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*TheAlmightyDuckx
writes:Hey, well i was wondering why people seem to take an instant dislike to me, or simpley start on me for no reason what so ever. i currently have one friend, i have tryed to get along with other people but they seem to either take the piss out of me or just simplely ignore me. And others start on me for no reason. I look pretty normal, im abit fat size 14 and im not partically pretty but i wouldnt say i megally bad ( i know looks don't matter but people tend to sometimes be judgemental because of them). My personality is pretty normal. I have a good sense of humour once you get to know me, im kind to anyone i meet first time, and infact abit of a mug. Im not judgemental of anyone straight away, i dont just class on looks or anything like that. I share things i have (sometimes to much) im rather passive and shy and abit insecure, but i tend to try my best not to show it. I do moan alot but when i meet people for the first time i don't moan. I love helping people and i will always help anyone who needs it regardless of who they are. I don't consider myself as a bad person i have my down sides of course but hey so does everyone. I'm not a sheep and am very stubborn, i will fight for what i beleive in but always listen and accept others opinions. Im very mature for my age and rather ambitous and been told to be quite interlectual as well. So why don't people like me ? as for people who i don't know randomly starting on me in the street i havent a clue what thats about, I tend not to stare, I keep quite i mind my own buisness never pick a fight, im not gobby i don't cause a big scene, i don't wear particually outrageous clothing and i just don't get why everyone hates me ? its really getting me down i sometimes feel like i have an invisble force that just attracts people to hate me any suggestions ?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (6 August 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well thanks for all your comments. I will admit i find it hard to act natrual around people, i have social anxcity so i am nervous at pretty much everyone. I do try my best to act normal i don't do anything which is bascially asking for it.
I am alot more in a way weaker than most if someone says something ill more or less just freeze and won't have a clue of what to do.
It is really getting me down though, i have to be suspicious of pretty much everyone i have to change my route and avoid certain streets and i don't understand why people enjoy making me feel like this.
Most of these people are just random girls, but there are also a few of my old freinds which i fell out with about 8 months ago and they still hold some sort of grudge against me when they were the ones who were arseholes to me, despite me giving them more than enough chances to start are friendship again.
Thankyou all for your feedback xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Perhaps you're doing something that appears completely natural to you but is not that natural to others. Sense of humor is one thing you need to be very careful about. What makes you laugh can make someone else cringe. But, I don't know what it is that you're doing wrong. If you're doing something wrong, that is.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (6 August 2011):
 when i was younger this used to happen to me quite a lot, when i went out girls would always be giving me evils or bitching like 'oh look at her, she loves herself' it was because they were jealous that i was more attractive then them. i made a new friend and even she was amazed and she said 'omg, girls just hate you on sight don't they??' and i was like 'mm. yeah they do' - maybe this is their problem with you, you may be prettier than you think! there is no nastier girl than a JEALOUS girl in my opinion.
when the bitches grow up and realise how daft they being, this sort of behaviour will stop. i can go anywhere now and nobody starts on me and i have lots more friends than i used to have
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (6 August 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPeople round here arent to nice. The strangers do it to alot of others as well who they don't know, there normally girls the same age as me if a little bit older. They are normally just looking for a fight, it just pisses me off and for some reason it tends to happen to me alot. It just makes you feel like your some kinda moving targat. Thanks for the feed back x
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reader, aresu +, writes (6 August 2011):
 is weird that people start acting like that for no reason, i agree with angelDlite that maybe if you look nervous people may think that you are an easy target to pick on, or maybe you are insecure and may percieve that people dont like you, i remember when i was that age i thought that everyone was always judging me, they could be nervous too if they feel like you are shy around them, or maybe annoyed that they may feel like they did something wrong to upset you, i wouldnt know really, im trying my best to help, but simply it could be a lot of things :/
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (6 August 2011):
as your confidence has been knocked down, maybe you look nervous, coz of your body language and maybe you act shy, as you are expecting people to dislike you. this can make some people see you as an easy target to pick on. there are ways to appear more confident than you are. its ok to fake things sometimes.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 I find it very weird that complete strangers walking past you on the street hassle you. Something is happening to cause that.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (6 August 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, well thank you for your feed back. I have infact asked my friend about a week ago what he thinks about me, and what im like, he said he likes me because im different and one of a kind, but i can worry to much and should stand up for myself more. Im not full on at all im quite the opossite, i do try not to drone on about myself and i don't usually share my problems with people unless they ask first. Im not very happy though so that could be a problem, i do smile alot i try to hide what i normally feel like most the time so i don't come across as boring or a bit of a kill-joy. As for random people starting on me in the street, they normally come up to me for no reason at all and just start saying things and delibrately try to wind me up. I normally don't react or simply just tell them to leave me alone or ask what's there problem. I have no idea why they seem to pick on me as normanally i don't know them. And have never seen them in my life. Thanks for your advice x
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Mmm....well, the best people to ask may just be those who are closest to you. You have a friend? That's a good question for that friend.
You know, people are drawn to who makes them feel good. Read Andrew Carnegie's book "How to Make Friends and Influence People". The one big thing to get out of it is -- become interested in other people. Don't be so quick to state your opinion or talk about yourself, and definitely don't mistake becoming closer to someone with dumping all of your negativity or insecurity on them. That's not getting closer. That's just using someone.
As for people starting on you in the street, you might want to be more specific, because most people mind their own business to a fault rather than engage a stranger, so I might need a bit more info.
Otherwise, it's good you're kindhearted, but be emotionally generous, interested in others, and HAPPY. Smiling goes a very long way. If you're sullen or emo, that drives people away. The "invisible force" could be as simple as sullenness. Shyness is often misinterpreted as disdain, so keep that in mind!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (6 August 2011):
 I'm so sorry that you're going through what you're going through. Unfortunately some people can be very judgmental or downright rude. And because you're in the age range of 13-15,you have to understand the kids around your age have not fully matured. And many will say things, or act a certain way, without thinking about how it makes a person feel. But you seem like a very nice girl. And I'm sure as you get older, you will have more friends. You should also be more positive. Don't down yourself. Instead of calling yourself "fat" or "not particularly pretty". Try saying (and thinking) good things about yourself. That will set you on the path to meeting more nice, positive people.
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