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41-50,
*inna
writes:My boyfriend and i broke up . we had a nice dinner and he said i was not the "one" however he kept saying he loves me and wants to be my friend. when we left the restaurant we ended up having sex in the parking lot. he still kept saying how beautiful i am . when we were done i said "hey, i don't want to make you do anything you want to do " the last thing he said " i love you " he texted me the next day and again said that he loves me and still wants to be my friend. Also he wanted to hang out with me and my friends but we brushed him off. he left for hawaii vacation and has not contacted me since. What does it mean. i can not figure out his behaivior.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 It means he wants to be your friend...with benefits.
He thinks you are not good enough to be "the one " but good enough for casual sex.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 October 2010):
It means to him you will always be the 'parking lot' girl, and the day the 'one' comes, you'll be swept aside. You need to let this one go, or you'll wind up totally alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): It means he has you around his finger. He's a womanizer Ginna, and you should dump his ass cold.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 October 2010):
 He is a user. He's keeping you in the wings to hedge his bets while he's out there looking for someone else. What an asshat to break up with someone and then have sex with them.
You do not want to be is friend, and you did the right thing by brushing him off. Chances are he had a girl while he was in Hawaii.
I wouldn't be surprised if, after you moved on and found someone else, he goes crazy trying to get you back. Do not let him have that chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): sorry if this sounds harsh but i think that maybe he just wants someone to be an on call- booty call. if he keeps you coming around, with you thinking youll get more- realtionship etc.= than when he gets turned down he will always have some.
I really hope that I am wrong about this, but thats waht it seems like. He doesnt wanna be tied to one girl. He wants a couple. just doesnt want them to know.
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reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 It sounds like he has personal issues. I don't think it has anything to do with whether 'you're the one' or not. It seems like he has commitment issues. It also sounds like he wants you as a friend with benefits.
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reader, UnderageMonstrosity  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 His behavior? He's using you as a sex puppet by saying how he loves you, and etc. He left for Hawaii to also have sex with other girls, and breaking up with you as a good way to go "this is okay, we're not together." But you putting out and having sex in the parkinglot was just a nice little bonus.
You're now a booty call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): It means he's got his cake. As soon as 'the one' turns up, you'll be history. Sorry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): This is guy is playing some sort of game. Im sure of it. Let his actions speak louder. I dont buy him at all. Im sorry you feel maybe used in a way. You deserve better.
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