yeah do it, the choices you make today creates the man you are tomorrow, you will learn from it regardless of what you do.
Of course asking a question like this clearly says you don't actually love her and infact you have no idea what love is, that's fine so since you think you are inlove do it, see if the grass is greener on the other side.
You will regret it though if the grass isn't greener on the other side, and this hotter girl feels like a fucking a bucket, then your gross ugly ex girlfriend hits it off with some other guy who pounds her daily leaving her spazzing out from explosive orgasms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionREAD THIS!!!!!! Ok guys calm down I wasn't thinking about this before I asked it I love my gf and I see that now I don't like the hot one she ain't hot enough to beat my true gf
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I'm taking a wild guess you're a little younger than the age you posted, eh?
Let me just say this.... what if your "friend" secretly likes your girlfriend but just wants you two to break up so he can go out with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): When i got with my boyfriend a few of my friends said that he was dumb and ugly. I told them that it was just their opinion and that i wasnt bothered what they thought. I love him.
My friends really like him now and they apologised for what they said and they are glad i am happy.
You cant control what your friends think, you shouldnt care what they think. Her friends might think the same about you ? You cant love you gf if you are considering this. if you leave and regret it, she wont take you back x
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Well obviously, yes. Hotness trumps everything.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 October 2010):
 There comes a moment in every person's life when he realizes he should stop letting other people run his life. This is part of growing up. Are you mature enough yet, to make your own decisions, or are you still guided by a committee of friends?
This is one of those moments.
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (15 October 2010):
 If you even need to ask this question it's obvious you don't love your girlfriend. Go away and think about that and don't waste our time!
Ivan.
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reader, Battista +, writes (15 October 2010):
Is this for real?
Yes leave your girlfriend for her own sake. She doesn't deserve to have such comments made about her by your so-called friends. Attacks on personal appearance are spiteful and childish.
I don't know how much you really love her; if you are seriously considering this dilemma then I would suggest not very much. Leave your gf so she can find someone who respects her and she is no longer the victim of your friends' insults. Then you can do whatever you want.
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reader, rcn +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Your friends are wrong, and you are wrong for asking this question. Never ever give up love for someone who physically looks better. If you were to, that'd be really messed up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): that is a really mean thing to even think about to a girl that you love. DUMP YOUR FRIENDS!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Your friends are jealous because the girl you have now loves you so much and probably well theres just doesnt, its obvious they think your girl is awesome! Dont do it!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Perhaps you should dump your friends instead. If they are so rude and insensitive to call your gf "gross and ugly " in your face, they must be rather horrible people.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 doesnt sound much like love to me if you care more about your friends opinions over your gf. She deserves better then that mate. If you truely loved her, you'd defend her from what your friends say instead of considering getting with someone that they think is better. Do you find your gf gross and ugly?
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reader, sadandconfused1117 +, writes (15 October 2010):
Man you really need to think a little more about your feelings and hers instead of what your so called friends say. First of all if they were true friends they would never tell you something like that unless the person you were with was effecting you in a bad way.Second is that some of the hottest women I have met have turned out to be the ugliest people around due to there attitude and some of the most unattractive looking women I know turn out to be the most beautiful people you ever met. If you are willing to give up what you have with this girl who you say you love for someone who is "hotter" but you dont like you are about to make a big mistake and you really dont love her.I hope you take the time to think with your mind and heart instead of thinking with your friends minds and your little head. If you are actually thinking of doing this just keep in mind that you will probably not work out with the hotter one and more than likely break your girlfriends heart. Think real hard before you make your decision because real love is hard to find and if you leave your girlfriend and go out with this other girl then decide to get back with your girlfriend things will never be the same. She may forgive you and take you back but she will never be able to forget what you have done to hurt her. Iknow this may not be the best advise you get but I hope it helps you out. Good luck and remember that in the long run it is better to be happy emotionally rather than physically.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Haha. In a totally superficial and aesthetics-driven world would we all keep dumping each other until we ended up with only perfectly symmetrical human specimens breeding to create a uniformed race.
Oh wait, that idea is taken.
Don't dump someone because of what your friends think, or what they look like, or even if someone else is appealing at that moment. Dump them because obviously your not in a mode where being monogamous is practical. Try being single for awhile - and get some new friends. These ones don't have your best interests at heart. They want you to dump someone you care about because she doesn't fit their standards. If you knew one of them really loved their significant other would you ever feel comfortable telling them to break up with them for any reason? Probably not.
Hopefully you make the choice that is best for you.
