Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: Hearing the one you love call you by name (and not just during sex) can be just about as powerful as hearing "I love you".... (read in full...)
Husband after marriage asked about my past and then served me with divorce papers!
Q. My husband and I are married for 10 months. Right after we got married he strictly asked me if there was anything about my past I wanted to share. So I believe in you marry your best friend and I told him somethings that I had done that I'm not so ...
A. 10 October 2010: Yes, this is absolutely retroactive jealousy. The guy is a bonehead for waiting until he's married to ask you a question like that. Also, he's forgetting that he too has a past.
If he wants to break up with you because of something you did befo... (read in full...)
Calling Christians - Can a spouse do so much wrong that you just can't come back despite what the bible says?
Q. I am a very spiritual person. I love people and always look for the good in them. I am someone who can be involved with someone who has 2 tons of bad and 5 pounds of good, and I shift the scale to the good. But I am in a marriage where I have lost ...
A. 10 October 2010: Sunystar,
I agree with the earlier posters that you're having a spiritual crisis right now. That's good - people should always question what they believe and why they believe it. Beliefs are subject to life's experiences, and that includes... (read in full...)
How can I change our sex only relationship into something more?
Q. A few weeks ago, I got talking to a guy at a bar (foolish place to meet someone I know). One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Since then he has added me on facebook and texted me a few times. We have seen each other on nights ...
A. 10 October 2010: I agree with Aunt Honesty. You're in a Friends With Benefits relationship now, and I don't think you can change it to something more unless you end the FWB status. Tell him your intentions have changed towards him and are interested in being more ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to use me for sex!
Q. So I just recently broke up with my boyfriend less then a week ago and I won't go into details but I know for sure its over and I feel as if I am pretty much over him. But during our relationship I was talking to a good friend of his who was helping ...
A. 10 October 2010: He's not using you. If he were, you'd have either had sex with him, or he would have pressured you for sex beyond what you wanted to give him.
What you're feeling right now is normal for people who just broke up. Your emotions are still raw, you... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: Using someone you love's name is a mark of intimacy. It sounds like he has intimacy problems. You can fix this by not responding to "are you there" or "hey you". Train him to call your name!
If he starts calling for you without using your nam... (read in full...)
I feel his mother always comes first!
Q. My husband and I had an arranged marriage and 3 kids. He is well educated and family man; however I do not feel that he is in love with me. Last summer, while in our native country, we had a nasty fight because of his mother intervention in our live...
A. 10 October 2010: You've got to tell him how you feel. He should be putting you ahead of his mom. His daughter from his previous marriage must have an absolute prominant place in his life, but he should never undermine you. His goal with you and his daughter ... (read in full...)
After 18 months my boyfriend says sex isnt stimulating
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 18 months and he tells me he cant get stimulated through sex, and he has always been like that.Is this true, some please answer as this is ruining our relationship Thanks....
A. 10 October 2010: This could be two different things. One, he may have erectile dysfunction (like impotence), especially if he's the same age you are. If that's the case, he could have a chat with his doctor to see how to help that.
Two, he's hooked on porn and... (read in full...)
He seems to stare at my house a lot and then he seems to avoid me
Q. hi i moved into this house in december 2009 i realised that the lad that lives across the road, i know him as he knew my brother before he was killed 7yrs ago. this lad didn't remember who i was my friend told this lad i fancied him and then he ...
A. 10 October 2010: Sounds like he's borderline creepy and lacks social skills. My skin would crawl if someone were acting that way towards me.... (read in full...)
He seems to stare at my house a lot and then he seems to avoid me
Q. hi i moved into this house in december 2009 i realised that the lad that lives across the road, i know him as he knew my brother before he was killed 7yrs ago. this lad didn't remember who i was my friend told this lad i fancied him and then he ...
A. 10 October 2010: Sounds like he's borderline creepy and lacks social skills. My skin would crawl if someone were acting that way towards me.... (read in full...)
I need help with this... What do you class as cheating?
Q. Hiya all... Well im a 20 year old girl and i think i am bi-sexual, i have never done anything with a female but really want to. The only thing is i have a boyfriend. I have explained to him about everything and he says he doesnt class me being...
A. 10 October 2010: Here's the thing. Cheating is whatever breaks the rules in a particular relationship. In 95% of all relationships, you having a bisexual affair with a woman while with a boyfriend would be absolutely considered cheating.
However, your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Devastated... Is my husband gay???
