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female
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30-35,
*pendy
writes:Why do I feel so empty? what is wrong with me?My ex boyfriend cheated on me with 2 girls and dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship.I loved him so much. I never lied to him. I exercise stay in shape. I was there for him. I tried to be the best girlfriend I ever could. He told me he loved me everyday and I believe him. He was so romantic, so sweet, I thought he felt the same about me the way I did him.But after the break up I found out he cheated. But he won't leave me alone. He still wants us to be friends. Of course I ignore him.Now I can't trust and I don't feel any emotion anymoremIs been 4months now and am over it. But am not interested in the opposite sex anymore. Thanks..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): Men can be assholes. He was into the womanizing angle and felt like he did you enough times already.
Do stay away from him though. That will only hurt the healing process if you see him.
Good luck!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (14 August 2011):
 Yeah, he had a problem. Him cheating and breaking up with you has nothing to do with you...just his immaturity and womanizing.
You feel empty because you're not over it, and it's okay not to be over it. Sure, you may not be crying anymore, but you're still in mourning and shell shock from having your world rocked. But, in a sense, every day that you are numb and have no interest in anyone else and are hung up on what happened, that's a day that he's still stealing from you.
To win, you have to really move on, meaning you won't carry baggage that prevents you from falling in love and eventually trusting someone else again. Remember, never make someone else pay for what this man did to you...you could hurt another guy in the same way you were hurt, and the vicious circle continues.
Give yourself some patience and devote yourself to your own healing and happiness. Of course you shouldn't be friends with your asshat ex-boyfriend. You don't make friends with dirty cheaters anyway.
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