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reader, Chris5190 +, writes (15 October 2010):
You should stop to think about wether you really love her or not, if you'd put physical appearance before someone you care about then, no offense, but you probably don't deserve them. You're blessed to have someone who loves you, there's alot of people with broken hearts out there who wish they had the ones they love alongside them, judging by the way things are looking I might be one of them pretty soon if I'm not lucky, so just be grateful that you have her and try not to mess it up or you'll regret it...
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 You can't love her all that much if you want to break up with her because your friends are pushing you to. If I love someone, it would take a thousand SWAT teams to wring me away and NOT without a fight. You don't even like the other girl-why force yourself into something you don't want? Be independent and don't follow what others say. Otherwise, you're no better than a puppet. I'm sorry but if you can let people control you like that, you're not ready for love. To love, you have to love yourself which means you're confident in who you are and don't need to rely on the opinions of others. Learn to trust yourself. Learn what's truly important to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): You need to be with who makes you laugh, feel the love, smile, makes ur heart beat faster then i shood.Dont do what your friends think u shood do. Your happy in a loving relationship,stay with it.
xoxo Best wishes
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reader, The Realist +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I think that the hotter girl won't make you happy and you can't be sure that she will say yes. Are they good friends of yours, people you can trust. I say this because in the past my friends hated one of my gf's and would make a comment like that when really they meant that she was no good for me and in the end they were right and were watching my back all along. I say break up with her but don't rush into a new relationship right away. Check out all of your options before going with one girl so soon.
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reader, Latina18 +, writes (15 October 2010):
Stay with the one you love. 3
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I wonder how many of your friends are saying she's "gross and ugly". If it's one or two, I'd say that they are interested in her and want you out of the way. :P
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Apparently your girlfriend is not the gross and ugly one, it is her boyfriend, who allows the insidious words of his 'friends' to even touch your relationship with a girl you claim to love. If that were true, you would not even be considering this. No, what you have with your current girlfriend is not love but know that what you will have with this 'hotter' girl will be much less. You even said it yourself, you do not like her, so why would even consider it?
Leave your girlfriend and admit to her, why you did it. Admit to her that you 'friends' who were supposed to be supportive of your relationship, decided to rip it in half and push you towards this 'hotter' girl which you are about to do, all too willingly.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I say yes, break up with your girlfriend, but not because you found someone hotter, but because you don't love her.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (15 October 2010):
Is this a serious question? If you are happy with someone, why are you letting your friends' opinions dictate your life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): sure then she can dump you for a hotter guy cause her friends says your gross and ugly. get my point?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Your friends are shallow. I can`t tell you whether or not you should but I can say that you`de be a real asshole if you did. You said yourself you love her so screw what these superficial jerks think. Screw them. Screw this "hotter- chick and find some new friends who don`t encourage cheating and arent so worried about people looks. Don`t hurt the girl you say you love like. These people are 10x uglier than she could ever be on her worst day. What pathetic losers they must be. Ditch em` man.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (15 October 2010):
 No dummy. You shouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Dont be such a shallow person! thats the worst question to write on here! just because shes better looking doesnt mean a thing! for all you no your friends may be jelous that you have a good thing and are trying to ruin it! this girl you say you love.....why are you questioning it? why arent you sticking up for your gf when they say all these things about her? ill let u in on a wee secret stop hanging out with these people they clearly have problems and saying things like that about a girl can cause damage if she hears this or even if shes already heard it! people end up depressed and upset lonley over things like this trust me ive seen things over the past years and you need to open ur eyes to the bigger picture in life.
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reader, andrea_c +, writes (15 October 2010):
 You've gotta be kidding me. The fact that you're asking this question proves that you're shallow. If you love the girl you're with, and also want to risk losing her love, go for it. Let's hope that your current girlfriend moves on before you potentially come crawling back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Are you serious? Do you really think what your "friends" think is more important that what you think? Be a man and follow your own heart
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reader, elite123 +, writes (15 October 2010):
really? i mean come on. you don't deserve your current girl friend. guys say stupid things like that all the time because they see it gets a rise out of you. GROW UP! You are not acting like a man. Men defend their women and would never let their friends sway love. i can not believe you are serious. how would you feel if your girlfriend betrayed your trust and left you for someone hotter? let me tell you now... looks fade and what is left better be what makes you happy.
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reader, Ricemonster +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Yes you should. Your current girlfriend deserves better I'm sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): What do you think the majority of the replies are going to be? Of course you don't dump the girl you love. This other girl may be conventionally "hotter", but what's "hotness" going to stand for if she has a rubbish personality and is boring. Hotness is exciting for a few weeks. But what you have already is worth so much more. Who cares what your friends say about her. You should be defending her to them if you really love her. Please. Give her some respect and stand up for her.
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