Q. Today was the worst day of my life. My husband thought he had cleared the history on our computer, but this time he wasn't thorough enough. When I clicked on what websites he was visiting, they included teenage girls, boys, she-males (this was the ...
A. 10 October 2010: He may or may not be gay, but actions absolutely speak louder than words. What is a fact is that male erotica turns in on. If you know any of his screen names that he may use on internet board sites or other places, you may want to research ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair... does it turn you off or on?
Q. Do guys get turned off by hair... not only pubic hair... but hair on the chest and stomach part as well?? What is the best and easiest method to get rid of pubic hair? Please help!...
A. 10 October 2010: I'm not a guy, but I'll tell you that waxing hurts like bloody hell, and an epilator will rip the hair out of your pubic area one by one. What guy would do that for you?
Trimming a good alternative. It keeps you nice and neat, but doesn't ... (read in full...)
He wants to take my virginity... and I'm scared I'll lose him if I say no.
Q. Am a 14 year old girl with a 17 year old boyfriend who wants 2 have 6 kids with me in the future. the thing is now he wants 2 break my virginity. I am still a virgin and am not ready. I dont wanna loose it. He's the best boyfriend ive ever had ...
A. 10 October 2010: You know, if you read between the lines, a 17 year old saying he wants 6 kids is really saying that he wants lots of sex. If you lose your virginity to him and get pregnant, he will run.
Never ever let the fear of losing someone be your reason f... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 29 September 2010: Don't think about it in terms of being "Ashamed" or "living a lie". Think of it in terms of "temporarily underground". There will come a time when she's able to call the shots in her own life without being under oppression.
Think about it, if y... (read in full...)
Blood after anal sex??
Q. {Moderator note: two questions combined} I had anal sex with my girlfriend, is it normal it hurts a lot..? And I peed blood afterwards..is that normal? And am I still a virgin?...
A. 28 September 2010: You're saying that YOU peed blood after anal? That is very serious, and I don't think connected to the sex itself. You need to see a doctor IMMEDIATELY.
My opinion is that you are no longer a virgin. You have penetrated her. However, that sho... (read in full...)
I have two sexual fantasies that people seem to find disgusting and a turn off.
Q. I have two sexual fantasies that people seem to find disgusting and a turn off. I see loads of evidence of them on the internet but have never met anyone who admits to liking them. Firstly I have a real love for Feet, i find them very sexually ...
A. 28 September 2010: The first fetish is actually a common one. Just look up "foot fetish" and you'll see a TON of things on it. The second fetish I've heard of as well, though I don't know how common that one is. However, no humans or animals are getting hurt by it, ... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 28 September 2010: I have a different perspective on this.
I assume that she's the same age as you are, meaning she's being supported by her parents. Not being independent has its disadvantages, including having the people who are supporting you financia... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken! I found naked pics of him and a guy he was texting to on his phone!
Q. My phone got damaged on holiday and my bf gave me his spare phone to use temporarly so I put my card in his phone. Needless to say I was browsing the phone to see if anything from my phone's memory card was saved, and I came across a few mes...
A. 28 September 2010: Of COURSE it's considered cheating! If you two have an understanding that you're exclusive, he shouldn't be communicating that way with someone else, much less showing his privates like that. The very essence of a relationship is that both people ... (read in full...)
How to move things forward with him without looking pushy?
Q. Hello there! Hoping you can help me move things forward a bit with a guy I am interested in. It was about 3 months ago that I went on a date with a lovely man, 4 years older than myself - but we got on absolutely great and there was definitely s...
A. 28 September 2010: Well, first of all, don't think of it as "pushy" unless you're texting him 800 times a day and calling him 10x a day. You can totally call him (I would CALL, not text or Facebook or email) and ask HIM out! ... (read in full...)
I thought he was my dearest friend and lover..and he threw away 22 years
Q. I don't even know where to start and yet feel better just by starting. This man is or rather I thought that we were the best of friends and that we would see each other through any and everything. We have been friends over 22years or at least that's ...
A. 28 September 2010: I hate to say this, but you're seeing the real guy now. The thing most people don't realize is that usually in an affair, the relationship is distorted by the "illicit" nature of it. Someone else has the responsibility of the "thick and thin" (the ... (read in full...)
Why wont he give me oral sex?
Q. Well, here's the problem. I have been with the same guy for 8 years...he's my first. we have literally done everything together and lately he hasnt been recipricating the favor....I give him oral sex regularly without question and he asks for it. I ...
A. 28 September 2010: I agree! Tell him no oral unless he's able to not only perform it on you, but make you scream in ecstacy!... (read in full...)
