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writes: I think i might be gay but im terrified about what my family mainly my mother would say because she has guessed it but I told her i wasent because she gets a look of disappointment and disgust until I assure her im not.Whats nearly as bad is that a friend from school i know im starting to see sometimes is really atractive to me what should i do? please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (11 September 2010):
Well I'd say you need to wait until you know for sure and after that you need to wait until you feel like you are ready to tell people. As for your friend, just continue to be friends with them and just see what happens. Each situation is different.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (11 September 2010):
Well I'd say you need to wait until you know for sure and after that you need to wait until you feel like you are ready to tell people. As for your friend, just continue to be friends with them and just see what happens. Each situation is different.
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reader, iLoveGirls +, writes (10 September 2010):
Hey, I am a lesbian. I am 13, and not out. but your mother shouldn't love you any less. She had no guarantee you would be gay or straight. much less be BORN. So, basically, she held you for 9 months straight. And, she will love you no matter what! :D
Good Luck. x
--Lesbian Trying To Come Out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Following up on what Moo's Mum, said your family are not going to love you any less. My son is gay, and it has changed nothing for us.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 As a parent I can't imagine not loving my child any less because they were gay. I would think there would be a period of adjustment for me to go through if my child told me this and I would probably be a bit sad they were following a different path than I imagined for them but I wouldn't disown them or be angry or stop loving them. At the end of the day they are still your child, your flesh and blood. That same little boy or girl who curled up in your lap and cried for you to kiss their hurts away, who made you laugh, who made you cry, who danced around the living room with you. I could never stop loving them no matter what. I do hope this makes sense to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): You say that you Mother has guessed, if she asks again, talk to her and tell her you're not sure. The best way to go with this is honesty.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (9 September 2010):
 I agree with The Realist. Know for sure before you come out. They may have trouble accepting it, but deep down your parents love you and want you to be happy. It may be slow, but they will likely come around.
As for the friend you're crushing on, go with what The Realist said.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 My advice to you is to not tell anyone except your closest friends until you can change that maybe to a definite answer. This just saves you the trouble of dealing with people if you bounce back and forth a bit over the next couple of years figuring yourself out.
I wouldn't come on strongly with this other guy but try being friends and judge him to be gay or straight when you get to know him and go from there. No one, male or female likes to be hit on so strongly but if you get to know them then you can make the choice to go further or not.
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reader, LaughAlot2010 +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Dont be afraid!!! If your family really loves you they will be ok! Sure they will be a little shocked!! But its not their choice! Just do what you think is best. Hope everything works out! XoXo
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