Which person is the most insecure?
Q. This is a question for all to answer male/female young/old,single/married.who would you say is the most insecure person the female because she has realised that after 7yrs together,45yrs old and a child the man she loves and wants to spend her life ...
A. 28 September 2010: I don't think the word is "insecure" here. I think the word is "incompatible". The guy doesn't like commitment and was probably burned by it earlier in his life. He wants the benefits of committed life without the hassle. She on the other hand ... (read in full...)
One night stand's statement really turned me off
Q. Hi, I'm just writing to ask for people opinons concerning a one night stand. I met the guy in a club and we quickly ended up back at mine and half way into sex he said "im not going to come inside you". i dont know why but i felt ashamed and push...
A. 28 September 2010: Actually, I think he was trying to put you at ease if you weren't using a condom. He was trying to let you know that he wasn't going to put you at risk of pregnancy if he didn't have to. Hopefully you were because pulling out doesn't mean that you ... (read in full...)
Pathetic cheater (posters own title)
Q. Hello Ladies, I guess I am looking for your advise. Would you want to know? I caught my sister inlaws husband cheating. I have to work with him in a family business. He is a senior member of his church and the person he is cheating with was once the...
A. 27 September 2010: Yes, the whole thing is morally corrupt, but there's more than one offense happening. Sounds like you are religious, so I can give it to you in that context.
The overriding offense is definitely the infidelity. Adultery is one of the most gri... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay!
Q. About two months ago I discovered on my boyfriends laptop that he had pictures of himself. I thought this was a bit strange and went on to his email and went through his sent items. I then discovered he was sending pictures of himself to other men ...
A. 26 September 2010: Listen, a "phase" is wearing a mullet for a year or joining a biker group or wearing horn-rimmed glasses, not signing up for gay sights and looking at gay porn. Porn is porn, and if he was just looking at gay porn (among straight porn), I would ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife and I feel horrible about it!
Q. i need help... so i just got married to a beautiful women named Jo Beth. well. a couple weekends ago, we were argueing about how i dont do anything around the house (shes four months pregnant . weve also lived to gether for the past couple of ...
A. 25 September 2010: I think I'd agree with MrsCary on this one. It's one thing to cheat on your wife, but cheating on her while she's pregnant with your kid is a whole new low.
Relationships take WORK from both of you. She is pregnant, which causes a wreck of hormo... (read in full...)
Should I shave down there before I lose my virginity or leave it?
Q. ok so i am a 17 year old girl and i am hella confused about me shaving down there.... yes i know its weird that a 17 year old is asking this question but i dont want to ask any of my friends cus im embarrased and i dont think ima ask my boyfriend ...
A. 25 September 2010: Wax?! Egads! If everyone had to wax before losing their virginity, no girl would *ever* have sex. :P
Personally, I think shaving is creepy, kinda like the perpetual pre-pubescent 11-year old girl thing. And, it will ITCH if you shave.
I wo... (read in full...)
Why do men treat tall girls with disfavor?
Q. I am a tall girl, but I'm not fat. I'm 5ft8 and 130 lbs. I'm 28, my husband is 38. My husband says I should lose weight and that my vagina is too big. But I'm not overweight, but I've definitely lost muscle and added fat since we've met. So I ...
A. 25 September 2010: Geeze, let me tell you this - I would pity any other woman, Asian or otherwise, who would ever cross paths with that moron of a guy.
First off, if guys hated tall girls, the majority of fashion supermodels wouldn't be tall like they are.
Seco... (read in full...)
Why isn't my husband flushing the toilet anymore?
Q. Most of the time I get on really great with my husband who's a great bloke - kind, funny, supportive etc. Just lately though he's started forgetting to flush the loo after he's taken a cr*p. This really bothers me and it's sometimes 2 or 3 times a ...
A. 25 September 2010: If he's not always been doing that, and he's the same age you are and isn't remembering that it's him, I'd be concerned about his health. Memory loss could be a symptom of many different things.
I'd stay really alert and watch him like a hawk for... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay!
Q. About two months ago I discovered on my boyfriends laptop that he had pictures of himself. I thought this was a bit strange and went on to his email and went through his sent items. I then discovered he was sending pictures of himself to other men ...
A. 25 September 2010: Yeah, sure sounds like he's either gay or bi. Who signs up to gay websites and sends pictures of himself to gay guys for self-confidence reasons?? Wouldn't it make more sense for a guy to consult his female friends about issues of confidence in ... (read in full...)
He is talking to ladies online and won't stop!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend of four years spends all his free time in chat rooms I have discovered 1o5 contacts all females . I read numerous sexual conversations he has initiated, denies he has a girlfriend , I've confronted him several times he tells me he's ...
A. 23 September 2010: You catch him having sex conversations online and then he turns around and accuses you of not trusting him?! Sorry, but he's a complete asshat who deserves to be alone. The internet is "not" fake. There are real people with real emotions and real ... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along like everyone else says?
Q. i had a boyfriend over the summer but he had to go back home afterwards. (he lives VERY far away) We probably wont be able to see each other for at least a year, but we were talking/skyping everyday for a week after he left. now its getting more ...
A. 23 September 2010: Unfortunately, sounds like the distance is getting the best of him. LDR's are very hard to maintain, especially for teenagers who have tons going on in their lives.
Don't take it personally if you two drift apart. It's not your fault...... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want a title on our relationship?
Q. why doesnt he want to have title after two months of sex, me cooking for him, meeting his mom, him meeting my mom, and countless dates, and meeting his friends, hed rather not call it anything...
A. 23 September 2010: You're giving him everything without requiring a level of understanding/commitment. He's got the sex, the cooking, and the social connections with your family. A "title" would make him accountable to you and as invested in the relationship as you ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't like the looks of me. We have sex and then he watches porn!
Q. my husband watched porn after we had sex the other night. before we had our son we i always used to ask him sometimes argue about the fact that we dont get intimate.he would say so what big deal if i watched porn all men do it. i have always ...
A. 22 September 2010: Listen, you are not the problem here. It's not because he doesn't like how you look. He is depressed and completely addicted to porn to the point where it's interfering with his marriage. It's an extremely selfish compulsion, and he has no desire ... (read in full...)
Husband texted over 1000 messages over the last month to another man!
Q. My husband of 26 years texted over 1000 messages in on month to another man. I saw it on the phone bill.I never saw any of the messages...What do you think? Says was discussing wives, children and problems.........
A. 22 September 2010: That's quite possible. 1,000 messages (I know, give or take) in 30 days averages about 33 messages per day. If anyone is familiar of chatting in a chat room, instant message, or posting on a discussion board, that's easily doable. I wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
How can I stop acting this way so I can show how I actually feel?
Q. Last night I said something really silly to my boyfriend which I think came across as me not wanting much of a commitment with him. This is far from the truth - in fact he is the only guy who has ever felt right to me. Every other guy I've dated ...
A. 21 September 2010: Well, the first thing is identifying *why* you do this whenever a moment comes on, and I can tell you - it's pretty simple to see why. It's the same reason many guys crack jokes or say things to deflect during times when it seems like the ... (read in full...)
Husband won't give me any money!
Q. Hey my husband say we got to save money but we have money and he don't give me none at all what should i do ...
A. 19 September 2010: You should negotiate a budget that allows for a weekly spending allowance for both of you plus the ability to save money. You should also be able to see the bank accounts and know how all the money is being spent or saved. Tell him you respect his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a bitch last night and I can't get over it!
Q. My boyfriend called my a Bitch last night. I can't seem to get over it ever though he's apologized many times. He's never cursed at me before and this really hurt me. He was frustrated because he was trying to do something on his computer. He threw ...
A. 19 September 2010: Umm, being called a "bitch" *is* cursing at someone, last time I checked, but actually, something was uncovered in him that's very unsettling.
We'll start with the baby comment. There should be no name calling in a relationship, and especial... (read in full...)
How to get my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me?
Q. Dear Readers, I would like to have some advise on how to convinced my girlfriend to have a sexual intercourse with me... Since she is still a virgin, it is extremely complicated to convinced her.. She always tells me to wait and wait and wait......
A. 19 September 2010: Everyone else is right on. I want to add one more thing. You are really going too far if she has to slap you to stop. You knew she was a virgin, yet you would have gone ahead and taken it knowing that she said no to you.
There's no way you ... (read in full...)
He's clingy and angry -- should I just end it?
Q. My boyfriend lives in Pennsylvania, while I live a state over. We have been dating for 3 months. We have yet to met and he expects me to call him every single day and when I don't, he yells at me for not calling him. Not only that but he over reacts ...
A. 19 September 2010: You should definitely end it. If he's this high strung while you live far away from each other, I'd be nervous about my well-being if we were together. Better to cut him loose before this gets any worse.
Just summon the courage to do it on th... (read in full...)
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